Bros take it easy on her, it's a matter of time. I had this same experience last year when I got married as a virgin, my husband was frustrated. It took me almost 2 months before I allowed my husband and this is because of the fear my friends created in me. Even after the first night, it took my another six months before I could work on myself.

Diagonal:

I've done all that. Infact, I noticed she has become comfortable with me touching her and then we do other things then we "cum". Anything but penetration. But I'm no longer comfortable with that because it's all mere masturbation. What I need is the real thing!

Lol see as my guy raise joystick matter sef...

Guy your romance never reach the right place...na she go beg you!

GboyegaD:


Oga, you like story. How she wan take know whether she like am or not? You go do anything you need to do and enjoy yourselves.

Op read this advice 3 times a day for one week. You go dey alright!

Thank me later

Flowerystar:
Bros take it easy on her, it's a matter of time. I had this same experience last year when I got married as a virgin, my husband was frustrated. It took me almost 2 months before I allowed my husband and this is because of the fear my friends created in me. Even after the first night, it took my another six months before I could work on myself.

You no serious @ bolded

galadima77:


You no serious @ bolded

You are a fool!

Pochettino:


I don't advise this because we women can stink so badly down there

Okay SIR!

padi94:
What do you people do at night then... Sleep??

Nooooooo! They farm!

Bia Op, I have experienced this same thing with my ex that was a virgin, she literally dread penetration because of the pain she feels she can't bear.

Please, be patients, some are virgins in body and in mind, and are too frigid with their emotions.

Just get patience o.


Or.


She's not and is scared of you finding out!

Flowerystar:

You are a fool!

hahahaha no offense, just wasn't necessary!

Denique:
You should try going down there and watch her beg you for it. It works, trust me!

Wow

meobizy:
I have no time for made up stories today. Let ignorant Nairalanders waste their time instead.

lolz
why u de vex oga?calm down abeg

@OP you need to apply maturity else you'd ruin your sex life with her.. but which kind wahala be this one now.

meobizy:
I have no time for made up stories today. Let ignorant Nairalanders waste their time instead.

I don't think it is a made up my last gf is like that i friend her 3 yrs she didn't let me go there always scared..

The person that will marry her will have the same problem.

EzzyCarter:

Wow

Aves maria o.

I consider you a very weak man you don't have authority in his house.
go and get some red pill education
and stop being a fool

Diagonal:
I initially had a long distance courtship with my wife while we dated. Later she came and stayed with me for some months bc she had accommodation issues. She was based in a different State. Altogether we dated for 4 years before our eventual marriage. All through those times we never had se.x. She never allowed us to, and since I'm a Christian, I willingly left her alone since it's even against my christianity teachings. Moreover she was a virgin and I felt there was no need putting undue pressure on something that was eventually going to be all mine.
Fast- forward to today, it's been two months after our wedding, no se.x. My wife is too scared of it. Each time I make an attempt, she gets so scared of penetration that my "thing" just collapses. Forcing her would make me feel like it's rape. I have bought all kinds of gel to apply and reduce pains, but it's not working with her. She is still saying I should give her time to get used to it.
Meanwhile she is the over-jealous type. She gets angry for as flimsy a thing as me viewing WhatsApp status of female contacts on my phone or Facebook photos of female friends!
I'm already feeling I've made a huge mistake in marrying her. I never thought I'd ever cheat after marriage, but it looks like I'm being pushed into it.
What can a brother do in this situation?

Is there any senior female minister you can talk to for counseling?

Or a Christian marriage counsellor /psychologist?

What is her philosophy on sex?

Force her and later apologize. Na your tin. Abi wetin dey worry her? make sure to use enough gel though.

Do not cheat. Don't break the edge so the serpent (devil) won't strike.

If you've ascertained that she's a virgin, then exercise more patience. With time, she will be more comfortable with you.

Denique:

Aves maria o.

You Catholic?

99thEnemy:
You Catholic?

O Sacrament most Holy, O Sacrament Divine, All praise and all thanksgiving, Be every moment Thine.

Denique:

O Sacrament most Holy, O Sacrament Divine, All praise and all thanksgiving, Be every moment Thine.

I thought you were a born-again penticostal protestant.

Diagonal:
I initially had a long distance courtship with my wife while we dated. Later she came and stayed with me for some months bc she had accommodation issues. She was based in a different State. Altogether we dated for 4 years before our eventual marriage. All through those times we never had se.x. She never allowed us to, and since I'm a Christian, I willingly left her alone since it's even against my christianity teachings. Moreover she was a virgin and I felt there was no need putting undue pressure on something that was eventually going to be all mine.
Fast- forward to today, it's been two months after our wedding, no se.x. My wife is too scared of it. Each time I make an attempt, she gets so scared of penetration that my "thing" just collapses. Forcing her would make me feel like it's rape. I have bought all kinds of gel to apply and reduce pains, but it's not working with her. She is still saying I should give her time to get used to it.
Meanwhile she is the over-jealous type. She gets angry for as flimsy a thing as me viewing WhatsApp status of female contacts on my phone or Facebook photos of female friends!
I'm already feeling I've made a huge mistake in marrying her. I never thought I'd ever cheat after marriage, but it looks like I'm being pushed into it.
What can a brother do in this situation?

Sorry for what you're going thru. Your wife is kinda selfish but pls be patient and understand her with her. Talk with her some more and be romantic to calm her nerves. She will eventually relax...

Diagonal:
I initially had a long distance courtship with my wife while we dated. Later she came and stayed with me for some months bc she had accommodation issues. She was based in a different State. Altogether we dated for 4 years before our eventual marriage. All through those times we never had se.x. She never allowed us to, and since I'm a Christian, I willingly left her alone since it's even against my christianity teachings. Moreover she was a virgin and I felt there was no need putting undue pressure on something that was eventually going to be all mine.
Fast- forward to today, it's been two months after our wedding, no se.x. My wife is too scared of it. Each time I make an attempt, she gets so scared of penetration that my "thing" just collapses. Forcing her would make me feel like it's rape. I have bought all kinds of gel to apply and reduce pains, but it's not working with her. She is still saying I should give her time to get used to it.
Meanwhile she is the over-jealous type. She gets angry for as flimsy a thing as me viewing WhatsApp status of female contacts on my phone or Facebook photos of female friends!
I'm already feeling I've made a huge mistake in marrying her. I never thought I'd ever cheat after marriage, but it looks like I'm being pushed into it.
What can a brother do in this situation?

Long hiss. Either this is a fake story or a fake story.

Denique:

O Sacrament most Holy, O Sacrament Divine, All praise and all thanksgiving, Be every moment Thine.

Did you quote me on that thread of a guy who posted a mod's picture?
Before I could view the mention,the thread has been deleted.

99thEnemy:

I thought you were a born-again pentecostal protestant.

Well...you are right.

The 'Aves Maria' is a line from a movie I saw recently.
The girls in the village claim to be virgins and exchange pleasantries with it, thus deceiving the village mothers into seeing them as choice wives for their sons over the city babes. It turns out that one of them has no womb after all.

Speaking of Catholic, I attended with an aunt for about two years and was so good with the Rosary. Memories...

Aves o

Drella:


Did you quote me on that thread of a guy who posted a mod's picture?
Before I could view the mention,the thread has been deleted.

Yes, I did. Good it's been deleted.

CalliDora1:
Force her and later apologize. Na your tin. Abi wetin dey worry her? make sure to use enough gel though.

Do not cheat. Don't break the edge so the serpent (devil) won't strike.

First paragraph is cutting the nose to spite the face.

He would ruin the woman's experience probably for life and it is unbecoming of a husband whose duty is protection.

100% wrong.

Never give such advise to anyone in this circumstance.

bukatyne:


First paragraph is cutting the nose to spite the face.

He would ruin the woman's experience probably for life and it is unbecoming of a husband whose duty is protection.

100% wrong.

Never give such advise to anyone in this circumstance.

Whether or not I give him such advice, that's what he'll end up doing if the woman continues to push it. And it won't ruin any experience for life. She'll get over it within a short time. Trust me. When she's not a kid.

CalliDora1:



Whether or not I give him such advice, that's what he'll end up doing if the woman continues to push it. And it won't ruin any experience for life. She'll get over it within a short time. Trust me. When she's not a kid.

You don't force a virgin to have sex with you:

You counsel her with family/religion/professionals and if she is not bulging, add ultimatums and/or withdraw some of your extras at home.

Is time to involve her mother

Denique:

Well...you are right.

The 'Aves Maria' is a line from a movie I saw recently.
The girls in the village claim to be virgins and exchange pleasantries with it, thus deceiving the village mothers into seeing them as choice wives for their sons over the city babes. It turns out that one of them has no womb after all.

Speaking of Catholic, I attended with an aunt for about two years and was so good with the Rosary. Memories...

Aves o

No wonder.
.
You may become catholic one day ;-)

Put it in.

Help with my CAC Problem

99thEnemy:
No wonder.
.
You may become catholic one day

Never say never...

Good night.