Dis is serious

bigtboi:
I have considered this angle but won't it affect I and my dad relationship if he later find out that I kept such a secret from him? I was thinking I tell him and make him understand the tight situation of things and also tell me wife elder bro who is also a wise considerate fellow who I respect much then hope they keep it a secret till after my wife put to birth my wanting to tell my dad is out of my own security, pple do unimaginable things just to cover up, mostly women

One major concern:

Your relationship with your dad.

What could happen to that relationship :

He probably will get angry, and feel bad you should have trusted him with such sensitive situation.

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What does telling him change :

That someone else, your dad is now privy to the fact that your first daughter might not be yours.

What does it change?

Nothing.

Should you tell him?

Yes

When?

Not now, cos it does not change anything.


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Her brother :

Why would you want to tell him.

To let him know her sister hooked you with a child that is probably not yours.

That there will be fresh financial constraints due to the health realities of your daughter, maybe the biological father or they could step up and help out.


Does telling him change anything or help in any way?

No!


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Secret.


It is only a secret when it is not told.


And no.

You are not keeping it a secret because something out of the ordinary has happened.

But because because you have the good sense and judgment enough to put your wives health first, your daughters, your intending child health a priority and not sentiments.


Like i said.


Whatever you decide to do, trust your judgment.

Trust your instinct

You are a Man

Be the Man

baralatie:

did you say mere pregnancy

no pregnancy is mere?

you tell a woman that the child that she is habouring is not hers that her baby died and was swapped.you will see devil in human flesh

In this situation it is a mere pregnancy...

DryMouth:
In this situation it is a mere pregnancy...

what makes it a mere pregnancy

Chai, nowadays women.

That child is not yours sir. It was a serious cover up between your wife and her mother. That's why you were given ultimatum to marry her.

Your father saw something wrong in the hurried marriage that's why he kept asking you if you are sure that's what you want to do.

Sir, inform your father first.

But I will want you to tell your wife. I don't know how you will carry that revelation in your mind till she delivers and you will be your normal self. For me, I don't know how to pretend. My body language will tell you something is wrong.
Tell her abeg, heaven won't come down.

There is a way to table every issue to give it a soft landing

baralatie:

what makes it a mere pregnancy

Because of the witch carrying it

Nonexistent2:
Talk to your father first. A man that allowed you to marry that girl impromptu must be a reasonable man so talk to him and seek his guidance. Gosh, this is why I'm not a fan of marriage.

Excellent advise. Discuss with your Dad.

On the sideline, I will also do DNA test to ascertain if she is mine or not.

Because guy Sickle cell fit dey ya lineage even though u may be AA, My brother and Sister are AS while the rest of us kids are AA. But blood group will always come as either yours or your wife's.

Finally, I will not reveal any of my findings to my wife till she is delivered of the baby which you think is yours this time around.

Goodluck

My advice is in whatsoever way you choose to go about it don't reveal your moves to your wife not until you about to checkmate.
First step. Find money and go do a DNA test

Dude, my advise is simple. Confront her and do it as soon as you have a DNA proof. Also make sure you inform your family as soon as possible. My concern is if a lady will intentionally (possibly) throw the weight of a child not yours on you, I fear you are just another variable in making her equation balance and if she suspects you already know her secrets, she may ( out of trying to avoid shame) see you as forfeitable.

People go to unbelievable extents to avoid shame and disgrace. You see that pregnancy you want to wait for her to deliver ehn? You may not even be alive to witness the delivery if she suspects you know her secrets and would expose her (especially if her mum is also in on the plan). You should take care of the pregnancy while she is still heavy though but I suggest you dont stay under the same roof with her atleast till she gives birth and you confirm paternity.

Be wise, protect yourself too.


BTW, when we tell una to pray and get God's direction before getting married, una no go hear. The big Bossom or hips no go let una think straight. Now wahala don wear konkoshoe. Anyways it don happen already, I wish you well though.

Zeion422:
If i understand ur story very well, they is high probability that the baby is not yours wich u can be certain for now, u have too deal wit a sickle cell child.........my advice is pray about the whole things talk to a close friend u can trust if posible a fimily menber i will suggest ur dad, live ur wife out of these for now becos of her current condition...i like the fact u said u are open minded that will realy help you to see thing from all angles...it has happen u can change it but u can fix dont dwel much on y and how....focus on how too fix it

Stop using wrong words. When you used 'probability', it meant that there's a likelyhood that the child is his. That child isn't his and this is a case of paternity fraud in which Nigeria ranks second highest in globally!

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Op, you're here whining over how this new pregnancy could be yours. What i see is a similarity between the first pregnancy and this. Are you even potent?

Twelfthman:
My advice is in whatsoever way you choose to go about it don't reveal your moves to your wife not until you about to checkmate.
First step. Find money and go do a DNA test

Which fvcking dna test? Are you shitting me? How can an AA and an AS birth SS? Did you not attend biology class?

SirMichael1:

Op, you're here whining over how this new pregnancy could be yours. What i see is a similarity between the first pregnancy and this. Are you even potent?

That is a cruel thing to say!

the rate of simps on this thread is alarming. could it be the economy turning our men to weaklings or what. chai i wish i can slap some people from here. stupid simps

bigtboi:
that's the story for now, I haven't tell my wife about it... I just need advice on how to go about it all bcuz of my wife pregnancy situation

Repeat the genotype test on your daughter. Just to be sure before any confrontations.

You didn't understand my points before you rush to make your comment. Read again

SirMichael1:
Which fvcking dna test? Are you shitting me? How can an AA and an AS birth SS? Did you not attend biology class?

Genotype this, genotype that.
People seem to have confused genotype with DNA.
The only test that'll clinically prove the paternity of your child is a DNA test.
Perish that genotype thought.

Since you claim to be an open minded person, save up money and get a DNA test done. Make sure your wife doesn't know o, except you're ready to break trust permanently, when the result shows she's your daughter.

Good luck!

prince2pac:
Never... They can only bring a child of AS, but SS is no..... Na DNA remain bro.. chai.... I love children but you see love, relationship and marriage de fear me... na because of all these stuff...

Reach out to your dad first.... he will know what to do, regarding the situation on ground

Doctor Abalaka, stop misleading people who want to learn and not assume you are knowledgeable about something you know next to nothing about.

A.A + A.S can, MOST DEFINITELY and YES, produce S.S.
Google is cheap to use these days.

OlawaleBammie:



Oga, nothing go kill her stop being featherweighted, she gave birth to her and she deserves to see the results as well,

Playback why are u thinking like what I don't know, u went to do test and u r saying u don't want Ur wife to know so that she won't die? Playback what will kill her? The result? The result won't kill her cus it's her handiwork ogbeni


Someone that has some explaining to do for u, u re here covering her up like simp.

Well, what do I know, u can keep shut and be fathering a bastard naw, sin no dey inside.


























I don't even know who is giving birth to this generation men

Thank you o. I felt the same way and I saw men giving him advice not to jeopardize the woman's health. They don't know how inherently wicked and devilish some of these girls are. Like my cousin used to warn me way back: Pity these girls at your own risk!

I wish I had listened to his advice. It would have saved me a lot of bullshiit from girls.

bigtboi:
Is it medically possible for A.A + A.S genotype to birth an S.S genotype?

no

I heard someone say talk to your father he is a reasonable man. Just do that. Go to him with this story and work things out with him.

But from the look of things you were scammed into the marriage so just know that (as soon as the current baby is delivered or even before that time ) you are going to dissolve the marriage.
Failing to dissolve it, you will be reminded of this each time the child's crisis occurs and as you know, the crisis will happen frequently for a long long time.

It is better the lady goes with the baby and sort things out with her family or the true father of the child than hang perpetual sorrow and misery on your neck.

extol1:
please can someone help me summarize it. I am allergic to long article

black men's problem

Aderr:
Thank you o. I felt the same way and I saw men giving him advice not to jeopardize the woman's health. They don't know how inherently wicked and devilish some of these girls are. Like my cousin used to warn me way back: Pity these girls at your own risk!

I wish I had listened to his advice. It would have saved me a lot of bullshiit from girls.

ABI na, u had the mind to put into my hand another person's child without my knowledge , making me pass thru emotional hell upon my discovery and some people are saying I should pity Ur conditions . Conditions ko,... Na she go first get pregnant?

When u make me pass hell I will pull u along and even drop u off in the middle of the fire. I don't wanna know who u are

madridguy:
I would suggest you take your princess for DNA test to start with. If the DNA confirm she's not your baby, don't waste time to speak out because you never can tell if the pregnancy is yours as well.

which DNA again

abi u no hear say blood no match

If you want to catch person you catch am very well with no where to run to.

deflover:


which DNA again

abi u no hear say blood no match

prince2pac:
Never... They can only bring a child of AS, but SS is no..... Na DNA remain bro.. chai.... I love children but you see love, relationship and marriage de fear me... na because of all these stuff...

Reach out to your dad first.... he will know what to do, regarding the situation on ground

Nearly cry reading this

Confide in your father immediately. Or better still, any of your family members that you are closest to.

The only thing that will clear your doubts is DNA tests on you, your wife and your first child.

Medically, AA + AS can never produce an SS. It's medically impossible.

Is it possible that your child was swapped at birth with someone's child? Only DNA will tell.

Speak up now and get help.

OlawaleBammie:



Oga, nothing go kill her stop being featherweighted, she gave birth to her and she deserves to see the results as well,

Playback why are u thinking like what I don't know, u went to do test and u r saying u don't want Ur wife to know so that she won't die? Playback what will kill her? The result? The result won't kill her cus it's her handiwork ogbeni


Someone that has some explaining to do for u, u re here covering her up like simp.

Well, what do I know, u can keep shut and be fathering a bastard naw, sin no dey inside.


























I don't even know who is giving birth to this generation men

I swear bro.. the guy is a weakling and more premium tears awaits him..
Me too I wonder who gave birth to this Lily livered cowards called men in this generation..

extol1:
please can someone help me summarize it. I am allergic to long article

The man na AA
The lady talk say she be AS
Dem knack
Dem do wedding
She born girl
Dem knack again
She carry belle again
The daughter fall sick then go hospital
Dem do genotype test fr the daughter
The test com show say na SS she be

phenzy:



The man na AA
The lady talk say she be AS
Dem knack
Dem do wedding
She born girl
Dem knack again
She carry belle again
The daughter fall sick then go hospital
Dem do genotype test fr the daughter
The test com show say na SS she be

that means say the lady play away con they say na the man get na, cos I never hear AA and AS marry con born SS. abi my biology teacher no teach me well

lampi:
black men's problem

talk again make knock you, as if you be white man

Op, I would advise you to take your daughter to another lab to re-run the test.
Ask your wife to run another genotype test, thereafter you can now make you conclusion.