Beverlyjean:


If men start to toe that part...we women will still complain and start to tag men irresponsible and will then start to quote the same bible some overlook ... western culture is killing the institute of marriage... people would say arrangee marriage that our fore fathers practiced is bad and archaic... but the love marriage that we have accepted dont even last as well ... infact arangee marriages last longer than I hv found love marriages ... it simply


shows that both marriages need something in common , and thats tolerance , understanding, sacrifice , responsibility and commitment ...but these days its turned to a competition between man and woman

True

JovialJune:



Shut da fvck up, you think money brings happiness? GTFOH.

please tell me,what gives happiness?

Techsupport:

Poverty have really dealt with u. U can easily sell your soul for 30 pieces of silver

Do you know the meaning of poverty?I'm not a rich man yet..My standard of living is better..I don't have to argue with you..That is your opinion..

am not in support of the court..

she wants to live her life the way she wants it..
even if she wants to Bleep everyone.. that is her wahala..

please free her and let her go...

b4 she go and put poison in the man`s food, then after he has passed away,
she can then start living the way she wanted it.

kkins25:


wisely spoken sir. what you forget is, in a country where women were just granted right to drive cars, one doesn't expect the law to favor the woman. They may be other reasons she may have been scared to mention, after all- even the sharia law has more regards for men than they do for women and has never favored women. Women seeking divorce under Islam religion are seldom granted.


At what expense? your happiness? your life's sense of purpose?


It was a patriarchal move. If you want to create a slave from a sane man, you must first destroy that which gives him strength,sense of pride, self esteem, etc.

I'm afraid, in a religious system like islam where arranged marriage is still practiced and enforced, i am prejudiced to support the woman even though her argument was insufficient to free herself from the boundary(as she sees it).

moreso, this is why men should listen to ubunja. This story has showed that money cannot buy a woman's happiness forever, it seems money may have been the tool used by the man to hook the woman in the first place. The woman is realizing that her purpose in life cannot be fulfilled by money alone( touche on her). If the man really loves her, then he should make some way to help her fulfil her dreams because "God" knows the reason i avoid getting into relationship now is because i still feel there is alot for me to see before i get tied down to the cycle of work-house to house-work.

Marriage should foster happiness to both parties involved, that is what we have evolved to know as a characteristic of a righteous marriage.



Incase you are unaware, Money is what we relentlessly work for in order to acquire freedom. Freedom to eat what you like, marry whom you want, and mostly live the life you want.



If you read the text you would see where the man says sometimes the lady visit friends without his knowledge. I am forced to suspect that this dream of hers to travel the world was shared with the man but he must have refused to assist her with such en devours. If your husband has a certain goal he has set his mind to fulfill wouldn't you support him? if the lady wants to tour the world why cant he help her.
I used to work at a resort- which means i've seen people come from all walks of life traveling for thousands of miles to feast their eyes on things in a world other than theirs. My point is, it is not an insane request by the woman.




Pardon me, but relationship as society has brought me up to understand entails compromising in one way or the other to meet up with expectations of the spouse and vice versa. Its a contract that was signed with the inks of love on a paper of commitment.
Does she have freedom to dress the way she wants, to be-friend who she wants, to get an education, to get a job?

i, once switching through channels sometime ago and stumbled upon a "men and women conference" taking place in Saudi Arabia. Apart form not understanding the Arabic, you know what else i didn't understand? why the hell did a "men and women" conference didn't have women inside but rather where represented by male family members? where all the women on antenatal or what?

In this case, there is definitely more to it than that which meets the eye.

I wouldn't say they like terrorism but i do agree with you that "she was obviously married off na".

So in other words... due to freedom to do whatever u want, u should leave a marriage whenever u feel like...I always warn family and friends to b careful with giving their hearts to selfish beings ... if we all show act of selfishness to display freedom, this world will collapse... this world is really full of wicked selfish people...hope u will b fine if u are treated the same way after being good to ur partner and sacrifices alot... let ur partner also leave u too cos ur partner feels they need freedom...also leave ur kids cos u want freedom from their burden

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The Judge did well.

Beverlyjean:


If men start to toe that part...we women will still complain and start to tag men irresponsible and will then start to quote the same bible some overlook ... western culture is killing the institute of marriage... people would say arrangee marriage that our fore fathers practiced is bad and archaic... but the love marriage that we have accepted dont even last as well ... infact arangee marriages last longer than I hv found love marriages ... it simply shows that both marriages need something in common , and thats tolerance , understanding, sacrifice , responsibility and commitment ...but these days its turned to a competition between man and woman

The person Behind this moniker is either an suffering from chronic slave mentality or is just a man And a misogynist.

thorpido:
Good judgement.
If she insists on getting the divorce,then she should be made to pay the Dh 25,000 monthly she has been receiving.

Exactly

glowingflame7:


I was just laughing as the judge even said that her husband should reduce her upkeep money. Correct judge.

The judge has compared the allowance to his/her monthly salary, and seen that the woman no have sense.

SegFault:

The person Behind this moniker is either an suffering from chronic slave mentality or is just a man And a misogynist.

Just because I dont agree with ur opinion...u want freedom but still condemn my freedom to choice

Beverlyjean:


Just because I dont agree with ur opinion...u want freedom but still condemn my freedom to choice

You are not talking about yourself but everyone at large, and I'm just telling you facts besides, it's my opinion.

ziondaughter247:


Do you think a woman needs divorce to be free from a lunatic Just see your mentality, it reeks of low self-esteem and control. Lol, hope you will not jam the one that will stay but poison you slowly and when you are out she brings another man into the house you once stayed in together. I really pity your type

I will never marry a slut all because of love

I will maintain frame and dominance in my marriage

I will never marry a lady who prioritizes career over family and marriage

I will never marry a lady who believes she is equal to a man

I will never marry a feminist

JovialJune:



Yet people divorce every week(go to a family court one weekend) and baby mama and papa is becoming the new woke, or do you live in a cave?

Yet people are getting married every weekend

Single parenthood will always b shamed and stigmatized. We look down on them. We are not like the west that will b hailing them for their stupidity and foolish sexual mating strategy

Beverlyjean:


I hope ud b nappy if ur bf of many years that u love alot dumps u cos he wants his freedom ... even after rejecting suitors and mayb after 2 abortions or 1 kid ... afterall everyone has the right to b free to do whatever pleases them...its their right

I wouldn't care.

If I was keeping him against his will, I would know that we aren't in a relationship to begin with. It is his right to be with whomsoever he pleases, likewise mine. He is free to pursue happiness and I am free to pursue my happiness. Nobody owns another person or their emotions.

What purpose does it serve caging a free bird? If she's said she's tired of his controlling, why can't he let her go? Is it by force? She's made her intentions clear, why forcing her to stay? So that she will kill him one day?

If you really think that man loves his wife, then you haven't seen a lot of cases in the Arab world of women who want their freedom and the man wants to keep up appearances so he won't release them.

And please, I have children for my husband, never for boyfriend. Not to talk of abortions or sex with any other man. Thank you.

Olaideolayemi:
Do you know the meaning of poverty?I'm not a rich man yet..My standard of living is better..I don't have to argue with you..That is your opinion..

You are poor. It is not about the amount of money in your bank account, it is about what you are willing to lose to keep holding on to that money.

If not for the court, babe would divorce Oga and request for monthly alimony of D25k so she can maintain her 'current' standard of living.

That is not how divorce and alimony works she might be the one to pay the husband.

Harddiskng:


You are obviously not a daughter of Zion. Plus you are exceedingly dull, where did you read I’m looking for a woman lol. No need to exchange words with you.

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I do have an uncle doing extremely well. He is a project manager for a man, some political powers use as a front to establish business and control cash.

We usually have talks about women. He has a good wife, very homely but oneday he mentioned one of his regret, I would never have guessed it. It was “Getting Married”. According to him he was no longer a free man. I still ponder on his words till date.

Abeg no mind that girl. I don see their type tire. They see a peaceful person and they automatically think he's stupid. As if dem fit stand if dem meet acute mad men . Abeg no dey bother yourself.

My own be say, male or female, if you change am for me, I go change am for you. And I go make sure say my change pass your own so that you must get the point. And even when you don get the point, the change still continues. I no dey endure fools at all

400billionman:


The judge has compared the allowance to his/her monthly salary, and seen that the woman no have sense.

bukatyne:


Go and ask the wife na

Senseless response. Failed parental upbringing on display.

glowingflame7:


I was just laughing as the judge even said that her husband should reduce her upkeep money. Correct judge.

Na sabi judge be that. A broke bitch is a bitter bitch....JIM IYKE

angelfallz:
i no gree for that kain sentiment. Woman wey no fit respect you for your own house, no worth am. Haba, you be man, you wan tell me say you no fit generate money again? Na only men wey no get respect for themselves and desperate men dey follow woman wey dey disrepect them walai.

On the norms, I wouldn't let it get to this stage. I non sabi pamper woman. When it comes to marriage na sense make your wife non see you finish.

Harddiskng:
God save us from women that see kindness as weakness.

Nowadays its becoming unmanly to be nice to a woman, that is the norm of the world we live in.

If you sow the wind, you would reap the whirlwind.

No need to give her 6,000 monthly, women are allowed to work in UAE. Infact she should start paying back the 25,000.

Some men too they mumu for women, the woman will be like he so loving and caring, body go they sweet am unknown to the man na trap e wan enter so.

Na so e dey first start, baby on your way from work please just buy and get plantain, if you run am. The next time she will be like hunny just stop at the market buy this and that, base on loving man, you go still run am the next time baby just help me grind the tomato since you will get home before me. Before you know, you don dey go market and cook food

InfernoNig:


Just imagine how stupid this sounds.

See mumu

[quote author=Beverlyjean post=98731926]

So in other words... due to freedom to do whatever u want, u should leave a marriage whenever u feel like

No ma, but being a marriage were you have to kill your spirit for the sake of co-existing with another person is the same as taking a drop of sniper everyday until your tummy cannot take anymore.

I always warn family and friends to b careful with giving their hearts to selfish beings

The act of selflessness could be advantageous as it could be dangerous. It is indeed a two edge sword. when the hour of crucifixion came, even Jesus began to think of himself. He basically asked God why he had to stake his life for others? we each of us have our own lives to live however our decisions should be tailored to fulfill our responsibilities(for example children).

if we all show act of selfishness to display freedom, this world will collapse... this world is really full of wicked selfish people...hope u will b fine if u are treated the same way after being good to ur partner and sacrifices alot... let ur partner also leave u too cos ur partner feels they need freedom...also leave ur kids cos u want freedom from their burden

I think its the money that is really 'shacking' your head. now think of it like this;
Why would a woman like yourself who is a magnet to Men with money abandon her wealthy husband for the sake of exploring the world and risking her source of income. Not only that, but she had settled to taking the risk of facing stigma that would follow the law suit. After all its an islamic world we are talking about.
so you should evaluate the circumstances in this case. Not that i disagree with you concerning upholding responsibility, but being a witness to the nonsense excuse of "let me stay because of my children" i strongly advice women who can not cope with their spouse to leave and work out a plan that would not affect the kids. It is not easy thing, Marriage.

[quote author=kkins25 post=98743234][/quote]

The moment u get married , u will have to make sacrifices and thats part of adulthood... she is not a child, children are the ones that most likely leive without responsibilities... only a coward runs away when challenges comes forth... being an adult also means taking up responsibilities... if every married person should start to think of only themselves, then the institute of marriage will collapse... a husband that solely provides for the family can now stop taking care of his family and concentrate on enjoying his life with his money however it pleases him same as what this woman wanna do... people mention deadbeat dads , these are men that are selfish as well and want freedom ... wrong is wrong, right is right...u cant cross them

DEMZEE:


I will never marry a slut all because of love

I will maintain frame and dominance in my marriage

I will never marry a lady who prioritizes career over family and marriage

I will never marry a lady who believes she is equal to a man

I will never marry a feminist

A lot of ladies in the village pick up one and mould to what you want and least I forget how much are you worth

Beverlyjean:


The moment u get married , u will have to make sacrifices and thats part of adulthood... she is not a child, children are the ones that most likely leive without responsibilities... only a coward runs away when challenges comes forth... being an adult also means taking up responsibilities... if every married person should start to think of only themselves, then the institute of marriage will collapse... a husband that solely provides for the family can now stop taking care of his family and concentrate on enjoying his life with his money however it pleases him same as what this woman wanna do... people mention deadbeat dads , these are men that are selfish as well and want freedom ... wrong is wrong, right is right...u cant cross them

May unlimited divine blessings follow you in all of your endeavors. It's always appalling, yet laughable, seeing some low-lives and nitwits trying so hard to appear sane, successful, and woke through rationalization of abnormalities.

LordKO:


May unlimited divine blessings follow you in all of your endeavors. It's always appalling, yet laughable, seeing some low-lives and nitwits trying so hard to appear sane, successful, and woke through rationalization of abnormalities.

I can assure you, supposing the man had the same financial status as you, Berverlyjean would have sided the woman.

Bever, being a naija woman brought up with the mentality that a man that pays you in exchange for sex is El Magnifico. It's bevers type that would advise the wife of a wealthy man to return to her home and endure physical assault and all in the guise of "think of your children".

I remember my neigbour two block away from my home one Sunday evening screaming from her compound. "weytin happen" every body was coming out to check.

I came out when I heard people running to the compound and other women screaming for their husband's to come.

I went out to the place only to find smeers of Blood, from a beaten wife.

"oga weytin happen na". People asked him. It took more than two men to hold that man.

"she dey Bleep up and down" said the man.

"Oh na him you Wan kill her"
"Madam why na"
"oga abeg no vex, no body is perfect". The Mopo Inspector said trying to catch his breath.

The man took his car ND vermosed. The rest of the evening the scenario was the gossip of the little town.

People who came to find out why a crowd had gathered were told that the man beat his wife because he heard she had fvcked around.

To cut the story short, we later realized the man was a thug. Who even threatened to kill me a certain day he came to my house with some guys. He would have whooped my ass if my neighbour's hadn't called for me to shut my door.. He did this because one other time he had beat this Woman unconscious and we decided to house her for some time.
The woman wanted to leave but people like Berverlyjean said; "stay oh, think about your children".

To my deepest Shock this woman came to visit my mom(her new friend), they were gusting ND I overhead her telling my mom they made love..

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Love

On her naming ceremony, I think the woman forgot to do something na him the man carry bottle jack the woman head in front of all their guest.

That was when my dad told her to forget about kids and run for her life.

She literally stole her own baby from the house and ran, abandoning her other kids.

My point is society is prejudiced to find a wealthy a "handsome, generous man" to be a good husband. After all, he takes care of her and the kids.

If you want to insult Lordko, kindly address it to the appropriate reciepient. Have some balls!

I think your argument is baseless anyway, considering that the woman is 40years of age. Her kids must be grown up and she thought, " I have money now, it's time I leave this suffering and smiling life".

Marriage is not by force she has tasted it so now she want freedom she will still be the mother of her kids.

I can't cage any lady in the name of marriage.

MummyD2020:


See mumu

. Likewise.