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PAWG:
mayorchimex is lucky, I remain beau-less.

People lost their lives during the pandemic, I lost my GF.

Her neighbor fvcked her. Sleazy a$$ girl

sapien:
Thank you.

sapien:
Good evening, Romancelanders. It's quite a lengthy read, so bear with me.

This lady and I have been dating for the past 4 years, and I am planning on making it official later this year, though Covid-19 made my finances quite complicated recently, but things are getting back in shape.

Recently, specifically over 2 weeks ago, she suddenly stopped picking my calls. Prior to that, we haven't seen each other since September last year. She always comes up with one excuses or the other every weekend whenever I tell her to come over to my place or if I want to go over to her place to see her. I always have busy schedules during the midweek, so we usually have only weekends to see each other.

I have gone to see her mother and her siblings last year. They accepted me as a prospective in-law. The mum said she queried her daughter and she told her that I was the one she would like to spend the rest of her life with, hence the mum's invitation. Her mum usually calls me from time to time, and I do talk to her, too.

Couple of days back, I had to call the mum to report her daughter to her regarding the uncharacteristic change in her daughter's behaviour, and how, despite living in the same city, we haven't seen each other in 4 months, and how she has refused picking my calls in more than 2 weeks.

She promised to talk to her and ask her what the problem was and get back to me. I waited for some couple of days, but when I didn't see the mum's call, I had to call her back. I had to ask her to give her daughter her phone so I could talk to her and ask her some salient questions regarding our relationship. She kept saying there is no problem and that I didn't offend her, and our relationship is still standing strong. I asked if she was going through some personal issues that she could share with me and we might find a solution; she said she was perfectly okay. We settled our issues right there and then, and she promised to call back the second day.

I waited for the second day and I did not see her call. I had no choice than to call her back. Ladies and gentlemen, this girl didn't pick my calls. When she eventually picked after multiple missed calls, she was talking to someone else, while my airtime was burning out. I became enraged. I had to call the mum the second day to tell her I was no longer interested in the daughter, that she was probably seeing someone else, and she didn't have the guts to tell me.

The mum swore that her daughter is not seeing someone else, as far as she knows, and that she hasn't brought anyone to meet her. The mum is a Deeper Lifer, and from my interactions with her, she doesn't condone two-timing. She promised to talk to her daughter, that maybe we should give ourselves more time, like taking a break for a couple of months.

I am not usually this patient, and never condoned negligence and disregard in my previous relationships. However, this girl had been special to me, prior to her negligence. She was quite dedicated to me during the course of our 4-year-old relationship. She was never demanding, and was contented and altruistic, too. She helped me many times in the past, financially, whenever I was broke, and I always repaid her back, too. She was a wife material, and loved by my family as well.

The questions are;

1. Do I disregard the mum's advice?

2. Do I still give this girl another chance after her blatant negligence?

Mods, you might do well by moving this piece to the front page.

addexx:
she ghost you, you ghost her too niqqa. She ain't responding to none of your calls, what other cue do you need bruv? Mehn move ya ass on.

franchasng:
I never met my wife's parents nor siblings until the day I went to pay her dowry. She pleaded with me many times to come to her place, I never showed up.


Quality men are not usually easy to get so when a lady finds a quality man, she handles him with care. You belittled yourself before her in so many ways.


Why are Nigerian guys always in a hurry to meet the family members of their girlfriends Its a turn off.


Now listen and listen well, that girl is seeing another guy she considers far better than you and seeing you or picking your calls irritates her, ladies don't usually handle such things well unlike guys that can manage a community of ladies and all the ladies will be happy and fulfilled lol.


Stop believing that good ladies are scarce, they are not, in fact, I wished I could marry more wives cos I keep seeing super hot and good mannered ladies that deserve to be wife's, so I wonder why you single guys cling unto one girl thinking she is the only mother Theresa on earth.



Forget the nonsense that she used to help you, that's by gone and thank God she is the one playing herself not you, so forget the past memories and go find a better chick and don't ever accept her back because another guy have fu*cked her and only after that guy dumps her that she would come back to her senses. Unless she is a confirmed virgin with visible hymen, and she comes back with the hymen in tact and you use torchlight to confirm the hymen, don't ever accept her back, she doesn't love you, she doesn't respect you, she doesn't regard you.


Don't ever marry a girl that doesn't respect and regard you. Forget Love, respect, loyalty and submission from a woman is vital for any marriage to work.

Before I married my wife, she calls me more than 5 times a day and when I complain she would apologise and before you know it, she has called again despite having a very tight work schedule owing to the nature of her career. Now that she is my wife, she calls me more than 5 times everyday. Sometimes just to gist me or tell me irrelevant story that happened in her workplace or something like that which makes me laugh lol. Once a woman is in love, she wanna talk to you always, she will tell you every damn thing she does daily even when you don't ask.


Forget that babe completely, she doesn't worth the hype jareh .


And lastly as a single guy who is not yet married, you are not supposed to be dating just one girl. You are supposed to have at least 3 qualified wife materials and maybe 3 other parole. How can you tie yourself to one girl as a single guy that's looking for a wife Are you Pastor Kumuyi

SweetCunt97:
Abi na, love should b mutual.

franchasng:
I never met my wife's parents nor siblings until the day I went to pay her dowry. She pleaded with me many times to come to her place, I never showed up.


Quality men are not usually easy to get so when a lady finds a quality man, she handles him with care. You belittled yourself before her in so many ways.


Why are Nigerian guys always in a hurry to meet the family members of their girlfriends Its a turn off.


Now listen and listen well, that girl is seeing another guy she considers far better than you and seeing you or picking your calls irritates her, ladies don't usually handle such things well unlike guys that can manage a community of ladies and all the ladies will be happy and fulfilled lol.


Stop believing that good ladies are scarce, they are not, in fact, I wished I could marry more wives cos I keep seeing super hot and good mannered ladies that deserve to be wife's, so I wonder why you single guys cling unto one girl thinking she is the only mother Theresa on earth.



Forget the nonsense that she used to help you, that's by gone and thank God she is the one playing herself not you, so forget the past memories and go find a better chick and don't ever accept her back because another guy have fu*cked her and only after that guy dumps her that she would come back to her senses. Unless she is a confirmed virgin with visible hymen, and she comes back with the hymen in tact and you use torchlight to confirm the hymen, don't ever accept her back, she doesn't love you, she doesn't respect you, she doesn't regard you.


Don't ever marry a girl that doesn't respect and regard you. Forget Love, respect, loyalty and submission from a woman is vital for any marriage to work.

Before I married my wife, she calls me more than 5 times a day and when I complain she would apologise and before you know it, she has called again despite having a very tight work schedule owing to the nature of her career. Now that she is my wife, she calls me more than 5 times everyday. Sometimes just to gist me or tell me irrelevant story that happened in her workplace or something like that which makes me laugh lol. Once a woman is in love, she wanna talk to you always, she will tell you every damn thing she does daily even when you don't ask.


Forget that babe completely, she doesn't worth the hype jareh .


And lastly as a single guy who is not yet married, you are not supposed to be dating just one girl. You are supposed to have at least 3 qualified wife materials and maybe 3 other parole. How can you tie yourself to one girl as a single guy that's looking for a wife Are you Pastor Kumuyi

franchasng:
I never met my wife's parents nor siblings until the day I went to pay her dowry. She pleaded with me many times to come to her place, I never showed up.


Quality men are not usually easy to get so when a lady finds a quality man, she handles him with care. You belittled yourself before her in so many ways.


Why are Nigerian guys always in a hurry to meet the family members of their girlfriends Its a turn off.


Now listen and listen well, that girl is seeing another guy she considers far better than you and seeing you or picking your calls irritates her, ladies don't usually handle such things well unlike guys that can manage a community of ladies and all the ladies will be happy and fulfilled lol.


Stop believing that good ladies are scarce, they are not, in fact, I wished I could marry more wives cos I keep seeing super hot and good mannered ladies that deserve to be wife's, so I wonder why you single guys cling unto one girl thinking she is the only mother Theresa on earth.



Forget the nonsense that she used to help you, that's by gone and thank God she is the one playing herself not you, so forget the past memories and go find a better chick and don't ever accept her back because another guy have fu*cked her and only after that guy dumps her that she would come back to her senses. Unless she is a confirmed virgin with visible hymen, and she comes back with the hymen in tact and you use torchlight to confirm the hymen, don't ever accept her back, she doesn't love you, she doesn't respect you, she doesn't regard you.


Don't ever marry a girl that doesn't respect and regard you. Forget Love, respect, loyalty and submission from a woman is vital for any marriage to work.

Before I married my wife, she calls me more than 5 times a day and when I complain she would apologise and before you know it, she has called again despite having a very tight work schedule owing to the nature of her career. Now that she is my wife, she calls me more than 5 times everyday. Sometimes just to gist me or tell me irrelevant story that happened in her workplace or something like that which makes me laugh lol. Once a woman is in love, she wanna talk to you always, she will tell you every damn thing she does daily even when you don't ask.


Forget that babe completely, she doesn't worth the hype jareh .


And lastly as a single guy who is not yet married, you are not supposed to be dating just one girl. You are supposed to have at least 3 qualified wife materials and maybe 3 other parole. How can you tie yourself to one girl as a single guy that's looking for a wife Are you Pastor Kumuyi

sapien:
Good evening, Romancelanders. It's quite a lengthy read, so bear with me.

This lady and I have been dating for the past 4 years, and I am planning on making it official later this year, though Covid-19 made my finances quite complicated recently, but things are getting back in shape.

Recently, specifically over 2 weeks ago, she suddenly stopped picking my calls. Prior to that, we haven't seen each other since September last year. She always comes up with one excuses or the other every weekend whenever I tell her to come over to my place or if I want to go over to her place to see her. I always have busy schedules during the midweek, so we usually have only weekends to see each other.

I have gone to see her mother and her siblings last year. They accepted me as a prospective in-law. The mum said she queried her daughter and she told her that I was the one she would like to spend the rest of her life with, hence the mum's invitation. Her mum usually calls me from time to time, and I do talk to her, too.

Couple of days back, I had to call the mum to report her daughter to her regarding the uncharacteristic change in her daughter's behaviour, and how, despite living in the same city, we haven't seen each other in 4 months, and how she has refused picking my calls in more than 2 weeks.

She promised to talk to her and ask her what the problem was and get back to me. I waited for some couple of days, but when I didn't see the mum's call, I had to call her back. I had to ask her to give her daughter her phone so I could talk to her and ask her some salient questions regarding our relationship. She kept saying there is no problem and that I didn't offend her, and our relationship is still standing strong. I asked if she was going through some personal issues that she could share with me and we might find a solution; she said she was perfectly okay. We settled our issues right there and then, and she promised to call back the second day.

I waited for the second day and I did not see her call. I had no choice than to call her back. Ladies and gentlemen, this girl didn't pick my calls. When she eventually picked after multiple missed calls, she was talking to someone else, while my airtime was burning out. I became enraged. I had to call the mum the second day to tell her I was no longer interested in the daughter, that she was probably seeing someone else, and she didn't have the guts to tell me.

The mum swore that her daughter is not seeing someone else, as far as she knows, and that she hasn't brought anyone to meet her. The mum is a Deeper Lifer, and from my interactions with her, she doesn't condone two-timing. She promised to talk to her daughter, that maybe we should give ourselves more time, like taking a break for a couple of months.

I am not usually this patient, and never condoned negligence and disregard in my previous relationships. However, this girl had been special to me, prior to her negligence. She was quite dedicated to me during the course of our 4-year-old relationship. She was never demanding, and was contented and altruistic, too. She helped me many times in the past, financially, whenever I was broke, and I always repaid her back, too. She was a wife material, and loved by my family as well.

The questions are;

1. Do I disregard the mum's advice?

2. Do I still give this girl another chance after her blatant negligence?

Mods, you might do well by moving this piece to the front page.

SweetCunt97:
Abi na, love should b mutual.

sapien:
Good evening, Romancelanders. It's quite a lengthy read, so bear with me.

This lady and I have been dating for the past 4 years, and I am planning on making it official later this year, though Covid-19 made my finances quite complicated recently, but things are getting back in shape.

Recently, specifically over 2 weeks ago, she suddenly stopped picking my calls. Prior to that, we haven't seen each other since September last year. She always comes up with one excuses or the other every weekend whenever I tell her to come over to my place or if I want to go over to her place to see her. I always have busy schedules during the midweek, so we usually have only weekends to see each other.

I have gone to see her mother and her siblings last year. They accepted me as a prospective in-law. The mum said she queried her daughter and she told her that I was the one she would like to spend the rest of her life with, hence the mum's invitation. Her mum usually calls me from time to time, and I do talk to her, too.

Couple of days back, I had to call the mum to report her daughter to her regarding the uncharacteristic change in her daughter's behaviour, and how, despite living in the same city, we haven't seen each other in 4 months, and how she has refused picking my calls in more than 2 weeks.

She promised to talk to her and ask her what the problem was and get back to me. I waited for some couple of days, but when I didn't see the mum's call, I had to call her back. I had to ask her to give her daughter her phone so I could talk to her and ask her some salient questions regarding our relationship. She kept saying there is no problem and that I didn't offend her, and our relationship is still standing strong. I asked if she was going through some personal issues that she could share with me and we might find a solution; she said she was perfectly okay. We settled our issues right there and then, and she promised to call back the second day.

I waited for the second day and I did not see her call. I had no choice than to call her back. Ladies and gentlemen, this girl didn't pick my calls. When she eventually picked after multiple missed calls, she was talking to someone else, while my airtime was burning out. I became enraged. I had to call the mum the second day to tell her I was no longer interested in the daughter, that she was probably seeing someone else, and she didn't have the guts to tell me.

The mum swore that her daughter is not seeing someone else, as far as she knows, and that she hasn't brought anyone to meet her. The mum is a Deeper Lifer, and from my interactions with her, she doesn't condone two-timing. She promised to talk to her daughter, that maybe we should give ourselves more time, like taking a break for a couple of months.

I am not usually this patient, and never condoned negligence and disregard in my previous relationships. However, this girl had been special to me, prior to her negligence. She was quite dedicated to me during the course of our 4-year-old relationship. She was never demanding, and was contented and altruistic, too. She helped me many times in the past, financially, whenever I was broke, and I always repaid her back, too. She was a wife material, and loved by my family as well.

The questions are;

1. Do I disregard the mum's advice?

2. Do I still give this girl another chance after her blatant negligence?

Mods, you might do well by moving this piece to the front page.

SpicyMimi:
Don’t call her again. She might not be a bad person but not your God ordained spouse and this is usually the signs especially when your God ordained spouse is somewhere praying that God separates her hubby from the other woman so he can locate her. These were my prayers too and it worked!

Let God’s will be done, trust me His Will is the best and you’d forget this lady totally if she isn’t yours.

Tajbol4splend:
The first time I spoke to my in laws was the day I went to ask her hand in marriage with me. One thing you should know is that impatience and putting pressure on your spouse is a big turn off, you have to understand that there are times people want to take a break in a relationship that has lasted that long. Don't ever call her mum again, you are going to annoy her more, if she has once supported you financially, I think she's got good in her, give her time, even if you are married and are in love, there will be times she wants to be alone

Evolutionlove:
So them tell you say your gender dey love?? Wicked Species. Well na mumu adult boys dey suffer for una hands though. No be people like Me......

Bola146:
It means he doesn't love the lady if he can find time to talk to her one on one, 4 years relationship to be thrown away just like that Haba now, so he know she resides or works? He can't just find time to check what is happening Maybe the lady warned him about lack of good communication and this guy didn't listen, now he has her time, Love is a sacrifice and total commitment! If you can't, it's a total madness. It doesn't mean they are not meant to be.

SweetCunt97:
[s]Well, we love men who can provide shelter, security, food and basics of life and who can also lead and direct.[/s]

sapien:
If this is the case, then it's her loss, because once I find out it's another guy that's taking her attention, then it's officially over between us.

I think this is the reason she's scared of telling me anything. She probably wants to test both waters and see which is deeper.

Odoogu:
bro, at least try exercise some patience.
she ain't blocked your number yet neither is she rejecting your calls.
but you shouldn't "rely" on the mums advice, the girl in question could have made other "plans unknown" to her.
give her some space and try sort one or two important things to keep your mind off the issue.
if after sometime she doesn't call as it is convenient by you, you could call her, but not to bug or ask about the relationship( the strained one) only to ask how she faring and as a sharp guy you gonna be able to read the writing clearly.

sapien:
Nasty? Nah. I won't. That's why I have decided not to visit her place, otherwise I could have stormed her place, especially after her last episode.

HopeVictor:
Don't put all your eggs in one basket..give her some time and also look for a backup babe

arsenal444:
I like your courage, u are a man