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Simps bore me for life. Tueh!

EndRape2:
After the launch you have not seen her, lol, maybe you are too much that day, or you lack table manners, or you ate without even giving the mother cash when going to say thank you, did you even give her younger ones money for biscuit after finishing their food? Nairaland boys will deceive you without telling you your fault, your new relationship might crash if you do not work on your faults







uote author=sapien post=98882906] Lol. You reply cracked me up.

I am a completely loyal guy. While I don't condone cheating, I don't cheat as well in a relationship.

She didn't give me any reason to cheat on her, hence my dedication.

Now, I know better.

And regarding her mother, she was the one who invited me for lunch. Her daughter gave her my number and she called me herself and told me to come over, that she would like to see me. Since then, the woman decided to take interest me. I haven't seen her since then.

It seems you have mouth diarrhoea. You have decided to turn this thread into a gender war with your misandry and man-hating nonsense.

You don't know me from Adam, yet you have a shallow opinion of me already.

How did you know I don't have table manners, and I went to her place without giving the mum and her siblings something?

What is stopping you from paying a surprise visit?

sapien:
Good evening, Romancelanders. It's quite a lengthy read, so bear with me.

This lady and I have been dating for the past 4 years, and I am planning on making it official later this year, though Covid-19 made my finances quite complicated recently, but things are getting back in shape.

Recently, specifically over 2 weeks ago, she suddenly stopped picking my calls. Prior to that, we haven't seen each other since September last year. She always comes up with one excuses or the other every weekend whenever I tell her to come over to my place or if I want to go over to her place to see her. I always have busy schedules during the midweek, so we usually have only weekends to see each other.

I have gone to see her mother and her siblings last year. They accepted me as a prospective in-law. The mum said she queried her daughter and she told her that I was the one she would like to spend the rest of her life with, hence the mum's invitation. Her mum usually calls me from time to time, and I do talk to her, too.

Couple of days back, I had to call the mum to report her daughter to her regarding the uncharacteristic change in her daughter's behaviour, and how, despite living in the same city, we haven't seen each other in 4 months, and how she has refused picking my calls in more than 2 weeks.

She promised to talk to her and ask her what the problem was and get back to me. I waited for some couple of days, but when I didn't see the mum's call, I had to call her back. I had to ask her to give her daughter her phone so I could talk to her and ask her some salient questions regarding our relationship. She kept saying there is no problem and that I didn't offend her, and our relationship is still standing strong. I asked if she was going through some personal issues that she could share with me and we might find a solution; she said she was perfectly okay. We settled our issues right there and then, and she promised to call back the second day.

I waited for the second day and I did not see her call. I had no choice than to call her back. Ladies and gentlemen, this girl didn't pick my calls. When she eventually picked after multiple missed calls, she was talking to someone else, while my airtime was burning out. I became enraged. I had to call the mum the second day to tell her I was no longer interested in the daughter, that she was probably seeing someone else, and she didn't have the guts to tell me.

The mum swore that her daughter is not seeing someone else, as far as she knows, and that she hasn't brought anyone to meet her. The mum is a Deeper Lifer, and from my interactions with her, she doesn't condone two-timing. She promised to talk to her daughter, that maybe we should give ourselves more time, like taking a break for a couple of months.

I am not usually this patient, and never condoned negligence and disregard in my previous relationships. However, this girl had been special to me, prior to her negligence. She was quite dedicated to me during the course of our 4-year-old relationship. She was never demanding, and was contented and altruistic, too. She helped me many times in the past, financially, whenever I was broke, and I always repaid her back, too. She was a wife material, and loved by my family as well.

The questions are;

1. Do I disregard the mum's advice?

2. Do I still give this girl another chance after her blatant negligence?

Mods, you might do well by moving this piece to the front page.

I saw this after my post. You are not ready for marriage, if you think this way.

sapien:
Thanks a bunch for the piece of advice, sir.

However, I wouldn't deign to visit her at home; this would smack of low self esteem. A girl that couldn't pick my calls to tell me what the problem is with her doesn't deserve visitation from me.

Obvious signs una no go see

She kept bringing up excuses and for your mind, she wants to marry you

karkinase:
How can you be dating someone for that long..4yrs cmon' the relationship gonna be boring...I dont blame the babe ooo...Add four years to her age n see. Someone somewhere is taking the bulls by the horn to wife her Asap. For women its talk n do, else they move on.

Wow... This type of mindset is one of the reasons we have divorce everywhere today. For them to be together for that long means they are quite compatible.

Jumping unto any available man with engagement ring is senseless. Especially, when the guy in question is serious about settling down with you. We're all trying to survive through this pandemic and I really feel that we should all just chill out.

You can catch Covid-19 and die off the next minute. This is not the time to be putting people under pressure. Just surviving this pandemic is enough achievement.

Chiefbea:
You never see nothing

lol. why do you say that?

Chii59:
Exactly. Some men will just be dragging leg meanwhile one's not growing any younger. 4 years...

Wow... This type of mindset is one of the reasons we have divorce everywhere today. For them to be together for that long means they are quite compatible.

Jumping unto any available man with engagement ring is senseless. Especially, when the guy in question is serious about settling down with you. We're all trying to survive through this pandemic and I really feel that we should all just chill out.

You can catch Covid-19 and die off the next minute. This is not the time to be putting people under pressure. Just surviving this pandemic is enough achievement.

sapien:
Thanks a bunch for the piece of advice, sir.

However, I wouldn't deign to visit her at home; this would smack of low self esteem. A girl that couldn't pick my calls to tell me what the problem is with her doesn't deserve visitation from me.

visiting her doesn't make any low esteem. .just as I advice. visit her n you maybe surprised she is staying with a guy...let her see you with surprise n shock on her face

baralatie:
stop replying

The guy is a psycho

valentineuwakwe:
visiting her doesn't make any low esteem. .just as I advice. visit her n you maybe surprised she is staying with a guy...let her see you with surprise n shock on her face

nothing like shock. She has moved on.

sapien:
Good evening, Romancelanders. It's quite a lengthy read, so bear with me.

This lady and I have been dating for the past 4 years, and I am planning on making it official later this year, though Covid-19 made my finances quite complicated recently, but things are getting back in shape.

Recently, specifically over 2 weeks ago, she suddenly stopped picking my calls. Prior to that, we haven't seen each other since September last year. She always comes up with one excuses or the other every weekend whenever I tell her to come over to my place or if I want to go over to her place to see her. I always have busy schedules during the midweek, so we usually have only weekends to see each other.

I have gone to see her mother and her siblings last year. They accepted me as a prospective in-law. The mum said she queried her daughter and she told her that I was the one she would like to spend the rest of her life with, hence the mum's invitation. Her mum usually calls me from time to time, and I do talk to her, too.

Couple of days back, I had to call the mum to report her daughter to her regarding the uncharacteristic change in her daughter's behaviour, and how, despite living in the same city, we haven't seen each other in 4 months, and how she has refused picking my calls in more than 2 weeks.

She promised to talk to her and ask her what the problem was and get back to me. I waited for some couple of days, but when I didn't see the mum's call, I had to call her back. I had to ask her to give her daughter her phone so I could talk to her and ask her some salient questions regarding our relationship. She kept saying there is no problem and that I didn't offend her, and our relationship is still standing strong. I asked if she was going through some personal issues that she could share with me and we might find a solution; she said she was perfectly okay. We settled our issues right there and then, and she promised to call back the second day.

I waited for the second day and I did not see her call. I had no choice than to call her back. Ladies and gentlemen, this girl didn't pick my calls. When she eventually picked after multiple missed calls, she was talking to someone else, while my airtime was burning out. I became enraged. I had to call the mum the second day to tell her I was no longer interested in the daughter, that she was probably seeing someone else, and she didn't have the guts to tell me.

The mum swore that her daughter is not seeing someone else, as far as she knows, and that she hasn't brought anyone to meet her. The mum is a Deeper Lifer, and from my interactions with her, she doesn't condone two-timing. She promised to talk to her daughter, that maybe we should give ourselves more time, like taking a break for a couple of months.

I am not usually this patient, and never condoned negligence and disregard in my previous relationships. However, this girl had been special to me, prior to her negligence. She was quite dedicated to me during the course of our 4-year-old relationship. She was never demanding, and was contented and altruistic, too. She helped me many times in the past, financially, whenever I was broke, and I always repaid her back, too. She was a wife material, and loved by my family as well.

The questions are;

1. Do I disregard the mum's advice?

2. Do I still give this girl another chance after her blatant negligence?

Mods, you might do well by moving this piece to the front page.

She was never demanding, you say. You think all that red pill, starve her of money bullsh*t you see online is reality? You think that by calling her wife material, that she would continue to keep up with your unreasonable demands from her?

Until we hear her side of the story, fear men and the lies they bring against women.
Too many lies have been busted on this forum and men are behind them mostly.


Everyday men have one story or the other against women, and nobody is asking for the other side. Something must be wrong with men if they are as victimized as they claim to be online.

See how entitled you are to a call. If only you had called the girls that wanted you instead of rejecting them, and feeling you're too desirable. Now see what has happened to the one you were chasing, while ignoring upcoming girls with vision and futures. Settle for a girl and build her up, no, you want a ready made woman. Instead you say she's not productive because you are a gold digger looking for her finances. You should first apologize to her.

Anyway, above would be used if genders were switched.

BRATISLAVA:
She was never demanding, you say. You think all that red pill, starve her of money bullsh*t you see online is reality? You think that by calling her wife material, that she would continue to keep up with your unreasonable demands from her?

Until we hear her side of the story, fear men and the lies they bring against women.
Too many lies have been busted on this forum and men are behind them mostly.


Everyday men have one story or the other against women, and nobody is asking for the other side. Something must be wrong with men if they are as victimized as they claim to be online.

See how entitled you are to a call. If only you had called the girls that wanted you instead of rejecting them, and feeling you're too desirable. Now see what has happened to the one you were chasing, ignoring upcoming girls with vision and futures. Settle for a girl and build her up, no, you want a ready made woman. Instead you say she's not productive because you are a gold digger looking for her finances. You should first apologize to her.

Anyway, above would be used if genders were switched.

Ordinarily, I shouldn't be dignifying you with a response because I know you on this forum to be an incorrigible misandrist and man-hating troll, but I just needed to put you in your place.

Get a life, would you? You shouldn't turn every post on romance section into a gender war.

No one forced you to believe anything. You might as well have walked past the thread without prying or commenting. You have a penchant for commenting nonsense on every thread you perceive as belittling women which, most times, isn't so.

You see if you don't drop your ego you will lose another relationship after this. One thing is missing here, go visit her at home even though she maybe absent or refuse to see you drop a note or let someone close to her acknowledge your presence then you can come back here and tell us steps you took to get things in order.
You need to stop the habit of calling her Mom, you need to man up and face it.

How can you be seeing all the signs that she is no more interested and you are still pushing?

What kind of a man are you? �

This is what happened to my friend the girl left him and married another now
Although she is in pain in the marriage
Your girl is tired of relationship ooo.

sapien:
If this is the case, then it's her loss, because once I find out it's another guy that's taking her attention, then it's officially over between us.

I think this is the reason she's scared of telling me anything. She probably wants to test both waters and see which is deeper.

Bros na wash you they Yan so. All this na anger and heart break they talk, when she finish return give you sweet scopes and lie lie tears...na you go find excuse cover up her matter.
I got no advice to give cuz I know say ur heart de her matter like the way NMK heart the IPOB matter. If truly you wanted acting, you for do am without posting it here. U just come here they form vexpa.

AmazingELixir:



Ain't this the typical example of the Simps / beta males Redpillers talk about all the time.

Somuch weak men these days...Op do they have to smash your skull and force it into your cranium before you'll come to the realization that the lady you're stressing for is fed up with you.. A woman you intend to marry with your hard earned money is thesame person you're chasing after like a hungry infant desiring her mother's breast milk.

SMH.

LOL

CalliDora1:
Can't you read the writing on the wall? Your girl is seeing another man. You have been replaced. So, move on.

Is that you in your profile pic or some random stranger in an old photo? Just curious.

sapien:
Lol. Your reply cracked me up.

I am a completely loyal guy. While I don't condone cheating, I don't cheat as well in a relationship.

She didn't give me any reason to cheat on her, hence my dedication.

Now, I know better.

And regarding her mother, she was the one who invited me for lunch. Her daughter gave her my number and she called me herself and told me to come over, that she would like to see me. Since then, the woman decided to take interest me. I haven't seen her since then.

What do you mean by "I am a completely loyal guy" when you are searching for a wife? Who told you a male and a female are the same within the context of relationship/marriage?

A male is to search for a female [amidst many] if he is truly in search of a wife and not a sex-partner, while a female is to develop/position herself (attitude-wise and in other good ways) to be found! And in the search, as a male, you shouldn't be assessing just one lady except you were spiritually-led to select her, and that would be if you are that spiritual.

And don't focus on sex because sex is highly overated. If you successfully get a submissive wife among the ladies you searched out, you can always lovingly guide her to do all the sex-styles (sane and healthy ones pls) you might ever want in your marriage. So, for now, focus on the main virtues that would enable you have a sustainable marriage with a lady you are very confident would happily be under your authority, and both of you will enjoy the marriage.

Back to your issue:
You have spent about 4 years with the lady in question and you are emotionally tied to her. That is a fact that does not need to be proved. The only thing that would make her not to reciprocate that emotion (commitment) is if she has been dating someone (certainly better than you) behind you while deeming you unserious or not man enough (financially capable) to be her husband. I can't prove this but this is most certain, and I would conclude it to be so, based on your additional communication.

Meanwhile, don't blame her. We all go for what we want but she should have gotten the decency to have her mum talk you out of the relationship, if she is not courageous enough to do that. For goodness sake, she should be able to have some respect for the couple of years both of you spent together, and let you know that she is no longer interested.

So, for me, I think she is not totally shutting the door on you, so that she can crawl her way back into your heart if things does not eventually go well with the new guy she is dating.

So, what should you do?
Be the Man you should have been all along rather than acting like a drift (permit me to talk to you like you my younger bro).
Go to her house during the day, when you are sure she would be at home. I suggest Saturday morning. On arrival, hail her, and let her know how good looking she is. Tell her that she is looking well taken-care-of. Greet her mum if she is around. Then tell her that you are about leaving, that you were on your way to a very important place (ensure this is true) but she should kindly give you few minutes outside before you leave.

Once both of you get outside, don't let your emotion betray you, and get you to start talking or acting "smee smee" (sheepishly). Go straight to the point but with a smile, without letting your body come in contact with hers. Tell her to tell her new date that her relationship with her former boyfriend (you) is over, so he is free to come see her parents or do any other thing required if he so wish. That would shock her. Don't add to that statement and maintain a smiling face. Don't also leave immediately. Wait to watch her reaction and patiently listen to whatever she tells you. Record this moment well in your mind because that is what would heal your emotion, so that you can be emotionally stable for another relationship. It might also be what could make her deserve a second chance with you.

If she succeeds in getting a second chance, she would have only succeeded in qualifying for the "A List" of the ladies you can marry. It is ladies in this list or category you can invite a spiritual clergy to prayerfully guide you on making the right choice on who to eventually marry. That is if you cannot prayerfully do that by yourself. Life is spiritual. Don't take this aspect for granted. I stayed awake to do some work but you just made me donate a portion of the time to you. I hope it worth it. In all, please be a man.

Please don’t call her mom again, or anyone related to her. Find time and visit her, if you don’t like her anymore move on.
I think distance and lack of communication is the problem here.

sapien:
Good evening, Romancelanders. It's quite a lengthy read, so bear with me.

This lady and I have been dating for the past 4 years, and I am planning on making it official later this year, though Covid-19 made my finances quite complicated recently, but things are getting back in shape.

Recently, specifically over 2 weeks ago, she suddenly stopped picking my calls. Prior to that, we haven't seen each other since September last year. She always comes up with one excuses or the other every weekend whenever I tell her to come over to my place or if I want to go over to her place to see her. I always have busy schedules during the midweek, so we usually have only weekends to see each other.

I have gone to see her mother and her siblings last year. They accepted me as a prospective in-law. The mum said she queried her daughter and she told her that I was the one she would like to spend the rest of her life with, hence the mum's invitation. Her mum usually calls me from time to time, and I do talk to her, too.

Couple of days back, I had to call the mum to report her daughter to her regarding the uncharacteristic change in her daughter's behaviour, and how, despite living in the same city, we haven't seen each other in 4 months, and how she has refused picking my calls in more than 2 weeks.

She promised to talk to her and ask her what the problem was and get back to me. I waited for some couple of days, but when I didn't see the mum's call, I had to call her back. I had to ask her to give her daughter her phone so I could talk to her and ask her some salient questions regarding our relationship. She kept saying there is no problem and that I didn't offend her, and our relationship is still standing strong. I asked if she was going through some personal issues that she could share with me and we might find a solution; she said she was perfectly okay. We settled our issues right there and then, and she promised to call back the second day.

I waited for the second day and I did not see her call. I had no choice than to call her back. Ladies and gentlemen, this girl didn't pick my calls. When she eventually picked after multiple missed calls, she was talking to someone else, while my airtime was burning out. I became enraged. I had to call the mum the second day to tell her I was no longer interested in the daughter, that she was probably seeing someone else, and she didn't have the guts to tell me.

The mum swore that her daughter is not seeing someone else, as far as she knows, and that she hasn't brought anyone to meet her. The mum is a Deeper Lifer, and from my interactions with her, she doesn't condone two-timing. She promised to talk to her daughter, that maybe we should give ourselves more time, like taking a break for a couple of months.

I am not usually this patient, and never condoned negligence and disregard in my previous relationships. However, this girl had been special to me, prior to her negligence. She was quite dedicated to me during the course of our 4-year-old relationship. She was never demanding, and was contented and altruistic, too. She helped me many times in the past, financially, whenever I was broke, and I always repaid her back, too. She was a wife material, and loved by my family as well.

The questions are;

1. Do I disregard the mum's advice?

2. Do I still give this girl another chance after her blatant negligence?

Mods, you might do well by moving this piece to the front page.

4yrs relationship? Na BSc Information Science be dat.
As it is now,just take it that this is rustication, you have been expelled, and you need to withdraw from this institution, My brother buy another jamb form, you need to find another institution where you can enroll and begin another journey.

Just walk away, and never look back, we have been here many many times, that’s the best option, your relationship probably ended with that lock down, she go endsars protest lol, one sweet boy don Dey diagnose am.

sapien:
Good evening, Romancelanders. It's quite a lengthy read, so bear with me.

This lady and I have been dating for the past 4 years, and I am planning on making it official later this year, though Covid-19 made my finances quite complicated recently, but things are getting back in shape.

Recently, specifically over 2 weeks ago, she suddenly stopped picking my calls. Prior to that, we haven't seen each other since September last year. She always





































comes up with one excuses or the other every weekend whenever I tell her to come over to my place or if I want to go over to her place to see her. I always have busy schedules during the midweek, so we usually have only weekends to see each other.

I have gone to see her mother and her siblings last year. They accepted me as a prospective in-law. The mum said she queried her daughter and she told her that I was the one she would like to spend the rest of her life with, hence the mum's invitation. Her mum usually calls me from time to time, and I do talk to her, too.

Couple of days back, I had to call the mum to report her daughter to her regarding the uncharacteristic change in her daughter's behaviour, and how, despite living in the same city, we haven't seen each other in 4 months, and how she has refused picking my calls in more than 2 weeks.

She promised to talk to her and ask her what the problem was and get back to me. I waited for some couple of days, but when I didn't see the mum's call, I had to call her back. I had to ask her to give her daughter her phone so I could talk to her and ask her some salient questions regarding our relationship. She kept saying there is no problem and that I didn't offend her, and our relationship is still standing strong. I asked if she was going through some personal issues that she could share with me and we might find a solution; she said she was perfectly okay. We settled our issues right there and then, and she promised to call back the second day.

I waited for the second day and I did not see her call. I had no choice than to call her back. Ladies and gentlemen, this girl didn't pick my calls. When she eventually picked after multiple missed calls, she was talking to someone else, while my airtime was burning out. I became enraged. I had to call the mum the second day to tell her I was no longer interested in the daughter, that she was probably seeing someone else, and she didn't have the guts to tell me.

The mum swore that her daughter is not seeing someone else, as far as she knows, and that she hasn't brought anyone to meet her. The mum is a Deeper Lifer, and from my interactions with her, she doesn't condone two-timing. She promised to talk to her daughter, that maybe we should give ourselves more time, like taking a break for a couple of months.

I am not usually this patient, and never condoned negligence and disregard in my previous relationships. However, this girl had been special to me, prior to her negligence. She was quite dedicated to me during the course of our 4-year-old relationship. She was never demanding, and was contented and altruistic, too. She helped me many times in the past, financially, whenever I was broke, and I always repaid her back, too. She was a wife material, and loved by my family as well.

The questions are;

1. Do I disregard the mum's advice?

2. Do I still give this girl another chance after her blatant negligence?

Mods, you might do well by moving this piece to the front page.

Bro my advice to you are two ways, she is likely seeing someone else of which it doesn’t necessarily mean she love the person more than you.
She may just need some break, but prepare ur mind for the worse

u dey pass thru all this wahala because of woman? you see this country ehh..., anything u dey do just get data

You can be stupid too do anything in this life but Don't be too stupid to leave a woman!

Even if she makes a turn just continue during her till you get a reliable girl. Once a girl can dare chest on you to your face taking her serious if at your detriment especially you that is considering marry such a girl. I can bet with anything if u marry her you will definitely regret it.

sapien:
Thanks, boss. I deleted her pictures and phone numbers from my phone since the last episode already. I don't want anything to tempt me from calling her, unless she makes a U-turn, just like you have said.

Michelle55:
Move on.. If she still desires the relationship she will come back to you but until then refrain from chasing her.
It might be a hard decision due to the 4years you guys have spent together but you just have to enter airplane mode for your sanity sake.

I no dey do pass myself, if I see that a relationship ain't working out anymore I take a long walk no matter the number of years I might have been with the person, my sanity and peace of mind over anything first, I hate drama and I certainly can't condole one.

You might see my approach as being selfish and hard hearted but that's how I've trained my heart to be. If it's not working out, bro/sis it's not. Let go!!

If truly you are meant to be, you will definitely end up together as one so don't fret over it.

Don't try finding someone who doesn't want to be found!!!

OP, listen the voice of reason. This is a woman, like many others, telling you to move on. Put it behind you and move on.

I hope we hear the last of this tori o

RIP

sapien:
How do you even suggest I should go and visit her at home and have a one-on-one conversation with her? Someone who is not even picking my calls?

How do I know I would even find her at home?

Moreover, I don't visit anyone without prior notification, talk more of someone I am not even in good terms with.

Leave this hard guy talk. You brought this to nairaland, it's cos it is still eating u up. No point painting it as tho u moved on when u clearly haven't.

You called her way too much, she probably always had d upper hand in d relationship. Fix that in case of next time.

It will be painful especially since u don't know why. You need to be emotional strong with these girls. Give it time.

sapien:
Thanks, boss. I deleted her pictures and phone numbers from my phone since the last episode already. I don't want anything to tempt me from calling her, unless she makes a U-turn, just like you have said.

Simple... No waste time for woman matter. She probably feels you are delaying her destiny. That not withstanding, four years too much. If na oil, gold, or diamond u dey dig since four years, u for don find am by now. Move on as she has moved, when u both miss each other mutually, you can reconcile and continue where you stop. However, make sure u no father another man child... Fear women

sapien:
Good evening, Romancelanders. It's quite a lengthy read, so bear with me.

This lady and I have been dating for the past 4 years, and I am planning on making it official later this year, though Covid-19 made my finances quite complicated recently, but things are getting back in shape.

Recently, specifically over 2 weeks ago, she suddenly stopped picking my calls. Prior to that, we haven't seen each other since September last year. She always comes up with one excuses or the other every weekend whenever I tell her to come over to my place or if I want to go over to her place to see her. I always have busy schedules during the midweek, so we usually have only weekends to see each other.

I have gone to see her mother and her siblings last year. They accepted me as a prospective in-law. The mum said she queried her daughter and she told her that I was the one she would like to spend the rest of her life with, hence the mum's invitation. Her mum usually calls me from time to time, and I do talk to her, too.

Couple of days back, I had to call the mum to report her daughter to her regarding the uncharacteristic change in her daughter's behaviour, and how, despite living in the same city, we haven't seen each other in 4 months, and how she has refused picking my calls in more than 2 weeks.

She promised to talk to her and ask her what the problem was and get back to me. I waited for some couple of days, but when I didn't see the mum's call, I had to call her back. I had to ask her to give her daughter her phone so I could talk to her and ask her some salient questions regarding our relationship. She kept saying there is no problem and that I didn't offend her, and our relationship is still standing strong. I asked if she was going through some personal issues that she could share with me and we might find a solution; she said she was perfectly okay. We settled our issues right there and then, and she promised to call back the second day.

I waited for the second day and I did not see her call. I had no choice than to call her back. Ladies and gentlemen, this girl didn't pick my calls. When she eventually picked after multiple missed calls, she was talking to someone else, while my airtime was burning out. I became enraged. I had to call the mum the second day to tell her I was no longer interested in the daughter, that she was probably seeing someone else, and she didn't have the guts to tell me.

The mum swore that her daughter is not seeing someone else, as far as she knows, and that she hasn't brought anyone to meet her. The mum is a Deeper Lifer, and from my interactions with her, she doesn't condone two-timing. She promised to talk to her daughter, that maybe we should give ourselves more time, like taking a break for a couple of months.

I am not usually this patient, and never condoned negligence and disregard in my previous relationships. However, this girl had been special to me, prior to her negligence. She was quite dedicated to me during the course of our 4-year-old relationship. She was never demanding, and was contented and altruistic, too. She helped me many times in the past, financially, whenever I was broke, and I always repaid her back, too. She was a wife material, and loved by my family as well.

The questions are;

1. Do I disregard the mum's advice?

2. Do I still give this girl another chance after her blatant negligence?

Mods, you might do well by moving this piece to the front page.

You were the spare tire. The original Michelin don land. If I were you, I'd cut my losses now and move on. It won't be easy, but it is doable and will be completely worth it at the end. That which is yours will come to you with little sweat and no drama. All these kurukereness happening now are essentially God's mighty hands steering you away from trouble. Do not fight it. Let it go. Four years down the road, you will read this thread and pat your back.