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Lina012:
Good day everyone

My boyfriend and I started dating about 2 months ago. We've met a few times because we stay in different cities. He has been very nice to me and told me the last time we met that he wants us to settle down as soon as possible. After that, he started acting in a strange way, not picking my calls, responding to messages after 2 days, then I asked him if he was okay, he said he will "catch up". He is a medical doctor and I understand he can be very busy so I left him for a week and tried to reach him to check on him again. He responded with "Please stop communicating for now, I am not in a position to respond to messages now, I will reconnect with you later"

We didn't have any quarrel, everything looked okay before all these started. I'm really worried because even if he is so busy with work, he couldn't spare a few minutes to talk to me and explain the situation.

I'm confused right now because I think he probably lost interest as I don't know what to make out of the whole thing.

What do you guys think?

Thanks

Cholls:
my sister don't worry you will learn your own lesson.

amedualiyu:
Two things are involved. Is either his girlfriend is currently staying with him and he does not want to receive or make incriminating calls OR he his testing you to see your reactions. My advice is for you to patiently keep on texting him to show that you care until otherwise.

Mcslize:
Understand this:

If a Man is busy and choked up with stuffs, it is really hard keeping up with the the lady one is dating. Personally, if I have things doing and I want to meet up with, I see it as a disturbance even receiving calls.

I told the girl I am dating currently to make do with just us communicating once a day. She said she likes attention, and for me I have things to do that may hinder me from giving her that attention.

She want us to talk in the morning, afternoon and night of which I told her that's too much. I have things bothering me I need to meet up with which she is not even aware of. Choking a guy with too much attention is just too much.

Try and give him a little space to breathe. He will surely keep in touch when he is less busy. Men pass through alot as they shoulder many responsibilities. If a man is having so many things bothering his mind, he won't even have urge for sex. He won't even look at any woman face. That's where a good lady comes in.

Know what's bothering your man's mind and encourage him. Some of us don't like speaking up cuz we feel that you don't have anything to say to us. Even if we tell you what we are facing, some ladies don't know how to encourage or offer encouragement that will boost a man's morale. That's why we don't bother telling you ladies anything when we have stuffs bothering our minds.

When a man tells you he will keep in touch later or let's have a little break, just know he is passing through something or he might be passing through serious day to day stress maybe at work or trying to meet up with something. He might not have that settled mind to attend to the attention you need as a lady.

The best thing to do is encourage him and tell him everything will be ok even if u don't know what he is passing through. Then don't choke him too much with chats and calls that period.

When the storms finally become calm, he will reach out to you. Call once a day. That's enough.

baralatie:
hmmmm!
you said a mouthful!
don't you think a little compromise that will not hamper you may suffice.
e get why o

Mcslize:
That compromise is the reaching out he promised to reach out.

If you understand stress, you will know that it is not different from depression. When one is facing stress due to work, he won't have that enough time for social things.

It is just momentary. Everythinv will go back to normal ones he has overcome any obstacle he is facing at that period.

johnkey:
i have a girlfriend that i only call once a year, on her birthday, just to arrange how she will come and collect birthday gift(gbola), so op what are you talking about?

CalliDora1:
Look for another man if you like your heart.

If someone truly loves you, no matter how busy he is, he'll try by all means to create time out of none to reach and keep in touch with you. He's prolly seen someone else and is now having double mind about your relationship.

I Know it's difficult but you have to move on . Life is too sweet to waste on someone who treats you like trash.

Val is round the corner, celebrate it in happiness o. Don't let one thing spoil your joy. They ain't worth it.

baralatie:
hmmmm!
you said a mouthful!
don't you think a little compromise that will not hamper you may suffice.
e get why o

Chii59:
Many ladies never get the memo.
Once you start noticing bobo is giving you distance and you've searched your heart and know you've not done anything wrong to him, start looking for another boo. That one don go.
Don't wait for a man to insult you before you back off.

CalliDora1:
I'm telling you. I can read peoples mind through their actions and body language and quickly put them where they belong.

Let her give one of the numerous guys in her PM a try. No time to check time this time around.

Chii59:
You won't preach compromise if it was vice versa. Like the thread of "my fiance isn't picking my calls", I saw how you guys told him to delete her number and move on.

OP, bros don go. If he'd come back, then he will. But don't waste your time thinking there's something you can do to mend it.
Relationship takes TWO to tango.
Back off!

CalliDora1:
Look for another man if you like your heart.

If someone truly loves you, no matter how busy he is, he'll try by all means to create time out of none to reach and keep in touch with you. He's prolly seen someone else and is now having double mind about your relationship.

I Know it's difficult but you have to move on . Life is too sweet to waste on someone who treats you like trash.

Val is round the corner, celebrate it in happiness o. Don't let one thiing spoil your joy. They ain't worth it.

Lina012:
Good day everyone

My boyfriend and I started dating about 2 months ago. We've met a few times because we stay in different cities. He has been very nice to me and told me the last time we met that he wants us to settle down as soon as possible. After that, he started acting in a strange way, not picking my calls, responding to messages after 2 days, then I asked him if he was okay, he said he will "catch up". He is a medical doctor and I understand he can be very busy so I left him for a week and tried to reach him to check on him again. He responded with "Please stop communicating for now, I am not in a position to respond to messages now, I will reconnect with you later"

We didn't have any quarrel, everything looked okay before all these started. I'm really worried because even if he is so busy with work, he couldn't spare a few minutes to talk to me and explain the situation.

I'm confused right now because I think he probably lost interest as I don't know what to make out of the whole thing.

What do you guys think?

Thanks

Biglittlelois:
But you guys aren't always straight forward, what will it remove from the bf if he bluntly tell her he's no more interested? She is confused right now cos he can decide to waltz back into her life when she's moved on, and guys like that can have flimsy excuses like he had some personal challenges and needed to be alone for a while.

Kondomatic:
What you're saying here is that this was how all guys brokeup with their exes?

SweetCunt97:
Does that even matter? Why do you people even act like it's only men who like sex? [s][/s]Wo ama fvck that guy to satisfaction [/s][s]and if he likes misbehave na him cup of tea.

Lina012:
Good day everyone

My boyfriend and I started dating about 2 months ago. We've met a few times because we stay in different cities. He has been very nice to me and told me the last time we met that he wants us to settle down as soon as possible. After that, he started acting in a strange way, not picking my calls, responding to messages after 2 days, then I asked him if he was okay, he said he will "catch up". He is a medical doctor and I understand he can be very busy so I left him for a week and tried to reach him to check on him again. He responded with "Please stop communicating for now, I am not in a position to respond to messages now, I will reconnect with you later"

We didn't have any quarrel, everything looked okay before all these started. I'm really worried because even if he is so busy with work, he couldn't spare a few minutes to talk to me and explain the situation.

I'm confused right now because I think he probably lost interest as I don't know what to make out of the whole thing.

What do you guys think?

Thanks

Biglittlelois:
You really want me to answer your question when you clearly know I wasn't referring to ALL guys?

Kondomatic:
But you guys aren't always straightforward didn't sound like you made an exception

Bola146:
Don't just conclude, go to his office or house to know what is really happening. If he insisted he doesn't want to see you, my dear find another direction. A relationship is not a do or die affair. God knows better