Hello everyone, please I need your advice, please. I went out with my boyfriend last night and while we're out, he called his mum and they were discussing, in the process he told his mum he was out because his mum asked that she speak to his brother but my shock and disappointment was, he told his mum he was out with his friend (I'm the friend ) and my countenance changed totally even tho I tired acting it didn't affect me, he figured I was mad and he tired redeeming his image by playing call (he played his ringtone and acted like his mum called him back) then he started saying stuff like I'm with my girlfriend just to make me feel cool but that totally ruin everything (I knew he played ringtone because he played the wrong one). I was able to keep my cool till this morning but I'm not sure how long I can keep up with me been cool and not addressing it. What do I do, should I just forget it or talk about it and start acting like a friend to him (it's just a 2months relationship)

Haba............you no be e friend before?


I mean are you not supposed to be best friends with your gf/bf in a relationship.


Girls and drama be like buhari and failure

well that is what you get for not LOOKING before LEAPING into the relationship.

DID YOU EXPECT A GUY WHO HAS NO PLANS TO MARRY YOU TO TELL HIS MUM ABOUT YOU?

wake up AshakeT and stay woke in the Name of Jesus.

SEX does not make you his GF, outing or ring doesn't mean you are TAKEN... until he has TAKEN YOU TO THE ALTAR... you are very very single.... or rather SHINGLE.

so do not hate the player when u entered the game as a guest

AshakeT:
Hello everyone, please I need your advice, please. I went out with my boyfriend last night and while we're out, he called his mum and they were discussing, in the process he told his mum he was out because his mum asked that she speak to his brother but my shock and disappointment was, he told his mum he was out with his friend (I'm the friend ) and my countenance changed totally even tho I tired acting it didn't affect me, he figured I was mad and he tired redeeming his image by playing call (he played his ringtone and acted like his mum called him back) then he started saying stuff like I'm with my girlfriend just to make me feel cool but that totally ruin everything (I knew he played ringtone because he played the wrong one). I was able to keep my cool till this morning but I'm not sure how long I can keep up with me been cool and not addressing it. What do I do, should I just forget it or talk about it and start acting like a friend to him (it's just a 2months relationship)

I hate ungrateful ladies. Who are you to detect to him what and how to address and discuss with his mother?

Are you his wife?

You should be happy he called you a friend, because from all indications, you are nothing to him but a sex-partner. Just a sex-partner.

I honestly don't think you should be upset.

Howevee, more importantly is how old your boyfriend is and if you've ever met his Mother before. If you have, then depending on what transpired when you met her, him telling her about you as his friend, Mummy will understand...

So, have you met his Mother before?

don't give yourself unnecessary high blood pressure.. even if you start acting like a "friend " to him, na you still lose

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Whats the FUSS about?

He is your BOY-FRIEND and YOU are his FRIEND.


Two of YOU are FRIENDS so what were You expecting him to say, Girlfriend?

Very daft mentality from a Non-Working Class Lady

If You like ACT like a Friend, its your pussy that will suffer it

Be Your own Boss Girl!!!

Op, absolutely nothing wrong

You like drama! You are upset already because your bf addressed you as friend to his mum.

Be patient, meet his mum first, and next time he'd just say "Mum I'm with 'Jennifer' "

ShenTeh:
Op, absolutely nothing wrong

You like drama! You are upset already because your bf addressed you as friend to his mum.

Be patient, meet his mum first, and next time he'd just say "Mum I'm with 'AshakeT' "

my wise niggah!!

This kind of insecurity can make a man run away from you. Were you guys not out together? What if it was another babe that called him? You would have thrown a fit and disgraced the both of you in public. Change your ways.

Yall are not addressing the issue he faked another call to make her feel better. . . Is that right??

from this write up I can tell you guys are still young


well,tell him to break up with you, case close

It's just a 2-month relationship, I'd say the same thing...you can't be so certain of the future.

Tamarapetty:
Yall are not addressing the issue he faked another call to make her feel better. . . Is that right??

Very childish.... but we are no saints... I have done something like this too, not because I had bad intentions but just to make things right a little...atleast my thoughts then.

2 months old and u want to be given gf/wife title already.

Shebi that's how we saw one beating up his girlfriend in another thread because he thinks she's now his wife.

Aunty was collecting "entitled" beating.

Thank God this one is still seeing u as friend (which is even healthy at this stage assuming u ain't his sidechick)

ponti93:
Just answer this question, if you are with your dad in the parlor and your boyfriend called and after talking with him and cutting the call, then your father asks you who was that on the phone with you, what will be your sincere answer?

You will start hearing stuffs like "A classmate"..."A church member"....."A friend"

The poor guy feared his dear life!

Tamarapetty:
Yall are not addressing the issue he faked another call to make her feel better. . . Is that right??

You are making a big deal out of nothing. He is under no obligation to even introduce you in the first instance.
Why are you behaving as if you are not aware of how Nigerian parents ( Most parents actually) perceive relationships?
Maybe he is not ready to tell his mother about you, I wouldn’t especially taking into consideration the way you behaved. You don’t force matters this is the problem with some of you women then you wonder why men lie?

You're either a friend or a fiancee. Some very conventional and traditional Nigerian families do not entertain the word "girlfriend/boyfriend". The only thing that comes to mind when they hear that word is "sex", and they're right.

You should also consider his age. At a certain point in your life, you would never want to be associated with that word. I know some 40 year old men like Daddy Freeze still boldly associate with such but in some families, it is considered as the height of irresponsibility. At 40, the goal should be "grandpa" not boyfriend.

I'm not 40 yet but I will pick offence if I'm called boyfriend. Biko, if I've not qualified to be husband or fiance, then call me friend, or simply say we are dating/in a relationship. Leave the girlfriend/boyfriend thing for high school students. I'm a traditional man.

Yeye notu nig.Ltd. Wetin dey for the back of the girl? No be friend

Tamarapetty:
Yall are not addressing the issue he faked another call to make her feel better. . . Is that right??

He acted under duress she was being all histrionic so he tried to placate her not his best work I agree but he was backed into a corner.

Stop running faster than your shadow
... I think he is serious with you ... The only issue here is that he had to fake a call because of your insecurities... All the same address that aspect of him faking a call but take care of your insecurities or else even a sex doll will have better value than you in that relationship...

I will tell him.my boyfriend called because eim grown enough to have one.

ponti93:
Just answer this question, if you are with your dad in the parlor and your boyfriend called and after talking with him and cutting the call, then your father asks you who was that on the phone with you, what will be your sincere answer?

Sincerely speaking i'm not really bothered about the "friend" thing, he stammered about 3times before he could say "friend" and we were talking after the call but yes my countenace changed which to be sincere a lot of ladies would have acted upon but i didn't, it was just my countenance but the part that he frame a call was the one i didn't like.

SmellingAnus:
Stop running faster than your shadow
... I think he is serious with you ... The only issue here is that he had to fake a call because of your insecurities... All the same address that aspect of him faking a call but take care of your insecurities or else even a sex doll will have better value than you in that relationship...

After dating for 8 months,, he should introduce ya as his wife ni...... Afonjaaa

I'm not forcing it to be honest, i didn't state there that i behaved irrational, i was calm but i didn't like that he framed a call, i didn't like it, i just want to know if i should address it or just let it pass

MissRaine69:
You are making a big deal out of nothing. He is under no obligation to even introduce you in the first instance.
Why are you behaving as if you are not aware of how Nigerian parents ( Most parents actually) perceive relationships?
Maybe he is not ready to tell his mother about you, I wouldn’t especially taking into consideration the way you behaved. You don’t force matters this is the problem with some of you women then you wonder why men lie?

Can you pass your advice without calling names? Shows what you are made off my dear working class man, for your info, i have a well paying job.

sage101:
Whats the FUSS about?

He is your BOY-FRIEND and YOU are his FRIEND.


Two of YOU are FRIENDS so what were You expecting him to say, Girlfriend?

Very daft mentality from a Non-Working Class Lady

If You like ACT like a Friend, its your pussy that will suffer it

Be Your own Boss Girl!!!

Heheheh

Ungrateful ladies ��, wait, you think he's doing me a favour by been in a relationship with me? You wrote a good English but alas you are empty

IamD18:
I hate ungrateful ladies. Who are you to detect to him what and how to address and discuss with his mother?

Are you his wife?

You should be happy he called you a friend, because from all indications, you are nothing to him but a sex-partner. Just a sex-partner.

Were you expecting the guy to address you as his fiancee

In a two months relationship that you two are not even sure of next month self, smh