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apparentlylaw:
Dated a girl like that ...infact her sister connected both of us together and truth be told I was so in love...tried my best for her ...I made sure she never lacjed ...It later got to the point of bailing out when we planned to meet, ignoring my calls and texts ...

I was wondering what I did wrong.....One day I went to her house in the night around 11 and asked her what was really wrong ....she told me nothing and it was just school stress ...jeez I saw the look on her face, she was tired of me and I told her it would be well....Gave her space for a week and damn babe didn't even bother calling ....Called her and asked where she was and she said she was at her boyfriends place ....I wan die ! I vowed that day never to take any girl serious again in my life

Called her sister and told her why she didn't tell me her jnr sister was seeing someone else ...is it because I don't have money! ...Her sister that matched us apologised to me and I block that one join sef ....I don't fucking like stress

Ever since then I don't feel any girl again ....it's just Hi, we Bleep and vibe ...I'm so in love with money I can kill anybody now ....it actually feels good making money and it gives a form of security & Peace of mind

I guess it would be hard to even love my wife I swear ...
I don't feel love again and I don't want to be loved too

Intoboy:
I really hope you see this @ op... WOMEN are very manipulative in nature, whatever she might av done to help you financially was paid back according to you ad dahs apparently wat anybody can do in as much as you promise to pay back so i see no reason why you're giving her praises cos she helped you financially.

2.if she's not talking to you then she's talking to someone else...na person wey she show her mama na him mama go see,so don't tell me you're gonna believe wat her mum said... tho she might not knw buh trust me sum random nigga out der is hitting dat pussy harder dan you've ever done.

3.women likes money, don't tell me she's not demanding...if she's not demanding den she's expecting you to do more dan she'll ever demand for sk if you think she's not demanding den trust me another guy is basically taking care of her financial problem out der dahs why she ain't asking you.

4.women don't like where dey are worshiped, worship dem ad dey will see you to be weak...they like where they are being treated like dogs,love but don't make it obvious by so doing she will knw if she bleeps up you won't get hurt.Wen she knows she's all you've got,wen she knows you'll die if she leaves bro she's gonna leave ad watch you die ad wen you die she's gonna come to ur burial with another guy.

Bro stop being a simp and man up!!!
Beg for love ad trust me wen love comes you'll still beg love to stay...Man up!!! Go out der and look for someone better,post pictures ad mak her knw you're happy if she tries coming bak accept her and pretend you've forgiven her,fu*k dat pussy again ad cum in her mouth ad treat her like a bitch dah she is

SirMichael1:
Lol. You're suffering from low self worth. A useless lady (probably a hoe) did what she does best, that is, jump guys and you want to pen the pain on every lady? Bro, go fix your self esteem.


Lol. Little wonder you're hidding your low self value under the myriage of looking for money.

seanwilliam:
as she no kon Dey ready to engage the op in heart to heart conversation, make e kill himself?

4 years no be small thing sha..

Heineken:
boss how things? Long time

Reeberry:
Communication is the problem you said?

But he said he has been calling her, she is not picking. The problem there is that, the girl doesn't love him and has no feelings for him. She already seeing someone else.

Bola146:
I'm just speechless! Giving excuses, hummmm... 4 years relationship Despite living in the same town She is seeing someone else, maybe your communication went bad, she got another guy communicating with her, most ladies like good communication, maybe you ignore her warnings. She is definitely hiding something from you, she can't just changed suddenly, there is a smoke. Go and see her one on one and talk things out. Her mother can't choose for her, don't depend on her promise.

Michelle55:
Move on.. If she still desires the relationship she will come back to you but until then refrain from chasing her.
It might be a hard decision due to the 4years you guys have spent together but you just have to enter airplane mode for your sanity sake.

I no dey do pass myself, if I see that a relationship ain't working out anymore I take a long walk no matter the number of years I might have been with the person, my sanity and peace of mind over anything first, I hate drama and I certainly can't condole one.

You might see my approach as being selfish and hard hearted but that's how I've trained my heart to be. If it's not working out, bro/sis it's not. Let go!!

If truly you are meant to be, you will definitely end up together as one so don't fret over it.

Don't try finding someone who doesn't want to be found!!!

Kfed4ril:
Girls like good communication, but how many of them can start or sustain one?

Bola146:
Many ladies can. Unless she doesn't love the guy

apparentlylaw:
Dated a girl like that ...infact her sister connected both of us together and truth be told I was so in love...tried my best for her ...I made sure she never lacjed ...It later got to the point of bailing out when we planned to meet, ignoring my calls and texts ...

I was wondering what I did wrong.....One day I went to her house in the night around 11 and asked her what was really wrong ....she told me nothing and it was just school stress ...jeez I saw the look on her face, she was tired of me and I told her it would be well....Gave her space for a week and damn babe didn't even bother calling ....Called her and asked where she was and she said she was at her boyfriends place ....I wan die ! I vowed that day never to take any girl serious again in my life

Called her sister and told her why she didn't tell me her jnr sister was seeing someone else ...is it because I don't have money! ...Her sister that matched us apologised to me and I block that one join sef ....I don't fucking like stress

Ever since then I don't feel any girl again ....it's just Hi, we Bleep and vibe ...I'm so in love with money I can kill anybody now ....it actually feels good making money and it gives a form of security & Peace of mind

I guess it would be hard to even love my wife I swear ...
I don't feel love again and I don't want to be loved too

mariahAngel:
It's your fault!

You kept her for far too long, then she lost interest in you. You don't excite her heart anymore.
Did you think you were the only one who saw those good qualities in her? You should've done the needful.
Move on!

seanwilliam:
oga mie sir.. una don leave us here to Dey suffer abi?

Heineken:
lol boss you know it's not so na. I no just dey too come nairaland again ni o..

sapien:
Ordinarily, I shouldn't be dignifying you with a response because I know you on this forum to be an incorrigible misandrist and man-hating troll, but I just needed to put you in your place.

Get a life, would you? You shouldn't turn every post on romance section into a gender war.

No once forced you to believe anything. You might as well have walked past the thread without prying or commenting. You have a penchant for commenting nonsense on every thread you perceive as belittling women which, most times, isn't so.

alphaNomega:
You won't blame the poster, the forum is littered with one-sided stories and you can't give sound advice based on that

zedman1:
Wow, you just reminded me of the hell I used to go through before I got married to my wife. Mine was even for SIX WHOLE YEARS, cos we started dating when she was still young- about 18 and in 100 level. I had similar episodes, not once, not twice. It gets you confused, you want to leave, you want to stay, if you leave, she comes back with her mess, if you stay, you remain in the mess. Truth about such girls is they're seeing someone else. It surely isn't an easy experience that's why you brought it here but the earlier you lock up and completely forget about them, the better for you. These stories usually happen to good guys who stay in a relationship with just one girl over a long period of time hoping it will end in marriage. We both got married the same year we finally broke up, to different people of course.

apparentlylaw:
Dated a girl like that ...infact her sister connected both of us together and truth be told I was so in love...tried my best for her ...I made sure she never lacjed ...It later got to the point of bailing out when we planned to meet, ignoring my calls and texts ...

I was wondering what I did wrong.....One day I went to her house in the night around 11 and asked her what was really wrong ....she told me nothing and it was just school stress ...jeez I saw the look on her face, she was tired of me and I told her it would be well....Gave her space for a week and damn babe didn't even bother calling ....Called her and asked where she was and she said she was at her boyfriends place ....I wan die ! I vowed that day never to take any girl serious again in my life

Called her sister and told her why she didn't tell me her jnr sister was seeing someone else ...is it because I don't have money! ...Her sister that matched us apologised to me and I block that one join sef ....I don't fucking like stress

Ever since then I don't feel any girl again ....it's just Hi, we Bleep and vibe ...I'm so in love with money I can kill anybody now ....it actually feels good making money and it gives a form of security & Peace of mind

I guess it would be hard to even love my wife I swear ...
I don't feel love again and I don't want to be loved too

seanwilliam:
baba Dey enter Nairaland time to time.. 2mins everything fit burst for good

sapien:
Good evening, Romancelanders. It's quite a lengthy read, so bear with me.

This lady and I have been dating for the past 4 years, and I am planning on making it official later this year, though Covid-19 made my finances quite complicated recently, but things are getting back in shape.

Recently, specifically over 2 weeks ago, she suddenly stopped picking my calls. Prior to that, we haven't seen each other since September last year. She always comes up with one excuses or the other every weekend whenever I tell her to come over to my place or if I want to go over to her place to see her. I always have busy schedules during the midweek, so we usually have only weekends to see each other.

I have gone to see her mother and her siblings last year. They accepted me as a prospective in-law. The mum said she queried her daughter and she told her that I was the one she would like to spend the rest of her life with, hence the mum's invitation. Her mum usually calls me from time to time, and I do talk to her, too.

Couple of days back, I had to call the mum to report her daughter to her regarding the uncharacteristic change in her daughter's behaviour, and how, despite living in the same city, we haven't seen each other in 4 months, and how she has refused picking my calls in more than 2 weeks.

She promised to talk to her and ask her what the problem was and get back to me. I waited for some couple of days, but when I didn't see the mum's call, I had to call her back. I had to ask her to give her daughter her phone so I could talk to her and ask her some salient questions regarding our relationship. She kept saying there is no problem and that I didn't offend her, and our relationship is still standing strong. I asked if she was going through some personal issues that she could share with me and we might find a solution; she said she was perfectly okay. We settled our issues right there and then, and she promised to call back the second day.

I waited for the second day and I did not see her call. I had no choice than to call her back. Ladies and gentlemen, this girl didn't pick my calls. When she eventually picked after multiple missed calls, she was talking to someone else, while my airtime was burning out. I became enraged. I had to call the mum the second day to tell her I was no longer interested in the daughter, that she was probably seeing someone else, and she didn't have the guts to tell me.

The mum swore that her daughter is not seeing someone else, as far as she knows, and that she hasn't brought anyone to meet her. The mum is a Deeper Lifer, and from my interactions with her, she doesn't condone two-timing. She promised to talk to her daughter, that maybe we should give ourselves more time, like taking a break for a couple of months.

I am not usually this patient, and never condoned negligence and disregard in my previous relationships. However, this girl had been special to me, prior to her negligence. She was quite dedicated to me during the course of our 4-year-old relationship. She was never demanding, and was contented and altruistic, too. She helped me many times in the past, financially, whenever I was broke, and I always repaid her back, too. She was a wife material, and loved by my family as well.

The questions are;

1. Do I disregard the mum's advice?

2. Do I still give this girl another chance after her blatant negligence?

Mods, you might do well by moving this piece to the front page.

instinct57vm:
WOMEN are ruthless, callous and immature whenever they do not want you again.

This is WHY I do not pity them when in crisis.

That girl is seeing and fucking someone else. The only reason she will come back to her senses and reality is, if the guy fall her hand bigtime!

So my advice for you is, LET GO OF HER totally and never call or reach out again. If she makes a u-turn to come back, she will be the one pulling the strings and you wouldn’t have to stress.

Find another babe and move on! If you deem your new babe better off to spend your forever, do not take that idiot back out of sentiment even if she comes back. Else na regret becoz gals like this have the 99% tendencies of repeating same and cheating in marriage. Enough said.

Have a great day.