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Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by SeriouslySense(m): 10:41pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
The picture of the whole situation is not full, but you yourself, can help in de-escalating the conflict its either you stay in that house and give the wife basic respect regardless of her attitude or you move from the house without causing any trouble, so that in the future, you and your brother will always have a good understanding. its two things either you stay in that house and give her basic respect or you leave, in that case, if you would stay in that house, this is what i advise you. 1) maybe you should not bring many friends or any friend to that house, i think she is feeling uncomfortable with the people you bring home. 2) Maybe you should listen more to her about what happens in the kitchen, and if food is not much in the house etc. 3) Make it your purpose that you will not be the reason for problems in the home, so whenever you are in the house have this objective in mind. If you plan to leave the house, 1) make sure you are in good terms with your brother and his wife, before you leave, don't cause a quarrel. well we all have our ways of doing things, its left to you how you see and react to the situation. 2 Likes |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by IjeBos(m): 10:41pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
I respect the Bible's take on this. Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. I think both of you have things to deal with. For you: The way you wrote this post wreaks of chauvinism. What do you even mean, does she "have the right"? I assumed she is married to your brother and they live in that house together. You should ask yourself what marriage means to you. For her: Your story is clearly one sided and I'm not even sure you have the wherewithal to even see your actions clearly. She should have not kicked you out unless she felt her person or her house was in danger. She should have tempered herself and spoken to your brother when he got home and let him be the one to kick you out. Not because she doesn't have the right to kick you out, but because that path is easier than all the inevitable drama this action will cause. 1 Like |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by onyenatruchi: 10:42pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
A beggar has no choice. My friend, will you go and stay on your own and leave your brothers wife alone. Onye akwo nazu adigi akwo onye ozo nazu. I'm even ashamed on your behalf. Stop depending on your brother. What if your brother is no longer available, what would you do Why do men like to disgrace me Ihere anagi eme kwa some people oo 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by olatdove: 10:42pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
This woman should take things easy, what she did is wrong even to save her future because no body know tomorrow this guy might still be the one to help her in future. |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by OmovuduTheBeast(f): 10:43pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
Richy4: Chai see sense o! This guy get sense well well |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by Jeezuzpick(m): 10:43pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
iamGholdaniel: Can I tell you a secret? You see the action she took? That's the outcome of yesternight's pillow talk. The issue has already been discussed prior to this time. Just get ready to leave the house, because your brother won't marry you if he throws his wife out for you. 1 Like |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by Swuapideas: 10:46pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
Can that wife throw her own brother out of that house? And I am very sure that your brother can’t throw any of his wife siblings out over small thing like this Some women are evil 2 Likes |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 10:46pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
Katier00:This kitchen that people carry on their heads, wetin dey there sef? Why are many Nigerian women fond of fighting over kitchen and food? Seriously, I do not think a lady should ask for permission before serving her friend food in her brother's house. If creating such silly embargoes is culture, I think such a culture should be scrapped! 4 Likes |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by toxtimmy: 10:46pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
If she does not want you in the house don't let it way you down and move on. Frankly, I don't know both side of the story but if you truly want everyone to succed including yourself just move on... Remember, the stone that the builder reject, will be the head cornerstone.... If you are truly a man with no ill intent just respect your brother's position and keep your relationship with him healthy and wish him well everyday while you continue with life. To summarize, what ever you've done to her or what ever she have done to you does not matter... What matters is the path you define for yourself going forward. . iamGholdaniel: 3 Likes |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by pocohantas(f): 10:47pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
Sterope: Very nonsense boy. See his mouth like we hustled for it together. One would think women dropped from the sky and have no family members instrumental to them being the women these men saw and found attractive. Marry your godamn family members and let the world know peace. Such a petty and problem-fueling gender. 5 Likes |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by Aimerosa25(f): 10:47pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
Yes, she has the right, it is her house not yours, also there is something that you are not telling us. |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by Nobody: 10:48pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
toxtimmy:Best advice at Op |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 10:48pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
crackhaus:You have said it all. Wetin be kitchen? What is food? 1 Like |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by Katier00(f): 10:50pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
Sterope:you don't know their financial strength, maybe she has planned herself for week. What if they are only managing. I am a woman and I won't like it if anyone goes into my kitchen without my permission. At least for courtesy sake. On top that she or he still had the effortnery to shout back at her, common that's not right. I'm sorry it won't happen again would have solve the matter 2 Likes |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by abike12(f): 10:50pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
iamGholdaniel: I can't imagine it was fun to live with an in-law that has this type of mindset. No matter what, a marriage between your brother and his wife can never and should never involve you. My advice to you is to go and start your own life without harboring resentment. If you keep feeling entitled to what's not yours, it will be hard for you to make it. Focus on yourself and see this event as motivation to make something out of yourself. |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by Nobody: 10:52pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
You went to the kitchen to cook & serve him yourself There must have been many issues on ground already. No good wife would react that much over that, even if you don't have much food in the kitchen. My advice to you is leaving the house ASAP. Don't wait for your brother to tell you before you do. This would bring back the lost respect. Na see finish dey cause all the palava |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by DonHummer(m): 10:53pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
Many of you here are saying nonsense. Why will she throw out her husband brothers things without her husband consent. If it was her own brother that went to the kitchen will she throw him out?... 2 Likes |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by Kingstanding: 10:53pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
Mokason288:. As a guy, how can you go to your brother's kitchen? Honestly speaking you didn't respect yourself. No wonder you said your brother's wife didn't like you because you would have showed her that you and your brother worked for what she is enjoying now. Men can built the house with his money but the house belongs to women. |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by Katier00(f): 10:54pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
ADAMUdaCOWBOY:you don't understand. Do you know the quantity of food in that kitchen? Or does food manufacture themselves in the kitchen? Times are really hard and everyone is on a budget 2 Likes |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by Meself: 10:54pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
You said it all. No woman will behave in such away if her brother in-law respects her. quote author=aroundtheearth post=99102022] For her to throw his things out, OP must have been causing wahala for the woman in the house. It's easy for him to paint her bad but no one knows what she has been enduring. It's obvious from his words "because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it" he has entitlement mentality in the house, isn't allowing her to enjoy her home or marriage in peace because he thinks he should be living there, and who knows what he has been saying to her. In this part of the word, if the law gets involved in such situation OP would be in the wrong.[/quote] 3 Likes |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by TruthinAction: 10:54pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
iamGholdaniel: You made a very big mistake to cook for a friend in a house with a married woman. You don't do that. Try to apologize to her. If she accepts your apology, try not to hurt her again. If you can't, please find somewhere else to stay before you destroy your brother's marriage. Even if your brother wants you to stay, he has to personally apologize to his wife. He can't force her to accept you. 1 Like |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by franchasng: 10:55pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
pocohantas:Generally, Nigerian women are selfish and wicked to their husband's siblings, only very few Nigerian ladies are different. I was a victim of this and that is how I know. It happened when I was in school and it was time for IT. Most of my siblings lived outside the country and in Lagos, none in Portharcourt and I happened to get a place to do my IT in PHC. That was how I landed at a cousin's house in Portharcourt where I was turned to a slave. Little me then that could not hurt a fly., that was so obedient to a fault. This lady turned me to maid. I wash their cars even when she doesn't need to drive it. I mop the house even though there were househelps. I go for petty errands like buy pepper, buy onions, buy salt, etc even when she had 2 maids. I endured and when I couldn't take it any longer, I quit my IT and went back to Lagos. Another relative that went to her house for holiday after waec saw hell on earth. As a little boy who came from a poor family, he had no option than to endure till Xmas he used the opportunity to run. The woman maltreated every visitor in that house, her husband claimed deaf and dumb. Fast forward to some years later, she relies on those she treated like rags. The last time I saw them and their condition, it was pitiable. A one time rich family now broke that they can't afford rent unless relations come to their aid. Can't pay children school fees unless we assist. Forget it, there is Karma for such people like her. She is the cause of her husband's downfall, everybody knows. As a woman, ask God to give you the grace to be kind, accommodating and cheerful to others, it comes from God. Only few Nigerian women have that grace 5 Likes |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by Rocktation(f): 10:55pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
The simple answer is Yes, she has such a right to throw you out of her marital home and for something as insignificant as just not liking your face. Sad, but factual. Nigerians, typically, would have emotionally charged takes, but I suspect you know the truth already, deep down in places you don't talk about at parties. |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by PAQ(m): 10:56pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
Legally your brothers house is not your house, it is hers. She has the right, but our customs differ, some customs favour siblings over spouses, which is plain wrong! If you can, be the better person and leave the house, God will definitely answer your call and give you yours too. |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by Nobody: 10:57pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
No comment until I hear from the other side, Thanks. |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by MrMurdah: 10:57pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
You have some growing up to do. Even if you built the house with your teeth.... Once a woman enters the house, it is no longer yours. You should have moved out as he got married. I will be flabbergasted if your brother supports you. 1 Like |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by Blackdisciple(m): 10:58pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back. As real niggarr I was expecting you to do that...When your bro comes back explain everything in detail to him because she will certainly lie to him. When the time comes you will have to leave the house and only come for visits. She never knew that when you marry someone you marry his family too. 2 Likes |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by pocohantas(f): 10:59pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
franchasng: Trust me, I didn’t read that hogwash. I have better things to do with my time now. Simply message the OP and take him in. I am sure your virtuous and different wife can accommodate him. Kapish... 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by Kenneth10110(m): 10:59pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
Nwodosis: If your bro supports her |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by franchasng: 10:59pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
TruthinAction:Unless they are poor, struggling and living in a very compacted apartment, there is nothing wrong in it. He respected her by not giving his friend the food she cooked by herself. I am married. In my house, we encourage visiting family members and friends to go to the kitchen and serve themselves than waiting for a house help or anybody to serve you, go and serve yourself and also wash the dish when you are done. I see no crime here that woman is a bitter woman, he doesn't like the presence of her brother-in-law, simple. The guy should leave the house and not fight her. If his hands is clean, God will fight for him and shock that woman 1 Like |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by staga: 10:59pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
iamGholdaniel: Yet you are in your brother's house. Go and get yours and get your own wife too. 1 Like |
Re: Does My Brother's Wife Have The Right To Walk Me Out Of My Brother's House ? by vickydevoka(m): 10:59pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
Mindlog:u Don't get it. he served his brother n his brother must settle him |
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