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Sixfeetbelle:
If my husband is cheating on me, there are a thousand and one things I could do as a reaction. It's my life and my choice. Gone are the days when ladies stayed and endured cheating husbands because he's the provider. In this day and age that women are fast becoming breadwinners, anything is possible when it comes to a cheating husband.


That aside, I hate it when a story comes up of a married woman is cheating and you all start acting as if married men too don't cheat. That's what your comment implied and why I called you out on it.

For this story in particular, I have reasons for my comment. That this guy is in abroad hustling to send his wife money:

1) Doesn't make him a saint. He could be cheating as well. Generally, men find it harder to hold body. It doesn't quantify his wife cheating, no, but then again, do we have spouses who cheat because their significant other is doing so?
2) Doesn't mean he automatically deserves her complete loyalty. He's not the only man hustling for his family and such should not be a criteria for having a faithful wife. A woman that will be faithful will be faithful regardless of what the husband is doing.
3) Doesn't mean he's being the best husband. He may be good to his friend and outsiders but a complete wastrel when it comes to the home front. The marriage may just be smokes and mirrors for all we know.

Point is: there are many factors involved in marriages and expecting one party to be 'good and faithful' doesn't always mean they can or that they wish to. For all we know, she's tired of the marriage and hence her brazen acts of cheating.

all this your gibberish just to prove you've brain in your shoprite head, like I care how/what you feel about your fellow unfaithful ladies



judge the Lady unfaithfulness, since we didn't see what the guy is doing there, we will come to the guy later


should the op not tell her husband because we don't know what her husband is doing there? a married Lady we are talking about here


who raised you sef with this your dumbb aniimal sense theorem you cooked up there

Deathisfree:
It’s not that easy. They’ve denied her visa 3 good times

Her infidelity is d reason she's been denied visa not once but 3 good times... Ur friend God isn't sleeping...

She don born for ur friend? If no, i strongly advise u tell that friend of urs.. U called him ur alpha n omega... Or would u rather be at his funeral to place ritz on his coffin?

Lol

BareFacedLies:
If you were a good friend you would have been the one servicing the lady instead of leaving the job for a complete stranger to do

Hahahhah this one craziness don travel go canada

Deathisfree:
Who’s advice should I listen to ?
Some says do and some don’t. I’m confused

Old boy just mind ur business.

Deathisfree:
It’s not that easy. They’ve denied her visa 3 good times

Why won't dey deny her visa when she is commiting both fornication and adultry together na her punishment be that.

This post is shameful. It is unfortunate that the orientations most women of these days have are weird.

I will honestly encourage men to create time to enjoy the fruit of their labours alone once in a while rather than always trying to make extreme sacrifices for women.

They hardly think of any sacrifice you made for them when they are ready to betray you and they will still staunchly defend their actions.

Sixfeetbelle:
If my husband is cheating on me, there are a thousand and one things I could do as a reaction. It's my life and my choice. Gone are the days when ladies stayed and endured cheating husbands because he's the provider. In this day and age that women are fast becoming breadwinners, anything is possible when it comes to a cheating husband.


That aside, I hate it when a story comes up of a married woman is cheating and you all start acting as if married men too don't cheat. That's what your comment implied and why I called you out on it.

For this story in particular, I have reasons for my comment. That this guy is in abroad hustling to send his wife money:

1) Doesn't make him a saint. He could be cheating as well. Generally, men find it harder to hold body. It doesn't quantify his wife cheating, no, but then again, do we have spouses who cheat because their significant other is doing so?
2) Doesn't mean he automatically deserves her complete loyalty. He's not the only man hustling for his family and such should not be a criteria for having a faithful wife. A woman that will be faithful will be faithful regardless of what the husband is doing.
3) Doesn't mean he's being the best husband. He may be good to his friend and outsiders but a complete wastrel when it comes to the home front. The marriage may just be smokes and mirrors for all we know.

Point is: there are many factors involved in marriages and expecting one party to be 'good and faithful' doesn't always mean they can or that they wish to. For all we know, she's tired of the marriage and hence her brazen acts of cheating.

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Deathisfree:
Before I saw him smooched The ass ,I saw the guy few weeks ago leaving the house very early in the morning ,I was heading to work,I purposely gave him a ride
I’m not sure he knows me ,he was looking so rough

Lol na rough guys this stupid women give pekus if na good guy he will not have a chance, na cultists they drill

Guy the story no short after this oh

Deathisfree:
To shorten the long story. I work in a company, I did go home mostly Monday’s to Wednesday, my works was mostly weekends but last week i was shifted to weekdays so I go home weekend now, I have been observing a young man and my friend’s wife sneaking in and out of their house.

A woman sells provisions in our street, she told me about the guy few weeks ago, she said he always comes buy Hollandia yoghurt at night also said the first day the young man came to her shop, he came to buy a condom she has been wondering who the guy was.

Yesterday one of my co worker came around 7:30pm and I was in his tinted hilux, I saw the guy smooched my friend’s wife ass,she quickly removed his hands and they went inside ,the young man drove my friend’s car and they went inside

With everything happening now it’s obvious the lady doesn’t care again. Because I don’t see a reason why she has to be fornicating and knowing we stay in the same street.
I am so heartbroken, my friend doesn’t deserve such wickedness. Right at the moment I don’t know what to do. I believe telling my friend isn’t the solution. Please I need advice And I’m available for any question and advice.

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Abeg free the woman joor.

Can your friend swear that he is celibate where he is?

Her body is not made of wood besides the weather is cold so she needs someone to keep her warm and occasionally oil her

bro u re nt serious,i am celibate since i left my family,its nt a big deal thou i visit often,most men here also do d same,abroad is nt where u really feel is full of enjoyment.and even if its america where he will marry nd get papers ,its quite understandable cos he is doing so for the future of their family not because he is selfish or dumped d wife willingly,most people who keep their wives in Nigeria does nt do so because they enjoy it but they re trying to make ends meet by providing adequately, the woman enjoys his car nd she owns a house,that means d man is always providing for them,do u think is easy.for women who want to marry any guy who resides abroad should not only look at d enjoyment or money she will gain also she should learn abt the sacrifice that comes with it.

coputa:
No matter how close you are with your friend, never dabble into his matrimonial affairs.

In most cases, they will settle and by then your friend will tell his wife you are the one that reported her and she will in turn tell her husband that you're chasing her

By then the friendship you have built over the years will hit the rock.Issues like this deserve a blind eye and a deafened ear

I don't ever pray to have a bad friend like you.
OP tell your friend about what you saw,let him believe whatever he wants even if it'll cost your friendship with him,at least you'd have played your part and trust me with time he'll see things by himself and come back begging you.
Be a brother's keeper.

NB: all of you asking if he's been celibate since he got to the US,you're just looking for justification to what she's doing cos even if the man is doing something wrong, you don't correct it by equally doing what's wrong cos 2wrongs can NEVER make a right.

I'll hate you more than the cheating wife if I call you my friend and you knew this and didn't tell me.
My opinion.

Nairalanders too dey lie, op thunder fire you for this your concocted story.

So the boyfriend was spanking your friend wife bumbum in public in full view of the whole street?
So the boyfriend is driving your friend car?
He even went to buy condom from the same street you live? Unless both of them are mentally retarded I cannot imagine them cheating so brazenly in the same street your friend stays when neighbors can see everything mumu Op just added the spanking and condom part so that people will not accuse him of baseless suspicion in his fabricated story.


Again, thunder fire you for your lies Op.

Powerfly:
If your friend was the one cheating.. And the reverse was the case.. Pls be honest bro. Will you tell the wife?

A lady will be her friend. Ladies tell each other, what their men do around. Only men get worried about the aftermath of the whole exposure.

daddytime:
Tell your friend that rumours are going rife about his wife's indiscretion and you'd advice him to keep his ears to the ground or possibly find a neutral friend or family member his wife knows not to come around and play a spy as a full time job.

The spy could make use of the woman who owns a shop in the neighbourhood's spot as a watch tower. He could simply connive with the shop owner and act as her relative to be able to garner enough evidences from close range.

He could take it a notch higher if he wants and has a spare key to the house which the spy can use to gain access into the house and plant a camera whenever he is sure the house is empty.

This kind matter, to solve and handle am no dey hard.

Na so my guy plant camera inside him car wey him wife use dey fck and carry guys up and down for Benin and beyond.
This one na woman wey the guy dey carry travel UK, US and everywhere oh...

On a more honest note, most of these stuff boils down to karma in one way or the other whether you agree with me or not because I don too see life to understand to an extent that nothing, absolutely nothing happens by accident.

We plant some seeds in life which we overtime deliberately chose to forget had been sown and even when we neglect to water these seeds, nature does its job to help us pour water in the form of rain on them to help them germinate to a bountiful harvest.

When we dey tell people say make dem learn from some of us wey don make mostakes in life by living right and earning right dem say we be mugus or say we no plan our life well.

If you are reading this and you think cutting corners in any guise including yahoo yahoo is your sure bet to a good life, you had better have a rethink and change your ways. It might take a long time but trust me, your penance cometh in any of these ways including a jail time and losing all you thought you had garnered before life knocks you back to ground zero for a fresh start.

It has happened to me, the friend I mentioned above, and so many others I worked with when we thought we were living lavida loca scamming people of their hard earned monies and cashing out.

In my case, even before I lost all the millions and investments I thought I had crookedly garnered because I thought I was so smart, karma had sent a jezebel my way for a wife who was drawn like bees to honey because of the cash flowing. You can only imagine what happened when I eventually fell to ground zero. That was my penance for ruining lives and families with my choice of a source to make money. I was "blessed" with a wife that was a public toilet.

Today, I see life from a very different prism and thank God for the experience and also the wisdom to realize my folly and make a swift change.

I live to use my experience to sensitize and educate the youths to the many vices currently going rife amongst them.

The excuse of our politicians being the bigger thieves isn't fashionable any longer and you know what? They all have their karmas but from the outside, you no go know.

This life wey we dey live dey very big and deep but very easy to navigate through when you understand the rudiments/principles including the fact that there is more to it than money and the craze for easy/quick wealth by any means possible.

If your ways get right with God/nature, you won't even be able to place how you survive and get by on adaily. Your needs will definitely be met without much ado so long as you aren't greedy for what you rightly can't afford.
I greet una

Nice piece bro..

It's even in the Bible, a man that neglects his family is worst than an infidel. Look am not for the woman whoring around o, just that how can you smash a full blooded young woman almost every night for a few years then leave her alone at the mercy of masturbation and temptations? Bro even if that woman is as guilty as the devil, she is not entirely to blame for sleeping with that young man.
I tell people same thing, if you want to japa out of naija please don't tie a woman down here, go make your life or chase your dream first, then come and marry whom so ever you want. It's better for your would be fiance to sleep around while you are there hustling, then you come marry her later , than for you marry now and then have men smash her around while you do late night video calls.
Abobi tell your friend that you suspect his wife is having an affair, but before that make sure you have an iron clad proof, how? Wait until it's mid night or something, then go to the house with a trusted guy and call her that it's an emergency, then make sure you record the video rolling while it's happening, or just tell her that everyone of the street knows she is cheating and should stop. just make sure you have iron clad proof o, cos trust me, if she is backed against the wall most women will say you tried to rape her or l have your way with her and she refused that is when you threatened you will make sure he dumps her or destroy her marriage, that is a classic farm toll move. Also be a sharp guy o.

If na me Sha, and the woman na my "guy guy wife, as a street guy wey I be before, we treat such Bleep up in a different way, that young man Sha go lose him leg or sometime. We go cultivate terror and then plant am for him entire core, next time him see married woman seat near am, he go just jump window or fence dey run, them go dey ask am wetin they pursue am, he go just dey cry tldey run go.
But since you are not a street guy, just get someone call up your friend and tell him his wife is sleepying around with the whole street, he himself will either come down to investigate, call you to do same. If he calls you, tell him you don't know really, you have been posted to some other place that makes it impossible to keep an eye. Let him come and find out himself. So that make them no use you settle.

Tell ur friend while coming back, he shouldn't tell his wife. Maybe he can spend few days inside ur house and use that time to investigate what is happening with a tinted glass vehicle for few days,and when he has gotten the clear evidence by himself, he can move in while the wife is in with the guy pretending that he just arrived with his logssms

Deathisfree:
Hi I’m going through a very difficult face at the mm.

I own a 3bed room bungalow, my friend own one too but few plots away. We bought the land together about 8 years ago and we’ve been a very good Neighbor.

When my house got to roofing, this my friend gave me some money to complete it. Infact he’s my alpha and omega, we’ve been a very good friend from secondary school.

I don’t mind if he’s seeing this ,I really adore and appreciate our friendship but at the same time. I don’t want his marriage ruined becomes of me.

December 2018, my friend got a visa and travelled to the U.S.A, when he was leaving, I drove him to the airport, he told me to please take care of his wife and I should watch over her like my own wife but unfortunately, the lady has been giving me lots of altitude so I decided not to go check her any more when ever I am around.

To shorten the long story. I work in a company, I did go home mostly Monday’s to Wednesday, my works was mostly weekends but last week i was shifted to weekdays so I go home weekend now, I have been observing a young man and my friend’s wife sneaking in and out of their house.

A woman sells provisions in our street, she told me about the guy few weeks ago, she said he always comes buy Hollandia yoghurt at night also said the first day the young man came to her shop, he came to buy a condom she has been wondering who the guy was.

Yesterday one of my co worker came around 7:30pm and I was in his tinted hilux, I saw the guy smooched my friend’s wife ass,she quickly removed his hands and they went inside ,the young man drove my friend’s car and they went inside

With everything happening now it’s obvious the lady doesn’t care again. Because I don’t see a reason why she has to be fornicating and knowing we stay in the same street.
I am so heartbroken, my friend doesn’t deserve such wickedness. Right at the moment I don’t know what to do. I believe telling my friend isn’t the solution. Please I need advice And I’m available for any question and advice.

Is obvious you don't like your friend.

So you can't walk up to the woman that was handed over to you and tell her face to face that your going to tell her husband, is that how cold and wicket you are?

"No gut, no glory"

EdwardRandy:
Nice piece bro..

Thanks, brother.

o boy your friend entrusted his wife in your care so do the needfull an tell your friend about is prostitute wife who is now a cheerful giver.such a woman can.sleep with animal self if given.the chance.such a woman.can eliminate her husband because of dick.@op do.the needful.by telling your friend before he hear it from someone else.if he hear the news from.someone else he will think.you.have betray him or you are among.the people fucking her wife wide wet pussy too.who quote me for telling op the truth hug transformer.

ThundrCork:
Weather you are home or abroad, a woman will cheat on you within 30 mins under your roof.

Don't you sleep, Don't you go to work? All you men need to open your eyes and focus on your success and stop worrying about who is chooking your wife because it must happen weather u like am or not

I agree wt u!

Deathisfree:
Hi I’m going through a very difficult face at the mm.

I own a 3bed room bungalow, my friend own one too but few plots away. We bought the land together about 8 years ago and we’ve been a very good Neighbor.

When my house got to roofing, this my friend gave me some money to complete it. Infact he’s my alpha and omega, we’ve been a very good friend from secondary school.

I don’t mind if he’s seeing this ,I really adore and appreciate our friendship but at the same time. I don’t want his marriage ruined becomes of me.

December 2018, my friend got a visa and travelled to the U.S.A, when he was leaving, I drove him to the airport, he told me to please take care of his wife and I should watch over her like my own wife but unfortunately, the lady has been giving me lots of altitude so I decided not to go check her any more when ever I am around.

To shorten the long story. I work in a company, I did go home mostly Monday’s to Wednesday, my works was mostly weekends but last week i was shifted to weekdays so I go home weekend now, I have been observing a young man and my friend’s wife sneaking in and out of their house.

A woman sells provisions in our street, she told me about the guy few weeks ago, she said he always comes buy Hollandia yoghurt at night also said the first day the young man came to her shop, he came to buy a condom she has been wondering who the guy was.

Yesterday one of my co worker came around 7:30pm and I was in his tinted hilux, I saw the guy smooched my friend’s wife ass,she quickly removed his hands and they went inside ,the young man drove my friend’s car and they went inside

With everything happening now it’s obvious the lady doesn’t care again. Because I don’t see a reason why she has to be fornicating and knowing we stay in the same street.
I am so heartbroken, my friend doesn’t deserve such wickedness. Right at the moment I don’t know what to do. I believe telling my friend isn’t the solution. Please I need advice And I’m available for any question and advice.

I advice you tell your friend if you're for real.

Also, don't confront your friend's wife with caution or advice since she can undo you if she feels that you're a threat to her relationship(s).

Threats like killing you or seducing you to have one-time sex with her and therefore holds you at ransom.


Be extremely careful.

99thEnemy:
He said he saw him smooching her big soft sweet juicy ass and she removed the man's hand, fronting the I don't like attitude seductively.

That, she can deny. Until there's an undeniable evidence it's not a good idea to blow the whistle

thelish:
These are two people who have become one.
I won't be the one to put asunder oooo.
What I do most times, I confront the cheating partner, urge them to.desist..

The cheating partner might find a way to turn it against you. Thelish, if you were my friend and I found out that you knew all along that my partner was cheating and you didn't say anything, I would feel much more hurt from what you did than what the cheat did. It's better to lose an unfaithful partner than a true friend. In all sincerity, both have been unfaithful. The fact I knew the friend first before I met the partner counts for something. If you were able to hide something as damaging as this, then you have been hiding much more. I'll definitely cut ties with both. True friends stay true to one another no matter the consequence

valentineuwakwe:
This is what you should do.....
visit her and tell her you want to see her....talk to her n tell her you know everything she has been doing with guys..don't say or mention about the guy you saw her with.try to make her understand such actions could ruin her and it has karma too.. (who knows becos of her adultery dem don denial her visa 3 times).

listen to her response n reactions.....if its well, advice her if not free her n save your own life cos she n the lovers may plan to eliminate you so as the news not reaching her husband so you got to be careful in dealing with this.


the husband may not be a saint over there but telling you to take care of his wife does not mean you should dive into her private life or issue....women will always be women so thread softly on this.

thanks

What do you mean women will always be women

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Reminds me of one guy who went to Germany and left his wife in Nigeria for 5 years...òmó na so I just dey bang free toto

How many have you smashed

justosee:
This advice can only come from a simp. don't listen to this useless advice.

Who in his right senses will confront a friend cheating wife?

Leave the fool jor. U can imagine the rubbish advice he is giving someone.

NiRfreak:
I tell you...If he doesn't have a pictorial or video evidence, he should forget telling the guy cos..the woman will deny it, could plan to hurt the guy...could even tell her hubby in the U.S that the guy has been the one chasing her that cos she dint give in that's why he went on to damage her reputation...In cases of infidelity that can affect a woman's life and future..a woman can destroy you....just lay low and be wise. Even with video or picture evidence, the woman must not know that it came from you.. otherwise be ready for anything..

Are you sure daughters of Jezebel can do anything I thought they are angels

KidDarkness:
The cheating partner might find a way to turn it against you. Thelish, if you were my friend and I found out that you knew all along that my partner was cheating and you didn't say anything, I would feel much more hurt from what you did than what the cheat did. It's better to lose an unfaithful partner than a true friend. In all sincerity, both have been unfaithful. The fact I knew the friend first before I met the partner counts for something. If you were able to hide something as damaging as this, then you have been hiding much more. I'll definitely cut ties with both. True friends stay true to one another no matter the consequence

Ok sir.
U are right, just that marriage issue is a technical matter. Do u think the husband doesn't know the wife is cheating? And still send her 50k monthly

josite:
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this is the mistake men keeps making.wont your wife continue to need food.sex just because you are not around?,

it is a hard choice,no doubt,to come back and meet a truly health wife or to come back and meet a sick wife.when will men learn that marriage is not meant to dehumanise a wife.now u are complaining that some other guys smooches her and it doesnt matter to you how much health is added to the wife by the ass smooch alone.life abhors a vacuum.

How much health is added LMAO what do you mean

Kayberg:
No matter how hot you may be, never touch a married woman.

Why

Mummymahdi:
Hmmm this is so bad. Alert him anonymously

How will she live? Body no be firewood, can a woman survived for 5month without needing a man??