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Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Hmmmmmm001: 4:33pm On Mar 08, 2021
I am really angry as I type this right now. Sorry to bore you with this epistle.
I have been dating this girl for two years and planning to settle down this year but there are some issues bothering me and one of it just happened few minutes before I typed posted this.

Before the coronavirus pandemic, she told me she would love to go into textile and sell in bales especially imported. I loved this idea as it was brilliant and I love girls who use valuable times for something productive. I offered to even lend her some money to start. I told her to start small and let me know when she took off the business. She started and I gave her 100k to augment the business. She started the business and all was going well before corona came. She couldn't continue the business during the corona period. After normal business resumed, I found out she isn't continuing the business as she gives excuses when I asked. I pressured her until she told me she's given her capital to her mom to do things she didn't disclosed. She crumbled the business just like that. It was only recently she's just about to start off another one which I had to offset 150k to meet up the deadline for the shop she intends to use.

Now today, I have my own personal business which runs into some millions. My sister oversees it when I'm away because I had to travel alot last earlier this year. Now my sister could wasn't free as usual as she's out of the country now. I brought my girlfriend in to oversees the sales especially the invoice and cash payment. Yesterday, I went through the inventory and cross-checked with the records and found about 180k missing. I have only only about 1.4m worth of goods now down from 1.6m I started with this year.
I had to go meet some new suppliers who were introduced to me by a friend. She opted to come stay till I get back. I recieved a call from her that she sold some goods and the person used our POS payment system but the balance isn't adding up. I told her if it's less than 30 seconds, it will still reflect. I logged into the mobile app of the payment platform to check the transaction and found out it was a failed transaction. I called her immediately but she said it was approved at her end. I stopped everything I was doing to come back to the shop and reprinted all transactions for the day, it was the highest and written as failed. The transaction was 290k and she wasn't even concentrating while it was going on. She issued a receipt for it and the person made away with the goods. I even searched around and saw the printout of the failed transaction. It was until then she stopped arguing that it was approved.

Now, I am visibly angry. How can someone be so careless with money the way she is. I am even planning of collecting a refund from her to teach her a lesson. Can I marry someone like this who is nonchalant this way.
I just have thousands of thoughts running through my mind right now.

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by richboy01(m): 4:45pm On Mar 08, 2021
lol 290k in one day.Either she is using you to save money or she is plain stupid.Dont always completely trust humans.you love her doesn't mean she loves you

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Reex12(m): 4:47pm On Mar 08, 2021
richboy01:
lol 290k in one day.Either she is using you to save money or she is plain stupid.Dont always completely trust humans.you love her doesn't mean she loves you
your last sentence bro is where simps keep failing at it and women use them

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Nobody: 4:58pm On Mar 08, 2021
Why are you paranoid over this small mistake,forgive her and warn her not to try it next time, learn to forgive those you love without a doubting spirit.Have you tried to find out why she needed that money? she could be in a serious problem,just calm down its nothing serious after all its her lover's money she didn't steal.

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by richboy01(m): 5:06pm On Mar 08, 2021
Zzor:
Why are you paranoid over this small mistake,forgive her and warn her not to try it next time, learn to forgive those you love without a doubting spirit.Have you tried to find out why she needed that money? she could be in a serious problem,just calm down its nothing serious after all its her lover's money she didn't steal.
how can I unread this foolishness

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by mosdii(m): 5:06pm On Mar 08, 2021
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Nobody: 5:07pm On Mar 08, 2021
richboy01:

how can I unread this foolishness
By blinding your eyes,they are too big

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by richboy01(m): 5:08pm On Mar 08, 2021
Reex12:
your last sentence bro is where simps keep failing at it and women use them
aswer
if dey switched roles I'm sure dat girl will tell him to pay d money saying there is no romance in business

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by paulolee(m): 6:03pm On Mar 08, 2021
my gee DTS a time bomb...u better run for ur life bcoz she would go putn start looking for d highest bidder if you stop giving her wen you get married..

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by yomi007k(m): 6:47pm On Mar 08, 2021
If you invest further in her then you do so at your own peril. You know this.


Shalom.
Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Sarcastic101: 7:26pm On Mar 08, 2021
Zzor:
Why are you paranoid over this small mistake,forgive her and warn her not to try it next time, learn to forgive those you love without a doubting spirit.Have you tried to find out why she needed that money? she could be in a serious problem,just calm down its nothing serious after all its her lover's money she didn't steal.
See this goat

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by afolarin60591: 8:30pm On Mar 08, 2021
my gee DTS a time bomb...u better run for ur life bcoz she would go putn start looking for d highest bidder if you stop giving her wen you get married..
Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Tohsynetita1: 8:42pm On Mar 08, 2021
you might not collect any money in return o, but my advice to you is to demote her of the post. Or else, next scenario might wreck,kill you or give you heart attack.
Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Nobody: 9:45pm On Mar 08, 2021
Hmmmmmm001:
I am really angry as I type this right now. Sorry to bore you with this epistle.
I have been dating this girl for two years and planning to settle down this year but there are some issues bothering me and one of it just happened few minutes before I typed posted this.

Before the coronavirus pandemic, she told me she would love to go into textile and sell in bales especially imported. I loved this idea as it was brilliant and I love girls who use valuable times for something productive. I offered to even lend her some money to start. I told her to start small and let me know when she took off the business. She started and I gave her 100k to augment the business. She started the business and all was going well before corona came. She couldn't continue the business during the corona period. After normal business resumed, I found out she isn't continuing the business as she gives excuses when I asked. I pressured her until she told me she's given her capital to her mom to do things she didn't disclosed. She crumbled the business just like that. It was only recently she's just about to start off another one which I had to offset 150k to meet up the deadline for the shop she intends to use.

Now today, I have my own personal business which runs into some millions. My sister oversees it when I'm away because I had to travel alot last earlier this year. Now my sister could wasn't free as usual as she's out of the country now. I brought my girlfriend in to oversees the sales especially the invoice and cash payment. Yesterday, I went through the inventory and cross-checked with the records and found about 180k missing. I have only only about 1.4m worth of goods now down from 1.6m I started with this year.
I had to go meet some new suppliers who were introduced to me by a friend. She opted to come stay till I get back. I recieved a call from her that she sold some goods and the person used our POS payment system but the balance isn't adding up. I told her if it's less than 30 seconds, it will still reflect. I logged into the mobile app of the payment platform to check the transaction and found out it was a failed transaction. I called her immediately but she said it was approved at her end. I stopped everything I was doing to come back to the shop and reprinted all transactions for the day, it was the highest and written as failed. The transaction was 290k and she wasn't even concentrating while it was going on. She issued a receipt for it and the person made away with the goods. I even searched around and saw the printout of the failed transaction. It was until then she stopped arguing that it was approved.

Now, I am visibly angry. How can someone be so careless with money the way she is. I am even planning of collecting a refund from her to teach her a lesson. Can I marry someone like this who is nonchalant this way.
I just have thousands of thoughts running through my mind right now.
I Didn't Get Somethings Clearly 4rm Ur Long Epistle. What Happened To D 290k?
Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Nazgul: 10:58pm On Mar 08, 2021
Never mix business with pleasure, the two don't work together.

The rule of the thumb is never allow a girl who isn't your wife, sister or daughter to manage your business in order to avoid stories that touch the heart.

I'll advice you to look for a sales girl who will be accountable to you and keep her there to manage the business, as for this your girl, just cut off all ties with her and move on. It's obvious that she don't want what's best for you.

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by SweetCunt97(f): 12:12am On Mar 09, 2021
Hmmmmmm001:
I am really angry as I type this right now. Sorry to bore you with this epistle.
I have been dating this girl for two years and planning to settle down this year but there are some issues bothering me and one of it just happened few minutes before I typed posted this.

Before the coronavirus pandemic, she told me she would love to go into textile and sell in bales especially imported. I loved this idea as it was brilliant and I love girls who use valuable times for something productive. I offered to even lend her some money to start. I told her to start small and let me know when she took off the business. She started and I gave her 100k to augment the business. She started the business and all was going well before corona came. She couldn't continue the business during the corona period. After normal business resumed, I found out she isn't continuing the business as she gives excuses when I asked. I pressured her until she told me she's given her capital to her mom to do things she didn't disclosed. She crumbled the business just like that. It was only recently she's just about to start off another one which I had to offset 150k to meet up the deadline for the shop she intends to use.

Now today, I have my own personal business which runs into some millions. My sister oversees it when I'm away because I had to travel alot last earlier this year. Now my sister could wasn't free as usual as she's out of the country now. I brought my girlfriend in to oversees the sales especially the invoice and cash payment. Yesterday, I went through the inventory and cross-checked with the records and found about 180k missing. I have only only about 1.4m worth of goods now down from 1.6m I started with this year.
I had to go meet some new suppliers who were introduced to me by a friend. She opted to come stay till I get back. I recieved a call from her that she sold some goods and the person used our POS payment system but the balance isn't adding up. I told her if it's less than 30 seconds, it will still reflect. I logged into the mobile app of the payment platform to check the transaction and found out it was a failed transaction. I called her immediately but she said it was approved at her end. I stopped everything I was doing to come back to the shop and reprinted all transactions for the day, it was the highest and written as failed. The transaction was 290k and she wasn't even concentrating while it was going on. She issued a receipt for it and the person made away with the goods. I even searched around and saw the printout of the failed transaction. It was until then she stopped arguing that it was approved.

Now, I am visibly angry. How can someone be so careless with money the way she is. I am even planning of collecting a refund from her to teach her a lesson. Can I marry someone like this who is nonchalant this way.
I just have thousands of thoughts running through my mind right now.
Her eye dey for up. Probably didnt allow herself go through proper home training.

If she can learn, fine.
Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by fattprince(m): 5:33am On Mar 09, 2021
Zzor:
Why are you paranoid over this small mistake,forgive her and warn her not to try it next time, learn to forgive those you love without a doubting spirit.Have you tried to find out why she needed that money? she could be in a serious problem,just calm down its nothing serious after all its her lover's money she didn't steal.

Are you always serious with these trash you say or you only catching cruise?
Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Ayrastarr(f): 5:52am On Mar 09, 2021
Zzor:
Why are you paranoid over this small mistake,forgive her and warn her not to try it next time, learn to forgive those you love without a doubting spirit.Have you tried to find out why she needed that money? she could be in a serious problem,just calm down its nothing serious after all its her lover's money she didn't steal.

Lol! Girl, you daft!

Your foolishness is beyond human comprehension.

Take it from a lady like you.

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Ayrastarr(f): 5:54am On Mar 09, 2021
Hmmmmmm001:
I am really angry as I type this right now. Sorry to bore you with this epistle.
I have been dating this girl for two years and planning to settle down this year but there are some issues bothering me and one of it just happened few minutes before I typed posted this.

Before the coronavirus pandemic, she told me she would love to go into textile and sell in bales especially imported. I loved this idea as it was brilliant and I love girls who use valuable times for something productive. I offered to even lend her some money to start. I told her to start small and let me know when she took off the business. She started and I gave her 100k to augment the business. She started the business and all was going well before corona came. She couldn't continue the business during the corona period. After normal business resumed, I found out she isn't continuing the business as she gives excuses when I asked. I pressured her until she told me she's given her capital to her mom to do things she didn't disclosed. She crumbled the business just like that. It was only recently she's just about to start off another one which I had to offset 150k to meet up the deadline for the shop she intends to use.

Now today, I have my own personal business which runs into some millions. My sister oversees it when I'm away because I had to travel alot last earlier this year. Now my sister could wasn't free as usual as she's out of the country now. I brought my girlfriend in to oversees the sales especially the invoice and cash payment. Yesterday, I went through the inventory and cross-checked with the records and found about 180k missing. I have only only about 1.4m worth of goods now down from 1.6m I started with this year.
I had to go meet some new suppliers who were introduced to me by a friend. She opted to come stay till I get back. I recieved a call from her that she sold some goods and the person used our POS payment system but the balance isn't adding up. I told her if it's less than 30 seconds, it will still reflect. I logged into the mobile app of the payment platform to check the transaction and found out it was a failed transaction. I called her immediately but she said it was approved at her end. I stopped everything I was doing to come back to the shop and reprinted all transactions for the day, it was the highest and written as failed. The transaction was 290k and she wasn't even concentrating while it was going on. She issued a receipt for it and the person made away with the goods. I even searched around and saw the printout of the failed transaction. It was until then she stopped arguing that it was approved.

Now, I am visibly angry. How can someone be so careless with money the way she is. I am even planning of collecting a refund from her to teach her a lesson. Can I marry someone like this who is nonchalant this way.
I just have thousands of thoughts running through my mind right now.

You go fit employ me?
Make I help manage the business?

I've managed alot of businesses
Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by general111(m): 6:06am On Mar 09, 2021
Op you are in seriously in trouble here..
She will drain you and walk away when you are dry.
Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by abeniagbon(m): 6:14am On Mar 09, 2021
Hmmmmmm001:
I am really angry as I type this right now. Sorry to bore you with this epistle.
I have been dating this girl for two years and planning to settle down this year but there are some issues bothering me and one of it just happened few minutes before I typed posted this.

Before the coronavirus pandemic, she told me she would love to go into textile and sell in bales especially imported. I loved this idea as it was brilliant and I love girls who use valuable times for something productive. I offered to even lend her some money to start. I told her to start small and let me know when she took off the business. She started and I gave her 100k to augment the business. She started the business and all was going well before corona came. She couldn't continue the business during the corona period. After normal business resumed, I found out she isn't continuing the business as she gives excuses when I asked. I pressured her until she told me she's given her capital to her mom to do things she didn't disclosed. She crumbled the business just like that. It was only recently she's just about to start off another one which I had to offset 150k to meet up the deadline for the shop she intends to use.

Now today, I have my own personal business which runs into some millions. My sister oversees it when I'm away because I had to travel alot last earlier this year. Now my sister could wasn't free as usual as she's out of the country now. I brought my girlfriend in to oversees the sales especially the invoice and cash payment. Yesterday, I went through the inventory and cross-checked with the records and found about 180k missing. I have only only about 1.4m worth of goods now down from 1.6m I started with this year.
I had to go meet some new suppliers who were introduced to me by a friend. She opted to come stay till I get back. I recieved a call from her that she sold some goods and the person used our POS payment system but the balance isn't adding up. I told her if it's less than 30 seconds, it will still reflect. I logged into the mobile app of the payment platform to check the transaction and found out it was a failed transaction. I called her immediately but she said it was approved at her end. I stopped everything I was doing to come back to the shop and reprinted all transactions for the day, it was the highest and written as failed. The transaction was 290k and she wasn't even concentrating while it was going on. She issued a receipt for it and the person made away with the goods. I even searched around and saw the printout of the failed transaction. It was until then she stopped arguing that it was approved.

Now, I am visibly angry. How can someone be so careless with money the way she is. I am even planning of collecting a refund from her to teach her a lesson. Can I marry someone like this who is nonchalant this way.
I just have thousands of thoughts running through my mind right now.

Just tell her a lil mistake or repeated mistake of this next time she is going ... or probably make her a full house wife and give her stipend for upkeep... maybe her mother is using her or her friend to milk you.... Most woman dont know how to handle money....
Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Nobody: 6:41am On Mar 09, 2021
Some women are not financially savvy. Yes, you can marry her if you like traditional gender role marriages as I do, but you must understand that she's for food, comfort, sex and children only. In that wise, she'll give you much more peace of mind than those women who are business/work minded and care more for their shops than their children. Just don't force her to do what she cannot do (work/business), you'll only frustrate yourself and her. Limit her access to money only to housekeeping funds, and still be prepared to supplement when she misuses it, as she will occasionally.

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Jodha(f): 6:43am On Mar 09, 2021
She doesn't know the value of money because she's not working hard for it...
Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Offpoint1: 6:53am On Mar 09, 2021
Please marry her, she'll make a good wife.
Everyone's make mistakes, some are just costly more than others.

If she is not cheating on you or stealing your money, her nonchalant attitude can be corrected by talking to her about it. Let her know what that could cost your business, probably it was same attitude that ruined her business and not Corona.
I know it hurts losing such amount due to carelessness, become her teacher... Scold her if you must.

Don't listen to Nairaland guys advising you to leave her, the next sales person you you'll employ might end up being a thief.

Stay away from Nairaland guys advice of leaving her, most Nairaland guys are irresponsible guys who sleep around and lack what it takes to build and maintain a relationship.
You can find a perfect woman out there, there will always be one flaw.

Work things out with your woman, you're only to leave her when she's stealing, or cheating on you... Or not willing to adjust to corrections.

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by GoldenJAT(m): 6:59am On Mar 09, 2021
Zzor:
Why are you paranoid over this small mistake,forgive her and warn her not to try it next time, learn to forgive those you love without a doubting spirit.Have you tried to find out why she needed that money? she could be in a serious problem,just calm down its nothing serious after all its her lover's money she didn't steal.
Pretend to be SMART sometimes!!
Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Hmmmmmm001: 1:40am On Mar 13, 2021
richboy01:
lol 290k in one day.Either she is using you to save money or she is plain stupid.Dont always completely trust humans.you love her doesn't mean she loves you
it was an error. She was engrossed watching YouTube and wasn't even concentrating.
Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Hmmmmmm001: 1:41am On Mar 13, 2021
Zzor:
Why are you paranoid over this small mistake,forgive her and warn her not to try it next time, learn to forgive those you love without a doubting spirit.Have you tried to find out why she needed that money? she could be in a serious problem,just calm down its nothing serious after all its her lover's money she didn't steal.
did you just call that a small mistake? When is the big one coming
Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Hmmmmmm001: 1:42am On Mar 13, 2021
mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them
just imagine if it's her money. Won't all her family come down on me

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Hmmmmmm001: 1:43am On Mar 13, 2021
yomi007k:
If you invest further in her then you do so at your own peril. You know this.


Shalom.
thanks

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Hmmmmmm001: 1:43am On Mar 13, 2021
paulolee:
my gee DTS a time bomb...u better run for ur life bcoz she would go putn start looking for d highest bidder if you stop giving her wen you get married..
my thoughts too
Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Hmmmmmm001: 1:44am On Mar 13, 2021
Tohsynetita1:
you might not collect any money in return o, but my advice to you is to demote her of the post. Or else, next scenario might wreck,kill you or give you heart attack.
she isn't coming near my investment again. But what's the use of a wife who can't look after one's investment for even a day

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Re: Can I Marry A Girl Nonchalant With Money by Hmmmmmm001: 1:45am On Mar 13, 2021
Truvel:
I Didn't Get Somethings Clearly 4rm Ur Long Epistle. What Happened To D 290k?
she sold a good worth that and didn't confirm payment

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