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Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 4:46pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Truthman: Congrats man! Thanks for those words. I absolutely feel for her too else I would have been long gone! - bearing the past in mind. But here we are now. 9years and still counting... Well this thread is going to be my game changer. Thanks again. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by johhbekeboh09: 6:16pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: You welcome...for sure both your spouse's and ya testimonies are next insha Allah! |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Hathor5(f): 6:18pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
cococandy: Exactly! I know a couple who have been married for more than half a century with no children because one of them and they won't say which one can't have children. I am biased to say it is probably the man but I don't know. However, I never knew that infertility was a legitimate reason to divorce your spouse. 4 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Hathor5(f): 6:19pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: Guess you are right. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by johhbekeboh09: 6:38pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
johhbekeboh09: I advice you both join the group...post your histories and follow the the comments... |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by LotaTee: 11:05pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Your options include but are not limited to the following; *Divorce *Surrogacy *Polygamy *Adoption *Loving your wife regardless *African traditional religion(divination) Divorce her and get another wife.Life is too short to be unhappy and stuck in a loveless, childless marriage. Embrace the surrogacy route but I don't think even this might save your marriage because you mentioned that you no longer feel anything for her.How would the birth of your child change that?God forbid anything happens to the kid later on, I'm sure you'd put the blame on your wife. Polygamy won't be fair on your wife at all.Just divorce her. Unless you find open marriages attractive. You're opposed to adoption. I wonder why though. I don't advise the last one because there are lots of fake priests nowadays who are only interested in their bellies.They might sense your desperation for a child and milk you dry with false hopes. In all, he who wears the shoes feels the pinches.May God be with your family in whatever decision you make. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Nobody: 1:22am On Mar 09, 2021 |
LotaTee: POLYGAMY |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by legacystore: 3:02pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: honestly 9 years is a long time to be patient. Try urself outside to be sure u dont share in the blame Once u get anyother woman pregnant then marry her n let ur first wife be, she will go if she want no need to divorce her. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by mariahAngel(f): 4:58pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
legacystore: Wouldn't that be wicked and deceitful? How about they both agree to "test themselves outside"? Who knows? Also, I wouldn't even doubt the op has " tried outside" already... I mean, considering the fact that he said he hates his wife and how desperate he is to prove that he's "a man", I don't think anything would've held him back. He's probably just putting all the blame on his wife because he has something against her. 3 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by cococandy(f): 4:58pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
Hathor5: Yup it’s probably the man. if it was wifey’s issue, another woman would already be in the picture by now. They hardly endure the things they expect their wives to be okay with. Or Maybe he’s the one in a thousand who would. Who knows 2 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by SweetCunt97(f): 6:16pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:Take ur time and research about surrogacy mr man. Not all women can carry a baby to term so they need a vessel to help them. Your problem could b from ur village so marrying another may not b the solution.. Shut d fvck up about the abortion matter abeg, cos if it were d problem, she wouldn't have gotten pregnant at first. 2 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by SweetCunt97(f): 6:57pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:You are heartless! D lady was pregnant and carried it until 9 months! So y blame past abortion? 2 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by KevinDein: 7:14pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
Hathor5:You remember this when a woman is the source of the "worse". If it were the other way round, you'll probably be advising the lady to do what makes her happy. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by KevinDein: 7:18pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
@op, when are men gonna learn to do what's best for them and just say to hell with everyone? Women do that all the time and they get cheered on by other women. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Klass99(f): 8:03pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Klass99(f): 8:31pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
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Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by StreetFight: 8:39pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: Only our Father in Heaven gives children. Even if you divorce this woman and marry another wife, only our Father in Heaven can decide whether your next wife will bear a child for you. Mind you, you have proven to be a betrayer and a backstabber. You do not deserve a wife. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 11:14pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
johhbekeboh09: Amin. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by NoToPile: 11:21pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
As much as I am not a fan of abortions, I still don't understand how the abortion she did is the cause of the infertility if she carried a pregnancy to 9 months and had a still birth. She did carry a pregnancy to term and the baby died Except if the doctor told you the abortion was the cause of the infertility. That said, if you want to get another woman pregnant its your choice but please stop blaming your wife, a still birth and 5 IVFs is not a walk in the park, shes been through so much already. If you don't want the marriage anymore just let her know. But then miracles do happen, I hope one happens for you guys. 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 11:22pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
Hathor5: No, infertility is never a ground for divorce in Nigeria. But matters arising from it in a marriage could make divorce tenable legally. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 11:30pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
legacystore: Another angle! But not gentle manly!! Lol. Thanks |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 11:37pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
LotaTee: Amen to your last line. Thanks for your thoughts |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 11:40pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
mariahAngel: No ma'am I have no dot against her but her mistake for University boyfriend which I may not be able to shoulder for longer. Prove I'm a man to who? Lol. All the embryos formed from multiple IVF cycles means what? Donor sperm was used? Thanks anyway 4 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 11:59pm On Mar 09, 2021 |
SweetCunt97: Thanks. Your research will be very welcome. How many of such women do you know? Abortion (D and C) has done more harm than good. You don't want to ask about how special that pregnancy was a case during our antenatal care because it was SURREAL to the hospital..story for another day. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 12:06am On Mar 10, 2021 |
SweetCunt97: Getting pregnant after two years of sexual intercourse with the help of fertility supplements spells a degree of infertility. And abortion (D and C) INCREASES the risk of infertility. The tales of the lost pregnancy is not the objective of this thread. Thanks. 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 12:10am On Mar 10, 2021 |
KevinDein: It's about time! And this will be the rate limiting step. So it has to be well done. Thanks |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 12:23am On Mar 10, 2021 |
Klass99: Thanks for being sensitive. I wanted the children early that was why I married before 30 for crying out loud! Well, I will still manage to hoard some info for my ID. That man has fulfilled his destiny and I have mine to fulfil as well. Lol @ "which kind igbo man be this" hahahaha 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 12:27am On Mar 10, 2021 |
StreetFight: Hahahahaha. I deserve a street fight with you as I don't deserve a wife! Yes I am a betrayer but I am neither Judas nor Jesus that should suffer for another person's sins. As that is all you could decipher in all. Thanks 2 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 12:28am On Mar 10, 2021 |
NoToPile: Amen to your last words. Thanks |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by SweetCunt97(f): 4:56am On Mar 10, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:Well, could be your village people as well. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 8:51am On Mar 10, 2021 |
SweetCunt97: I wish. Hahahahahahaha Good comic relief. Thanks 2 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by frozen70(f): 9:36pm On Mar 10, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: Guy pls calm down We can talk to you but the final decision is with you It's kit how far but how well If you ever live this woman and I mean if you have feelings for her, join your resources together for a surrogate In the absence of non, support her to adopt a baby girl so that she will be busy with her If you now decides to play away match, it's your choice to do so or not And be prepared to maintain peace for both of them incase you score it outside |
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