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Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Blessingisrael: 9:40pm On Mar 10, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: seriously I understand your plight. have been there and I also thought my past mistakes have caught up with me. just so you know, abortion rarely result in infertility, on the contrary, it shows a woman is fertile. That why a single woman can have an abortion up to 15 times, and that still won't make her infertile. I am not encouraging abortion though, neither am I belittling what you guys are passing through. trust me, is hell. only those who have never walked a mile in your shoes will call you names and give you advice as though managing childlessness is equal to a walk in the park. if your doctors have done all they could, and result to surrogacy as the final option, rather than spend money and go through the emotional pains of all the whole process, seek madam's consent and marry a second wife . it is not a sin. do this while still respecting your first wife and never rub it at her face. she's is just unfortunate in all of this. is not her fault. if she has carried a baby to term before, then the abortion even if it causes infertility, is not responsible for her fate. if madam will not give her consent to you seeking solace outside, then that is up to you to decide what next. 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Ifyyy25: 12:19am On Mar 12, 2021 |
Here I am wishing I aborted my own, I’m a single mom of 1,it’s not been easy the vile things people say about us can drive one to suicide ,I know exactly how you feel just take things easy |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Hathor5(f): 8:42am On Mar 13, 2021 |
Klass99: The legacy of the African parent. I just love you. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Hathor5(f): 8:43am On Mar 13, 2021 |
KevinDein: I will tell you what I will advise her to do if you quote me with your main and most famous monicker. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Roseey0(f): 11:03am On Mar 13, 2021 |
I know you think your wife's abortion is the reason she is finding it hard to conceive. But it is not. She did conceive before. I will advice to seek the face of God. If you don't address these spiritually, even the surrogacy won't work. Even a second virgin wife will still not work |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by MufasaLion: 12:59pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
Ifyyy25: Let people keep talking. It's norms. Just live your life and focus on your kid |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:08pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
Blessingisrael: The day I seek Madam's consent I'm a dead man o. Just, so you guys on NL knows. LooooL I'll like more explanation on that part where you said you've "...been there and also thought your past mistakes caught up with you"? This myth of abortion showing a woman is fertile is too mysterious for me. Can you also explain ? Now I want to say that you criticize and support yourself at the same time so I don't get where you stand on the abortion matter with respect to fertility. Also remember the abortion I've been talking about here is D and C. Thanks understanding my plight. And how did you overcome this challenge..?? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:12pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
Ifyyy25: Thanks ify. But how do you unwish that kind of wish? Pls find out and unwish it o. People will talk. Just do your life my dear. 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:18pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
Hathor5: Yes o. Proudly African. Hahahaha |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:20pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
Roseey0: Hahahahahaha Prohpetess of doom, calm down. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:21pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
MufasaLion: Period. 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:27pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
frozen70: Thanks |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Janosky: 5:00pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:* |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Onyi22(f): 7:27pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
How are you convinced that it was the abortion she had in past is the cost of her childlessness? This life is so unpredictable and we can never, never tell. I know two ladies that did abortions when there were still single, but there are now married with kids... Some people will be saying that it is God that is punishing her for her sins it's a big Fat Lie. Even the bible said that no one is righteous, not even one What i will advice you to do is to draw close, more close to God and seek for his Mercy. Love your wife, Forget about people n their Mouth. God Almighty never fails, His Mercies are New every morning. Bet me, you will still come back to this forum to testify. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Blessingisrael: 7:55pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: in my own case when preggy was not forthcoming, I thought I was the D&c I had in uni days, then pregnancy came, I had miscarriage, still felt maybe nature was dealing with me. then I discovered it was an underlying issue. which definitely had no issue with the D&C I had. I met with many specialist in this season and all said D&c is the safest way to terminate a pregnancy. even when I had my first miscarriage, D& c was conducted to evacuate it. just so yo know, I have kids now and I'm the one running from pregnancy. I know gals, in fact my best had over 6 D&c and now have two kids. she , too is tired of getting pregnant . I can go on, but righteous Nairalanders will come for my head. but those are in my past. I am just saying , cut that woman some slack and atop blaming her for having a D& C. it was youth exuberance. she is just unfortunate. I advise you guys skip the whole surrogacy ish , is expensive, emotionally and physically draining . if you are not using her egg , but donator's why not just find one young girl and hit it up with her? madam just have to let you have your own kids one way or the other. others might asked if I were the one woukd I have allowed my hubby ? yes, I would. in fact, when I wanted pregnancy and it wasn't forth coming, I have decided I so t let my own inability affect my hubby ability to procreate. Africans love kids, men want kids, especially when he knows he is the only male . it isn't wrong to seek solutions to your problem. CIA! 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Joyfulgal: 8:45pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
adadike: Please what is the name of the fertility tree? |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by adadike(f): 9:17pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
Joyfulgal:yorubas do call it ewe akoka and igbo call it osisi ogirisi. Cut a part of the root, boil and drink. It's very effective 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by CoolJul: 11:18pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: Your miracle may just lie there (adoption). |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Malawian(m): 11:24pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:Play away match. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Ifyyy25: 10:49am On Mar 14, 2021 |
How will I unwish it abeg? “After1, “go and marry the father of your child” “low value woman” “no man will marry a single mom”...the insults are too much IntentionTremor: |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Ifyyy25: 10:55am On Mar 14, 2021 |
Blessingisrael:Chai I wish I did D and C in my own time too, see me now a single mom and depressed, some days I’m suicidal it’s just the thought of leaving my little girl behind that keeps me |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Joyfulgal: 1:18pm On Mar 14, 2021 |
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Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Blessingisrael: 4:18pm On Mar 14, 2021 |
Ifyyy25: The child is already here. stop wishing you aborted her. love her and hold on to hope. is not easy , but there is light at the end of the tunnel. hold o ! 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by DrFunmisticGlow: 8:08pm On Mar 14, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:No woman has abortted for you? Are you sure you are not firing blank shots? Especially as you have never gotten a woman pregnant before? While I don't understand, i empathize. This is enough to drive one to despair. What do you want? How can you sire a progeny in a way that will save your marriage. Introspection and deep communication with your wife is needed here. Empty your feelings. This too shall pass. You will get through it victorious 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by DrFunmisticGlow: 8:13pm On Mar 14, 2021 |
Roseey0:let me not lie. Unless op was a virgin before marriage. The infertility may also be male factor. 5 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by johhbekeboh09: 3:42pm On Mar 27, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:Hope you guys are enjoying the group now |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by iyimide(m): 3:48pm On Mar 27, 2021 |
The fact that you had a still birth early in marriage says something. But did you investigate the cause of the still births? Also can u tell us what were the end products of the IVFs? If u can answer this, I will provide u a solution (asides surrogacy) and I swear, in 9 months you will have a baby.. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by TinaG(f): 11:18am On Mar 28, 2021 |
She had an abortion while in school but she still got pregnant and had a still birth, why blame her for the situation at hand. Stop appointing blames cos the abortion she did while in school was successful hence her getting pregnant by you . If her womb was damaged, she won't be able to get pregnant . The doctors who attended to her during delivery of the still birth might have altered something in her womb. 3 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by GboyegaD(m): 8:56pm On Mar 28, 2021 |
TinaG: Apparently, he's chosen to believe what he wants to. We all can only wish them well irrespective of his decision. 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by AbbynHummy(f): 3:45pm On Apr 17, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:... .did I hear you say you hate her now because of all the fertility treatment? and you both her now flatmates. With all due respect sir, the abortion she had has nothing to do with this issue. She conceived after you both got married and the child was still birth. So I strongly say it's wrong for you to fault the abortion she had. What if she hadn't told you about the abortion? Her honesty has landed her in trouble. Sir I'll advice you to keep trying, don't give up just yet. Tackle the issue and be patient with your wife. I don't know what the doctor's report says but stop blaming your wife. 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Adesuwag(m): 4:26pm On Apr 17, 2021 |
Try another woman as you start your divorce journey. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by lilyheaven: 4:37pm On Apr 17, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:Get a side chick or go adopt a baby, case closed . |
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