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Nigerian butterflies

Xenry:
After chopping and cleaning mouth, you wan zoom commot? By the way, Which kain butterfly be that?

Nazgul:
Most times, the best relationships begin from odd meetings.

It was an arranged affair without your consent, you're angry...I'll implore you to look beyond your displeasure and ask yourself if the guy in question possess the qualities you want in a partner.

You've already confessed that you're already developing a soft spot for him, meaning he obviously meets some of the criteria of your dream partner so why break it off?

From your write up as far as I can tell, the only reason why you're so bent on ending things is because arrangements between you both were made behind your back. That's a very silly excuse to terminate a promising relationship unless if you have other tangible reasons (which you wouldn't wish to share) as to why you choose to end things prematurely.

she is a coporate olosho and still enjoying such and reason she no wan settle down

StacyO:
Please read through.


It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

Tell him you need space, that you're not comfortable with the way things are going, that's he's acting hurriedly. And it could lead to a disaster, if he'd want you to love him he should respect your decision and give you the space,
Then after the contract you be blunt with him, if you still don't want him

If you don't like him stay away by ghosting or acting cold it is not by force a level headed guy will get the memo and let go

Let me teach you my scope then.

Just avoid communication or seeing him as much as possible .
He should get the msg. But if he insist, like some of then . Sit him down and be as diplomatic as ever. Tell him your heart is somewhere else (we know its not true for now )and you don't want to keep him waiting or deceiving him. Tell him he deserves to be loved and not to be played with
Don't be rude o. Just be as soft as possible.


Except he is the devil incarnate himself. He will move on without plenty drama.

Las las na still heart break. But don't be bitchy about it to save your contract.
I don't understand why people don't believe one will just love to be single and not in a relationship.
It's only the imaginary boyfriend talk that saves me then. Smooth move on. No plenty Drama. It's always work for me

RichAbujaGuy:
Easy fix op, keep dem legs closed and go totally celibate until he finds a new babe.

modify... i re-read the op.

you have butterflies in your stomach for the guy but you then go on to say you don't like him.


i won't insult you by saying seek psychiatric help, just clear up the confusion in your mind and heart on which way you really want to go. And don't let these guys yahoo with a promise of a contract. that's a very unsavory and disrespectful start!

Like seriously?
Every butterfly feeling means love
Wow
Una go love tire o
So you jump on anything that gives you butterflies because you think it's love?
You go feel butterfly tire o

Well it is not op fault to be confused dough if not for that simp and Weak man that want to die on top a lady that does not love her.

This generation of men are so weak when it comes to women issue and it so disgusting to me..

This thread should not even be an issue for consideration if the yeye man Inrespective of his wealth has listened to the redflags and have alitle bit of self worthiness.

Roseey0:
Like seriously?
Every butterfly feeling means love
Wow
Una go love tire o
So you jump on anything that gives you butterflies because you think it's love?
You go feel butterfly tire o

I like when NL babes talk love and make sense.

"Personal text: Slow buds the pink dawn like a rose From out night's gray and cloudy sheath; Softly and still it grows and grows, Petal by petal, leaf by leaf."

baby that rose in your profile is deep.
honey boo can i dedicate a song to you?

Karun - Roses | Live at the Glow Sessions (Ep. 1)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fF2BzQLFbhY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eH5yI5fBGgI

What exactly do u want.

Wen some gals are praying for suitors u are rejecting one despite getting attached to u

Roseey0:
Like seriously? Every butterfly feeling means love Wow Una go love tire o So you jump on anything that gives you butterflies because you think it's love? You go feel butterfly tire o

Wisdom is quite expensive dear.

Traininghub:
Confusing! You feel butterflies yet you don't like him.

Don't be confused with the word feeling butterflies and love.
They're very different.

YorubaPrince:
OP StacyO, do you know what this statement / metaphoric expression really means? The context in which you used it defeats the purpose of your intent with this dude.

What does it mean?

lagusboyyy:
But, why don't you like the guy sis?

Is he not good looking to your taste, or you don't just like his attitude or personality?

With your answer on this, i will know how to advise you.

His personality and aura

Ingredient88:
my sister in my own opinion, I think the earlier is better, when you are engage yourself in a relationship that you yourself don't want or you don't love that person, the best solution is for you to quit, My pastor do
Say we should not marry somebody out of pity...or that I don't want to break his or her heart... that let me just manager or him or her as time goes you won't be able to manage anymore... all you need to do is just to leave I c...why cant' you just leave now ...? since you don't love him, two can only walk together when they agree and when it comes to love it takes two to tangle.... forget about what is Uncle is going to say you have the opportunity to leave now than never...thanks God will see you through ...

Thank you

frozen70:
You wouldn't have told him not to beg his uncle

Anyway just maintain your stand that you don't want any relationship now and don't move your ground

Meanwhile relate with him in a casual way and don't accept a kobo or make any financial requests from him

For sure


Thank you.

Toks2008:
You want to break up with him yet you are already feeling butterflies for him..

Doesn't mean anything.


I can feel butterflies(crush) for any guy.

ABANGWABOI:
#ILMOVON
#Attitude
#Bliv



My dear I stand with you in this..
Do your wish..
I wonder when all this little boys would learn coz he is not a man.. How on earth would you try to force someone to be with you... It beats my imagination..
Personally, I have up to 5 different girlfriends and they are into me like Mad..not the other way round..
I shake my head in disgust when people ain't got self respect, class , self worth and esteem..
Such a pity .
Op .. Do away with that dummy weakling..

Thank you.

People don't really understand the difference between being genuine and leading someone on with false hopes.

jaxxy:
From the bolded I’m trying to either reconcile or perhaps under what u mean by butterflies in ur belle.

How does a guy u don’t like give u butterflies in ur belly? Or are u confused

Now to the contract, if Ure not getting the contract on merit then that is ur condition for getting an unmerited contract. It may have come with terms and conditions.

As for me if the conditions are against my core principles it has to go. It’s Non negotiable.

**As for me if the conditions are against my core principles it has to go. It’s Non negotiable**




You get.



PS: Butterflies doesn't mean anything,they're just feelings that go away with time.

shadeyinka:
Most young ladies do not know what they want in a man. They will reject the man who loves them for the one who treat them like trash. Your problem is your age. You think that you are still young and have the time to find a "prince charming"!

Wake up to reality, life isn't like that o!

Sit down and count the cost.
1. Is this man responsible?
2. Is he trustworthy?
3. Is he dependable?
4. Is he cultured?
5. Is he independent?
6. Is he hard working?
7. Is he gentle?
8. Is he of good report?
9. Is he respected by others?
10. Is he God-fearing
11. Does he love you?

Don't throw out these for butterflies in the stomach, tall and dark in complexion, six packs and MacLean smiles.

Marriage is more than these. Your true peace is what you should crave for!
Do you know what you really want in a husband?
Thanks

You all type out of context though.

Is that how you lead people on?


Relationships isn't about saying yes all the time.
Sometimes,you have to make decisions that'ld be beneficial to both parties.

That I choose to open the young man's eyes doesnt necessarily mean I won't find a husband or I'm deceiving myself.

It means I love him and I dont want him to fall into false love.
A relationship where only one invest so much both emotionally and otherwise, is sure going to end in premium tears.

Machinegun91:
o dear Lord in heaven, send anything, I mean anything that will connect me with any girl that resemble this kind of girl away from my life. God Am your son and Am ready to serve you without committing murder of any type at all. This girl in particular is evil and heartless, in fact she's a skillful deceiver and betrayal feelings and emotions. As the matter of fact she's the most wicked girl of the year. Father I also prayed for all my fellow God fearing Nairaland members not to come close or across this kind of Jezebel girl in Nigeria. I prayed in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of Holy SPIRIT. AMEN

Amen.

StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

What I can NEVER UNDERSTAND, in my life .............

is how any man will even contemplate marrying a woman who does not WANT HIM BADLY!!

Len234:
I think Stacy didnt like the guy previously and now she is having some feelings. The problem with Stacy is dat she is not ready to settle and the much older guy obviously may be having thought sof settling with her. There is no answer to this dilemma. The best thing for Stacy is to follow her heart. But every action taken must have its consequences.

Thank you.


There would be consequences if I allowed him wallow in infatuation.

zynzyn:
What I can NEVER UNDERSTAND, in my life .............

is how any man will even contemplate marrying a woman who does not WANT HIM BADLY!!

I guess they see something in them.

ekerintee:
I will advice you to Tell the Guy to hold on a while,that you are Not yet ready for a
Strong relationshipp and you can still be Friends.Friends with nothing attached ,dont buy me Gift .And you self ,dont ASK for Gift or Accept Gift .IT amazes me when Girls dont Like a Guy and keep accepting Gift .Or going Out with the Guy and raising the Guys Hope .its good you seperate Business from your marital Life .so that in Future ,you dont hear the Guy saying He Made you WHO you are or my Uncle Made you .If the Guy No fit wait or Accept your terms.make u na seperate ,No Strings attached,do what is right ,dont feel Bad for doing the right Thing

Exactly.

Lexusgs430:
So in short, you want to eat your cake, still have that very same cake and put that very same cake in the microwave........


NO WAY......... SELECT ONLY ONE........

You.






Drive dey go front.

StacyO:
You.






Drive dey go front.

But you know it's true nah.......

She wants the contract at all cost, does not want the lovely brother, wants to dump him, without hurting his feelings, she does not want the bobo, telling on her etc etc etc.......

Just like saying you love Nkwobi, but hate goat meat......

NB : She, assuming it's not your story........

StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

"The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach."

Please set the butterflies free to float joyfully in your heart to meet this your suffering loverboy.

Who knows he might be the one assigned to you by fate.

Don't miss your chance (i.e. Romance and the biz relationship)

StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

I read something about women being confused

All I know is that one day one day Shiloh will have a special guest fasting and praying for husband

[quote author=Xenry post=99720971]What if he's your future hubby, your final Bus stop? Abi you wan turn to evening newspaper?
Abeg calm down, what exactly is the problem, is he ugly or poor? Or abi you wan big D*ck? [/quote)


pls these questions r begging for an answer....

Xenry:
What if he's your future hubby, your final Bus stop? Abi you wan turn to evening newspaper?
Abeg calm down, what exactly is the problem, is he ugly or poor? Or abi you wan big D*ck?

pls these questions are begging for an answer...

Makes me wonder Do I care..NO