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Someone has threatened to kill you many times and you're still here typing epistle .Once beating enters,it's downhill from there.
It's like you want to sing ekwueme in the mortuary(RIP Osinachi)
Good luck

Op has been shouting document document.
What's he planning to do with the document? What will change if he holds it? All the woman will do is give him a copy or outrightly refuse.

If she built a house without him knowing,she may be fine with moving into it without him coming along as well.She has him by the balls,she knows he has no money to rent his own place, so he isn't in a position to give ultimatums.

Maybe he should go back to his parents house and operate from there.

It might be better than living in the oppression the OP has described.

Sorry for what you're going through.

It's understandable that you want to blame someone and God is convenient. I don't know what God is supposed to have done in this scenario though ,he gave us all brains and a discerning mind.

1. You chose to marry a man who you knew was poor.You knew he had no money and still entered with clear eye so I think to some extent you're alright with lack of money.

2.My main concern is the drugs,cheating etc.How come you got pregnant while all this was happening? Too late to cry over spilt milk.Is there anything that makes you happy at all? Get a hobby and start practicing it for the sake of the baby because a depressed mother is a risk to the unborn child.

Frankly speaking, virginity does not automatically mean you'll be blessed with a wonderful man or marriage.On this website, the most overused men who spend their whole lives with prostitutes are the ones swearing upandan that they must marry virgins. I guess you married one of them.

Don't blame yourself too much,it would have been wiser to have spent more time getting to know the man but its now too late.

If you don't want your life to be hell on earth,better leave.Go and start afresh.Pack your things and go to your parents house. They cannot chase you away. There is no way this situation will improve,better to escape than spend the next 100 years praying for change. Run now that you have a chance.
I wish you all the best.

efficiencie:
A study showed that "substitutes for marital sexual gratification may impact the decision to marry. Proliferation of the Internet has made pornography an increasingly low-cost substitute. We investigate the effect of Internet usage, and of pornography consumption specifically, on the marital status of young men. We show that increased Internet usage is negatively associated with marriage formation. Pornography consumption specifically has an even stronger effect. Instrumental variables and a number of robustness checks suggest that the effect is causal".

Source: https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2534707

So ladies keep making nude content and sharing it with boyfriends who will upload same to the internet. Ladies keep making x-rated content and sharing it online...you are supplying the much needed substitute for marriage among young men. And one more thing ladies, quit complaining about men not wanting to get married. With the immense drama that follows marriage and the affordability of sex and porn, as supplied by our generous ladies, you can be rest assured that many of you ladies will remain single for a very long time or will become single mothers or become baby mamas.

Is this supposed to be scary? Las Las everyone will be single and the world will still keep moving,lol

This post is giving " Sheldon in big bang theory"vibes.

All I see here is a long list of requirements without a description of himself so this poster comes off as a socially inadequate, possibly weird nerd who believes he is all that but really isn't. No offense.

The babe you want will not be online responding to a post that sounds like a job advert . She is very likely to be independent.Money will not be her issue,dykkk wont also be an issue for her so what are you bringing to the fwb table apart from a rigid peeniys?

1. It is odd that your measure of intelligence is via how rigorous a job interview is..You should just come out and say you want a financially stable woman because you don't want to spend money.Its not a crime .

2.Statistically speaking,chances are high that you will be a bad lay.If you were good in bed,babes offline would be lining up but you're here so its likely you're not that great.No offense intended.

So again,what do you have to offer? What is in it for the would be fwb? From your post,there's absolutely nothing .

You are the one looking for an fwb,its not them looking for you,so you should sell yourself.

Are you adventurous?Any sense of humor? Can you hold a conversation? Are you unattractive? You should write about your areas of interest. Do you love to travel? Do you read books? What sort of things you do for fun,etc. Examples of activities you would love to engage in,things that would catch the eye of a potential fwb.

1/100 for effort.Very dry sontin.

missimelda01:
It feels wrong...why am I this hurt?

Because you know your boyfriend sleeps with prostitutes and this isn't the first time. He's even going raw to crown it all.

He will give you a disease soon.

Meanwhile they will gaslight you here and act like you're over reacting or being "emotional", they'll say you shouldn't have touched his phone.

Note that 99% of the people replying you are the same as your boyfriend or even worse.

NL is not a safe space for women in general.

Good luck.

You are not under any obligation to help your mother, you are free to cut her off.

No one really cares and you're literally allowing unknown people on the internet to tell you what to do or pressure you into dropping money. Do you not have a mind of your own?

Man or woman, NL people always think you are obligated to take care of your parents no matter how evil they were to you. I don't agree with this.

Interestingly, you have found a way to blame being a woman for your OWN decision to drop money for her, lol. You are fixated on women,built a whole ideology around them, you're profiting from the hate though and obsess about them day and night.

Your issues are very deep, it's unfortunate that you were molested and maltreated. I empathize with you for your suffering. Have you sought out redress? Have you sought justice for yourself. Have you thought of educating younger guys on sexual abuse , how to keep safe and how to expose perpetrators?

You have chosen hatred which doesn't benefit anyone, least of all, you. I can't even imagine the sort of energy hovering around you.

You are an adult now and you can make a choice to go for therapy to find some peace.

Seek therapy, seek peace of mind so that even if you want to red pill, you do it while sounding normal. Extremism is a disease and the stench is deeeply unpleasant.

Get help.

Kobojunkie:
You forget that we are likely dealing with someone who believes marriage to be a cure-all for all conditions, including the psychological.

This guy will have multiple baby mamas and be an absent father and the cycle will continue

Mothers with unwanted babies whom they'll view as inconveniences (probably view the child with hatred) and fathers who don't care.

Any lady that has anything to do with OP or people like him will be damaged psychologically.

The Op has a right to be angry at his mother and express himself however he wants . Calling her a b tch or wh ore tells more about him though. If she was abusive towards him,he has a right to cut her off completely, curse or no curse.

It is clear that he expected his mother to stay celibate even after his father's death,as an adult I expect discretion not celibacy but who knows if his mother was irresponsible?Who knows what the environment at home was like when his father was alive.

The picture is not clear but we can see what happens in the absence of motherly love and guidance, the person is soul less,empty, unhappy, has poor self esteem, is unable to mix with women and if we trace back, he will blame it on this same mother. The first woman he knew ,the woman wo gave birth to him was unable to love him.

He wasn't strong enough to thrive in spite of it ,but has marinated in resentment and hate all his life. It has defined who he is and has manifested itself multiple times through his posts on NL.

I am glad that once again there is evidence that his ideology which runs rampant on NL stems from growing up unloved and not knowing what care and affection feels like.

Imagine growing up seeking reassurance, acceptance, care or kindness from your mum and you don't get it. If there are no aunties ,grandma etc to stand in the gap, the individual is then set up to be incapable of recieving or giving love and views everyone with suspicion and paranoia.

This OP cannot be happy,so he derives comfort from spreading his misery, perhaps that is how he survived his childhood.

Unfortunately, he isn't content to sit in that hatred alone, he comes on NL and disseminates his illness to young impressionable teenagers and his fellow damaged brethren.


These same people wil go ahead to be parents, how many will perpetuate the same cycle they are running from? Many will go on to produce kids who will suffer same way they have.

A lot of these boys have only known rejection IRL and people like OP have offered acceptance nd brotherhood because they have created a common enemy- women.

No one who has a loving present mother or a loving present father would spew the things they do.

People need to start questioning where these people are coming from.If you know their history and why they are this way like this Op, you'd be more cautious about swallowing What they're selling.

I wish you healing OP.