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mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

You kept quiet for so long.
When next he comes tell him you need to go to the market, he should give you money.

But then never marry a man hoping u would change him.

jarawa:
Source: https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/covid-19-11m-to-get-palliatives-fg.html

So out of the over 200 million Nigerians. We only have 11 million poor Nigerians. God is watching u people. Our politicians need to start taking oath of office with amadioha or Ogun (gods that pass instant judgements)

alsudan:
This woman will do a better job as President than her senile terrorist of a husband.

I don't think so. I learnt when you become the driver the view of the road changes.

ValCon888:
Tell her if she terminates it, your hand is not there. In times like this, what the woman really needs is support.
If you want her to keep it, it's best you go with her to see her parents now. That will encourage her that she's not alone.

I did support her all the way. I would go with her. Thank you

Boxer007:
She is a gold digger & a theif sir. Is her name Lamanii22?. She ask me for money

She is not lamanii22! An she is neither a thief nor a gold digger. Thank you

cRobo:
Tell her that I said she shouldn't terminate the pregnancy

If she don't

Two years from now she will be celebrating he never terminated the baby


I won't say a word

I would tell her what you said...

igboticboy:
This is really pathetic....

I quite understand your plight, a very good friend of mine was once in your shoes. she got a girl pregnant while we were still in school and he wondered how his elder brother who has laboured and even refused getting married in an attempt to see him through school was gonna feel.

He contemplated abortion but I told him that I can never be a part of such. After much dissuations from me he had a rethink, the girl in question felt embarrassed and didn't even open up to her own parents.

They spent all their semester breaks in school until she gave birth.

No sooner had she given birth than they opened up to their respective parents. Emotions were high up the day the girl's parents visited them in school because tears of joy flowed ceaselessly for hours.


Don't ever contemplate an abortion, complications might arise, in your attempt to solve a problem you might just end up creating an unsolvable problem...Death.

Lie low for now, see her parents later, the deed has been done.

Thanks so much

JAOS:
tell her parent the truth they will be forced to give her hand in marriage to you

Thank you.

Pardon my English and long easy as am a confused brother.

My girl was complaining of headache and after treating malaria and typhoid it persisted so on her own she did PT test and called yesterday that she think she's pregnant n I ask she go to a clinic and do a confirmatory test which she did and it came out positive.

Our Background
I am 30 and she is 27. We have been dating for four years now. She combines her education with a job that earns her 85k. She is currently in her first semester HND two.
I am running my masters and hustles where I earn about 120k per month.
Am the only child of my parent where as she is the first child of her parent with 2 other sibling.
Am from the middle belt while she is from the east. We live in the far north where the cost of living is a little lower compared to other region.

The problem
I we spoke at length today and she feels she can't keep the pregnancy.
She among some of her reasons are
Her education as she would be rounding up this year.
Her parent would be disappointed and she wouldn't want them to be disappointed.
She said is not sure she can face the shame that would come with the pregnancy.


I sincerely want her to keep the pregnancy as age is not really on our side and we would be taking a life We can't create. But I also understand I can't force her.
May I mention that her parent insisted she finished education before giving her hand out in marriage so the long dating period.

Am sincerely worried and scared for her. As she is seriously considering terminating the pregnancy and I want otherwise but she thinks am just been selfish as am not putting her into consideration.

Sincerely I don't see how am been selfish. We agreed we would be meeting Tomorrow to talk about it.

Please your advice would be well appreciated as I would be happy if she can keep it or at least point out reason why I should support her in terminating the pregnancy.
Thanks in advance

This might not be the right place to post this and i apologise but then i seriously need someone to speak some sense into me.

I work as a teacher and earn around 14,000 per month, small though but i have to keep up with that pending when i am able to come up with something better. A graduate of information technology the eldest child of my parent my other brother is just 9. My dad has been out of job since 2005. and my mum been a strong woman was able with the help of God to hold the home front financially and spiritually including my tuition fee for the most part of my tertiary education (year 1 - 3), however she lost her job in 2013 as a result of some health challenges that is psychological in nature (though everybody around believe it is more of a spiritual problem than medical).
As time passes and she wasn't getting any better her relatives came and took her home around November last year up until now there is no any noticeable improvement for her speech however she has been insisting that she wants to see him and my grand mum lately told me they needed N25, 000 so as to enable her try another herbal treatment.

Have not been able to go visit her since last year up till now partly because there have been some little financial demands as a result of her health condition and some financial misfortune that befell be so it was practically impossible for me to save. All through the year she has been crying she wanted to see me and i kept telling her i would come by September as schools would be on holiday then even though i had no idea where the money will come from to go home. Now along the line a school contacted me to help type and photocopy their exam question which i did and was paid about N30, 000 out of N43,000 immediately after i got the money i called my grand mum and mum that i would be coming august ending and i was thankful to God that at least i had gotten money to go home. However on getting to the bank to deposit the money into my account i discovered i had lost the money as it was no longer in my laptop bag just to mention that would be the fourth time my money will be getting missing this year without trace. When it dawned on me that the money was gone i had to console myself and started thinking of how to get money for my said journey home.

Now few days back i was arranging my uncle’s bag and i came across USD400 i simply arranged it and returned it back. However when i sat down at night to reflect on my day it cross my mind to take USD100 out of the money, convert it to naira and solve my immediate problem and pay back later However i discarded the thought but with time the thought kept coming back. For the past three days i keep going to the bag, take the money and at some point i would return it as my conscience kept prickling.

My Uncle and his family had been fair to me and my family and he did be disappointed to find out i took money from him i however would have asked him but then I know what he is keeping the money for and his use for the money is quite important and financially he is not stable for now. Now am at a cross road as to whether to take (steal) from him or not.

I do hustle but sometimes you hustle and ends still don’t meet. Have tried all forms of hustling ranging from job hunting to starting up little business but at a point everything hits a dead end.

I just need someone to convince me not to take the money for if the need for his money arises before am able to refund the money the consequences might not be too good yes i could pretend i also didn’t know what happen but then I wouldn’t want to live with the pain should anything happen because of shortage of fund on his path. Yet for the mean time it looks as though that is the only evil solution i can come up with.