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gerizzim:
nice article but how do you juxtapose this in the Bible as regards this topic.

In Luke 14:28-30,Jesus uses the parable of building a tower to illustrate the importance of counting the cost before undertaking a significant endeavor.
He advises that one should first sit down and calculate the expenses to ensure they can complete the project.

The parable emphasizes that failure to do so can lead to public ridicule when the project is abandoned due to lack of resources.

RightToReject:
Long writing cut short, it's all about gumption. The sky has always been the starting point of a gumptious person - I agree with you.

phorget:
Very insightful and inspiring.
The beginning is always the hardest, everything falls in line the moment we take the very first step.

CyracksMrBlogger:
Story of my life. After reading this, I have now made my decision to be focused on growing my YouTube channel and remain consistent

Neduzze5:
I loved reading this. Thank you so much.

Quick question: Is it possible to focus on three things at once and push them everyday?

Morenikeji090:
Great write up... But for correction.... Motivation is part of life you can't kick it away motivation + focus = success....

MichaelSokoto:
awon motivational speaker.

who motivated Pablo to dey do us dirty?

doncartel:
Indians believe that everybody will reincarnate millions of times. That means that everybody will experience wealth, poverty, power, weakness, being black, being white, being male, being female, being of different tribes, tall, short, fat, slim, being a criminal, being a policeman, being a king, being a refugee, being a human being, being an animal, being a spirit etc.

So there’s nothing to worry about.

ElevationD:
A lazy person is a lazy person, while an unfocused person is who he/she is…unfocused.

A lazy person is that one who simply is not desirous to be useful. A person who is not able to take the initiative in life and easily proscratinates. That person who waits for others to act on his/her behalf. The person who lies on the bed and expects his next meal as manner from heaven. The have no set goals, no plans and no ambition. A close look at some youths whose fathers own properties is an example. Their fathers die living their houses in dilapidated states. The lazy person takes over and never cares to improve on the structure. All he does is to trouble tenants to pay their rents. When rents are paid, the lazy person spends the money on paraga, etc.

An unfocused person is that person who has targets but never look to achieve their targets. They have goals but never set to achieve their goals. They also procrastinate and are generally indecisive.

Kobojunkie:
E be like say chatgot was created to favor motivational speakers the most.

Laziness is real! 🥱🥱🥱

Let us be honest with each other.

Most times, when you say “I am lazy”, or people refer to you as a lazy person, that is not really true. You are not lazy. You are not useless. You are not weak.

You are just scattered. Very Scattered!

Your mind is full, your environment is noisy, and your energy is leaking in ten different directions. You are not lazy, you are just unfocused.

We live in a world that constantly demands your attention. From the moment you wake up, your phone starts shouting: WhatsApp, Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, YouTube, breaking news, trending scandals, soft life, big cars, beautiful bodies, endless information pulling you in every direction.

Before 8am, you have already compared your life with five strangers.
Before 9am, you have lost the motivation to even try.
And by 10am, you are already mentally exhausted and calling it a lazy day.

This is not laziness.
This is mental fragmentation.

The Myth of Motivation

We often think we need motivation to act.
We think the people who wake up and go after their goals every day are just highly motivated.

Wrong.

Most of them are not motivated, they are just focused.

They know what they want.
They know what matters.
And they have created an environment that pushes them forward whether they feel like it or not.

Motivation fades.
Focus sustains.
Structure wins.

The Real Cost of Being Unfocused

When you lack focus, here is what happens:

● You start things but never finish

● You consume more than you create

● You jump from idea to idea, but never commit

● You are always tired, even when you have done nothing

● You feel guilty for not doing more, so you avoid doing anything

Unfocused living drains your confidence.
You begin to see yourself as the problem.

You say things like:

● “I am just not disciplined.”

● “I have always been like this.”

● “Maybe I am not meant to be successful.”

But what if none of that is true? Those are coping mechanisms, Those are bullshit!

What if you are simply trying to do too much at once?
What if your brain is constantly distracted and your energy is going in 100 directions, so none of it makes a real impact?

That is not laziness. That is a life without clarity.

How Focus Changes Everything

Focus is what happens when you say, “This is what I want, and I am going to chase it with everything I have, even on days I do not feel like it.”

It does not require perfection.
It does not mean working 18 hours a day.
It simply means you show up with purpose.

When you focus, your confidence grows.
Because you are not just consuming, you are creating.
You are not just busy, you are making progress.
And even when you fall, you know exactly where to start again.

How to Regain Focus (and Stop Feeling Lazy)

Here is a real strategy. No fluff.

1. Decide What Season You are In

Not everything matters all the time.
Are you in a season to learn? Build? Heal? Earn? Rest? Choose your season and align your actions with it.

Clarity is powerful.

2. Cut the Noise

You can not focus when your mind is constantly overstimulated.
Unfollow pages that distract you. Mute noise. Limit your input.
You are not missing anything. The world will still be there when you return.

3. Create a Simple System

Discipline is easier when you do not leave things to chance.

● Decide when you wake up

● Block 2 hours daily for your goal

● Batch your social media time

● Track your wins weekly

It does not have to be perfect, it just has to be consistent.

4. Work on One Big Goal at a Time

Stop trying to do 10 things at once.
Focus is powerful when it is narrow.

Pick one.
Finish it.
Then move to the next.

You are not falling behind, you are moving smarter.

5. Be Honest About Your Triggers

What makes you spiral?
What ruins your rhythm?
What habits make you lose a whole day?

Be honest. Set traps for your distractions.
And build new patterns with intention.

A Word to the Person Feeling Defeated

Maybe you have wasted months.
Maybe you have started and stopped so many times that you do not trust yourself anymore.
Maybe you are scared that you are too far behind, and that your life is already set in a cycle of failure.

Let me tell you something nobody told you: You can restart. Right now. Today.

It is not too late.

You are not too damaged.
You are not too slow.
You are not behind.
You just need focus. Not perfection. Just direction.

Start small. Focus on the next best action.
Your entire life can change from one focused year. One consistent year. One no-excuses year.

This is Not Laziness. This is Warfare.

The people who seem lazy on the outside are often fighting battles no one sees.

Mental clutter.
Family pressure.
Unhealed trauma.
Fear of failure.
Fear of success.

You are not lazy. You are tired of failing.
You are scared of looking foolish.
You are overwhelmed by choices.
You are lacking systems.
You are hiding from judgment.
You are still learning how to believe in yourself.

So give yourself grace.
But also give yourself truth:
You do not have to stay this way.

Final Words

The most powerful version of you is not the one who is doing everything.
It is the one who is doing the right thing, consistently.

Your life does not need more hustle.
It needs focus.

So stop calling yourself lazy.
You are not lazy.

You are a genius in hiding.
You are fire waiting for more fuel.
You are a force that is simply distracted.

Cut the noise.
Pick your focus.
Reclaim your life.

musicwriter:
Read this post yesterday and it inspired me so much that I no longer expect a donor to support my fundraising for a documentary. In fact, I realized I could as well do it all alone. Thank you.

Are you the author?

Brahamimo:
I'm in pains.
I've endured so much pains in this life.
When will these pains end?
From birth, till now, it's pains.
It's suffering
It's hardship
Death of loved ones.
Difficulty in having a comfortable existence.
None to call on.... I'm tired of everything sef!
It's work work work and work. Work like an elephant but eat smaller than an ant. I've never in my life worked in any place that pays me 50k salary despite being a graduate. Is this not painful?

tollyboy5:
The pain in the article, I didn't read it thoroughly but I think it's the pain that comes with self development and not pain that comes with lack of something

free2ryhme:
You’d be better off staying silent and focusing on something meaningful with your life.

How many of the hardships you're glorifying did the children of billionaires actually endure to achieve growth?

Shikena:
It is a better mindset than going about thinking you are owed something. That's the mindset, it's for your own peace of mind and mental health as you go deeper into the heat of life battles. It is a way of staying in control rather than being at the mercy of others

Cum4me:
na copy and paste ooo

Let us be honest for a minute.

Most people are not stuck because of a lack of opportunities.
They are not stuck because they do not have talent.
They are stuck because they’re avoiding pain.

The real work of growth, becoming better, stronger, more focused, it’s uncomfortable. And let’s face it, humans avoid discomfort by default. We would rather stay in known suffering than take a step into unfamiliar pain that leads to progress.

But here is the thing:
The pain you are avoiding is exactly where your growth is hiding.

And until you confront it, face it, move through it, you will remain in the same place, going in circles, wondering why nothing changes.

What Kind of Pain Are You Avoiding?

Let’s name them.

You are avoiding the pain of waking up early to build that skill consistently.
You are avoiding the pain of telling yourself the truth, that you have been distracted for years.
You are avoiding the pain of discipline, because comfort feels better in the moment.
You are avoiding the pain of rejection, so you do not put yourself out there.
You are avoiding the pain of failure, so you never start.
You are avoiding the pain of being alone, so you cling to toxic relationships.
You are avoiding the pain of change, so you keep settling for what you have outgrown.

And here is the sad reality, that pain does not disappear. It waits.
And the longer you avoid it, the louder and stronger it becomes.

Avoiding pain does not protect you. It delays you.
And every delay has a price.

Why Most People Stay Stuck

We live in a time where people crave comfort more than clarity. Even myself.

We want the success, but not the sacrifice.
We want the confidence, but not the chaos that comes with growth.
We want to level up, but without letting go of the things holding us down.

So what happens?
People stay in situations they hate because it is easier than the work of change.
People repeat the same cycles every year, blaming others, never taking real inventory.
People numb their pain with distractions like TikTok, food, betting, parties, gossip, anything, just to avoid sitting with themselves.

And they call it “vibes.”
They call it “soft life.”
They call it “protecting my peace.”

But peace is not avoidance.
Peace is the reward of confronting your demons and winning.
Peace is what happens after the pain has been faced and processed.

Growth Is Not Gentle

Let us not romanticize growth. It is not a cute, "Instagrammable" journey. It is brutal. It is lonely. It breaks you. It stretches your mind. It crushes your ego.

But that is the point.

You cannot grow and remain the same.
You cannot evolve and still cling to everything that made you comfortable.
You cannot become your future self while babysitting your past self.

Something has to die.

Old habits.
Old mindsets.
Old relationships.
Old ways of thinking and reacting.
Old things must die.

Growth is painful because it requires death but not of your body, but of your old self.

And that version of you won’t go quietly. It will scream. It will sabotage you. It will fight to stay alive. But you have to be stronger. You have to push through the emotional discomfort and become someone you have never been before.

That is how you unlock a version of life you have never had before.

The Pain Is Your Teacher

Pain is not your enemy. Pain is a compass. It shows you exactly where to look.

If it hurts to admit you have been lazy then that is the area you need to fix.
If it stings to say you are afraid then that is the fear you need to confront.
If you feel uncomfortable sitting in silence with your own thoughts then that is the inner chaos you need to resolve.

Growth is not just about action. It is about honesty.
And pain is the flashlight that reveals what you’ve been hiding from yourself.

When you stop avoiding pain and start asking it questions, you get clarity.
-- “Why does this bother me so much?”
-- “Why am I triggered by this kind of feedback, question or criticism?”
-- “Why do I keep running away when things get hard?”
-- That is where the real transformation starts.
Not in hype. Not in aesthetics. Not in vibes.

In the pain. In the digging. In the truth.

No One Grows Without Stretching

Look at your body. Muscles grow by tearing.
Look at trees. Their roots fight through stone and soil.
Look at gold. It’s purified through fire.

Why do you think you are any different?

Comfort will lie to you. It will whisper that you are doing okay. It will sedate you. It will pamper you with ease, but rob you of evolution.

Meanwhile, pain will break you. Then build you.
It will humble you. Then sharpen you.
It will empty you. Then fill you with something deeper, something real.

That is what you’re missing if you keep running from the hard stuff.

So What Do You Do Now?

You stop running.

You face the thing that makes you uncomfortable.
You have the hard conversation.
You wake up when it is hard.
You show up when you are not in the mood.
You let go of the dead weight, even if you once loved it.
You say yes to the pain that leads to progress.

And you do it daily.

Because growth is not an event. It is a process. A fight. A journey.

And every time you lean into the pain instead of avoiding it, you expand your capacity. You become stronger. Wiser. Sharper. More dangerous in the best way.

Final Word

The life you want is on the other side of the pain you keep avoiding.
The version of you that is focused, disciplined, grounded, respected [quote]is born in fire.

So you have two choices:
-- Keep running, and stay stuck.
-- Or stop avoiding, and start evolving.
-- It is not easy. It was never meant to be. But it is worth it.


Every drop of sweat. Every moment of discomfort. Every tear.
It all becomes worth it, when the version of you that is been waiting inside finally steps out and takes over.

So feel the pain. Do not escape it.

Let it grow you. Let it make you the best!

miracle002:
I have an advise for promising young people. Even people with bright destiny and future especially struggling and hardworking people. If anybody even if it is your uncle, brother or even your Pastor promises to help you or to act as your destiny helper.

Be very careful and first of all pray about it to know if it is the will of God or not, if you are not sure, you can even take the matter to your pastor.

Don't be carried away if They promise you Heaven and earth. It is a trap to lure you. If you are not careful or prayerful, they will even use your glory.

I am talking out of experience. Be very careful. If they use your glory, it is either you run mad or die or come back useless.

I know of a childhood friend who travelled to Dubai in search of a greener pasture because someone wanted to help me. Just only one year, he was brother home as a mad person. Now that person is raving mad walking down barefooted up and down and street up till now.

They will level all kind of allegations against him that he was doing drugs in Dubai that made him to run mad.

Please listen to me, this world is very wicked this world had gone haywire, this world has gone spiritual. Just be very careful.

Drops Mic

OKOATA:
Nobody owes you anything in life, that's agreeable but people who use such phrases against their parents are the sick ones. Yoruba will say WA jeun omoh. (Eat the fruit of labour from my child) If you aren't owing anybody anything sha try owe your parents something o. Cos some people will say I don't owe my parents anything. If you are one of those people, may such a person also not eat the fruit of his labour and may his children not remember him/her in old age.

Arda1000:
I agree with you partially,one should strive to survive and succeed irrespective one his or her background,but where I disagree with you is about this evil country-Nigeria,saying that Nigeria owes her citizens nothing shows that we don’t have a country,indeed I believe we don’t have a country cus as a Nigerian I have never benefited anything,that shouldn’t be the case and even though many of us grew without feeling any positive impact from Nigeria we shouldn’t normalize it,rather we should speak with one voice and demand for a change and also work hard to improve ourselves.