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Only one advice...

Do not ever accept her back. Grieve, cry but move on even if it takes you the entirety of your life.

Does this pastor not have Corp members in his congregation?

No unemployed youth or those going into business?

This is uncalled for and maketh no sense!

This reminds the questions I don't ask women anymore:

- Do you love me?
- Who am I to you?

And the likes. I just flow with the tide. The first thing a women needs is attention, give that and her brain start to tag you as a protective partner.

And yes, you messed up with that question, you could have asked that atleast after kissing her.

Welcome to the zone.

She Is done my guy. Don't let that girl accuse you of raping her just to spite you.

PrimadonnaO:


That was what she kept telling herself... giving her self all the reasons why you were okay for a husband. But it unfortunately didn't make her love you.

Once, I had a guy who so much wanted us to be an item... he was thinking marriage. He was super cute, all the pastors loved him, obsessively clean and neat, had a wonderful dress sense, was a good dancer, a show stealer, infact. But I couldn't love him. I refused to date him because I knew I wouldn't feel proud having him as a boyfriend. He didn't exude the kind of charisma/confidence I wanted in a man... he was unambitious (there was a time he said if he got a job that paid 60k monthly, he'd be fine. I was cold to my bones the day he said that)... he wasn't intellectual for my liking.

Ordinarily, people didn't see why I couldn't be with him... but he wasn't what I wanted... couldn't explain it to anyone because it would begin to affect how others saw him.

For some reason, you don't match up to your wife's standards (of what her man should be). She doesn't love you. Maybe in the course of time, things would change. But for now, she can't have the world see that she got a "not-so-good" deal. I'm also thinking that you're nothing like her exes. She can't stand the thought that if they were to see who she ended up with, they'd gloat.

OP, this lady just saved me from typing. This is the only comment you need. This is exactly how your wife feel, To her, you are not the ideal "person" she wanted. On a normal day, you will never appear on her menu.

The only thing we don't know is, if she is still shopping but be scared, she is ambitious and you are not cutting it at all.

She still feels she can do and get a better deal. Brace up!

She posts colleagues and not you, she crops you out of photos, every woman will go hyper at a car gift even if they can't drive or have another.

You need to measure up, the problem is you have no yardstick. Your woman is ahead of you, sorry!

Amicusacuriae:
Nairalanders i am currently heart broken . My gf of 3 years who i loved xo dearly jux broke up with me after all i did for her.
Have u experienced same? If yes did she cme bak begging? And how can i pay this girl back

There is hope for you... Because SHE IS NEVER COMING BACK and even if she does, you will be at a stage in your life where you realize she was never even worth Irvin the first place.

The only way to proceed now is to... Delete everything about her down to the spoon she brought to your house.

Take a paper and write all you dislike about her and read it it often.

Don't force yourself to stop thinking about her, instead let the emotions through and CRY. You must grieve this relationship.

Then promise me this... You will be better than you are today in five years time by 20folds.

PS: She left because you don't measure up anymore and her interest can no longer be met by you.

Love is not enough.

You have to let go even though you still love her. The reason is, just like me, you will never forget.

This will always make you angry at her and can lead to you abusing her physically and even killing her in the future.

You are a territorial male, the more reason you can never forget because you will always be doubting your ability as the ideal man for her.

Forgive her but let go. Thing will never be the same again.

If you want to continue, go ahead but never ever marry her. You will be angry all through and you Amy commit murder someday!

Meaningñ

Etsako man here!

Actually I see it differently.

I see it as a patronizing word. It is a word to subtly make people fall under your control.

Try this...

If you have a difficult person around you, start abusing them with the word DEAR when relating with them. If they did not rebuke you, great.

In just a week, they will soften towards you and you can then manipulate and control them as you wish.

Ladies use it the most!

Most endearing words are used to make people conform to a set behavior.

Sometimes, all you need to get a woman is just to "HONEY" her to your "slaughter house".

Not many people will understand my postulations but it is cool.

Perspectives are different but do not ever "DEAR" me!

PS: Family, Husband and Wife are exemption to this theory of mine, they can "DEAR" you for eternity.

From any other person, there is an underlying message or motive especially when used repeatedly!

Cheers.

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Justice must prevail!

He is the deputy governor now! Haha

Haha, I just like you so much.

So you have a female friend that you are hosting, I wonder when you will "eat the chicken".

I hope you can also take it when she starts to host male friends and she tells you about it. Though, I believe she is already.

A lady with such experience is smart enough not to put all her eggs in a basket anymore.

I don't see both of you together ever, the distance is also bad for someone like her and if she keeps thinking she can't trust you, she will only find solace in another arms soon.

Stop the female friends thing and find a way to be close to your women, or better yet, everyone should face front!

Dino sha

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Ejusni:


How did yours start? Did you mistakenly touch anything there or it just came in its own?

Pain started one day and that was it. The pain is intermittent. I can go two months without it then it can start for a week straight and go again. I guess it has to do with our body anatomy.

No body understands you here but I do. It's very rare but I also get this pain.

It has nothing to do with arousal and no sex, blue balls and what not. All infection test came out negative.

I understand you my guy, avoid heavy lifting and stick to some regiments.

You can chat me up, at least you will not feel alone!

Have you had any experience like mine before!

Closing from the office is salivating but the dreaded daily jamboree of Mr. traffic jam on Lagos road is always something you anticipate whilst hoping you escape timely before he spreads his tent.

Yesterday was no exception, Mr. Traffic Jam was having his picnic again and all the cars and Danfo were on a steady queue with forced obedience.

Keke to the rescue, this guys can manoeuvre all the nooks and corners of this busy Ikeja road. This was why all of us on "leggedis benz" were on a look out for them.

Ikeja to Ogba is not beyond them, thus any keke that comes into sight becomes a nectar to all of us who run bee-like to occupy any of the four sitting positions.

My record is 100%, i have never missed a keke i chase and yesterday my record was still intact. I relaxed in as this corner genius takes us past those proud danfo and the look on the passengers were wishful.

Then it happened, in my bid to leave IKEJA, i had hopped into a keke going to AGEGE but my destination was OGBA, i never asked where to, i just assumed i was in the right one.

By the way, i was still giggling at the guys i breezed past to get that seat. They must be wondering how the gentle guy on glasses could pull it off.

I went into a short sleep, my eyes ached from staring into computer screen all day. Reality embraced me when i was tapped to pay my fee and everywhere looked different.

I burst into laughter as i paid, no one in the AGEGE park knew why the corporate guy was laughing but some will think "finally, his village people got him".

As i walked out to navigate my way back to OGBA, it dawned on me.

Sometimes, We race to beat everyone and at the end we are starting another race but in a different location just because most times we think we have it all covered and REFUSE TO EVER ASK QUESTIONS!!

Always ask questions!

Why wait till things get out of hand when you can be the change that you want.

Stop expecting things to move when they want, be the catalyst. Nothing will Happen till you make something happen.


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Don't mind them.

Hating on First Class minds as if it is our fault they failed in school.
That was how one lady was telling me that my first class does not prove anything.

Person wey pass you Don pass you.
If he enters business, he will still out perform you. It is a difference in the quality of the mind.

Can you please dissect further on how a first class degree translates further to a one way ticket to a successful business empire with case study please?

Most first class I know thrive better in a contained environment like an office, they are not bold enough to stand solo because they are too one dimensional.

SarkinYarki:
I knew a creative dreamer like Kachikwu couldn't have graduated with Ist class from a Nigerian university !!!! Don't get me wrong I am not saying the man is not intelligent but the kind of intelligence he possesses is the creative and original thinker type and those kind of people can never finish with Ist class in Nigerias haphazard type of university education which is more suited for one dimensional thinkers and crammers who can cram and vomit exactly what the his Nigerian lecturer said .

This is the first comment I agree to entirely on Nairaland. What are you? My lost brother?

I try to explain this to people everytime but they never understand this concept.

Seeing someone taking the word off my mouth exactly how I put it out means I was not crazy afterall.

Thanks a lot my man!

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