₦airaland Forum

Men were born to be providers,we would always ignite in us our designating responsibilities,however,when our women see this as a routinely means of survival,problem breeds.

You find it a necessary means to foot your astronomical bills, you say he's stingy,not-caring,not-romantic,selfish etc when he can't provide that you selfishly place on him out of reason and logic.

Smh for our generation, with this kinds of women we have now as future mothers. lol

Omo,I am no bill gate but should I become wealthier ,I certainly won't wife a woman with this disease infected mentality o.

incometrader: Wen i see a beautiful girl pass by and that voice says 'go and toast her, u got all d skills'... another voice reminds me 'if she agrees, u'll be d one to pay for her next hair do.' You know wat i do? I keep my f**king skills to myself. @OP, i suggest u do d same and u wont have a problem wit 9ja babes.

In other words,you you equate money to the true criteria to wooing her right ?

Well,your skills and good mannerly personality are what is required by just and truth.

You are somewhat the male version of the sick mentality of these females.

monie: I have lived in 2 continents, lived in nigeria for 20 something years before living for canada abt 3yrs ago. The difference is clear, first of all there is contentment here, u dnt see poverty steering at u in d face, u dnt see ppl unemployed for months, I live in calgary where there is 2% unemployment, if u loose ur job u file for unemployment benefit where half of your former salary is given to u monthly until u can get another job.
Now let me come to topic, is plain prostitution, when I see my friends who do not work and havnt worked since they left school uploading pics of cars and BlackBerry and bags and shoes, it just breaks my heart. They call it runs, what is runs? I went last year for 3mnts (needed the long vacation) and kinda knew why it is this bad.
It is poverty, orientation from day one, peer pressure, environment. When I was in school in nigeria I had to look good everyday, my mum spent money on my clothes and I had sisters(4) so I dressed well. When I came here to school I saw that some of my classmates wore one shirt for a week, they dnt have that time. And they performed so well I had to ditch the gaging mentality and face my studies squarely. I mean if I am dressing well and having B+ and someone doesn't and is having A+ who wld look at me?
Sadly it wnt end, sometime later someone will raise this topic again,as long as there is unemployment in Nigeria and I better pass u mentality and poverty and no middle class this(runs) will be the order of the day.
That's what I think

You are correct.

A nation where you have people bathed with insecurity traits from a fundamental state to its roof stage, mentality such as I must have the best out of nothing(that includes no hard work input and lack of mental development), surely you don't expect the weaker vessel in that said failed society to belong to the pedestal of providers,they would rather feast/pest from the actual providers(male). In any slightest opportunity and manipulate whatever jargons to term it right.

A Nation where you have majority of its females striving on this mentality and mind-set for survival than the minority that know what being Independent is in actuality, my dear its safe to generalize that Nigerian women are gold-digging money-leeching prostitutes in this contemporary era.

You even see them on here defending it,trying so hard to make it a norm rather than eradicating the pest-like mind-set.

Shameful to say the least,I tell you.

coded80: who told u i am a student of federal university? u should pity urself not me, because i still understand the topic before commenting on it. But in ur own case u just read the headline and start commenting without reading the body of the topic, all because u are a jealous of federal universities or they fail to admit u after taking part in their exam for several years.

My Dear, Just Ignore him, @Bolded is actually his problem. One doesn't need a mind reader to pick those truth from his disturbed hearted mind. After reading his unconnected remarks to the said issue I knew he was emotionally bruised by this thread, feeling uncomfortable by it.

The thing is that, he fails to see how he's a problematic body to this embarrassing situation, in his own case,its an issue to self degradation more like a complex thing thus the ill mannerism he uses to approach this thread. He can change things though, if only he doesn't care and strive to enrich his mentality with societal equity.

Archmage: first of all, i think
1. the competition to get admission into federal schools is intense. so seemingly, only 'the best get admitted(which is not true). and those not admitted into federal schools end up in states schools.
2. federal schools get more grants and funding from government, so, it seems, 'what you spend more money on should produce better products'
3. federal schools have more professors and high ranking academicians. so, it seems they are open to better ideas and teaching.
my cents

I quite i agree and disagree with you. Federal schools are owned by the federal government such that they do most of its financing, and representing the country's versity nationally and internationally. On the funding and grants from the federal government is absolutely true,however it does not translate to astronomical monies paid by students rather it subsidizes expenses, only the federal government feels the effect of the high.

But i cant say the same for states and private schools because state tends to rely on the allocation/revenue from the state government,which often times isnt reliable hence the high pay. As for private,Well we all know the individualism orientation there. Lol

Now speaking of learning process and why it could probably favor those in federal schools is solely on exposure, availability of readily useful and much needful materials thus being at an advantage. What i dont understand is, some private versity are more of an advantage in this regard but still take low spot after federal and state in hierarchy of national standard. Ofcourse, there are exceptions with some phenomenal private schools such as the Babcocks, covenants etc. But they are still under the category of private tier.

promisechild: mr dullard abeg go sit don one post jare. this your post is very absurd and meaningless I shouldn't be puzzled if you are still a jambito.
Make I no start this year with brawl
I know u would quote this but I wouldn't be here to read it because am getting out of this s̶e̶n̶s̶e̶l̶e̶s̶s̶ topic right away.

Please do , You're beginning to sound like one that failed miserably in a wack school, I careless what your problem is anyways, just keep off as its clear this thread is simply beyond your grasp.

For God sake, why are some people so dull ? Just read what this guy is yapping about, pushing me to break his head when in actuality its my rule of ''No abuse/insult'' i'd be breaking.

promisechild: all you wrote out there are totally nonsense
Get your claims right before disgracing yourself outside
Employers don't need the school u went to. they need your IQ. all my brothers finished from state universities and they are doing perfectly well than their federal universities counterpart.
what matters most is the result
Even to gain admission into those state universities na wahala.

Oga, why not stay out of this discussion when you share zero intelligence Quotient in relating to this matter huh ? Please do me and you that favor,i beg you.

Did you actually read and assimilate my drift on this matter being prejudice,Bias against state and private schools as a stigmatized norm in our society ? The issue is more psychological than it is in paper Fact, and its a fact......[i just hope you understand this]. I didnt say smaller versity graduates dont get jobs or dont get called for interviews but that they tend to be at a lesser advantage in attaining opportunity and this is proved by statistics.

We can argue all we want but it isnt gonna change our societal-body-knowledge.
Take for instance the number of students for scholarship abroad by government bodies are mostly federal pupils in higher numbers.

Wish i could post a link clarifying my stand on this, revealing the embarrassing statistics and why people on the street tend to feel so but hide under the bid to avoid being an advocate of double standard traits. Please dont quote me again.

Obinoscopy:

*Cocks gun*

*Shows Formidable Presence before him, takes the toy gun from his infantile hands and taps his gorimakpa head*

Archmage: Its simply social difèrentiation, the same thing that makes people believe they cant be successful until they travel abroad, that women have lesser abilities than men and many other stereotypical beliefs. It a sad reality, and it has and will deny many people great chances to prove themselves. Moreover, as individuals, we more or less pass judgements on individuals before we meet them based on percieved characteristics. Employer also do the same!

True, Very Correct.

Its really a sad reality indeed. How we'd proffer solution to this stereotypical Nonsense is beyond the society, the society starts from individuals and employers shouldn't be exceptions to this solution.

promisechild: Another uninformed post again

Well let me educate

Companies don't recruit based on the schools you went to, that is why we have job aptitude test those who passed the apptitude test would be qualified for the interview then if u perform well regardless the university you attended you would be recruited.

So don't believe those fairy tales

Point Of correction, this is not inspired by ignorance or miss-information, but by actual observation and interaction by past experience from victims. People don't just make up things like this, people know when they are being ostracized and stigmatized.

This thread of mine is about obvious bias against smaller varsities, if you say you don't believe it, that's you being oblivious to your society. And I didn't say schools are the yardstick for qualification for employment but I know the bias isn't transparent either
. Of course your results are, but that doesn't change the fact that some(federal uni)get to be called for tests/interviews more than others(state/private uni), and the question is why ? When graduates from non-federal schools have quality grades too.

@last bolded, its no fairy tale, its reality.

Awwww Luxanne my dear, How I've missed you.. Smh .

whiteking169: op,i dont think that federal university are given preference than state or private,no no no,the only things you enjoy in federal university is the opportunity to meet some children of who is who,who choosed not to study abroad and decide to study in nigeria federal university,ops as a matter of fact all nigeria university are good,i mean they are the same,the only thing is the managements of this school,but academic staff are the same,exspecialy in engineering and technology studies in nigeria,ops i think what we should pray for is to stop the sydrome of who knows who and make employement open to all,and it should be on merit,if this is not done abeg still the same oyo we go they oooooo

You have a point but still on still, Federal universities are given more preference in our society, failure to see and admit it proves the undermining change.

I think its mostly an uneducated mentality of people,often times, people that are posed as educated,as in, graduates. Etc

Employers mostly, think graduates from federal schools stand a chance more at delivering results/practicals due to availability of equipments by federal government.

zutu: Ok space reserve am coming

Your input is important, please say something to help change the mind-set of people and our society.

Maybe Prejudice is the wrong choice of word to use but either ways,I believe you all get my point. Its not surprising that society or some people see that students from certain tier of Learning institution/college as elites whilst some as second fiddle Regardless of the brilliance of an Individual from said "Second Fiddle" schools. I suppose we all know the norms and order of superiority and quality bodies of education in this country as believed by many, are in no particular order,

-Federal University..

-Federal Uni Of Technology..

-State University..

-Private University.. Etc Etc

Please let's not act a blind eye to this disturbing and continual fact that perhaps is,to certain individuals,a psychological stigma,while others just wholeheartedly exude prejudge traits and bias towards state or private schools graduates.

A sister to a friend of mine I know well as a level-headed and exceptionally brilliant girl went to a state university,graduated since 2011 with a second class honors ,upper credit for that matter in Economics and she complained of not getting work hitherto due to this fact. My question now is, who should we blame for this Psychological sore that is hindering the chances of state,private schools graduates from getting the same opportunity as federal college graduates for interview or employment?

Are employers being fair with this ridiculous mental stigma ? I know the Quality of learning differs,but so as the individuals.

PS: Please I solicit everyone apply caution and courtesy in discussing this Topic without insult hurling at each other regardless of opinion disagreement.

Benjom: Send your CV as an attachment to exceptionalcv2014@gmail.com and let me make your day... free of course.

Ok, I Just Did. Thanks and God bless.

Hi Mrcivclinic, I've been following your thread and I must say I'm impressed,however,I want to send my cv for review and I'd really appreciate your input on it. Thanks and God bless

needinfo: Please i will need info on this stuff.i have just received a message from HR1461, saying i should come for an assessment test on friday 03/01/2014 at 161 ikorodu road beside lanre shittu motors, onipanu lagos by 9am prompt. Pls i want to know if this is real as no name of company was in the text message.i reside in delta state and don't know what to do.i know i applied for job online.any got this message too, pls what should i do as where i stay is far from lagos.i want to know if it worth the risk goin for it since i don't have an idea of the name of the coy.

See What People are Saying About It Here»

www.nairaland.com/1564602/hr-1461-invite-whos-got#20379239

If You Ask Me, I'd Say Don't Waste Your Time Knowing You Don't Even Stay In Lagos .

Good Luck

bestviewer: This is why I always call you a b@stard from the creeks. This is the picture of the road as at August still yet work is still on-going. I want you to show me red earth. As at the time theu took this picture the final coating has not been laid.

Guy Calm Down, Abagworo Has as Much Point As You..You Don't Have To Air Your Views With an Attachment Of Insults Na.. Besides, We're All Igbos Here Conveying Our Best Interest at Heart For The South-East Development.

However, You Also Have Valid Drifts Because I Also Visited The East Of Late and You're Not Far From The Truth,..I'd Like To Use This Medium To Bring To Everyone Willing To Explore Their Cyber Diss". On A Thread I Stumbled On Concerning Nigerian-Hating Non Nigerians, So Humiliating!!!

www.nairaland.com/1560375/nigeria-south-africa-f-q

^^Please Y'all Should Go There Now And Transfer The Heat Of The Tribal Beef You All Sling At Each other To Non Nigerians Hating On Us On Our Own Thread About Our Very Own Country,Nigeria.

Tell

Jesse Jagz Ft Wizkid - Baddest Girl.

Errmm OP, As Far As I'm Concerned, We Live In a Real World Where Good and Bad Things Happen, And Bad Things Happen To Good People Who Aren't Aware Of The Ill Fate.

Don't Listen To The Bias Righteous Talk Of Some People Here,To Me ,They're Being Hypocritical And Not Realistic. The Girl Isn't Righteous her Self,You Even Sound Righteous to Me More Than her For Being Seemingly
Open Which Reflects Naive On Your Part.[ Its Not A Bad Thing To Want Se.x From Your Girlfriend,Even Though Its A Sin *Real World* ]

To Be At A Balance With Truth And Reality, You Have To Do The NeedFul,Which Is To Dump Her Now,......Its Logical"

You'll See That She'll Be The One Begging And Offering Se.X Without Carrying Out Her Requirement.

That Kinda Girl Will Cheat On You When You Eventually Marry Her With Her Numerous BoyFriends. [ She Just Wants Marriage From You. ]

If You Wanna Be a Born Again And Fall Prey To Her Selfish Demand,At Least Do So After Dumping Her. Some People Are Selfish With The Saying Of Don't Take Advantage Of Her When Its Credence Clearly That She's The One doing So By Her Unscrupulous Demand.

Be Wise, Be Wise....!!

A Word Is Enough.

tensor777: Then why are you still with her if you've caught her out. What do you still want with this girl. Come on man out with it.
However if you are thinking of playing a fast one on her by getting engaged to her only to fornicate and run away you could suffer untold consequences. You have been warned.

She Pulled The Fast One Streak On Him First By Trying To Buy Marriage With Him To Sway To Her Advantage By That Whole Se.x Will Come After You Introduce Me To Ya Momma.

Don't Be An Advocate To Gender Favoritism"

Hey Dude , I'm Not Saying You Should Take Advantage Of her,

I Said Leave Her AsSs In The Ditch Zone,Let's See Her Response To Your Newly Found Phase Of The Situation, Don't Trust Girls Like Her, Period !!

Nobody Should even give me that crap of : "Is Se.x before Marriage Good" ?

Is she any different ? She aint even a Virgin and she starved his asSsSs for two years straight, and now she is willing to give it all up just for a meeting with his mom as "wife to be"..

That one na se.x after marriage ?

And she obviously has been Phucking her ex abi na distant boyfriend whilst playing the good girl image for a supposed husband to be guy in her mind..lol"

Kai! Smh...

Girls can fake it no be small.

Who told you when a guy loves you,he doesn't wanna phuck you ?

And why they'd choose to decline a guy they want to keep for marriage of sex baffles me....

That's attaching undue power to se.x and it aint cool.

If you're for No Se.X before Marriage" then stay like that and mean it for a deserving guy willing to wait,not cooling yourself with another guy while your own real dude starves of it.

Stupid set of specie!

Dehley: Let me be sincere with the whole
house. I still find it difficult to do the needful as it was requested by her due to an incident which happened long ago. I paid her an unexpected visit around 7pm that fateful day and met her first ever BF, we exchanged greetings and I left the place, only for me to discover this same guy passed the night at her place which I find very disgusting. She later apologised and I decided to act as if nothing ever happened.

Then She is a who.re.

She wants to trap you because she sees that you probably have prospect and you're kinda a weak person ,too docile and indecisive.

What is wrong with some girls, giving se.x too much credit ? That's why they end up being played because of the power they attach to s.ex like its a thing to sell and be rewarded for. If we're to go by some foolish girl's logic on here with the saying that "there's nothing wrong to use what you have to get what you want" wouldn't it be fair on your part to use what you have{Introduction to Mom} to get what you want{se.x from her } ?

The Girl deserves whatever the outcome would be by sleeping with her and not marrying her for being stupid and dumb.

Who uses se.x as a tool to get marriage, se.x is not a determinant factor for marriage, so after promising her on that ,you now have to pay back by marrying her regardless of what truly counts to be a wife ?

Nonsense !!

Its either she's a witch trying to get you to commit or she's dumb and trying to play fast with you which isn't good too.

NOTE: you alone knows her vividly to ascertain how genuine she is or isn't ,haven stayed with her for two years without se.x.

If she sincerely is good enough to be married to(which I doubt,IMO though) then do the rightful but otherwise ? Hmmmm

Tell her you're not interested in the relationship again and make her see reasons with you why you aren't interested ,which is , her using se.x as a gimmick to tie the knot with you,and you can't trust such girls, period.

Stupid girl didn't give you se.x for two years now she wants to give it up just for meeting your mom as bargain for marriage not even being married to yet ? FAKE GIRL ,IMO

IamDebola: NEXT!

LoL You Didn't Just Quote Me With The NEXT " Impression ?

Well, I'm Not Gonna Respond To That Because That Is Not What I'm About .

Smh ....

On a Thread With Religious Matter, Nah, Like I Said, Na You Sabi.

My Own Argument is, Jesus is God.

Came to us as Man so we'd understand the teachings more and was sacrificed as Man in flesh.

I mean, was Muhammed born of a Virgin woman, conceived by the Holy Spirit ?

Jesus is God the second, in the place of the Holy Trinity" God the Father, God the Son" , and God the Holy Spirit ,which still makes him God but in different form ,spirit and responsibility in heaven. Don't argue, Just believe in your doctrine and be good. Whether you're a Muslim, Christian ,etc

What Matters the most is that his Teachings is of Good and Good alone, devoid of Sin/Darkness ,because of course ,he's the Light.

So search your heart if he's in you, then Highlight his traits in your everyday life to yourself and to people ,only then would you make heaven.

Otherwise, Na You sabi .

Bale

Dime

As usual, the theme and dynamic of this convo has changed due to lack of reasoning and empty quota of some illogical goons on here, Just like women do naturally,always illogical and crafty when points in deliberations don't sway their way.

How ironic that the person conveying such cunning lines to buttress points to govern or shield the whole essence of pride in women is no other but a Man,..mmmmh Must be an attorney to "The Association of Nairaland Feminists Movement".

Left to me, I'd say Just drop your pen,dust your collar,adjust your tie and call it a quit, you can't keep up with this kind of debate that doesn't even require much of intellect,just common sense. SMH