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It's gotten really bad now, I just can't help myself. Ugly man, fine man, poor man, rich man. Any man whatsover, I just have an unhealthy yearning towards them, help me!!! Please?

Thanks everyone for all your replies. I have decided to let her know in person when I see her

What should I do if she doesn't believe. I value our friendship and don't want to be responsible for a break up

Harbosede02: Say notin 2 her,btw y are u avoiding ha??did u do anytin wrong 2 her?or lemme say do u think u are at fault??or are u feeling guilty??
Don't let wah happened between u and dat psychique destroy ur relationship wit ur friend,don't avoid ur friend,d person u sud avoid is dat mad man ur friend calls a bf..#shikena

What if she doesn't believe me,maybe think I'm the one trying to seduce him

I have been very good friends with this girl for 6 years and she is dating a boy who is 4 years older than us they have been together for about 5 months.

a couple of weeks ago I was at her house with a few other friends, i went into her bedroom to get my phone which was charging, And he was lying down on her bed. I apologized incase i caused any disturbance. he started getting VERY flirtatious, and grabbed my arm and pulled me onto the bed but i fell on top of him, he quickly turned me over so he was on top. I tried to push him off (but he was insanely strong, and 4years older) and repeatedly asked him what he was doing but he just kept grabbing me down and kissing me and putting his hands down my skirt.

I thought he must of been of been drunk or high, but i couldnt smell it off him. so i tried to scream and he finally let me go. I ran out of the room and left the house.

I've been ignoring my friend for the past 10 days and shes starting to get worried and ask questions...what do i say to her?

i lost my virginity when i was 18. My boyfriend was pressuring me to sleep with him , saying that he had a hard on constantly and that he might hurt someone or kill himself if we didnt do it. (he had slept with other girls before) I was depressed at the time. I gave him presents, money etc but he insisted, sending me text saying don't come round if you don't do it.
i was tight i screamed and cried a bit, i said it was ok , eventually he did it, and i felt sore. and afterwards he was really happy, i just left straight away went home and cried. this is consent. but i feel so bad that i let him, it was upsetting and i just let it happen, i didnt want it to be like that.

I have really low self esteem i ve always been told i m unattractive and stupid, i guess thats why i didn't stand up for myself. it has been a few years, i m not with him, but i have never had a proper boyfriend since then and never been involved sexually with meaning with anyone since. i want a boyfriend, but nobody likes me in that way. just him. I know he has other relationships, i have deleted myself from facebook because i drifted from my friends too much and have not really met many new people.he did get very obsessive over me, telling me he loved me all the time. now i will never have anyone who will love me again like he did

not spoken to him in years, was thinking about contacting him, i d like to talk about stuff, i think i want him as a friend, is that ok?he always said he would be there for me , i have a horrible feeling he never was.

Thanks for your responses o, my ex wants to come and kill me because he bought me expensive stuff while we were going out and now we've broken up, he claims he wants 'his investment' back to give to his 'new market'.What insult!

Love nwantintin. life's too short for love, be a player
Best lifestyle i assure you
minimum fucksss given

GoodFaith: I think that you are telling half the story
No it is a gift
But Engagement Ring should be returned

Why don't you tell the other half

dasparrow: Let me tell you why Nigerians make marriage a do or die affair. Many Nigerians force people to get married so that they will have a place to go to on Saturday where they will get free food and drinks at no cost to them. Most Nigerians cannot afford to travel the world, visit new places, have fun, etc. So the only opportunity they have to socialize is by going to weddings. So, if so many people stop marrying, Nigerians will no longer have a chance to obtain free food and drinks on Saturdays. You know poverty they say is a bytch.

The Nigerian-bred men force women to marry because many are lazy when it comes to domestic work. They cannot cook or clean up after themselves. Many are even too lazy to wash their clothes. In addition, the average Nigerian-bred male is a sex addict and needs vargina at his disposal 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. So, he desperately need a wife in his life at some point because he knows he will benefit from this institution called marriage more than the woman ever will. As a married man, he is automatically entitled to vargina no matter how tired the wife is, he is entitled to cooked meals, his clothes washed, his home cleaned, and a human incubator whom he can impregnate at will every year or every other year. So you can see that a Nigerian-bred man benefits much more from being married as suppose to staying a bachelor so why won't he cunningly put pressure on women to get married?

The Nigerian-bred woman gets married because she thinks she will have an easier life once she is married and earn societal respect. She feels she will be able to demand for money from the husband anytime she pleases. She also thinks that all that lovey-dovey she and her husband engaged in during courtship will continue even after the marriage. But then, reality sets in. The Nigerian-bred woman get's married and finds out the hard way that the grass is not greener on the other side after all. She discovers that society will still disrespect her if she does not bear children immediately. She finds out that her in-laws don't give a damn about her. She finds out that her husband is cheating on her with another woman. She finds out that the man is just there in the home like a trophy on the shelf. She the wife has to do all the cleaning, cooking, child rearing, helping out with the bills and still give the man sex after a long hard working day.

She finds out that society will still not respect her if she bears children that are not males and society will still stigmatize her should her husband die before she does. She will find out that everything she and her late husband ever worked for will be acquired by the male members of her husband's family who will come to the city promptly and take everything away from her leaving her and and her kids with nothing out on the street.

She becomes miserable realizing that her life would have been much better and peaceful if she had just stayed single and maybe adopted a kid or two. So, since misery likes company, she begins to torment single women wherever she can find them making them believe that their lives are not complete without marriage when in actuality, she is just looking for members to join her misery club called the marriage institution. Only insane people go into an institution. If you are sane, what do you need an institution for? Intelligent people know that marriage is for people who are addicted to sex and people who do not know what to do with their lives hence they need to attach themselves to another human being so they don't sink like a ship that has not been anchored.

dasparrow: Telling it as it is since 19 kokoroko.

Chop knuckle! Your head is correct

GoodFaith: It should not be a do or die
You busy having one night stand on Oct 17
Please keep going for one night stand

See me see trouble?!

For example, while you were going out he bought you a Rolex watch, are you supposed to return it after breaking up? These gifts could be in any means, let's get the ball rolling

mellad: My dear pls dnt mind d guys on Nairaland most of them are immature. I'm a Nigerian and currently dating a Ghananian.Despite all sorts I hear and read about Ghananian men,mine is different.I live in Nigeria while he is in Accra,we travel to see each oda and we love ourselves. What I'm saying in essence is that reality is different from social media.Meet a real and matured Nigerian guy and I'm sure u will love him not all dese bunch of ignorant people trying to degrade u. I av also met some Ghananian guys on social network who just opened their mouth saying trash but personaly I have found out that not all Ghananians are what I have read about dem and seenn. The few I have met are nice,caring and loving people.So no matter what I hear or see some Ghanians display der bad behaviour here,I rily don't care,its d persons's personality not the tribe or Nation. In conclusion my dear dnt judge the average Nigerian guy but what u see here,Nigerian guys are good

I think you're the only one here who is actually given me excellent advice, thank you so much

davidscot007: Hey am david from nigeria am tall fair in complexion and huge too. I speak english very well add me on whatsapp for a hookup trust me u won't regret me am different from odas just give me a try plss am also lookin for a sincere and honest foreign girl or lady per say thanks alot am lookin forward to meetin u. +2348134956006

Sorry I'm not foreign, Nigerian gal to the core

Why do all akwa-ibom men have female figures, figure 8, hips, ass n all ehya iyanya all I want is your waist

tintingz: Dumbest post....

So women are ghost in the car while men are the human being and how many passerby will have time to push your car even the area boys will collect money from you after they help...If it was my sister in the car I will tell her to come down and let push this car. We are same blood for God sake.

And what if she gets hurt in the process?

charlesblaze: i happen to b in d medical line and av seen gals with boils, sores,warts etc on their p..ussy cos of unprotected sex and well lemme tel u most guys prefer skin to skin sex and this risks the gal to std's unwanted pregnancy and exposure to infection of uterus, most guys are not aware of this female condom, so if ur guy insists on skin to skin dnt worri juxt wear it or else had i know would be ur portion

Thanks for the insight, would the guy know if I was wearing one?

charlesblaze: hunie one truth remains u wud still go to him so i advice u to carry ur female condom

But why should a woman wear a condom

charlesblaze: hunie becareful o d guy banged u yestaday and he now knows hw sweet ur p..ussy is dats y he is cuming for more.. And since u know dat u dnt have self control i advise u not to go but if u must go try and take a condom with u, a female condom wud be beta, wear it witawt him knowing because i trust d guy wud want skin to skin just lyk u both did yestanyt thanks finally dnt be a cheap bitch to dat guy period

Thanks for your advice, The situation just worked out that I ended up not going even though I intended to but I'm happy it happened

KingMEXX: This is Serious!! Weren't yu afraid of AIDS?

Well obviously that was the last thing on my mind in the heat of the moment

Annie2gud: Op...hoe he used nylon on usorry slip of thimbs...i meant con.dom?

No, he didn't have any condom, it was very spontaneous, it just happened

Thanks for all your comments, I feel much better than last night. I just felt like used poo yesterday.

Anyway the guy in questione just messaged me that he wants to take me out tonight and he has a surprise for me.

I want to go but at the same time, I'm scared to go, what if we have sexx again. I don't think I have good self control

Just got home now after having se.x at a guys house. Should I feel guilty or good? I'm not sure how to feel was I rape.d? I didn't intend for it to happen, I objected once but it still did

agrovick: Do u av to put ideas in my mind #tongueout

mi'lady u actually dont look 18, no offence

No offence taken mi man
Let me wash off my full face makeup and let's see if you still think the same

proevan: Don't worry dearie light always overcome darkness, there is noting like living the truth you sure going to have agreat reward.

Thanks Hun