i luv my body, but i have a pot belly that i cant seem to get rid of since i had my kids

still like what i see in the mirror though, minus the pot belly

oh my GOD what is dis

How come a great deal of women are never grateful (in the end) for all the resources a man commits on them during a relationship? No matter how little or great your 'investment' on them, all is bound to come to nought. In the event of a break up (induced, perhaps, by her discovery of a higher bidder), they scorn you and cynically remember only your shortcomings. Remind them of all the good, and all the effort and resources you wasted on them, their demonic response would be something like this: "and so what? Whats the big deal there? Didnt i also invest my time (& body)? Hiss. Cos you bought me some stuff I won't hear word. There are men who buy new cars and houses for their women and yet they don't talk."

may be ur shortcomings are more than ur investments, or maybe you are the type that nags about the money that is being spent by you.

if you are the type that keeps reminding her of the money that is being spent on her she wont appreciate because it will look like you are not really happy  spending the money

Dis is what happns wen u marry a bad woman.

if she is a bad woman i doubt he will keep putting her in the family way

Dis is what happns wen u marry a bad woman. @poster i can c dat u want 2 break dat family. By d time u take d advice i c females on dis thread, trouble don gas 4 dat family. Leave them 2 manage themselves. U werent there wen they had their 1st & 2nd kids. Why now? I have a feelin u are a bad influence. Hw many times does your own husband wash your plates. The man is not complainin that his wife cant cook(since u are now their cook), why is she complainin about him washin plate. Wen they go settle 4 bed, na u go b topic of discussion

Well they brought me in to this matter because i am that close to them,if the husband feels am a bad influence i am sure he will not discuss this with me.
And i was their when they had there 1st and 2nd and as a friend i help her out sometimes, the same way she helps me out when i need her help.

As for cooking for her sometimes, let me tell you a home truth some pregnant women cannot eat what they cook because they have taken in so much aroma of the food, when they try to eat the food they end up vomiting everything they have eaten,(i am talking from experience )and they end up starving themselves.

As for my husband washing up and doing some choirs i am proud to say he helps me out, although it was not so at first, it all changed when i had to go into hospital for a week due to sickness, he had to deal with the two kids by himself and he could see that taking care of the home was not an easy task for a healthy person, talk less of someone unwell.

I personally have advised, she does what she can do when she has the strength and leave the rest until she is strong enough to do them.(i do not think this is an advice of someone trying to break a home).

i do pray and hope it is resolved. .

hot room

was dating smallie before i met my wife to be but even b4 smallie and i started i told her that i would not marry her at all and she decided to go ahead with the relationship

why should you be having sex with someone you know you cannot marry?

I have a very simple question to ask the Wife in question. Does it really mean that if the man dies or travel during the period of her pregnancy, the woman won’t continue to live her life and do the necessary domestic work again? Who will be doing all these things for her in such a situation? I’m not wishing any body dead any way.

Why will someone use spittle to wash their hands when they are close to a stream filled with water,
if you dont have have a partner to help out am sure you will find other means of helping your self , but when you have one, why should you suffer like those that do not

I’m sorry; my contribution to this matter may sound crude and provocative. I advise that you take in good faith.
I have a very simple question to ask the Wife in question. Does it really mean that if the man dies or travel during the period of her pregnancy, the woman won’t continue to live her life and do the necessary domestic work again? Who will be doing all these things for her in such a situation? I’m not wishing any body dead any way.

There are two options I’ll implore them to take.
1. To either come back to Nigeria and process a visa for small girl who may be relative or friend to serve as House Help for them, or
2. Get a nanny over there.
The African men I know are not always comfort with that kind of relationship even though they are living in US or UK. Irrespective of how long they may be there. “A mangrove living near the water for so long does not make it a crocodile”. If this attitude of hers is being copied from the white women, you the post of this thread should advice your friend to stop it now before it brings a crack into their marriage or if you admit that you are the one, nobody is going to circumcise u.

I am yet to marry, but I think I may do some of things if the need arises. But any day may wife feels that it is my duty and responsibility to do them cos she pregnant or sick as the case may be, that day will mark my end of doing such things.

Well she never said it was his responsibility to do them because she is unwell, she actually still does this things, she still cooks, cleans, wash up dishes, take care of the other two kids she recently stopped working because she was too sick to work.

the point is when we are sick be it a man or woman we need some to fall back on when the sickness gets too much,

are you guys trying to tell me that when you get sick and you have some one that lives with you be it brother ,sister or friend you wont ask for their help when you need it ,
well i think the same should apply to couples that claim to love themselves, they should make themselves available to one another.
I am sure the help will be appreciated

Me is sorry for your life and that of your gf too Tongue Tongue Tongue

am not going to reply your post any more because i have decided to go with the saying that goes SILENCE  IS THE BEST ANSWER FOR A FOOL

Nope, daddy-may-u-walk never treated mums like that cos mums knew how to act right Grin Grin

And i will not end up like that cos i'll make sure of it before i jump into marriage Grin Grin Grin

am sorry for your life

Dude can branch somewhere on his way back home and eat wella, when she's hungry, she'll get off that butt and wash aplate at least to eat Grin Grin Grin

Am very sure if your father treated you mum like that you never forgive him

its people like that end up sad lonely old men that both wife  and kids have abandoned  

PLS GROW UP

[/quote]let me get this right, there are 4 people in this family so how many plates are we talking about here, the same woman who is sick or ill has time to chat to her friend about her matrimonial issues. Why cant the friend even help her with the dishes afterall if she is so concerned about the marriage to open a thread about it, helping out with the dishes would have been a better way to show she cared[quote]

well i do help her cook from my house sometimes  because she cant eat what  she cooks

A woman gave birth to me, and she went thru the same thing if not more than many women go thru today cos:
1. I was massive for a baby
2. She had me after 8 girls, and
3. She had to raise me alone after my dad was assasinated when i was only 2 months old!

Now, my input to your bloody thread was one of reality and not one of fantasy. . . My mums didnt ask Daddy-may-u-walk, to go do the dishes cos she was ill after 2 months of my contraception cos she was a complete woman who knew how to handle her home and take care of her kids!
She didnt hire any helps either though she was in naija at the time!

The simple truth of the matter is that naija girls of now-a-days are just plain lazy, and are trying to adopt the western culture which will never work well with their men. How can u even stand there and proudly proclaim that he helps out when not asked but refuses to do anything when told to, that simply points at the fact that he doesn't like the way she tells him to do things which she should be doing. . .  I still stand on my point, she needs to get off that lazy butt of hers and get her affairs into order!

Nonesense! Tongue[quote][/quote]


I am sure your mum got help from your elder sisters because i know i helped my mum when she had my two younger siblings, i started helping out  from  the age of six, when i turned 13 my my gave birth another and i helped  all through i even helped to bath  the baby when he was a little older, my still bless me for the help i started rendering from a very young age.
My point is every one needs help every now and again not just only in pregnancy.

Reading your post i can see that you had ladies all around  you that did things for you and you are the last child that was not allowed to do choirs in the home, am sure that where you get your mentality from.

Anywayz the fact that you know all your mum went through having you should soften your opinions up a bit because no woman should have to go through that more especially someone that you claim to love.

 
nonsense back to you

Nope, just simply call me Fhemmmy or get me some nice pet name, like darling, chocomilo Grin , the day my woman call me Daddy, that is the day, i will wanna run away.[quote][/quote]


very funny

The so called brother in law must be made to leave that house, because he will end up breaking up the home completely if he remains there

My hubby snores too but any time i tell him to go see a doctor, he says i will but never does

His brother spent the night recently at our place and his brothers snores kept him awake all night, that motivated him to do some thing about it, but its yet to work

Well, its obvious that any criticism is not sensible advice, u are already biased in your own judgement and that leads me to believing that u r indeed the person suffering this situation. . .

Quite honestly, i think your husband is taking it quite lightly, thunder for fire ya yansh if na me Grin Grin Grin

Firstly i need this advice for a family  very close to me, they invited me into there this  matter because the man feels i can offer GOOD  advice since i have a family of my own and they help solve my family  problems sometimes. whether  you believe  me or not is your  headache

Secondly i did not start this thread for to receive rude comment, i am not fighting anyone

thirdly if you you have to criticize give a constructive one


AND STOP BEING PLAIN RUDE   TO WOMAN I AM SURE A WOMAN GAVE BIRTH TO YOU

Ehen na, what about single parents who even have to take care of kids and work when they're 7 - 8 months pregnant?

If worse comes to worst, she should hire a nanny. . .  or take the kids to a day care centre or something like that. . .  This is her third kid, i want to believe she at least spaced them 2yrs apart, shouldn't the 1st 2 be in sch??

Once they come over to jand, they start forming one rubbish lifestyle that we have not seen before.

Ask her to get off her lazy bum and get on with it, and she should stop disrespecting her husband, and she should stop involving third parties like u in her family affair. . .  Shiooorrr Grin Grin Grin[quote][/quote]

You forget people back home get alot  of help, and employing a nanny back home is really cheap  unlike jand everything is expensive

and as for single parenting, if you dont have a partner you will learn to cope, but why should she live like a single parent when she has got a partner  

pls give a sensible advice

well

theres nothing to do abt it sha

so the woman mite as well stop complaining and live with it

but this should serve as a lesson

to women who jump at the forst proposal

it is very important to KNOW a guy

before marrying him

little little things can still make your life hell!

i guess you are right

By the way just because the woman is 2 months pregnant the whole world should come to a standstill? The same guy goes out to hussle to feed the home has to come back and start cleaning up as well, I know women who are pregnant and still work till near their delivery date, with husbands working abroad yet they take care of the kids and the house without bleating!!! Like I said there are 2 sides to every story and nothing should be taken at face value when it comes to matrimony matter

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I am really surprised a human can say such a thing i am a mother and i get sick when pregnant and i know how it feels like when pregnant especially when you got two other toddlers to care for,

i have three two kids and was very sick during pregnancy, with my first child i had to stop working because i could not cope and with my second i stop working when i was 7months and i tell you those months where not easy at all i just had to work because we needed extra money

and dont forget that this lady has no extended family to pop in some times to help

please give a constructive advice to some one who wants to make her home better

To be honest am friends with the both of them and the man has told me that he feels the woman is trying to walk all over him him when she tells him

to do things like wash the plate or change the babies nappy,  he believes this is a woman work.

But like i said earlier he can do some things by himself when he feels like it, but  he hates it when she asks him to do them

Hi guys i need advice to pass on to a friend , this lady is about 2 and half months pregnant with their third child, and during pregnancy she is usually

really sick, and since they live in the uk there is no family member that can come to help at this difficult time so she ask her partner to help with some

house work, but any time she does this the man gets angry saying the woman is disrespecting him by sending him on errand, he even find it difficult to make her a cup of tea.

Although he does do some work when he feels like it, but gets really angry when the woman actually ask him for the help herself.

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oh my God this is so funny

I think he is stingy,but even stingy people still tend to buy gift for their loved once at least on special occasions.

two years without a gift!!!!!

there is something wrong somewhere.Try tactfully asking him about it.