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When our Nollywood source had notified us of this story a few weeks ago, we had prayed that the couple would work out their differences and remain married.

I make a full disclosure here that Stella Damasus is one of the top Nollywood actresses that I genuinely like, and whose talents and grace even in the face of adversity she never betrayed or compromised. In an industry that is defined by all manner of shenanigans and conspicuous consumption of things flesh and flashy, Stella Damasus has truly carried herself with a unique aplomb and self respect.

In our April 2009 edition, we had broken the story of her engagement and eventual marriage to Mr. Emeka Nzeribe – a close relation of the infamous Nigerian politician – Arthur Nzeribe who single handely helped annul and truncate the march to democracy that the 1993 presidential elections had embodied. In the story, we had quoted her close friend who told us that she, like many other friends of the popular actress was worried by the fact that Stella may have foreclosed the prospects of remarriage, following the death of her first husband Jaiye Aboderin from heart attack five years ago.

They were heartened when Stella told them she had found love again in Emeka Nzeribe and had crowed about his gentlemanly tendencies and what a great shoulder to lean on he was! Emeka we had concluded in that story had moved into Stella’s home in Lekki – a choice neighborhood on Victoria Island-Lagos, Nigeria and the couple had appeared destined for a happy life together. However, according to an authoritative source one that was privy to the couple’s marital challenges, the six-monthold marriage has collapsed and the husband – Emeka has already moved out of their matrimonial home.

The dissolution of the marriage has shocked and saddened many in Nollywood and her close friends. Stella Damasus, as I stated earlier is one of the few Nollywood Alist actresses that has not had a lot of unsavory stories of sexual dalliances ascribed to her. Before she got married to the late Jaiye Aboderin, she was linked romantically with two other people: Richard Mofe-Damijo a frequent co-star and top musician Sammie Okposo.

Though it remained merely speculative about her alleged romantic relationship with RMD, she had not discounted the rumor neither did Richard giving fuel to the rumor that they indeed, had a fling. Her romance with Sammie Okposo – a talented artiste, who had also dated top actress Kate Henshaw, previously, was a known fact.

When she got married to the late Jaiye Aboderin, many had celebrated the union as close to a perfect one, given the manner they had celebrated their marriage, and the fact that both seemed not to have enough of each other. Unfortunately, Jaiye died five years ago, following a massive heart attack, and Stella’s world almost crumbled. After mourning her husband for years, she threw herself back into the industry, and actually played a real life role in the movie “The Widow”. It was in the course of this, that she met her second husband – Emeka Nzeribe and six months ago, they got married.

The question many are asking is: how did a marriage that had so much promise fail so soon? What happened? According to insider accounts, the marriage was all but certain to collapse. It was just a question of time. “Stella did not quite know Emeka very well before she got married to him” a source told us “She was probably carried away by his good looks, and possibly family pedigree. It turned out that Emeka was none of what he had purported himself to be.

Continued on page 10. Stella Damasus, during happier times with her first husband – the late Jaiye Aboderin. First and foremost, he moved into Stella’s Lekki home, and became totally controlling. Before he came into Stella’s life, she had a responsibility to her siblings. With Emeka in the picture, there were tensions and Stella was torn between filial fidelity and fidelity the husband. If Emeka had shown the capacity to compromise, it would have been easy to resolve, but he wanted to assert his rights as the husband, and was unwilling to accept anything else.

Soon, the children from Stella’s previous marriage to Jaiye began to feel the tension and that was where Stella put her foot down. Her children, she had maintained come first and if Emeka was not ready to deal with that, he could kiss the marriage goodbye. Soon, the couple began to inexorably drift apart and people started noticing Stella going out without wearing her wedding ring.” Another sore point in the sixmonth old marriage was that Emeka did not totally fulfill some expectations of a man who should be the head of the household.

“Stella was the one who brought home the bacon, while her husband was content to enjoying the fruits of her hard work. Stella did not quite mind this, initially, but when he started to question her relationship with her business associates – implying other motives, Stella felt very offended, especially given the fact that she did not compromise her marital vows in all her business dealings.”

Another source told us, infidelity was a major issue that torpedoed the marriage. According to this source “With the tension that was building up in their marriage reaching a boiling point, the two were hardly intimate and were sleeping in separate beds. Emeka, our source said, stated to have affairs with other women and did not seem to keep it under wraps.

He flaunted the affairs openly, angering Stella who also, allegedly reached out to an ex-boyfriend and resumed an affair with him.” Her reasoning in resuming an affair with an ex-boyfriend our source stated was “to deal with the devil you know as opposed to the angel you cavort.” With the two openly having affairs and showcasing it, it was all but time for the charade that was their marriage to finally collapse like a deck of cards. According to our source, Stella is done with marriage.

After two “attempts at fulfilling this sacred responsibility – the first one due to her husband’s sudden death, and the second collapsing under the heaps of deceit, insecurity and infidelity, she has decided to devote her time to her children, her career and her business in marketing and events management. Maybe, marriage was not meant for her.”

Story culled from the March edition of The Diasporan Star. The Disaporan Star is a Free Nollywood Paper in the U.S. You can subscribe to get a copy sent to you anywhere in the world by visiting

am just praying and hoping that dis is just a very very very bad rumour

@ topic for my blood sister YES

na wa oo

am not too crazy about the picture,but i think mercy johnson haters should give her a break

she is a good  actress

am loving this thread

please please please the boys parent need to be told before that young man gets out of control

@ topic none of the above

no matter what we do in life you will still find some bad belle people that will try to put you down

All i can say is that, Mercy keep doing what you know how to do best and if can afford it insure what ever you feel needs to be insured if it makes you happy.
I know its not easy, but try your best not to listen to haters.

oju ko ko ro and ai ni ite lorun. and some people steal beacuse its in their blood, they just want to steal something even thou they dont need it. whatever that is called i dont know.

its called SICKNESS

it does not really matter who does, but trust me our Nigerian people will make it a very big issue

may God give you the strength to cope with your loss

We lost our baby brother 10 years ago and it still hurts

many feel gas is way more expensive compared to kerosine

cannot stop laughing reading this thread,(my son keeps asking me whots funny mummy)

I'll forgive both of them, but they wont be part of my life any more

i think its true to be honest

post like this really upsets me, we cry of the unjust way the whites have over time terrorized us the blacks through recism while we our self's are racist among ourselves.

Any ways @op you claim to have dated this guy for over 4yrs so only you can decide if he will make a good husband, no one can make that decision for you.

Huh, come again

Quote from: prixxy on Today at 05:09:17 PM
if the woman's life is in danger due to the beating she is getting from the husband , she is not committing any sin by separating from the husband,

i think before she makes any decision, she needs to have a heart to heart chat with her husband, she should make based on the outcome of the chat.

if the woman's life is in danger due to the beating she is getting from the husband , she is not committing any sin by separating from the husband,

the  only time she goes against the bible is if divorces him, because the only ground for divorce is adultery

My baby don't even need to say a word to me about gifts or nothing like that before I make it rain.

my kinder guy

stupid girls,

you did notting wrong jare

@ Tonye-t
well said

@topic
God could see that that Adam was lonely so he made Eve for him, so if women are not worth it i am sure God will not make one for Adam

Immediate family, yes. Extended family, no.

same here

This is a very good story for all those that cheat should read(man or woman), YOU SHOULD NOT CHEAT UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE BECAUSE YOU SHALL REAP WHAT YOU SOW.

i do not feel sorry for her at all, because is people like her that give good once a bad name.Although its good to know that their are still some kind hearted guys out there.

@ aisha2
what you have said is so true,your uncle gave the best advice ever

Exploitative, self-centered women. Never ever do they say their own part of the bargain. You want me to give my kidney for you, so that i'd die and you'd run along with the next man. Duh. What do you have to offer in return? "a man who loves you would give his kidney", what then would a woman who loves a man give
From your tales by moonlight the only thing you say you have to offer is to be selfish and happy with yourself? Ha ha ha. So the purpose of a man's life is to kill himself trying to treat a selfish, narcissistic you like royalty? What does he get IN RETURN?. "Every woman deserves that kind of love and care". So the ONLY thing that qualifies you for all that is the MERE fact that you're a 'woman' (in addition to a dose of selfishness)? So even those promiscuous, treacherous love-peddlers deserve a sweet man's kidney simply because they are 'women'? I pity the mugus that you have successfully ensnared with that obnoxious spell of yours. You want to pick and choose 'choice' men like fruits in a basket; what would they gain from you in return? Tomorrow you'd succumb to another one's wealthy charms and break your kidney donor's heart; thats the only payback for good most women seem capable of.

@pro01
I do not know if you  believe in the bible, but i will quote it any way Ephesians 5 verse 28 and 29 says, SO HUSBANDS OUGHT TO LOVE THEIR OWN WIVES AS THEIR OWN BODIES; HE WHO LOVES HIS WIFE LOVES HIMSELF.
FOR NO ONE EVER HATED HIS OWN FLESH, BUT NOURISHES AND CHERISHES IT.
so it does not mean you are a mugu when you give a woman you claim you want to marry unconditional love,because if you really love her,you will not think twice before you go the extra mile for her.

As for expecting something in return, the same bible says their is greater happiness in giving than their is in receiving.
It is only some one with a wicked heart that you will do good to, but repay you bad.

When aisha2 said she was advice to a bit selfish, it meant that she needed to take care of herself , stressing oneself over a bad relationship does notting but brings you down physically and emotionally.So instead of stressing bring your self out of the relationship and take good care of yourself.
When you are relaxed and happy,people can see,and when you are looking nice people will want to be with you.

very funny,

but its true sha

here we go again, another women batering and belittling thread

@poster
I've got an advice for you plz plz plz do not ever get married cos it will be a complet wast of your time and the time any woman you might consider marrying,because with such views of women the marrage will not workout, you will constantly think she is cheating on you when she is not.


And Ive just got to say this, am really supprised to hear that a man is scared of marring because he thinks most women are cheats,because i believe it is really rear to find a married woman who cheats on her husband, but instead they are home makers, and they tend to want to keep their home together, even when the husband is unfaithful they forgive the man simply because they want to keep the marrage going, even in extream cases where violence is involved, i see women enduring all in the name of trying to keep the marrage and the family together, so i do not see women like these going about cheating.

Although i do believe they might be some bad eggs, but the OP is making it look like 90% of women are cheats which is really unfair and disrespectful