April 11

i am amazed at the response on here
BAD PARENT, PERVERT, YOU WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOUR DAUGHTER.............all this and more because because OP doesn't make conscious effort to cover up when his kids walk in on him naked. SMH

@ topic don't see any thing wrong with it,my mum is just like that especially with her upper body although my dad was more conservative, and to be honest if for any reason i accidentally see my dads naked body whats comes to mind is eeeewwwww am not suppose to see this runaway runaway. I think i felt this way because i was not use to seeing him like that.As for my mama dearest noting sexual comes to my mind, and no runaway feeling just mummy being naked because she is dressing up or even too hot to put a blouse on,no big deal as far as i am concerned.

Gaggi:
A woman cannot discipline an erring husband just as a child cannot discipline an erring parent. You can only give a word of advice or express ur fears. A man can and is expected to discipline an erring wife. Even your good book says so. I don't mean using the rod or verbally abusing her but he can scold her firmly.
He can also decide to lay down certain laws eg, i don't want that your friend Mrs A in this house again. That is if he knows Mrs A is becoming a bad influence.
All these feminism nonsense is not applicable in the real world. Even u feminist are humble when u get home. The day u start calling the shots in ur house is the day u pack out, u can only get away with it if u marry a spineless man like some ladies here.

hello mr
no man has the right to discipline his wife,he does not have have the right to shout at her.But he is to treat her the way he will like to be treated
If your employer shouts at you for doing something wrong am sure you will not like it,as that will mean you have been treated like a child and no adult like to feel that way.
Its best to call your wife aside and have good chat with her in a calm but firm way.Doing that will make her respect you more.
Nobody likes to shouted at, even animals don't react well when they are shouted at

Johndoe100:

Yes, I have children. No one would like their child to be beaten, I am sure you know that.

Sorry if i am asking too much question,am only trying to understand your point of view,
I will like to know what your reaction will be if one of your children came to you crying that there supposed husband has beaten her up because
she offended him.

Johndoe100: "Woe is me" has come again. Before you deliberately mislead those that are not here. There are in fact a community of damaged and activists in Lagos. To make them the norm is to show the lives of the Nollywood actresses and tell people that they are the "common folk". The truth is that in Nigeria a well to do man is virtually untouchable in the normal course of events. Let me give you an example of life in Nigeria in Lagos in fact:

A man I know, (yes, he lost his temper on a few occasions and had to put his woman in her place) was in a similar situation. His woman had found some damaged people similar to debrief08 and they started with this BS that she posted here. They tried to influence the kids all in secondary and universities. The children decided to support the mother. When push came to shove, the man went on strike, the millions ( and I mean millions that the ungrateful children spend in school fees etc) now was gone. The damaged ones now came with - get this " Yes, you were in University of London, but you can transfer to Yaba tech or Lagos Poly, they are good schools. Your younger ones can go to some schools around the corner". Needless to say before you could say Jack Robinson, the whole family had now discovered what an ungrateful woman their mother was. One of the boys actually drove the the "damaged ones" out of their house with threats of violence.

At the end of the day the foolish woman found herself alone and under very severe attack from all the members of her family, the children surprisingly now "remembered " what their mother does that would drive any sane man to violence. The Policemen involved became good friends with the man and drop by from time to time to "say hello" (those of you in Nigeria understand what this means).

Frankly women like debrief make me sick, they are just miserable people, who go around seeking other people to drag into misery with them. Lagos is as usual its hypocritical self. They make laws that everyone knows only apply to certain classes of people and certain people are untouchable. Sorry to say this , but as we all know Yoruba people just like strife and stress and in Lagos they have attracted a large number of nut cases to their inane causes.

Excuse me sir please i would like to know if you are a family man with children (especially girl children)If you do, how will you like some man whopping your child with a stick cane or belt or even with punches

Becacia_Barbie:
Lool...whr are the children Nd must u comment?? I aint fightn enyone, busybody! Its a free world okay! I gat my opinion nd u gat urs...if u dnt like mine...Deal wid it!!!

Look at this mumu calling me busy body......Since you and i agree that its a free world then let people dress how they deem fit, if you don't like how other people dress then DEAL with it.And besides you don't have to be rude while stating your opinion

Becacia_Barbie:
Slow poke...so u dnt undastnd wht i typed above?? I see...ur brain its rili useless den! I dnt ve to use ma big grammars all d time okay! Well If u dnt undastnd, hit dat head of urs right on d wall...a rough wall...dat'lld b better....in order for ur brain to adjust to its right position! #okbyebye

I guess while you so busy poking your nose into other peoples children's way of dressing, you forgot to teach yourself some manners on how to talk to people....Must you abuse must you fight. Please there is no need for all this insults.

coconut oil works wonders for me,i sometimes mix a portion of the coconut oil with water
(warm the water if the oil is in a solid form,so as to melt the oil)
Spray on the hair as you comb.
Hope this helps

Siena:

Have you got kids of your own? If yes, then my advice would be this:

Concentrate on your own children, and bring them up / dress them the way yourself and your spouse deem fit. Children are a full-time responsibility from birth till they're 18-years-old. If you poke your snout into the business of others, you'll have less time to bring up your own kids.

In other words, mind your own business!

Yup i agree with you, the OP should mind his business and focus on his family if he has any, because what you may class as indecent may be completely decent to someone else

jennykadry: ^^You have no idea how annoying they are. Bloody psychos

see their mouths like unripe agbalumo. VERY UGLY THINGS

jennykadry: ^^You have no idea how annoying they are. Bloody psychos

see their mouths like unripe agbalumo. VERY UGLY THINGS

Abeg take it easy on them

This new style na WE MUST BE NOTICED BY FIRE BY FORCE

Fhemmmy:

So what would he have done if woman shouted at him to go to the back or even handed him money to climb an Okada

don't mind the ye ye man jor

Fhemmmy:


How exactly did she conduct herself?

she stylishly ordered him to the back sit

samguru:

i did not express any bitterness on my face before her husband told her to come and beg me,see! our friendship has grown to stage where you would hardly know if we are not born of the same parent.
i know am not suppose to complain because it is her right,but the way she conducted herself that day infuriated me.

oga sir please continue to be a good friend to your friend and drop the issue...that lady has done noting to you

I really doubt that she came to you kneeling begging for your forgiveness.........but if she actually did, that means not only did you drag this matter to Nairaland you must have complained bitterly to her husband not minding if your actions will cause problems in that home.Na waa for you ooo oga sir,such a trivial matter and you have made such a big deal of it.

This lady in question is not a girl friend but a WIFE and her place is beside her husband be it in the car,bus,church sit,or any where for that matter.Don't try to take her position simply because you helped them out on their wedding day.
What GOD has joined together let no man put asunder.

By the way, don't think she begged you because she thought she was wrong, your friends wife got a good head on her shoulder and not petty like you so she did not see the need to keep dragging a trivial issue like this and making it in to a bigger issue.
Am sure you must have lost her respect from now

OK am in big trouble now, who asked me to view this thread now....am just salivating up and down

If i buy for one i will have to buy for the rest oooo if not their will be wahala plus commotion in the house that day

As it sometimes seems to be more things in the shops for the girls,i feel like i buy more for them,but i have to hide the items that i buy most of the time until i find something suitable for my boy

MEN MEN MEN Do not give out advice you can not take your self

To Johndoe100, harakiri, neyostica and other men who are openly commending this sort of sick animal behavior, as maclatunji has said am sure you guys are extremely weak men who are easily manipulated by women. You guys come to a faceless forume to claim macho men who beat up ladies with the aim of killing them because you have been provoked by them, while in the real world you guys don't even have the balls to even approach a lady for friendship.You have come here to vent out your frustration since you have not laid a woman for a couple of years now.
SMH weaklings *rolls eyes*

i do not need to cheat to prove my point to a cheating spouse... if i can not bear the taught of him sticking the joy stick that was meant for me into one dirty rat hole
i will divorce his sorry cheating behind and move on with my life

Creating a thread for lovers of nail polish to show swatches of there nail colour and collections

obowunmi

good luck to you

@obwunmi

pride pride pride will take you know where

i wish you all the best

because you gonna need it

obowunmi:

look there are many Nigerians looking for jobs out there, so you hire a driver and if you can't hire a driver, then get them a taxi. Life is not as hard as some people make it seem.

But I won't be driving any in-law anywhere. End of story.

Life is not as hard as some people make it seem. So whats so hard in driving your inlaw somewhere

Siena:

If my mother-in-law slapped me, she'd be taking a trip to the dentist, as my retaliatory slap will be violent enough to knock her across the room. She'll be lucky if it doesn't dislocate her jaw.

I say this without apology, my wife knows I wouldn't stand for it.

How will you feel if its the other way round,

your your wife slaps your mother because b'cos ur mother gave her a slap first

think about it.

obowunmi:

Pride? you are the one who has reached the the false assumption that the OP doesn't love his wife because he doesn't want to turn into an inlaw houseboy. Now you're here, speaking in tongues -- like a mad man.

This is the internet, now be CLEAR when you write, we can't read your mind.

so driving the father inlaw somwhere will turn the man into a houseboy na wa oohh

LOVE YOUR WIFE AS YOU LOVE YOUR SELF ,so if you can do it for your self why cant you do it for your wife?

if you can drive your dad why cant you drive ur wifes dad?

Nekai:

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you no well

@op that was a good one

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It's sad that alot of men that are raised by single moms turn out despising women. It's natural for these guys to only see the negative things associated with raising a family, since they never saw their dad do anything. It seems like these men are trying to find reasons in their mind to rationalize away the need for a father/husband to stick around. Because to acknowledge that marriage is desireable, wanted, and respected by men, is to acknowledge that their absentee dads are really sad individuals. (Even if the dad is late, these boys sometimes grow up to misunderstand the role of a father in the home.)
Any man that was raised by both parents would have seen that a marriage isn't always perfect, but the good times outweigh the bad, especially if you have found the right person.

Both husband and wife make sacrifices in a marriage.

The man, who is the head, bears the burden of responsibility. As the oldest child I understand that this invisible pressure can sometimes be overwhelming. However, as much as I resented it at times, this pressure has pushed me to succeed. The pressure that a man faces in a marriage should push him to succeed. It is a weak man indeed who will destroy/tear down their marriage by abusing or cheating on his wife. If you can't control your sexual desire or your anger, most likely you do not have the control necessary to be successful in the real world.
The woman is responsible for  the household duties. It is no easy task to keep a house running amoothly. It can be a full time job by itself. In childbearing a woman must sacrifice her body. This is more intense than it seems, because a woman has shoulder this responsibility alone, even though the man might be by her side. In the case of a miscarriage or stillbirth it is the woman who suffers the longest, in most cases these things haunt her for life because she will feel like her body failed the baby. Pregnancy is not easy. A woman goes through a whole lot of misery in those 9 months. And childbirth itself is an unbelievable amount of agonizing pain. After, the woman is tied down to the baby 24/7. A man thinks he gives up his freedom? He most likely knows nothing about being shackled to a mini person for months and years. It basically makes the woman do double duty because she has to feed, cloth, clean, and entertain another person beside herself for 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Every other child multiplies this effort.
Bottom line, a mother sacrifices more for the children. My mother sure did. That doesn't mean she contributes the most, but sacrifice[quote]

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Harakiri  na wa for this your women bashing, i wonder what is behind your attitude towards women

Any way @topic i feel both parent make sacrifices,

but the woman makes the most sacrifice.

And am so glad to make any sacrifice for my family because they are worth it.

As a matter of fact its a privilage to be able to make those sacrifices, i cant imagine doing otherwise.