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dgr8truth:
What you should be concerned about is not merely looking for red flags, but looking for virtues.

If you approach every woman asking, “What is her red flag?”, you may eventually find one in everybody. Human beings are imperfect. Everyone has weaknesses, habits, insecurities, past experiences, and areas where they still need to grow. If the standard is a completely flawless person with no red flags whatsoever, you may never find one.

The more important question is: What virtues does this woman possess?

Does she have integrity?
Is she respectful?
Is she teachable?
Does she know how to communicate?
Is she compassionate?
Is she responsible?
Can she admit when she is wrong?
Does she value commitment?
How does she treat people who cannot benefit her?
Does she have self-control?
Does she respect boundaries?
Can she forgive?
Does she genuinely desire to build a home, rather than merely enjoy the benefits of marriage?

These qualities matter because marriage is not sustained by the absence of weaknesses; it is sustained by the presence of good character and the willingness to grow.

A person may have shortcomings and still possess the virtues necessary to make a good spouse. Likewise, someone may appear attractive, successful, intelligent, or impressive while lacking the character necessary for a healthy marriage.

This does not mean red flags should be ignored. Some red flags are serious and should be taken very seriously—especially patterns involving dishonesty, abuse, manipulation, addiction, uncontrolled anger, or a refusal to take responsibility. But there is a danger in making red-flag hunting the entire framework for choosing a spouse.

If all you do is search for what is wrong with someone, you may become so focused on eliminating imperfections that you fail to recognize the qualities that make a person worth building a life with.

Don't just ask, “What is wrong with her?” Ask, “What is right with her, and does what is right have the strength to sustain a marriage?”
Because ultimately, you are not marrying a list of red flags or green flags. You are marrying a person. And the question is whether that person possesses the character, values, maturity, and virtues that can help both of you build a peaceful, faithful, and meaningful marriage.

goslowgoslow:
It is meant for those who are having sex so why take it when they won't have sex? Regardless it won't have any effect but just a waste of money. I know you are just trying to be funny 🤣.

goslowgoslow:
See question o.... lmao 😂🤣. Do celebates have sx?

goslowgoslow:
Lol.🤣😂 All those medications are not big deal in the country where I live, millions of people are taking them. They display them like your television they don't hide it🤣🤣.

stanvesco:
It exists.

Cabotegravir and lenacapavir injections are available.

goslowgoslow:
You dey mind the ignorant dude.
There are pills like Descovy that prevents HIV and Doxcy that prevents other STDs. People will not educate themselves, they will come on line to embarrass themselves.

SeriouslySense:
The greatest enemy to an African is an African. Just give them money and they will sell their birth right

Anyway, I just hope as Nigerians are going to UK, they are also upgrading their mentality

Now some have come to value peace of mind, the birds and creativity, although many still carried their confusion over there.

Ilamina:
We rock

Our private part is beautiful and delicate

Protect it at all costs

Racoon:
Just imagine the kinds of condition they are churning out everyday. UK is an over rate geographical entity. Africans stay and make your countries work as the late Nelson Mandela once said.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
You are asking if we be animals?

What about the person responsible for this current problem everyone are facing and complaining about on this very thread? The person responsible for taking fuel from around N168 to now N1500! What will you call that person? And expecting the then prices of all others to remain in a steady state of flux?

Do you know that that singular action caused the chain reaction culminating in what people are hyper ventilating and gasping for air over the hardship on this thread?

VeeVeeMyLuv:
That is just it
Return the fuel subsidy and other subsidies period!
Then appreciate the local currency
Since they are reluctant to do what their predecessors did the minimum wage gave it from N21 to now N70,000 over decades past.

Imagine if they insisted to hold it at N21 !!!.

TheStoriesOfMan:
Nigerians are not ready. When they are ready, they know what to do.

Jozilinn:
Op there's nothing wrong with you but I want to tell you something never try to make your life journey look bad everyone went through situations growing up too. Maybe you thought you will figure it out sooner but I'm glad you spoke up now. Try and see if you will notice a lady that's within your reach if it possible to start with that. I would have said you should get married to someone from your hometown but this days ladies need to have something doing and their mentality needs to be in a system where they're not materialistic too. The society has devised it in a way that most ladies feel they're entitled to be taken care of, I'm not against you taking care of your woman but if you aren't there will she do it herself or wait till you do so.



Besides you haven't worked on what you want to do exactly. With 200k monthly if you save 50k monthly for 10 months that's like 500k. You can get a good business idea as your side piece that works with your schedule.

Also put God in your prayers too tell him.
1. Pray that you'll live long to achieve what you set your mind to achieve.

2. Your children will not suffer what you went through while growing up.

3. If it's through help you'll get your heart desires then let God send you your divine helper.

You're not alone go through comments,and hear what people are saying... pick some points and use it, i pray you succeed in your quest for greatness. Amen

meobizy:
AI is ubiquitous. Tell it to break down my comment then post it here for others to learn.