UnconventionalT:
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"I am a Nigerian student living in Scotland, A Nigerian Christian guy got in touch with me via WhatsApp and asked for a relationship, saying he got my number off a church whatsapp group that I haven't been to for almost a year now. He said he's prayed about me and God has told him we are good to go. He is a student too.
I was single at the time and haven't been with a Christian brother before, so I decided to give it a chance. It's roughly 2 months and I am at the point where I want to quit.

We got talking on the platform and also through calls, about a week into our relationship/talking stage he asked me to come to his place and cook for him so he can have enough food for the coming week. I was surprised because we hadn't even seen each other at that at time. I told him I cannot, he made a big deal out of it and said stuff like it's not a big deal for me to do that as his wife to be. We got over that and arranged to see for the first time, he suggested my house and I said I don't feel comfortable with either of us seeing for the first time in our houses and we finally concluded on a Bugger King outlet which isn't far from my house. This didn't go well with him tho.

We met for the first time and talked, after that he said he wanted to know my place as it isn't far from Burger King. He came to my place and stayed in my bed till around past 10pm, he tried touching and kissing, I told him I wasn't comfortable and he needed to leave because of time. He got annoyed said his intentions was to stay over at my place, he already told his housemate he isn't coming back home and it's so late now to go back. I told him I cannot allow him sleep at my house for the first time we're meeting, I have a small single bed and you intentionally didn't even say you'd sleep over before. He grudgingly left and dropped 3 packs of youghurt and a bag of unfried chips which I later discovered where all expired at the time he dropped them.

I told him about it and he made a mess out of the situation. He attends a pentecostal church and critisizes other churches, he doesn't really believe in adult taking responsibility for their actions as the devil is most likely responsible for everything, we simply have to pray against the devil.
He's asked for sex multiple times in less than 1 month, I stopped talking to him one time for about 2 weeks and we picked up again. He said he doesn't have to penetrate, we can do every other things to satisfy our flesh. He said doing all that with him is the proof of my love for him which I have strongly disagreed. Sex isn't a prove of love, we are adults and can have protected sex with anyone without loving them.
The only single thing I enjoy about him is that we communicate well, he talks a lot too and that makes our communication half argument, he finds fault in any little thing and blows it out of proportion. I have told him I don't have strength for argument in marriage since we won't be arguing over minute things that get him pissed off now.

Both of us have been getting multiple 12 hours night shifts from work and two nights ago, he asked me what he was going to eat when he gets home the following morning, I knew he was up to something. I told him I can't say, we don't live together and I don't know what you currently have at home. I suggested he buys bread on his way back home. He then asked me to cook for him to eat the following morning, I sincerely let him know I have no soup or stew myself. His response changed and he later called me on same subject, citing how I don't care enough about him to be concerned about how he is gonna eat since he's been working few nights now, he compared himself to a married man that always brings food to work at his workplace. Even gave the guy his phone to talk to me, that one too said I should do things in my power to make my man happy.

I tried to make him understand he isn't married and it might be difficult to enjoy what his married frnd is enjoying. Youve never bought me foodstuff, you haven't worked before and sent me 50 pounds or less for groceries, we are both working night shifts and I sort my own food, why are you angry I can't make out time out of my rest period to come cook at your house to stuck your fridge?

I have been in relationship where I cooked, I personally enjoy cooking, but I have never been with a man that feels to entitled to me doing that for him. He says I'm supposed to be the one cooking for him. He also believes in women abroad sharing bills, but he is too traditional to share house chores"

Dear,

1. He may be interested in marrying you

2. He may not be interested in marrying you (more likely)

3. Assuming he wants to marry you, are you interested in marrying someone like him? If the answer is no, let him go.

tnerro1:


Abi, shey u go tell them to kneel down and hands up ba😁

I will tell them to stool down

If I catch the two of them.

TheFarmer1:

With the current economic realities, you can actually raise 50 birds with a budget of N60,000 for a period of 3 weeks. You can sell the birds at this stage and make some profit.

Thanks bro

TheFarmer1:
I created this account so as to give practical steps to break into the Poultry Industry in Nigeria. I have seen posts/ threads about poultry production here on Nairaland, but I am yet to see threads that have given hands-on practical approach on how you can raise poultry birds- Broilers, layers and others, without fear of losing your money.

This thread will be updated from time to time. It will be some kind of place where you, as a budding farmer or someone who wants to take a chance in this industry, can go to, to get a tip or two, so as to be on track in whatever activity you are engaged in.

It will be a mixture of Practical as well as Theoritical Steps to keep you in the game.

My name is TheFarmer1. I have been in the poultry business for about 4 years and i am more than willing to give you what you need to succeed in this endeavor.

what is the least capital one can invest in this business with? Thank you.

I like Benz

fineboynl:
Lol. They did a poor job. Crossing iron between both positive and negative terminal. A little accident impacts can set that car in flames 🔥.

How can it be done better?

IconicR:
I went to a private university and no one can try that rubbish with me
Lecturers are always randy and I wonder if you have to be randy before you can be a lecturer in Nigeria universities

how are you lady? Can we chat on WhatsApp?

Jeezuzpick:
As someone who's had 2 kids born through C-section (ọmọ, I pity my wife meeeehn!) I can tell you it's a traumatic experience for the woman and her husband.

Still, it's a safe method of delivery if pre-planned and executed well, because the process is controlled with little unknowns lurking in the weeds.

That PUSH! PUSH!! PUUUUSSSH! ehn?

I don't even know which is more strenuous for the woman sef. The CS hurts for longer and can have greater risk of issues like infection of the surgery site, but, like I said, if planned and done well, it's not bad.

My wife was already quarrelling with me a week after our first was born.

I was driving her and the baby home after they were discharged from hospital. She was vexing at my driving!

I was frowning at the wheel, but laughing and jumping for joy on the inside.

She and I have been through a lot over the years.....I love her more than before.

God bless you for loving your wife. I like men who love their wives.

Ok

IconicR:
Is this the only thing they are good at?
😂 This is an insult

everybody come and help me tell this lady I want to be her friend o

Educative

nlfpmod:


According to a statement by the Permanent Secretary, Office of Drainage Services and Water Resources, in Lagos, Engineer Lekan Shodeinde, the affected catchment areas include: Alagbole, Meiran, Maidan, Kara, Isheri-Olowora, Agiliti, Owode-Onirin, Owode-Elede, Agboyi I, Agboyi II, Ajegunle, Itowolo, Majidun, Ibeshe, Baiyeku, Maidan and Lekki-Ajah axis.

noted

LoveUdie:


Pastor Bisi Adewale

Lots of Men are making mistakes in their Marriages, this is making life difficult for their wives and Children. We need to examine this and tutor all Men to behave better.

Here, I will be exposing 8 Mistakes of Many Men in Marriage:

1) SLAVE-WIFE MENTALITY: It’s not funny to know that lots of Men see women as slave, servants or something close to that. They believe women are good for nothing but sex, baby making, house chores and cooking. They operate with that kind of mentality with their wives. Many believe a wife should only be seen not heard, it’s really funny the way some men treats heir wives.

2) PUTTING FAMILY OVER WIVES:
Lots of African Men are fond of this, they put their extended family first, they even make their wives to slave for their extended family members. Some beat or even divorce their wives because of their siblings. This is totally wrong. It’s madness to allow your family Members who are in their own Marriage to destroy yours, it’s high level of foolishness to allow your siblings to take over your marriage.

3) SPERM DONOR MENTALITY: Lots of men are more-or-less sperm donors in their marriages, apart from getting tingling their wives pregnant they have no other roles in Child bearing and rearing. Whenever babies cries, It’s very common to hear Nigerian men saying, come and carry your baby, don’t you hear your baby is crying?,most of the time only women attends Children parties in School,only mothers attend PTA meetings and many other events in School, Men thinks they are too busy to do that what a mistake?

4) CLASS TEACHER ATTITUDE: Lots of Men believes their wives have nothing to offer, they believe they are wiser, stronger and better than their wives. So they develop Class teacher mentality, whereby they are only ready to teach, lecture and tutor their wives. To them their wives should not advise them. This is very wrong, God planted your wife into your life to complete you, if you don’t listen to her you are missing a lot.

5) LIVE AND EAT ATTITUDE: This is another bad attitude of many men. They believe their duty at home is to eat, watch Television and sleep. Anything in the management of the house does not concern them. They believe only women should cook, boil, clean the house watch the plates, fetch water bath the Children and dress them up, this is another very funny lifestyle of many men, they should please note that this is 21st century and improve.

6) WIFE BATTERING: In some part of Nigeria wife battering is seen as a norm, so many men are in this habit, some women where maim or even killed in the process. I wonder what kind of Man will beat a woman he promised to love, care and cherished if not an animal-like man, wife battering is barbaric and should be condemned by all.

7) MEN-SEX MENTALITY: Lots of men also believe sex is for men, women should not enjoy it, so they approach their wives with horse rider mindset, they have no plan to make their wives enjoy sex but to do their thing, enjoy themselves and go their way, this is very unwise and unkind to women.

CAT MOUSE SEX ATTITUDE: With Men-sex mentality most Men develop what is known as Cat-Mouse attitude towards sex. They grab their Wives the way Cat does grab mouse and begin to sleep with them, no romance, no pre-intimacy, no good or kind words, no mind for the ladies they are sleeping with, it is very unfair.

Men should wake up to the reality of modern life and improve their relational ability at home, loving and be loving and caring thereby becoming better husbands and fathers.

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name

nice

IconicR:
I would rather leave the relationship
If he stops giving me attention with no justifiable reasons I'll start finding my square root.

That is why I like my baby.

Imagine

IconicR:
Nairalanders please is it fair for a mother to suspend her own daughter for fighting her staff?

My friend's mother owns a large company with lots of staff, so she recently completed her nysc program and waiting to be called up for a job so she had to put up at her mum's company as an intern and she was doing her job well to see things done.

Most of the staff do not like to take instructions from her and this has resulted to altercations with most of them, they keep reporting to her mum till a meeting was finally called.

The staff seems to have connived against her and without even bothering to hear her side of the story her mum said she knows what she can do and she won't allow her to cause problems in her company, so she immediately suspended her and ask her to leave and go home.

The staff were happy with this judgement and some made some snide remarks while she was leaving.

This thing has really troubled her recently and she's thinking maybe her mom doesn't like her as she stated that if it were her brother she won't give such judgement.

Was she wrong in trying to put things in order which resulted to most of those fights with the staff?

Was the mum right to have passed such kind of judgement before her staff ?

My friend's mom told her to go resume next week on the condition that she'll behave well but my friend told her mum she's not stepping foot in her company again.

Nairalanders please without being biased who is at fault here?

My baby, don't worry we will start our own company.

9jvirgin:
It is only in Nigeria that job rejection can cause you psychological and emotional harm.

In my 8 years in the United States. I have worked in 10 big companies. I just change jobs when the pay is good and God's glory is sitting on my bank account

Meanwhile, I have traversed the entire Victoria Island looking for jobs and was turned down only to end up working at Association of Friends in Maryland as a bar tender in those days.

In all you do in life, please try and experience America.

Did you use your naija certificate or had to go to American school?

I like the analysis

Larrysung:


Please, what's the update on this interview. Did you go?

I did not attend. The person I called told me they are scammers that I should not bother wasting my time.

Switinthemiddle:
Happy sunday y'all, so i have this issue bothering me that i need advice on.

So me and this my guy have known for some years now and i know him as someone who has a flaw for anything under skirts.

It didnt bother me all these while cause i am nt one to judge until recently when i found out from my girlfriend that he was codedly wooing my junior sister and they just started dating.

Now the problem is i dnt knw if i should warn my sister about him and try and put a stop to the relationship or just try and give him and her a chance.

Please advice

That is not a good friend. A good friend should not woo your sister codedly but should make it open to you and seek your own consent first, before going to your sister. Stop yourself and your sister from mingling with him if you can and be careful should in case he fights back.

Jokanem:
7 THINGS YOU CAN NEVER CHANGE UNTIL YOU CHANGE YOURSELF.

1. You can never Change the way people treat you till you change the way you treat people. Matthew 7:12, So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.

2. You can not change your character until you change your, friends.
1 Corinthians 15:33, Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character.

3. You can not change what you harvest until you change what you sow.
Galatians 6:7, Do not be deceived God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.

4. You can not change the direction of your life until you change the driver.
Exodus 23:2, Do not follow the crowd in doing wrong, your life is either driven by the crowd or by your conviction.

5. You can not change your financial situation until you Change your financial behaviour.
Proverbs 21:17, Whoever loves pleasure will become poor; whoever loves wine and olive oil will never be rich.

6. You can not change me until you change yourself.
Matthew 7:3, And why worry about a speck in your friend's eye when you have a log in your own?

7. You can not change the way you think until you change what you hear, read and watch.
Proverbs 23:7, let the wise listen and add to their learning.

Who you listen to, determines what you learn.

What you learn, determines the information in your head.

The information in your head, determines your decisions.

And your decisions, determine your direction in life.

This is powerful

anthonyuncle:


i don't know them.

but most high schools in Nigeria don't have strong online presence

They are scammers, the number is showing another name on true caller.

anthonyuncle:


it's a school

Do you know them? I'm thinking they are fake or ritualist.

princechineye:
Congratulations!

Dear CANDIDATE,

You are invited for an INTERVIEW with ODG Africa Ltd to be assessed and oriented as: FRONT DESK O. /B.D ADVOCATE

DATE: Friday, 25th of August 2023
TIME: 8:30am
OFFICE ADDRESS: 1st floor, 150 Oba Ogunji road, Along Pencinema Bridge Ogba, Lagos.


I got the above mail today. I heard all this Odg people re scammers, is this true?

DON'T go. They are fake.

anthonyuncle:


did you apply for the job?

I did. But there lack of online presence is unsettling.

Dear Applicant,

We found you eligible for the Job

You are hereby invited for an interview


Kindly clear your schedule for our physical interview on the date and time stated below:

Date: Saturday 26th Aug 2023

Time: 11 am Prompt

Address: Our School Address: The Lamb Academy adjacent Grace Court (Oxford Estate) By Lotto / Shimawa Road, Off Lagos Ibadan Expressway, Mowe.

Please come with a copy of your updated CVs.

Regards

Olatokunbo Famodimu (phone number removed)

It is said to be a new school.

checky619:



Benz requires more maintenance and the parts are more expensive, but if you’re buying a foreign used benz and give the right mechanic when its due for servicing you will definitely enjoy using it

thanks

workchopNG:
I don't know if this is the right section for this topic, but then, since it's about relationship/friendship, I decided to post it here.

So, I read a rumour of how a young girl who scored 9 As in her WAEC result was poisoned to death. I can't confirm the authenticity of that story, but it took me to memory lane... Maybe, it was her best friend that poisoned her to death out of jealousy. That led me to create this thread.

Back to the topic. “It is better to be alone, than to be in bad company.” – George Washington.

I had my taste of a very bad friendship which lasted for more than 10 years. We met in school (higher institution). He approached me during my first few weeks in school, and we became friends.

He had some good sides, but the bad sides makes me question the good ones. We study and sit together during exam. We share answers codedly in hall, but I'm now thinking he might have been giving me the wrong answers while I was busy supplying him with the right ones.

All of this guy's effort was to have a better result than mine, and to make over 3.0 CGPA which he eventually succeeded at. There are times I could've gotten an A in some of my courses including a carryover, but this guy blocked it and have me got a C. I don't want to go into details.

Many things happened between us until few years ago when he referred me for a job, I got the job and was made the manager. The same company employed him a month later as a line manager. This is where he couldn't hide his true colour anymore and started being a thorn in my flesh in our work place.

Apparently he was pained that he referred me and I got a higher pay and position than he got. After many years of friendship, it was then I found out how dangerous that guy can be. I had to cut off that friendship few months into the job, and I'm never ready to have anything to do with that guy in my life again.

It's surprising how the same guy you dine with, drink with, party with, even travel to their hometown and sleep for days, has always been in competition with you without your knowledge. Such a person can kill out of jealousy.

We have to be careful of the kind of people we keep as friends. The funny thing is that I'm not even the best student while in school, why competing with me instead of the best students? Abi first class no dey sweet you Some people are perhaps and furthermore 😂🤣, even notwithstanding. 🤣😂😂

Una good morning o jare

The wicked has no brain.

Ibrahimlagosian:
Thanks for the opinion bro,the coupe suit my personality more than the crosstour.i'm a teen with no marriage and i'm so an introvert,i have very few friends at school,but whenever i remember i have friends to give a ride every morning to our college,i then feel that the crosstour is more suitable.

[becareful with your friends. Some will definitely be jealous (read that again).

checky619:


I have used 7 Honda’s and currently using 08 accord V6 but for a first car user get a 2013 Camry SE, Honda requires high maintenance culture and little knowledge about the driving components of the car if not you will probably not be able to catch up with the maintenance

Honda and Benz which one requires maintenance more? or do the require same level of maintenance?