I Gave her a letter stating all the challenges I go thro to be given to her dad and indicating because of that I cant continue the marriage. I should have checked, looked carefully and scrutinized properly before Marrying. Next time when I see someone suffering and facing problems in life I will not bother to love and pity that person. Let alone to think about marry her. I will choose from the experience I gained.
Newest Bachelor in Town. Serious Issues. Allah Knows Best.

Am a Graduate Of University of Ghana legon with a degree in Humanities, I futher graduate with a degree in Computer science from A.I.T University in Ghana along side with major certification and over 9 years working experience. I currently need of a Job. Any organisation or corporate institution in nigeria or anywhere can contact me via my cell number / email .

Even thou am a Ghanaian by nationality am willing to relocate to any part of Africa to work on any position.


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I will take your advce sexkillz  and respond back her tommorow Ghana Time on the outcome. I brough this case to the public domain just to seek futher advice and directions.

I might as well take SAFo advice too: Quote
Don't tell her you messed around yet until you find out what her true intentions are. Save that one in your back pocket as your trump card. No need to look mumu if she is avoiding you for sincere reasons.

BUT, if she try to play you, then you can pull out your trump card and GBAM!!  

Just in case the first option dosent work.

But i will need your advice on this last comment another person posted.
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guy,just forget that girl and get urself a nice girl who sincerely cares about you.
your young and have a good job so why let one small girl be toying with your heart?
wake up and smell the coffee.
lots of pretty ghanian chicks ,dont be in a hurry,sample enough before u finally let one of them into your house as a wife.
then no regrets

Thanks and salamu alaikum.

Point of correction, Am actually a Ghanaian and am 28 years old. Am working full time for over 9 years now and very educated. I have been on nairaland for almost 4-5 years now and i always take the positive interaction that takes place here and ignore the nagative ones. This is a real story that happend to me yesterday. I want to take the advice of sexkillz .

and i quote:
So YOU weren't MAN Enough to sit YOUR LADY DOWN and DISCUSS SERIOUS ISSUES with her? And your SOLUTION for being SAD, REJECTED and DEJECTED was to SLEEP with a LovePeddler? REALLY? SMH! Did you NOT WORRY about AIDS? It's Your type that COMMITS SUICIDE because of a WOMAN! MY VERDICT: YOU HAVE "PERSONAL ISSUES"! SORT THEM OUT FIRST AND WORRY ABOUT THE LADY LATER!!!

(1) I would meet her tonight after close of work and sort things with her,
(2) I would find the problem and try to seek a bilateral solution with her
(3) I will inform her what happend to me yesterday due to her actions
(4) I will admit any mistake i might have done to her willingly or unwillingly for the sake of peace
(5) I will advice her to put a permant stop to occational and minor cheating she has been doing ,

Kindly advice me if the measure am going to take is the best option to resolve my case.

Or i should use radical means to solve the problem by . Blaming her, accusing her with the facts and evidence i have and subsequently findng solution ?

I am not in favour of what i did yesterday. But the question you must frist ask is what made me too that action ? Knowing very well that i have never slept with a lovepeddler before. We are all humans and oneday you might face my problem and would end up commiting sucide or doing something worse than mine. Please am a decent guy and very emmotional as well. Ladies of today are just wicked and roght. They dont care about guys and our feelings, They just Go around halving sex with any man who confuse them with either money or wealty things. No wonder you always see them going mad and walking aimlessly on our raods daily whithout future. Its because of the disappointments, Wasting guys hard earn money and to some extend breaking our hearts.

My Serious girlfriend that i would be marrying soon started behaving badly and in some cases she gave me reasons to believe that she is cheating on me. Examples include, she putting her mobile phone off frequently and especially at night when she new i would want to visit her. Which makes it impossible to locate her when she is not at home. she also accuse me for frequently on minor issues and just starting a quarell when there is no problem between us.

Yesterday i asked her to visit me at home and she said that her dad is around therefore she cant come. So i personally went to her house and her younger sister told me that she has gone out and was not at home. Meaning that she lied to me and she knew that she was not at home and used her dad as an excuse. If i hadent made a follow up to her house i would have trusted her and would have been fooled. the question is that if she wasent in another mans room or cheating on me that night why would she lie to me and cant disclose her location to me.

I waited for several hours but she didnt show up. She then off her phone foe about 50 munites and when she finally put it on and i called her, she refuse to pick for almost 10 times. I felt bad and left sadly. Her actions fored me to do something i have never done before. I saw some prostitutes on my way home and i called one of them bargained with her to have sex for a short period and she charged me Ghc 15 which i paid and sent her home.

I did this because of i dont drink alchocol, i dont smoke and i was in a bad mood so i choose that option to cool my temper and to bring my mind at peace. Now i see the reason why some men can commit sucide or even get mad for broken heart and related disappointment from women. When i finnaly reached her on phone in midnight she said that i should marry her before she can avoid such attitude. Please Advice,  This is a true Story that happend to me just yesterday,

Story Of My Life.

She left me when i was making arrangement to marry her. After 2 to 3 year the guy disappointed her and didnt fulfill his promise to marry her so she came back to me. Now she has left me again and travell to her Famale cousins place who is now living in another ecowas country. Just in seach for a husband as she said that she needs someone to marry her badly. Looking at the situatation from a distance i guess she doesnt love me and she is just using me as a mean to satisfy her needs ands wants till she met the right guy.

Now she called me again to request for money after travelling to her cousins place to seek a new guy to marry. would i be a fool to send her the money or should i help her for the sake of humanity.

Thank you all NL.

I am 28 years old and throughout my life i have been through alot and seen many challenges as everyone has. Before anyone becomes a full grown adult he or she faces many challenges in terms of love, education, job related issues, family problems among others.

I have finally rented a new apartment at dansoman for 2 years. and fully furnished it. So i will be leaving my dads house and finally starting a life in an enviroment an not use to.

Am praying to marry this year too as many friends of mine have married and have childerns. Even though i earn GHc 500 at my current job a month. I think i can focus in life and change my condition. If i want to wait for a big opportunity to come before i marry, buy a house or complete my on going house it will take ages.

So i guess its time for me to move out and face the world as every person does. thats what makes you a man. This is my year and i will many in my small ways and with Gods help i will survive even though it will not be easy for me. But when i look around am far better than many people yet still they are happy. So how much me who is educated, working and recieving a managable salary and have a sleeping place.

Please wish me luck, advice me if you have any, but what ever would happen i will be here after sometime to update you about my new stage in life. This is a realy story. The story of my life.

Thank You all and may allah fulfill my wish.

I am 28 years old and throughout my life i have been through alot and seen many challenges as everyone has. Before anyone becomes a full grown adult he or she faces many challenges in terms of love, education, job related issues, family problems among others.

I have finally rented a new apartment at dansoman for 2 years. and fully furnished it. So i will be leaving my dads house and finally starting a life in an enviroment an not use to.

Am praying to marry this year too as many friends of mine have married and have childerns. Even though i earn GHc 500 at my current job a month. I think i can focus in life and change my condition. If i want to wait for a big opportunity to come before i marry, buy a house or complete my on going house it will take ages.

So i guess its time for me to move out and face the world as every person does. thats what makes you a man. This is my year and i will many in my small ways and with Gods help i will survive even though it will not be easy for me. But when i look around am far better than many people yet still they are happy. So how much me who is educated, working and recieving a managable salary and have a sleeping place.

Please wish me luck, advice me if you have any, but what ever would happen i will be here after sometime to update you about my new stage in life. This is a realy story. The story of my life.

Thank You all and may allah fulfill my wish.

The best thing for me to do is to stay away from her and continue my life without her as i have been able to do for more than a year.

I was rather thinking that i might be secretly dating her without her new guy knowing about it and then fucking her to appease my selfish interest. But not to be in a committed relationship like we are before.
I would not let her know of my plans

I haven't decided yet what to do now, so please don't jump to conclusions. I only want to know the way forward , as its one and half years now.
Also even though she want to eat her cake and still have it, meaning she wants me back after what she did to me, she is still with her new guy.
Its like her guilty conscious is making her think that even if i accept her i might pay her back for what she did to me. So she is confuse as to what to do herself.

Suffer with the problem she created for herself or Shamefully accept and apologize to me for the harm done to me and plead for a come back with a new attitude, and live with the risk that i might avenge.

I dated her since i was in Junior high school at my tender age of 14years.
We dated for 11 years meaning till i reach the age of 25yrs when i was a bit grown and working. So i started planing to marry her and even sent the dowry to her family. But surprising she cant wait any longer for me to gather the rest of the items needed to marry her and she openly told her family that they should return her dowry back to me and that she is no longer interested in me.
I found out that she was seriously in love with a new guy and thats why. I was heart broken after all those wasted years of time, love, commitment and money.

A year and half later she has regretted dating this new guy b,cos she has now seen the other side of him, He is jobless, has a wife at his village and 3 kids and left them to Accra to find work and support them. This guy beats her badly but she is still with him b,cos her family warned her of her actions but she choose to do it.

Information reaching me is that she is dying to come back but she is afraid that i might receive her but punish her as a form of vengeance to what she did to me.

I have been able to move on with my life after she dangerously break my heat for 1 and half year now. Should i accept her back, and if i do should i punish her ? Or should i ignore her moves and continue with my life ?
what would you do if you were in my shoes

Its b,cos am confused that why am here for your opinion. I haven't taken any action yet. so please just put yourself in my shoes and give me a good answer.

some say once a cheater always a cheater. Others said that to err is human, which means that we all makes mistakes. so i must forgive and forget. I just don't know what to do now ?