₦airaland Forum

forgotusername: I met my husband on the rebound after I broke off my engagement with an ex as a result of infidelity. I moved abroad at a young age with my family, and met my husband who had come here to study a master's. After dating for 6 months he went to Naija for a holiday for 3 weeks to see his family. Unbeknown to me during this holiday he engaged a girl that he had been dating for a short while and the introduction was done. He came back and life continued like nothing happened he did not tell me about his engagement or the existance of this girl. I fell in love with him because he was there for me after i suffered heartbreak and was a gentleman at the time. Our intimacy life was very mediocre made worse by small size but at the time I overlooked this because he treated me so well. After 1 year of dating a discovered i was pregnant - failed contraception and thats when the ugly truth came out. He told me he was going ahead with his planned marriage and told him to go ahead and iresolved to being a single parent, after a month he begged for my forgiveness and told me he was in love with me and broke things off with his fiance at home. I took him back though I was not in love witj him and felt betrayed and decieved by his actions I thought about my unborn child growing up without a father. PRESENT DAY - we fight all the time, I dont trust him and i have even started to resent him. The fighting has reached uncontrollable heights and as a result have decided to seperate for the sake of the two kids we now have. I am unsure whether to divorce him or try and make things work. We have not had sex in almost a year i feel nothing for him and instead find sex a painful experience. It is affecting me so much that I can not sleep well at night. I need some advice. Do i stay in a loveless marriage or just concentrate on raising my kids? Tx for reading.

You are absolutely right in ur thoughts about him using you to get a visa..that would have been his plan all along,only few Nigerians would want to genuinely settle down with a foreigner in a foreign land and have a family wth them.
but right now he has decided to stay probably becos he already has two kids with you,but you still cant rule out the possibility that he still got married to that lady or another and probably has a family back in Nigeria becos he isnt gonna spend all his life in your country,he is gonna come back home someday and would always wanna have a family to come to.
But accepting him back after what he did was absolutely wrong becos he showed you where you stood in his life(second choice).but the deed is done now.

My Advice: there are so many widows and single mums around with more than even two kids to fend for.the most important aspect of ur life right now is ur kids and you, becos when ur husband finaly decides to move back to Nigeria you wont let him move with the kids.so start planning for ur and their future without him in the picture.he may genuinely love you now,but the fact that he nearly left you for another will never be forgoten by you hence the constant fighting.


So try making things work out btween you both but if from the bottom of ur heart you are sure things cant work...just divorce and move on,life is too short to spend trapped and sad.
But before you leave secure the future of ur kids financially and be absolutely aware of the rigours of single parenthood and be prepared.

This is my advice...the decision is yours to make.

the fear of sack.....




Useless people,sacrificing peoples lives becos they want to be paid like football stars.

where is her #maid?


She didnt buy ebola for her this time?

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Fit2Rule: A close look at The 1999 Constitution of The Federal Republic of Nigeria as Amended, shows that the following words/phrases were mentioned the number of times indicated.
SHARIA........73 times,
ISLAM...........28 times,
GRAND KADI.....54 times,
MUSLIM.......10 times,
CHRISTIAN.... 0 time,
CHRISTIANITY... 0 time,
CANON LAW.....0 time,
BISHOP......0 time,
OTHER RELIGION.....0 time.
Could this be the reason why the Muslims think they own Nigeria? Do you think the 1999 Constitution should be amended or simply abandoned and a new one written altogether?

Yes...and thats why we are going backwards.

this guy should shut up...pls

dadojo: For all those who were rejoicing about the sack of doctors in the country, the president is ill and has been flown to germany. Where will you go to?

The Doctors deserve worse.

Warri....

Internationally and nationaly.

some kids in the U.S dont know Nigeria but they know Warri. Becos their father had been kidnapped by militants before.

humnsikan: I used to think that being the president of America is the most stressful Job anyone could ever take until I saw some guys on fox channel criticizing Obama for his golf playing habit. I was imagining how unthinkable that would be for a Nigerian President. What do you think?

The American President is the president of the world...

The Ngerian president is the president of a bunch of corrupt bone heads.

SambisaKing: نور اگر رفت سایه پیدا نیست نقش دیوار و چشم خیره ما نقش سایه دگر نمی داندیوار و چشم خیره ما نقش سایه دگر نمی دان نور اگر رفت سایه پیدا نیست نقش دیوار و چشم خیره ما نور اگر رفت سایه. ر رفت سایه پیدا نیست نقش دیوار و چشم خیره ما نقش سایه دگر نمی دان نور اگر رفتدا نیست نقش دیوار و چشم خیره ما
گر رفت سایه پیدا نیست نقش دیوار

Whats this?

Pls take it to your brothers in sambisa forest.

BadBoy25: I don't know how many times i've said this, but The United states would annihilate Russia in a war. The United states actually needs war.

The United States has control of the pacific and atlantic and shares the arctic ocean with Russia . The United states has military bases in Greenland and Alaska surrounding Russia. bases in Japan,South Korea,Poland and everywhere in the world .
I feel sorry for Iran ,China and Russia combined . The United state has as far superior intelligence and thats what matters .


3 million russian civilians died in world war 2
only 5 american civilians died by mistake when a california family camping in a forest mistakenly touched a japanese hot air balloon bomb.

Russia doesn't have numerous cities like the United states . it is much more easier to focus on target and annihilate everything . the United states is too sparse and varied for a single target. the enemy simply wont reach american mainland .
American soldiers are adapted to all types of climate, tropical rainforest,snow storm,heatwave etc.
it is much more difficult to invade and occupy the United states because most citizens have licensed Guns and wont allowed that to happen even without an army .

Pearl habour

Cmanforall: The ongoing Doctor's strike has been called off. In an EDM concluded this night it was resolved the strike should be called off after a 199/66votes went in favour of it.
.However, the suspension of the resident doctors still holds at the moment.
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Details soon...

No ooo....let them strike oo..
#The FG must pay them £50,000 per week ooo..
#they must get their own vehicle plate numbers
#and road lanes oo.

Crazy people.


I love GEJ for this tactics.

HE IS NOT THE CAUSE OF THE PROBLEM IN THE WORLD TODAY....LET HIM REST PLS.

lakpalakpa: http://www.punchng.com/news/boko-haram-seizes-adamawa-lg-office/

Yea Nice one....let them conduct Local Government Elections.

koma1: “I have been with Three-Star Hotel, Dutse, Jigawa State, for the past 15 years and I am currently their Reception Manager”

Na there you go die put....

MizMyColi: yeah, I did. Thank You

Uhmm....right.

MizMyColi: Its okay. It is. We all make mistakes Hope your reason for not being as active has to do with more money that's the only excuse allowed

lolz...something like that though..

I see you changed ur pic,i have been dying to see the face behind that beutifull hair style,perfect skin and modest outfit and personality....


You are beutifull.

MizMyColi: Its okay. It is. We all make mistakes Hope your reason for not being as active has to do with more money that's the only excuse allowed

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MizMyColi: Hahn Hahn! Publicenemy, you too. You shouldn't have quoted the whole thread na. I tagged people in the original post and it can be so annoying when you get unnecessary mentions. That's btw I've been here, hyper active -I think. You seem to be the one who went AWOL.

I am extreamely sorry, i had no idea i would be quoting as much people and now i already have too many insults from Nairalanders for it....am so sorry.

And like you said i havent been absolutely active though,naybe thats why i didnt notice ur presence...

MizMyColi: So, I stumbled on this picture on my facebook page.


Which would you go for?
What's your reason.


Mine:
I'd go with the red pill [don't crucify me just yet] because, I believe that everyone who dies have served their purpose in this world and that they're in a better place. Bringing them back might just be against their will.



Anyone is free to contribute.
However, for starters, I'm tagging everyone I've come across or admired on NL to make their own contribution.


Please do not quote the tags below titled "Your attention is needed on this thread", we want to avoid spamming our accounts with unnecessary mentions


Your attention is needed on this thread

Where have you been?

satowind: This thieves again.

Whats ur picture doing here?

No need to advertise...they already have their candidate...

hmmnn

hmmnnn... Nigeria.

Man United 7 - 1 As Roma

basket ball should be for women...

Throwing a ball around with the hands...

Even babies can do that.

The Nigeria Football
Federation Abuja Secretariat
has declared that it was able
to rescue some of the
trophies won by the national
teams from its offices after a blaze swept through the building on Wednesday morning. Among the trophies saved were the 2013 Africa Cup
of Nations trophy won in South Africa and the 2013
Fifa U17 World Cup trophy won in the United Arab
Emirates. However, thousands of records and financial
documents were lost in the flames which started
around 9:30am from a spark in the office of the
Accountant. The fire according to the General Secretary Musa
Amadu emanated from the left wing of the third floor
of the NFF Secretariat. The inferno burnt down all the documents in the
accountant’s office, swept through the office of the
general secretary and destroyed most of the
documents in the office and in the offices in the left
wing of the building. Amadu described the incident thus: “I think the fire
may have started from a power upsurge that
happened at about that time. We tried as much as we
can, but it is quite unfortunate. “I have assured you, we are going to reassess those
things that have got burnt, and those missing. “We want to assure Nigerians that the job of the
Federation would not be affected in any way, we
would continue our normal duties until we get to the
root of the whole thing,” he said. Amadu who was the on ground to salvage some of
the document in his office, said they were able to
rescue most of the trophies won by the country’s
national teams. In his reaction on arrival at the Secretariat at about
11.45 am, NFF President Aminu Maigari gave thanks
to God that no lives were lost in the inferno. “We are grateful to God Almighty that no lives were
lost in the fire incident, we are optimistic that we
would get over this incident, and I am sure that the
security agencies would step in immediately to
investigate what had happened,” Maigari told media. Maigari only returned to work at the Glass House on
Monday after several months of intrigues which saw
him impeached by the board over allegations of fraud
but he was reinstated under the orders of Fifa. Insinuations are rife that the fire might have been
caused in order to destroy documents as members of
the NFF board are still at loggerheads. The problems in the NFF have seen contract
negotiations with coach Stephen Keshi stall with less
than three weeks to the Super Eagles’ opening pair of
Afcon 2015 qualifiers against Congo and South
Africa. There is an increasing likelihood that the national
team could be handled by a temporary coach before
an agreement is reached with Keshi who led them to
victory last year and took the team to the second
round at the World Cup in Brazil.

m.goal.com/x/en-ng/news/5047379

abdullkabar: You dey tease me abi?Y do u say so

Am Not teasing you...i got many replies on that post and yours was the only moderate and less insultive one.the way we respond to situations especially on a forum like this where people cant see us and we can post anything tells how we truly are atleast to an extent.

okparaugo: Abia Music Awards..

Lols

Former FCT Minister and Chieftain of APC Nasir El
Rufai says he will only consider defecting to the
PDP when Satan repents and converts Islam...

lindaikeji.mobi/output.php?postid=3280679432614247053&date=2014-08-20%2017:18:05

Alajiki: Bloody dogmatic follower of Apostle Scammer Paul...

Why don't you ask God to save all you idi0ts from your own ignorance.

I will choose ignorance over terrorism anyday...

Bloody terrorists.