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I ve tried all dis concotions he didn't like it so I use to mix it wit peak 123 and he eats anything now. Dat pap is just topping.

babysheju2:
@purityme do you feed him only pap? no soybeans, groundnut, crayfish etc it won't make him loose weight sorry about the sore breast okay u ll soon overcome it me my breast has returned to normal size and now I'm free soooioi happy take kia of urselve OK. love uuuuuuuuuuuuuu

Thanks smartmom, today has been a successful day. So preparing for the night drama his pap is ready so once he wakes up I will give him water or pap he cried before sleeping bt he was full he dnt even ask for it. I believe by tomorw he will be use to it

smartmom:
oh am still laffing o. You are one smart woman! very inventive indeed. Very mean nutty mummy. Well done! if it gets engorged, express a little and take paracetamol

How is your baby doing I don finally join una club @kamisoghene hw u too

babysheju2:
amen. takia ehn....

@ last am making progress hehehehe, so dis morning I made up my mind I gave him in the morning wen he cried. Then I remember he is scared of plaster. He once saw it on my hand and he dnt let me carry him with the hand. So I plastered my nips and throwaway face. He was crying I gave him food he refused and was struggling to open my blouse. I willingly brought it out. He screamed and removed his hand he jejely took his pap. And since den. Once he wants to suck I just open 4 him. Lol no boby tell am na. Hehehehe we re on still on on it 5hrs and still counting.

Alo mama hw una dey @ smartmom thanks for ur advice I ve reduced feeding time he is a 15mnths nw, so by ending dis month he wold ve been used to it. And he is getting better nw

Yes I did baby friendly and I think dats d prblm

Rosarie:
did u d baby fruendly.?

Mamas nothing yet ooo, infact he is down with fever and cold so I guess I will take my time just as beevan adviced or I leave him with someone 4 days just as adim suggested 4 now my sentiment and emotion is gettin me and once he is ok. But I ve limit d nos of breastfeeding time. Will kip u updated. One luv

I tried last night it was not funny he refuse to sleep back and was just rolling around later he started crying I had no option dan to give him dis morning to we don start again. [quote author=babysheju2 post=28089042][/quote]

You don't even have a stay in SA and you are sounding as if na citizen you be. You were seeking assylm there. You later said study visa. Na magomago u take stay dia and you still no understnd naija system. Hmmm we re not dump ooo. Stop all dis stories 4 d Gods abeg. If you make 500naira compare to 1200 can't you manage. You case no be here

MojAyo:
hmmm,tanx for ur advice o,and again I show appreciation at my mum supporting me and my childs upkeep,I never said I dnt want to work,I only came to nigeria to visit which I dnt knw things would turn out like dis,my inlaws promised to support me and my childs upkeep, bt since I came to d country,they changed,they dnt even want to take me in which I suspect its becos of financial stuffs,the father of my baby promised to be sending me and my child money,bt since I came here,I got stacked,which make my mum to be doing everything for me,I'm still going back to where I come from,and I will say it again,I dnt d system of d country,imagine d hair u can do for a client in SA at d rate of 1200naira in nigeria money,here ,they can do it for 500naira,so how can I catch up with my life with dat with a little one to feed,if I never come home,u won't see me here complaining,my problem started since I enter nigeria,I knw nairaland a long time,bt I never post a topic here based on my life or my husbands life,bt since I came into my mothers house,I was forced and frustrated to start creating a topic about my life on Nairaland,I believe my problem will end vry soon,I'm nt a lazy person

LoL na so he pain you reach. Sdk a place to be proudly sdk bv

aisha2:
I almost tore my clothes off in frustration

Stop decieving your sef he is not your husband. It pains me that you still have hope upon all u went thru. So u can stay with any man even a criminal. U re that desperate for greener pasture as u stated. O ga ooo orishirishi. Pele ti ooo he luvs your gaskiya. Na romeo and juliet luv ooo hold on to him tight. Iru iro ni iboru

MojAyo:
yeah,my baby is my top priority,tanx for ur care and concern about me,the thing is I tried to move on with my life frm him,bt he sometimes called me,he love me,dat he ve changed for d better,dat he is working now,bt since he is working,he suppose to be sending something for d babys care,bt I think he want to be stable with himself first,I can stay with a man in any situation,especially him,except if he continue to be abusive towards me,and I did nt see any changeness in him,firstly,I no dey call him mama again,bt me nd him do talk on phone becos of my baby,I'm still thinking of leaving him or not,no man is ready to settle for a after one,u knw what I mean

Not only did you use her to play ur a making a bad mother and disgracing her

MojAyo:
I think dats for ur mother,I never use my mother to play on nairaland,so pls,watch what u say

@ op u dnt knw wat u want your pride will kill u slowly

And for your baby daddy pls dnt go back to an abusive relationship. U re lucking u came out on scatch nw. You may not be lucky next tym. 4get about him 4 now and force on your life. Don't hate your mum 4 leaving your dad no woman will wish to just end her marriage just like dat she may be passing thru things she can't share with you so leave it that way and move on. You can't change a man you can only pray 4 him. U re not married to him yet so u can still find some one who will luv and appreciate you. Your baby should be your top priority now.

See am not against you and I know its not easy inn your predicament what am saying is be appreciative in whatever condition u re. She is trying her best even if its not good enough you re under her so follow her way just 4 peace to reign. So pls appreciate every little things she is doing. As a yourba gal I understnd u dnt want to pple to say rubbish about you but @ times you take that rubbish because you know what u want to achieve. Get something doing so you can stand on ur feet again and cater 4 ur baby. Dat way she will have little or nothing to quarell about.

MojAyo:
I never beg u to comment all dis thread,and for ur information,I'm nt a proud person,I do all her washings frm A to Z,I never feel big dat I can't wash her clothes,bt where they knw me before I leave d country,I dnt want peeps to start saying jargons about me,dats why I said,I want to work,bt nt under her

Warfi man say any Dog wey dey wait patiently instead of hussling na hunger go tell am

MojAyo:
tanx for ur advice,I feel good dat I'm nt alone in dis,yeah I'm gonna learn some skills,seriouslyzni just ve to d patience,the patient dog eat the fattest bone

Madam I know you ve policy dats y you can't help your mother and u re miss perfect. Abeggi spare me if you like wrk if u like no wrk na you get ur life shikena.

MojAyo:
I think dis is too harsh frm u,who told u I dnt want to work,pls if u dnt ve anything good to contribute to my thread,dnt comment pls,who told u I'm doing shakara,I've my own policy likewise everybody

Na only me waka come oo. I will try it tomorrow and see I wish I can start this night sef,pple no go sleep today be that. He can cry for africa lol

kamsioghene:
@ babysheju. I don start my own too o. I didn't breastfeed d whole of 2day. She cried, I jst lock up. Fed her with bread and tea, friso goldcereal I hope by 2morw she ₪☺ go disturb otherwise I would have ₪☺ choice but †Φ breastfeed o.

This your combination got me LOL. I give him pcm only wen he has temp 4rm over long crying. And cyprivite with afrabvite 4 d multivitamin. I don tire sef maybe its because we did EBF 4 six mnth.

babysheju2:
I'm giving her acepol paracetamol suspension +sypri gold+miramalt+ thiocal 12. a li2 sypri gold by 5pm so that the baby can sleep by 8:30. with that combination ehn.... she eat so much and sleeps but no that much, but before she sleeps ehn....... u go hear ween! she will be punching the bossom and crying. hope that helps. cos the pains Im going through also is much.

I tried reducing feeding times bt he will rather starve himself dan take anything he does nt like tea @ all no matter what I add in it. I tried differents cereals until I stop buying dem he won't burge, now I giv him pap and milk he only takes that when he is really hungry. I make noodles garnished with fish and eggs all na the same. He takes experimental foods and stop d next day infact nothing wey I never do ooo. I ve settle with pap bt only wen he is very hungry

teeboo:
If d child is picky dats a long tin o,its won't be easy 2 stop breastfeeding,u have to find a way of making him stable on another food b4 u stop breastfeeding,maybe tea and bread or cereal som children prefer pap,I stop breastfeeding my son @ 11months after he's stable on cereal and milk (HEINZ and SMA) and some adult food, it was so easy. I started by reducing d number of breastfeeding,den @ nit I make sure I feed him with cereal b4 he sleeps den he'll wake up and suck only once

U re lucky ooo, if my baby cry too long he will loss his voice and run temperature thru out that day that's my main problem I can't just stand it. And for d bitter leaf method he was lickin it small small until it cleared out. And he dosent eat well he is picky I ve tried multi vitamin and all bt its still d same but I will try ur method tomorw

babysheju2:
moms ive started mine o. I no look her face, in the morning she cried for three hours finally I fed her the already made baby food and her drugs then she slept off, the same this night...chei? she can cry. I think I took heart and became mean and wicked to her. "I'm feeling for her" u can do the same @purityme and @kamsioghene

Aisha2 leave her jare she never learn ni upon all he did to her she still talk abt going back

aisha2:
Am sorry but you are not serious
Oya go back to your love-vendor since you are too proud to go and work with your mother but not too proud yo collect her hard earned money

Mojayo u re not serious at all, u can't help ur mother with what she is doing and u can't get a job u feel befits u, u re shouting I dnt understand dis country abeg no be 4 naija dey born you. Abi u ve been in SA all ur life u spent just 5yrs and u re acting lyk omo onile, u dnt even appreciate d little ur mum is doing 4 u. She feeds you and ur baby, give ur a roof yet u can support her biz. Get a business u re talking about ur class and respect well u re still enjoying now. I just pity dat innocent baby. So u still want to go back to dat criminal. Ve u forgotten all ur with thru b4. U still ve not learn a lesson. So u want a man to be catering 4 u. Hmmmm. Orishirishi. Ur parent re seperated so ur mum has every right to start a new life. Shebi ur father now has a wife. Am sure is d way u lazy around and insult ur mother that's y ur siblings re disrepecting u, better get something doing u re a school cert. Get a menial job 4 d main time. U dey do shakara.

Am going thru same thing oo. Abeg expreince mamas which other method can we use my baby will cry his eyes until am forced to give him even @ night he will continue crying am even fed up sef.

THANK YOU

idu1:
Poor boy i pity him. God dont let any woman rush to lead me into marriage because she getting close to menopause

Thanks for your advice but I don't marry him for any benefit I married him cause I luv him and he loved me too. I dnt rush into marriage I took my time and we did court for 4yrs before we got married.

Chillisauce:
This is what happens when the society keep pressuring young girls to get married, and also when the girls dont use their heads.

OP, you got married to your husbands because of some benefits and im sure you didnt love him. Now, those benefits are longer yielding value, you find it difficult to cope.

Your problem can be solved by

1. try and look for some way to restore back the benefits that made you got married to him. (money, security etc) if it means you both reversing the role.

2. Endure him, keep enduring him, just keep doing it, just like you started it when you got married to him, continue it. Even those days you will feel sorry for yourself, dont give up because this is what you signed for , thinking of what people will say if you dont get married.
3. Free yourself from him, let him go, find someone who will love him, while you find someone for yourself.

You only get to live life once. Make a decision you know will make you and others around you happy.