Some how I think it is wrong. Even if she must watch, it must be both of you

emeernest:


Part of the game plan.
Let haters sleep and wake up when the cup is in Liverpool's hands

The surprising thing is that I'd this administration is accused of anything, they will quickly remind every one that Jonathan did the same. The question then is that, it means what Jonathan did were not wrong after all, because he is being used as a standard by those same people that condemned all his actions. Na wa for my countrymen

Benekruku:


Have you eaten today?

savage

Greed for 2023 is gradually driving Tinubu to extinction, imagine after 2015 elections, he was abandoned for 3 years plus till the politics of 2019 started. He was then resurrected by the so called dullard, dusted up . Immediately after helping the dullard to win again, he has been a subject of constant attack by the dullard's men

Preshy561:

This doesn't make sense atall.

okay, sister. I thought it did. Sorry if I offended you.happy Saturday

Cutebabiesmum:

My phone is what keeps my company at night because he's sleeping in different room. Without my phone I will cry myself to sleep because I don't have any friend I can talk to. But reading comment on Instagram, nairaland and advertising my product(I have a business) always makes me happy every night

the lord is your strength, I am a man, this is what I suffer, this is how I sleep in my own room. It is not about being a wife or husba6, it is about marrying wise , and marrying someone with a conscience

Preshy561:
Men of these generation.
Tufia. You hardly see one with sense.
Believe you me, he's dating that lady.

Whenever a lady stops greeting a guy or stops respecting him, they are in for long thing.

She will soon ask him to divorce you and marry her, stay there and be asking questions.

sister, easy, some men that have decided to be good, are suffering under their wives, because madam knows that they are good men, and that they would not do anything funny

Na wa, this is serious

Canme4u:


gimme a secs, I will try to add it.

ok, thanks,

Thanks, I did this several times ago, the last one lasted for over 3 months, not a word, to the extent we were cooking and eating differently. She don't give a damn, or at least, she appear not to care

temigreat:
Good day sir @qereshi HV not heard from u

I will trust me

temigreat:
Can we chat privately this is my WhatsApp no 08179675371

ok,,tomorrow

temigreat:
I will pay back surely I promise you by August ending with my August income

But you have not said anything, how do i know you better, where do you live

How do u pay back, how can I be sure

And himself

mrjojo:
@op did you you take her abroad or you guys met there?

8years of marriage, has she always been like throughout the years?


Do you really think she is capable of change?

The fact that she doesn't care about what you do says alot "don't tell me where you are going too" infact I feel she wants a divorce, she doesn't just want to be the one to ask. Living in the states is also encouraging her, Most Nigeria ladies turn to something else entirely over there.


My advice, move on, she is a lost case already. The marriage would have be atleast salvageable if you guys are Nigeria base

I took her abroad, because that has always been her dream, and more over the problem with her siblings were just too much. Also like I said, she can be nice at times, but in the real sense nobody can be bitter all year round, even devil has time for cooking off. Her joy can't last a day, anything can annoy and send her wild. I can not say if she is capable of change, it is actually the change in have been hoping for. However, her actions does not suggest that she values the marriage.

naijadefender:
Mr Dan Obi, PDP Chairman Edo state is leaching on Wike, everywhere Wike goes he follows, what kind of jalabia is he wearing sef!!!!

Dan Orbih has always been like that. Same way he leached Pastor Ize Iyamu

Thanks for your time and worthy advice

MikeMoses:
Something is telling me that this Zamfara state governor will decamp to APC in the nearest future.

damn, you read my mind

essenceplus:
Osanobua. Op be strong. Have you tried digging deep? Can we talk offline

I sent you a mail request please drop your number on the reply

Chinny024:
Write and pass ielts....At least get band 7.5..Contact a GENUINE travel agent...Wayo full everywhere..So,be very careful and smart! Try and get yourself in Canada,Australia or US.. Get a Permanent Residency.They can process it for you easily in Nigeria depending on the course you studied....Might cost you few( million).....Settle there,work peacefully,live happily.....After 6months or so,come and take your children along.....You will see she would come crawling with her knees,stomach and buttocks begging.....

I hate NONSENSE...Personally,I can't condone such from anyone....

I live in the US already.

mostyg:
Create a strong bond with everyone she's not in good relationship with, her mom, siblings etc.

Tell her your condition for peace with her is to make peace with her family. If she is able to do that, be ready to renew your love and continue with the marriage.
If she can't make peace with her mum and siblings, you may consider leaving.

You didn't mention how you and her has been relating with your own family .an Idea on this will give us insight on your own personality too.

No one in my family knows, I covered up all, but my eldest knew some of these things, she is married to a pastor, I begged her not tell.my mum and younger ones because for me, once my younger ones and mum are aware, then I must act drastically because failure to act then will be very bad for my personality I have been trying to save the marriage. You know the thing with your own siblings, even if my wife and I make up, my siblings might still have that biase towards her. So I have been trying to salvage her respect However I think I have gotten to the point of bringing in both family

FloraEC:

Yea, I read what you wrote well but since is one-sided, I refuse to judge.
You knew she was that terrible and still settled down with her, spent 8years with her as her husband, birth kids too. You've passed the early stages of marriage and sticked managed together, didn't she have any good side throughout that period or was she like this? That means you've been unhappy in 2,920 days of your life in marriage?
I refuse to believe

ok, thanks, so.ethings are better understood when experienced.

GoldCircle:
I also think the society you live has greatly influenced her attitude and way of life. I’m assuming you live outside Nigeria. Sincerely, you are responsible for your life. No one else. The decisions we make ultimately make or mar us. I can only spare a thought and prayer for you. Goodluck

Thanks. We live in the states

dollytino4real:
my mum I will give all and even add #1000k untop my dad is #4500

4500 ,but why not make it 5000, or 4000

So Buhari has not even submitted his assets declaration form

Juliearth:




First of all, I must applaud you for your patience and self control. You are already in this union and it's for better or worse. I would advise you to stand up to your position as a man. You need to make her understand that you are the man of the house, the head and "lord" over her. She needs to understand that you can walk away if she doesn't put a leash on her terrible and distasteful character. Perhaps she feels encouraged to do these things because she knows that you probably may not react. You need to "change it for her"( pardon my French). By that I don't mean violence please, but be firm, let their be retribution for every ill character she displays... Good luck.

Thanks for this deep thoughts

FloraEC:
Heartless
Cheat
Disrespectful
Nag
Bad wife
Quarrelsome even with her family
Patapata she has no good side
You just painted her black.
And you've been with her for 8years and breeding with her You have been the best husband to her?
Lolzz that's all I have to say.

Oga please I am not perfect at all, please read what I wrote, it is not about me alone, what about the quarrel with her siblings that has remained unsettled for years till now, what about her mum?. ...

I have been married for about 8 years now, but it has been sorrow tears and blood. Sincerely I do not know where to start from but a good place should be from our dating days. We dated for about three years before we got married. During our dating days, so many fights happened enough to cause breakup, but somehow with intervention from third parties and my lack of being man enough, we kept resolving issues. Even two occasions of cheating on me.
Looking back, I think I made so many series of mistakes, like allowing too many things to slide all in the name of love and faith. These gave her the audacity to feel indispensable, she brought this attitude into the marriage and things have only grown from bad to worse.
She has some good qualities though, but the main problem is that she is heartless, disrespectful to all, I mean not just to me, but everyone in her family. The only way I have peace at home is never to say anything about her character, once I try to correct her, she usually yells back at me, and that may mean days or weeks of not talking to me.
As I type now, she is not in communication with any of her 7 siblings, both younger and senior siblings, because she feels everyone must apologise to her whenever there are any misunderstandings.
Her mother dare not speak to her because she is the main person that finances her mother. Her mother also lost a good relationship with her other children because the other children feel their mother has been very biased towards her. She has no communication what so ever with her paternal family, because her parents divorced when she was a child, so since then, her mother shielded her away from her father, It was only during the manage I insisted that the fathers family must be involved, that was about the second time she was in contact with her paternal family all her life. She is not in communication with any of her maternal aunt or uncles as well. I remember clearly, during our dating days she was always complaining about her aunt and uncles, I just felt those were normal family issues. I was kind of very open to her family members, the truth is that they all really liked me. I remember that two of her aunts on separate occasions once told me to be very careful about her, that if I choose to marry her, I must be ready to be very strong-headed at all times, I never really took them seriously because I thought it was just the regular women thing.
Every time we have misunderstanding, I will always be the one to make the move to settle the matter. Never has she apologised for anything, the only time she apologised was when I ran into a message from her friend where they were just greeting casually, like how is family, the kids etc. suddenly the guy was asking her if she misses him. I was surprised, that her response to the guy was that ‘ my husband is right here by my side, what do you think you saying’.The chat continued casually till the guy asked again ‘you did not answer my question, and she said, were you expecting me to answer, and the guy said yes of course.
Sadly, initially when I confronted, she just started screaming and saying the guy was married, and she became very angry, I left the house, and she was very livid with me, after about one week when I will not make peace she apologised and convinced me that it was really nothing but just casual talk. I forgave her right away.
For the past 5 years now, I have been literally sleeping in a different room, (I sleep on and off in our bedroom because anytime there is quarrel, she always refuses to sleep in same bed with me, and she keeps nagging to the extent of making the children understand, so I have to leave in order to avoid this. even if I choose to stay, after some days, she starts locking the room and locking me out) so I have to always move out of the room whenever there is any misunderstanding.
Also, at the slightest misunderstanding, she will stop doing all her duties, she leaves home anytime she likes and comes back anytime she likes. She only tells me where she is going when she is very happy if I try to confront her, all she says is that I should also not tell her if I am leaving home.
Everything almost ends up in disagreement, always quarrelling with the kids, and with everybody, not even any good or close friend, I am so much afraid for the kids now because they live in constant fear.
in my opinion, I think she does not want the marriage anymore after all the government is there to take care of her
One of the main reason I am sticking around now is because of the kids to shield them as much as possible. However, I was at the hospital two weeks ago and I was diagnosed with high blood pressure, rightly so, because the stress has been too much. This is the reason I have to get my peace back before it progresses to a stroke.
There is nobody to talk to any more, her mother can not talk to her, she is not in communication with her siblings, zero communication with paternal family. They barely even know her, more so as she, she did not grow up with her father, so the paternal family have no say in her life.

THIS IS MY STORY.

frowland:


PDP js putting democracy in danger!!!! Justice Mary Odili MUST delete herself forthwith.