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johnydon22:
Both are equally barbaric. .

anyway this is enough to show any reasonable person that these concepts are constructs of the mind of the people who lay them out & a reflection of the cultural ideology of the cultures where it is found..

Drfinn:
Precisely, on 31st March, 2013 I asked my now ex to marry me. Not in some fancy restaurant, shopping mall or some heaven on earth theatrical setting. It was via a phone call. Surprisingly, we had never met in person! What madness!! Did she accept??

Love they say is like a butterfly, it perches wherever it wants. It's like a lion, it devours whoever that comes his way. How we fall in love at times is mysterious. We seldom have control in matters of the heart. This is how I felt the day I saw her picture carrying a child. Her little nephew. I love kids to a fault. In that split moment I told her how I wished it was our son she was carrying. That remark set aglow our hearts.

Initially, she doubted my sincerity. She had been hurt not once, twice but severally. Worse still she has a medical condition. A condition she erroneously thought will forever rob her of love. Hence her skepticism. Furthermore, my reputation with 'the ladies' on some social network we had met some years earlier was daunting. I had to prove my sincerity. I had to win her love.

As am typing this, my alarm just beeped! Its October 24th- the day I had slated for our introduction. Alas! It was never to be. Our love could not survive the divide. The 'hypocrisy' of the church has prevailed. I cannot believe am still hurting this bad. Maybe I was in a hurry to have ended it all. This is my story. Our story.

After the initial 'gragra' women exhibit we settled into a beautiful but distant relationship. She was based in Lagos, I in Port Harcourt. Days became weeks, and weeks months before our first physical encounter. I did first visit as a gent. We had wild fun!! Then came the moment of truth; a visit to her kit and kin to intimate them of my intention. Her brother-in law gave me his word. The only snag which was to destroy all we labored to build -the church! she is catholic, am protestant. She is Igbo am Ijaw.

True to his word, her brother-in law accompanied me to see her parents in her hometown- some community in Imo State. I was well received. Such a loving home. I made my intentions known with all seriousness. It's no child's play explaining while you consider a man's daughter worth more than other women to him. Thankfully, the son in-law gave me all the necessary support. However, convincing a retired teacher, a respected and unrepentant staunch catholic requires more than fancy words. I left that home with mixed feelings. Her father had plainly told me what mixed marriage entails. My wife and children will become 'properties of the catholic church'. It was non-negotiable.

I sought the advice of family members, and my pastor. All were of the opinion that her father's stance undermines my role as the head of our future family. Personally, I saw it as an 'indirect rule'. I enlisted one or two of her siblings, her mum inclusive to get her father to shift grounds. The old man wouldn't bulge. At my fiancee's suggestion I paid her uncle a scheduled visit. A Priest in some parish at Owerri. His stance was same as his elder brother's; convert to Catholicism or accept the terms of mixed marriage.

I was devastated. More so by my fiancee's shifting positions. Today she's all by my side, tomorrow she wants me to please her father. I saw it more as a character weakness than a woman drawn between love and the hands that fed her. Perhaps, it was a miscalculation on my part. She had her flaws. Mine was so glaring. But i found in her the woman of my dreams.

In the midst of this storm I had boldly gone ahead to fix today, October 24th my introduction day. I had called my Pastor to inform him, and a couple of family members. This decision was informed after my now ex had told me her siblings and other family members had prevailed on her father to soft pedal on his stance. He unbelievably agreed. So i thought. Until I made one more call!

The old man true to his principled nature remained unchanged. It was a blow too devastating to bear. I saw a relationship of over two years with countless sacrifices on both sides evaporate on the grounds of dogma. It hurts so bad to have met that special one only to realize you can not be with them for eternity. Should I have converted for love? That would have betrayed love itself. Love is without condition(s). Should I have settled for mixed marriage? Its unbearable! It's my responsible to provide both spiritual and physical nourishment for my future family.

So, it was only appropriate I let love go. If she finds her way back to me. I had be most fortunate not lucky. Fortune befriends the bold. A life of service to all humanity now beckons . It's a call I must answer. Who knows love maybe around the corner. Love knows no religious boundaries. Let's spread the glad tidings of ecumenism.

Vikkie14:
For what? The one wey we get, how ar our "rulers" utilizing it?

FOLYKAZE:
Firstly, we need to acknowledge that the problem of Nigerian starts with the so called Leader. We need to put them under a oath through the raditional line which is more effective. We need to stop asking them to swear on bible or quran which does not stp them in any way from stealing.

If that is done, Eshu - the God of confusion would be consulted and sent to the camp of Boko Haram. This tactic has been used in the past and it works fine. Sonponna is the God that causes measles and high fever. The Abore then would consult this God and have it sent to the camp of enemy. If that is done, there would be wide epidemic of measles, different diseases and death. Those who are sick wont have the health to fight any work. When the enemy camp has been inflicted with disease, our Balogun will have the next option to attack them.

So in the case of Boko - Haram, Eshu would be consulted to plant confusion in their camp. They would bcome their own enemy and fight among themselves. Our Soldiers would be made ready physically and spiritually. So when the Boko Haram are confused in their camp, we can easilyy move our soldiers in. The saying the house divided agaisnt itself shall fall. Eshu will make Boko Haram divided and it shall fall.

There after, there are lot of cleansing that is needed to be done in the North-East. A lot of blood have been wasted. This cleasing will forstall future bloodbath.

Lasveg:
the phone is not meant 4 poor pple, 1.3 million naira is chicken change to a lot of pple

raayah:
Definitely. The man should resign.

Vinshu:
Oh I'm serious and I'm not aggressive. I am actually gentle and reserved but hate when men feel important.

Kjking:
common gerrarahere

themilanway:
More reason why slim guys like me will stick to an equally slim girl at the end of the day.

That way,if after child bearing she add weight,it won't be much.

No need asking/reminding her of keeping shape.

But seriously,women needs to start urging their husband in keeping fit as well.I find men with big tummy repulsive,no offence meant,just my candid opinion.

Neplusultra:
Dis Op sha! It's not your fault!
Imagine the comparison? Kim k and co dat can't do without Surgery
No need say more,you are not a woman so you'll neva understand wot Labour,breastfeeding and nurturing a child is! Hot ko, hot ni?
Please leave our African women alone!
Stop Bodyshaming!

dominique:
What those Hollywood celebrities will never tell you is the expensive plastic surgery procedure they undergo. Hahaha abeg help me and ask them.



Abi o. You see men developing pot belies after marriage. At least the women lose their shapes when bringing children into the world. What's the men's excuse?

queebeediva:
people like you should be ban from NL because you open your mouth through your smelling anus and misyarn.

IceDude:
A pig is a pig, 4get about the size

Ndawe:
It takes one smelling person to know another smelling person