menix:
On my way home but this topic came up.

This family have got 2 kids and the kids lack parental care because the man and wife come in late.

The issue of Nanny is out of the option because they don't trust nannies and someone must resign to take care of the kids..

The problem here is that the wife earns four times(400%) the man's salary and the ladies salary goes a long way to sort the family expenses.

Please who do you advise to resign.
Should the man become a house husband

akike:


I am sorry I am ambitious. I love money and if it makes me materialistic, good. But so you know it does not make me a fool.

Money is not everything but it is as important as anything else. Would you say ego is much more important than money? Or comfort for your family. Do you think it is healthy to worry about money all the time? Do you think it is healthy for your kids to be conscious of money when you have good options.

Money is not everything but it sure guarantees comfort. A man who would rather keep his ego intact and watch his children attend a substandard school shouldn't be proud to call hifmself a father.

I am sincerely worried about you.

Teempakguy:
you need not worry about me at all. i am far more ambitious than you could ever hope to be.

like i earlier said, a point which you keep sidestepping, ego is the least of issues here. the real issue is, and i will enclose it in bold letters now to ensure it does not escape your attention. Can the family handle such a drastic role reversal without breaking?

you might be surprised that the very act of the man resigning may be the time bomb that eventually destroys the home. this is because it requires a large amount of flexibility, tolerance, patience, maturity, and intellect to manage such a situation and you know it. it is not as easy as you paint it. i know this because my parents have once been in such a situation. and while i am impressed at the way they managed it, i found the whole affair rather tedious.

in such a case as it is found that this cannot be easily done, other alternatives must be found. it is a matter which is simply to be discussed among the couple. but if i were to be in such a situation, the decision is clear, a third of the money she receives is to go to the family account. she is only allowed to keep a quarter. and she is not allowed to complain. as i am not allowed to. each individual must fit into their roles perfectly.

se fini

akike:


Ever hope to be? I hear you

I like the bolded question. It should be up to both parents to act in the best interest of the family however you should know that couples who cannot sacrifice for the greater good shouldn't be married in the first place

menix:
On my way home but this topic came up.

This family have got 2 kids and the kids lack parental care because the man and wife come in late.

The issue of Nanny is out of the option because they don't trust nannies and someone must resign to take care of the kids..

The problem here is that the wife earns four times(400%) the man's salary and the ladies salary goes a long way to sort the family expenses.

Please who do you advise to resign.
Should the man become a house husband

habiham:
I will ... So that she can face her career ... Then I move on

Adesiji77:
*Thinking*

It is a tough one really. Children needs to be adequately cared for emotionally, etc at the same time the family needs the money....

Ultimately, it is the man's call to provide for his family materially, physically, emotionally and even, spiritually.

A tough decision has to be made...

Owliver:
my dear brother in the lord. no woman, i repeat. no woman with black skin will put on a good behaviour in such situation. abi no be this same Nigeria wey be say broke girl go dey call okada man broke azs? . now imagine wen such a girl earns more. loooooool never enter such trap oh. no say i no warn you oo

sonofananimal:
AND YOU THINK YOU JUST MAKE SENSE

way more DUMB

Teempakguy:
you need not worry about me at all. i am far more ambitious than you could ever hope to be.

like i earlier said, a point which you keep sidestepping, ego is the least of issues here. the real issue is, and i will enclose it in bold letters now to ensure it does not escape your attention. Can the family handle such a drastic role reversal without breaking?

you might be surprised that the very act of the man resigning may be the time bomb that eventually destroys the home. this is because it requires a large amount of flexibility, tolerance, patience, maturity, and intellect to manage such a situation and you know it. it is not as easy as you paint it. i know this because my parents have once been in such a situation. and while i am impressed at the way they managed it, i found the whole affair rather tedious.

in such a case as it is found that this cannot be easily done, other alternatives must be found. it is a matter which is simply to be discussed among the couple. but if i were to be in such a situation, the decision is clear, a third of the money she receives is to go to the family account. she is only allowed to keep a quarter. and she is not allowed to complain. as i am not allowed to. each individual must fit into their roles perfectly.

se fini

Thoniameek:
Sharing life issues....

justcallbuki:
inspiration fm is on the issue now and have also watch a yoruba film like dt..... All in all the wife shd b the 1 to resign,cos the role of a man in the huz can't never be over emphasize,a woman without a job is still better than a man without job.......if the woman is the breadwinner she will unknowinling rub it on the husband face.

raayah:
Definitely. The man should resign.

ojeota:



If you have a better idea, let's hear it, until then Keep your mouth shut.

Pelmet:
Non should resign just yet...give it a couple o' months, save up and open a business. this is why entrepreneurship is the best(after saving up capital for a while of course) it gives you the opportunity to manage your time yourself, leave work, go for school run, cook and go back to work...sometimes, the kids could come around your office and be with you whilst you make your money...let them start saving and open a business...after a while non would want a "jacki" job anymore have tasted both waters

flyforall:
As they both gave birth to the child,they should both make an unselfish decision that has the child's best interest.

janejive:
The woman should save up and open a good business, den resign, her time will be at her beck and call, the man shld continue working.

dymphna993:
Study in Philippines any course of your choice

menix:
On my way home but this topic came up.

This family have got 2 kids and the kids lack parental care because the man and wife come in late.

The issue of Nanny is out of the option because they don't trust nannies and someone must resign to take care of the kids..

The problem here is that the wife earns four times(400%) the man's salary and the ladies salary goes a long way to sort the family expenses.

Please who do you advise to resign.
Should the man become a house husband