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Family › Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by questioner(op): 6:27pm On Jul 12, 2023

Sablexxxtoons:
Lol she's just exploring her taste for BBC's .. every teen has such exploring..

But she should learn to do so with her own data.. and teach her about safe sex before it becomes unwanted pregnant

If it is a guy, I wouldn't bother much cos I know too well that lots of young boys go thru this phase but even though I know it exists but this is the first time I am seeing a girl in this situation - if it portends the beginning of trouble, I will just advice that she should be returned to stay with her dad

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Family › Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by questioner(op): 6:13pm On Jul 12, 2023

I also had periods in my early 20s when I was sort of addicted to porn for a couple of years. And it sort of left on its own when I started dating and having sex cool

Also in my case and in many cases, watching porn wasn't associated with promiscuity. Infact, I wasn't freaked about it during the period I consider my wayward phase. I have many friends too who were quite reserved who told me they battled porn while younger.

These are the reasons why I sort of didn't want to address her.

Just that I am a guy and the reality might be different for girls

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Family › My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by questioner(op): 6:07pm On Jul 12, 2023

My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.

Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.

Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.

The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.

The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.

Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.

Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on

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Health › Re: I slept with several prostitute raw..I Thought I Had Hiv, Narrow escape by questioner: 12:05pm On May 09, 2023

mdntiri:
There's a German man who came to Africa, travelled to Ghana, Nigeria, South Africa, Kenya etc and slept with over 200 girls raw, went back home and tested for HIV etc and was negative.

I don't advocate risky sexual behaviors but the probability of contracting hiv is much lower than most think and much lower than the way it is usually portrayed.
Infact, carelessness puts people more at risk of contracting other common STIs than hiv.

According to the Centre for Disease Control in the US, the probability of a man contracting hiv from unprotected penis/vagina sex with a random woman is about 1 in 2,500 exposures (rounds of sex) - that's really low.

Even if a man were to have intercourse with an hiv positive woman (so long there are no open wounds around the organs and she is not a late stage AIDS , high viral load victim), according to some research, the probability of infection is still as low as 1 in 200 exposures.

Although, it still better to always practice safe sexual habits

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Romance › Re: Should I Talk To My Neighbour About My Girlfriend by questioner(op): 9:10pm On Jan 12, 2023

texannaija:
* X knows something she is hiding from you.
* You and X ain’t close so he might “lock up” and not say anything even if you approach him (I would do the same).
* If you wanna find out, you know what to do!!

If I know what to do, I won't be on this forum....Tell me

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Romance › Re: Should I Talk To My Neighbour About My Girlfriend by questioner(op): 8:30pm On Jan 12, 2023

[quote author=Siirjoe post=119972259][/quote]I'll be relaxed and continue with the relationship, so long it is not a sordid history

Romance › Re: Should I Talk To My Neighbour About My Girlfriend by questioner(op): 8:21pm On Jan 12, 2023

Siirjoe:
the worst thing that can happen is that they have hooked up before.
or the Guy gave her Breakfast or better still Ur Girl asked him to Him and he turned her Down.
Everybody has a Dark past.

There is nothing dark about all you just wrote...so why the hiding?

Romance › Re: Should I Talk To My Neighbour About My Girlfriend by questioner(op): 8:16pm On Jan 12, 2023

DaddyRochie1642:
It means that you're showing remarkable symptoms of being a bloody simp that will soon be used and dumped if you don't approach that Mr X and ask him the necessary questions

Sincere question here bro - what are the exact questions you think I should ask him, without coming across as crazy or insecure

Romance › Re: Should I Talk To My Neighbour About My Girlfriend by questioner(op): 6:43pm On Jan 12, 2023

anonymuz:
as a man just chill for now. Truth will reveal itself. She's hiding something from you. Might have slept with the guy

Even if she has slept with or dated the guy, I don't see how that should be something you should be desperate to hide. I expected from day one that she had relationships before me

More reason why I am curious if there's more I should know

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Romance › Re: Should I Talk To My Neighbour About My Girlfriend by questioner(op): 6:41pm On Jan 12, 2023

Pells:
If you fail to ask the guy about your gf you will regret in life
Know this and know peace
Thank you

Thanks for your brutal honesty

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Romance › Re: Should I Talk To My Neighbour About My Girlfriend by questioner(op): 6:30pm On Jan 12, 2023

DaddyRochie1642:
Jonsing man,

That's how that girl will get pregnant for x and you'll think it's your baby.

Lemme tell you a secret, when a girl continuously speaks bad about a guy, it is BECAUSE THAT GUY IGNORES HER, AND DOESN'T GIVE HER HIS ATTENTION....you said it yourself that he even has a car,

You have no idea how crazy a woman gets when a guy with car completely ignores her like she doesn't exist.... She will even personally tell their last born in her family to never ever greet you again in this life .

That your yeye girlfriend wants that guy's attention so bad and she isn't getting it, and now she has discovered that two of you knew each other before and she wants you not to greet and associate with him.
-- she is doing this as a Means of getting back at Mr X for ignoring her all these while, now she doesn't want you to even greet him.

Oga mark my words, the day that your yeye girlfriend discovers that you guys now get along, just watch closely the drama that she'll cause for the both of you, don't be surprised that she will use it as an opportunity to confront that guy on why he is associating with you her yeye boyfriend and the guy will have to explain himself by replying her and in the process giving her that his attention that she had so much desired.

I chuckled while reading this but thanks sha...Though your conjectures aren't correct

I ride a car way bigger than X does and as I said earlier, I am older than X and more advanced career wise and financially

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Romance › Re: Should I Talk To My Neighbour About My Girlfriend by questioner(op): 6:25pm On Jan 12, 2023

tayo60:
She is dating d guy

I didn't want to add this part so that my cover doesn't get blown in case anyone I know reads this, but at this point, I'll take the risk

X just got married some months back, so I my hunch is, it might not be about X but perhaps someone X knows.

Also it made me more curious about why she's worried about X's so called unruly friends considering his married status would mean he won't get a chance to hang with them as much as he used to.

Do you think I should approach X and have a talk with him or should I keep observing?

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Romance › Re: Should I Talk To My Neighbour About My Girlfriend by questioner(op): 5:53pm On Jan 12, 2023

@ peedeeasobie and jimmychang
Thanks for your responses.
I am so happy with the quality of responses I am getting.

@ jimmychang
What do you mean by the part - someone will control if for you.
care to explain better

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Romance › Should I Talk To My Neighbour About My Girlfriend by questioner(op): 5:42pm On Jan 12, 2023*

Opinion needed here

I just got transferred back to Lagos in October last year and met this girl who is a secretary in one of our client office.
We sort of vibed and I asked her out, so we started dating early December.

On Christmas eve, I decided to spend the day at her place and on my way in, I met a familiar face driving in,
It was a guy who lived in the same hood with me before I left Lagos. We weren't friends really, more like acquaintance who greeted each other and knew each other on first name basis but never hung out together.
Apparently, he lives in the same apartment as my gf, He upstairs and they (my gf and family) downstairs. let's call this dude X.

When I told gf about X and how we once lived in the same area, she wasn't happy.
She said X was a bad guy and not the kind of guy to relate with bla bla.
I insisted that though I wasn't close to X, my impressions of him were an easy going dude, who rarely had trouble with anyone.

Beau insisted that he had a lot of friends coming around who were unruly and irresponsible and she just didn't like them.
I didn't really give it much thought since it wasn't like X was a close pal.

Last weekend, I had gone to pick her for an evening outing, we were outside when X was driving in again, I wasn't sure he saw me since it was dark,
so I decided to walk towards where he was parking to say hi, only for her to hold me back and insist she didn't want me to even greet him or have anything or discussions with him.
I acted chill and asked her why was she so persistence, she repeated the bad boy, rubbish guy talk.

Frankly all this has made me so curious and I am considering finding away to approach this guy and talk with him.

The opinion I need from esteemed peeps on this forum is -

1. Do you think I am being 'unnecessarily' curious by wanting to talk to X about my gf
2. If I do decide to meet him, How do you advise I broach the subject with him considering I don't even have his phone number and might need to go meet him at home
3. If you were in X's shoes would you consider it clumsy or agbaya behavior, me coming to meet you to ask about my gf - I am quite older than X, by my estimate, by 5 to 7 years or would you be cool with it

*Modified*
I think I should add here that X is recently married bout 3 months ago.
So I think it is unlikely they are CURRENTLY dating

Romance › Re: Apparently, Only A Virgin Can Do This (Pics/Video) by questioner: 9:13pm On Nov 28, 2022

If a typical Lagos girl tries to jump over a healthy horse, the horse would probably fall down dead

Romance › Re: Help - I'm About To Start Dating Two Sisters (accidentally) At The Same Time. by questioner(op): 3:35pm On May 21, 2022

PattyMike:
Both of them na hoe. The YS na ur package make her open leg, the OS sef wan chop her own too. Funny enough the elder one knows the kinda of sister she has. She's not interested in you tbh, probably wants to compete with her younger sister. My advice? Pansh and discard both of them, two sisters or two friends no be new thing. Crossing the line for me nah, mother and daughter LMAO. That one get as e be.

This your analysis get PhD !

I think you are right to a large extent,
there are some extra info (I am hesitant to give here) that sort of aligns with what you have analysed

Romance › Re: Help - I'm About To Start Dating Two Sisters (accidentally) At The Same Time. by questioner(op): 10:19am On May 21, 2022

Sweetplum:
Hard to get is virtue.
If it ends in tears for some few, it ends in joy for the majority.
The issue here is that boy want to eat to fishes from same family. Sisters for that matter. He's as good as dead.

Keep on wishing evil.

Your bad belle and toxicity is too much

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Romance › Re: Help - I'm About To Start Dating Two Sisters (accidentally) At The Same Time. by questioner(op): 10:18am On May 21, 2022

Ximenez:
Even though sex is pleasurable, but try not to sleep with sisters intentionally, when it's time to clear up the mess, the effort required will be far greater than the pleasure you got.

There's aloso a possibility the mess will clear itself naturally - I might catch one of them cheating or one of them might lose interest and I'll focus on the other

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Romance › Re: Help - I'm About To Start Dating Two Sisters (accidentally) At The Same Time. by questioner(op): 10:16am On May 21, 2022

Techibi6777:
Lol this got me laughing hard.

OP at 31 you should be clear on what you want in life and not be impressed by number of free pussies you're smashing. Tread carefully coz in the end no matter the outcome it still won't be worth it, especially when that outcome turns out badly for you. Do not underestimate how toxic people can be.

However if you chose to go ahead and be banging both of them, please for your own good state clearly to them that you don't want anything very serious at the moment that you just want to see how it goes. After all girls no too get choice like that when it comes to situations like this. Them go still chest am!

More pussies to your dick until you figure out yourself. Cheers !

You'r making too much sense my bro...
I go think am

...and about toxicity, the OS does look like someone that'll have a deep mind, but the YS looks more like a free spirit.

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Romance › Re: Help - I'm About To Start Dating Two Sisters (accidentally) At The Same Time. by questioner(op): 10:13am On May 21, 2022

Babssoo:
Shebi you hear about chidinma? No worry go ahead.

Why are you wishing me despicable evil ?

Romance › Re: Lady With High-slit Dress Causes Stir At Event As She Struggles To Cover Herself by questioner: 10:06am On May 21, 2022

Intentional.
The part she held on her arm was intended to cover the slit and she purposely put it aside

Romance › Re: Help - I'm About To Start Dating Two Sisters (accidentally) At The Same Time. by questioner(op): 9:48am On May 21, 2022

arthurwillia:
Lol pick one and enjoy, go for the two and lose them both.. take it from experience

Seems like you had a bad experience bro.

Hope dem no show you pepper ?

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Romance › Re: Help - I'm About To Start Dating Two Sisters (accidentally) At The Same Time. by questioner(op): 8:52pm On May 20, 2022

TMTR:
Bang both of them

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Romance › Re: Why Do Men Like Cheating? by questioner: 5:40pm On May 20, 2022

MrBrownJay1:
men cheat because women allow it to happen.... if women reacted the same way as we men did (in the face of being cheated on) the issue would be fixed asap....sadly, due to desperation, body clock, marriage etc, many women gladly accept and forgive a cheating man and blame the other woman instead... aka green card to cheat again!

but then again, if we are to be honest: some men cheat, others dont... if you dont want a cheating man, find one that doesnt.

I think women cheat just as much as men.
They're just more discreet knowing the consequences of being found out and it is also far easier for a woman to cheat, they just need to show up, chop, clean mouth and go back home

Romance › Re: Help - I'm About To Start Dating Two Sisters (accidentally) At The Same Time. by questioner(op): 5:36pm On May 20, 2022

Sweetplum:
Tell the sister you ll not date her. Break the news early. She said she ll like to spend night with you blablabla. The way you talked, you wan dey chop two girls from same family. If their father's my dad you ll go to jail.
If you try that with me, I won't kill you. But you ll smell death. I ll death with you legally, physically & spiritually!

Your dad is a man, He'll understand.

And dating two sisters does not break any law in any country.

And forget that spiritual part, I spiritual pass you.

The YS does not even allow me drop her or pick her at home yet , I have to wait at a junction leading to their place.
So you have to even consider her wish here.

Why don't your rephrase that your statement about chopping?
What if I am the victim and two girls from the same family want to be chopping me. One legally, one secretly grin

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Romance › Re: Help - I'm About To Start Dating Two Sisters (accidentally) At The Same Time. by questioner(op): 5:27pm On May 20, 2022

Sweetplum:
You v no balls. Let the older sister know you v switched.
Don't try to eat two fruits that ll poison you.
And if I catch a man like you in real life. Be sure I ll render you impotent & miserable before I add the worst to you.

Haba now!
No insults please.
I have two big balls and a big manliness - no kidding.

But seriously, the younger sister is the one who insists on keeping things low for now.
My not reaching out to the older sister for more than a week after our date was for me, enough message.

But which one is all this your threats,
None of all that is happening is my own making

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Romance › Re: Help - I'm About To Start Dating Two Sisters (accidentally) At The Same Time. by questioner(op): 5:21pm On May 20, 2022

bigdammyj:
@ The bolded is reason why I'm congratulating him in advance

Wait I thought you are a man...

Shouldn't you be on my side ? I haven't anything wrong, things just fell into place cool

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Romance › Re: Help - I'm About To Start Dating Two Sisters (accidentally) At The Same Time. by questioner(op): 5:09pm On May 20, 2022

Urheadmaster:
I've done that.

Was the best moments of my life

How did you navigate the the tricky situation without getting caught ?

or were you caught? wink

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Romance › Help - I'm About To Start Dating Two Sisters (accidentally) At The Same Time. by questioner(op): 4:56pm On May 20, 2022*

I'd like to summarize my issue, Confused on the way forward.

1. I met this beautiful babe at a restaurant - pretty face, fresh baby skin, nice catwalk. She was damn proportionate, average boobs, average butt, avg hips, average height, angelic look, you can take her anywhere kinda girl.
She leaves the restaurant some minutes before I do.

2. While driving out, I notice she's still at the bus stop waiting for a bus/cab, so I beckon her and gave her a lift home. We exchanged numbers.

3. Called her two days later asking to hang out, she was hesitant but I persisted and she later agreed

4. We chill out at a bar in the evening but she wasn't acting too friendly, not answering my questions and just behaving hesitant.
Infact, a friend I met at the bar wondered if i offended her, I explained we just met and don't know her too well.
Luckily, it was one of those Real Madrid Champion's league match days where Benzema was rescuing Madrid from the brink, which made up for her boredom.

5. We were about leaving when she got a call from her younger sister who said she was nearby with a mutual friend of theirs, so younger sis (YS) agreed to join us and then I'll drop them at home together.

6. YS came into the bar and behold she was a stunner! As beautiful as the older sis (OS) but she (YS) had huge boobs and was tall - not kidding but video vixen stuff.
Almost every man around turned as she made her way to us. I mean Those boobs was bouncing as she came in
She also turned out to be the life of the party extrovert, came in with a big smile, greeting everybody on sight and immediately initiating conversations.
infact about 3 guys came to the table adjacent us, just to take her number while we were there.

7. So I ordered another round of drinks and meat and peppersoup and since YS was easier to talk to, I was more comfortable
asking her about what they wanted to take etc, which annoyed the OS who asked why I was talking to her YS while she was with me.

8. It came to a head, when YS wanted to request for an extra bottle of water , I couldn't hear cos of loud music, so I placed me hand across her shoulder to pull her mouth nearer my ears (innocent action, believe me) so I can hear her. I suddenly got a slap in the back from OS who warned me not to try what I did again and totally stopped talking to me - I wrote her off after that incident.

9. Shortly after that, we decided to go home, I managed to slip my biz card secretly into YS hands and whispered call me, she looked annoyed and said 'why?'

10. Dropped the girls home and practically forgot about them, I felt OS was no go area and didn't think YS was going to call back...

11. Some days later, very early in the morning, my phoen went boooom....YS was calling and asking why I told her to call me. I suggested we meet later in the day.

12. Picked her up (at junction some distance away from their house) and brought her to my place. While I was still thinking of how to break the ice, she was already stylishly bombarding me with questions.
Do you stay alone in this big house - Yes
What job do you do - Banker
Are you married - No
Do you have kids - No
You must be old O ? - Just 31+
What about my sister - Nothing between us, I have not spoken to her since that day and that was also the first time we met

She seemed satisfied with all my answers cos she relaxed and became very chatty

13. She came back to my place the next evening and this time around we got smashing, it was mind blowing, she was amazing, energetic and that her long legs were put to good use.
I would have called her a 10/10 overall and one for the long haul aside the fact that she said she dropped out of Uni while her older sis is a graduate

14. She later warned we should keep things on the low for now cos her sister might not be happy.

15. Everything seemed to be going well until bang...bout a week later, I got a call from OS, she was obviously trying to win me back asking why I didn't call her back and sh*t
I just responded politely but she wasn't deterred, she kept calling like every other day, while I only called back once a while
in fact, I had to lie that I had gone for a training and would be away for the next 3 weeks.

16. Problem is, the 3 weeks will expire this weekend and this girl (OS) has promised to give me what she failed to do weeks earlier.
Talking smack about how she wanted to spend the night at my place but she was so angry back then bla bla and how she's looking forward to me being back.

Herein, lies my dilemma
Younger sister is hooked and we have a little secret going
Older sister is also getting hooked and she wanna be starting something
Me, the beneficiary (or is it victim), I don confuse - both girls are top tier babes

What do I do?

a) Do the right thing and continue with YS

b) Do the right thing and stop the low key games with YS, and go for OS

c) Do the right thing and enjoy life with both sisters, shebi I no force them

Frankly, I would have gone with option C, na the stuff of dreams, but the things I am hearing these days about babes,
I dey cautious about safety, these girls are sisters and if they find out, nobody knows wetin dem fit do.

But NL people, what do you think ?

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