Time will tell in the later run. If she appreciated the 1500 which means she isn't after your money and she is really broke. Remember she took you to her house cooked and served u. if she wanted to use your head she will take you to a fast food so you can buy food and she will take food away but no she didn't. 1500 is nothing because other girls will see it as an insult but she took it because she really needed it. So stick and see how it goes

3pleo:


I'm available if u are looking for bf o

sorry I don't need a boyfriend because I have them at my disposal and I still said no to all. I just need to heal myself nothing else

SenatorAiyzik:
If you would take my honest opinion, the truth is none of them deserves you. They are both toxic for you, considering you're just starting up and from your words, you never had any sexual encounter with any man before. I believe you deserve better, a man who would love you for you. Honestly, none of them is worth your time, yeah i know you still feel something for your ex but cmn, make use of time as it heals wounds. Cut the desperation, it'll make you meet the wrong person. Concentrate on being a better woman for now as you're in your early 20's. Just be you. If you want to talk anytime, I'd be here.

Note: Most guys would want to use this as a means to get to you, acting all good and all, giving you all the attention cos they know at this point you are vulnerable, do NOT give in to them. They are also toxic for you. Trust me, I know this! Mentioning the fact that you work in Dubai, have a great job and a great body has drawn all the attention from the wrong people now, they'll all act all good just to get to you at this vulnerable stage of your, Do NOT give in to them or you'll regret it not too long. That's the honest truth. Concentrate on being a better woman now and if you'd like to talk anytime, I'd be here.

Goodluck

thanks a million

ricki:
Now this is what i called a B I T C H...... or an international bitch.

Must you show your foolishness everywhere?

pmc01:


Your opening statement just weak me... You're feeling really haunted. It seems he lives rent-free in your head.

I can't fault you claiming he has a wrong opinion of you, but you really need to give yourself a break.

Stop taking people's opinion to heart... Be open to criticism, but do not accommodate negativism, while at it. I mean learn to draw a line be objective criticism and destructive criticism.

I know what am talking about I was surprised when I realized he knows my Facebook account and he told me everything I and the white guy was talking about. His always checking on me everywhere I know him so am not surprise

Saintabdul:


From everything I have read from this post, I can categorically say, AUNTY WHY YOU DEY LIE.

if you don't have anything reasonable to say just walk away. You think everyone is as jobless as you? Why will I take my time in tears and type all those words, looking for advice if it was a lie? Am not jobless I just need someone to talk to not people like you

Hipsofagoddess:


I suspected it too. He sounded bitter.

As long as you're human, you can't forget your ex, because he is part of your memories. But you can have the best memories with someone who adores you, and that is what you should focus on. Visualize your perfect relationship, exactly how you want it to be. Do this everytime the thought of your ex comes up.

If you have girlfriends, go visit them and have fun joking and laughing. Don't even bring up the topic of your ex or any guy for that matter. Just you and your friends laughing, and being happy.

From your writeup, it seems you spend most time alone aside from work, it may be the reason why you are yet to take your mind off him.

Go out and meet other people through conferences, meetup, and so on. Don't be alone.

yes dear you are absolutely right am always alone and most of my friends are white talking with them is like a waste of energy because they always talk about their boyfriends which makes things worst for me. I just like to keep to myself and use my phone. It's time to go out and treat myself good. His the one talking it's too obvious

ericmor:
One thing I dislike is my girl friend that I love so dearly telling me I only love her body and her virginity bcs I admire it. how d broke up btw me n my ex started, was the day she told me I only love her bcs she’s a virgin. In your own case, is bcs he’s your first love and is very difficult for Decent n God fearing ladies to forget them. Dating a white man can even make u remember ur ex more. Be strong and ignore him and disconnect urself from him and spend your free time hanging out with friends n have fun. Your true man will show up and treat u like a queen that u are but if u are ok with the way he treat u, who am I to stop u from going back to him

you are absolutely right dear. Thanks for your great contribution and support

Jombom:
My dear you are simply a foolish human being
You need both advice, you simply need to be told you are foolish simply n clear.

you are the most useless idiot have ever seen in my life. Common sense you don't have. This forum is not for senseless and stupid people like you just go back to primary school so you can reason like a human because right now you reason like a cow

Privatepart00:
You need to grow up first before looking for what to do about your relationship. Nobody owes you anything . You don’t expect people not to advance in their words or character just because they were naive in the past. Compliment of how great your body looks shouldn’t be getting in your head. Even the ugly ones receive compliment too .You are just taking things too serious which is bad . I have someone like you as a friend , but soon her eyes will open , hope yours does so

I suspect this is my ex talking , this is how he keeps saying that he was naive then that was why he acted that way. He thinks because of my body shape and beauty that is why am always attracted to people and its getting into my head. That is a total lie and he knows how decent and humble I am despite all. Everyone deserves to be loved and been treated nicely

stillseth:
Okay you want to go.to Europe to look for another white man....shey? Okay go naa...nobody hold you.... You don't even know what you want sef....dem.no dey tell blind man say rain dey fall...

if you don't have anything to say just keep quiet. There is always a reason for everything. Traveling to meet different people and different cultures can change a lot.

Hanks0000:
I am not an expert in those relationship thingy but I'd advise you to take your time, find something that will distract you from thinkin about him, like goin to the gym, hangin out more with friends and involvin in other fun things you normally won't do but never drink cause the more you drink the sadder you become and the sadder you become the more you drink so drinking isn't the way..

The most crucial rule of relationship is not to date anyone because you wanna get back at someone or datin someone new cause you wanna forget your ex.. It's like a "TIME PASS" whatchamacallit to me..

A friend of mine from Singapore ended her relationship of 9 years last year cause of a similar reasons to yours and she's happy now... She still hasn't moved on tho' but she always try to make me believe she's moved on.... That's it, you might Wanna take a break for some time.. it's not like you won't survive if you are not in one..

But if you feel you are ready to move on, then go ahead.. Only you will know when you are no one else...

Don't close yourself in cause of the past relationships didn't work out well and don't rush into another cause you wanna recover from the pain... TRUST ME the more pain you get the more stronger you become..

As I have said earlier, I'm not a proff in relationship infact I am not even in one, never been in one and I won't untill am sure enough that it's safe to carry on and extend my horizons!!!

Hope that was helpful..
-Leo

Thanks so much for your advice. It really helped. You are such a great motivator. I don't drink and will never drink in my life.

Well said. Thanks for your contribution it really helped

I dated my ex for 6yrs. Who was never proud of me, can't even post my pics on any social media, even the day I did he got angry and removed it.

Have never cheated on him because I hate double dating. Am a virgin and he was a virgin then. we promise to wait till marriage which made me to love him more. I always cook, clean do everything as if I was his wife.

But this guy never showed any signs that he will want to marry me. If I bring it up he keeps quiet over it.

After graduation we came back to Nigeria my grandmother who was like my mother because she was the one who took care of me, was sick I was in the hospital with her for 1 month he never showed up despite the fact that his house was close by. I saw so many signs that I was only wasting my time because he hardly calls even before then we had issues about a girl in his room which he denied everything yet I let it go because of love.

So through my savings from university I went to Dubai got a good job decided to forget about him for good and started dating a Canadian guy who was really nice to me and was willing to wait but my problem with him was that he always calls me sexy and shapy, big botty girl which made me feel like he was after my body because he was always telling me he can't wait to have me on his bed because he feels am too sexy.

Yes, I have great body no doubt, I became confused of the situation and decided to break up that was when my ex started begging for forgiveness that now his working in the bank and his planning to settle down by 2020.

My grandmother died I went to Nigeria and we met I realized he has slept with different girls and was even hiding his phone from me. Acting strange so I came back to Dubai continued my work and the white guy was trying to come back that he won't say things like that because he knows am different but the truth of the matter is that I don't even have any single love for the white guy. I still love my ex but my ex keeps talking to me like am a trash, I got angry and blocked him but he sent me massage on Facebook saying am childish and called me names this is someone who can never say things like that to me before but now he talks to me anyhow without respect because he feels am desperate for marriage because I always want to get married early, am in my early 20's.

Due to the situation all the guys both white and blacks asking me out for serious relationship have said no to all because I feel I can't love anyone again in my life because of my ex I don't know if am in my right senses have tried possible ways to forget him, I deleted all his pictures on my Facebook, always watching movies yet nothing seems to work.

Now am thinking of traveling to any European country look for a good white man so I can forget about him because I know I deserve better than him. I need advice if dating another guy mostly white can make me forget him or it might make things worst since am doing it because am trying to forget him.