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Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Rach111: 12:16am On Sep 29, 2019
I dated my ex for 6yrs. Who was never proud of me, can't even post my pics on any social media, even the day I did he got angry and removed it.

Have never cheated on him because I hate double dating. Am a virgin and he was a virgin then. we promise to wait till marriage which made me to love him more. I always cook, clean do everything as if I was his wife.

But this guy never showed any signs that he will want to marry me. If I bring it up he keeps quiet over it.

After graduation we came back to Nigeria my grandmother who was like my mother because she was the one who took care of me, was sick I was in the hospital with her for 1 month he never showed up despite the fact that his house was close by. I saw so many signs that I was only wasting my time because he hardly calls even before then we had issues about a girl in his room which he denied everything yet I let it go because of love.

So through my savings from university I went to Dubai got a good job decided to forget about him for good and started dating a Canadian guy who was really nice to me and was willing to wait but my problem with him was that he always calls me sexy and shapy, big botty girl which made me feel like he was after my body because he was always telling me he can't wait to have me on his bed because he feels am too sexy.

Yes, I have great body no doubt, I became confused of the situation and decided to break up that was when my ex started begging for forgiveness that now his working in the bank and his planning to settle down by 2020.

My grandmother died I went to Nigeria and we met I realized he has slept with different girls and was even hiding his phone from me. Acting strange so I came back to Dubai continued my work and the white guy was trying to come back that he won't say things like that because he knows am different but the truth of the matter is that I don't even have any single love for the white guy. I still love my ex but my ex keeps talking to me like am a trash, I got angry and blocked him but he sent me massage on Facebook saying am childish and called me names this is someone who can never say things like that to me before but now he talks to me anyhow without respect because he feels am desperate for marriage because I always want to get married early, am in my early 20's.

Due to the situation all the guys both white and blacks asking me out for serious relationship have said no to all because I feel I can't love anyone again in my life because of my ex I don't know if am in my right senses have tried possible ways to forget him, I deleted all his pictures on my Facebook, always watching movies yet nothing seems to work.

Now am thinking of traveling to any European country look for a good white man so I can forget about him because I know I deserve better than him. I need advice if dating another guy mostly white can make me forget him or it might make things worst since am doing it because am trying to forget him.

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by TonyeBarcanista(m): 12:29am On Sep 29, 2019
What exactly do you want ma?

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Kneephy(m): 12:44am On Sep 29, 2019
TonyeBarcanista:
What exactly do you want ma?

She wants a boyfriend who does not want her.

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by shamecurls(m): 1:25am On Sep 29, 2019
Use both Ex for money rituals

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Jayslicky: 1:43am On Sep 29, 2019
Don't ever get married to someone that disrespects you, a word is enough for the wise.

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by chukwuibuipob: 3:26am On Sep 29, 2019
grin cheesy wink cheesy grin cheesy wink undecided shocked sad shocked Finally, Tonyebarcanista yaf quit politic join Romancelander.

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by chukwuibuipob: 3:28am On Sep 29, 2019
sad sad Leave him b4 God leave U.U see d warning now.Light/ darkness can't cohabit.

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by brandon2009: 3:36am On Sep 29, 2019
seriously i dnt knw what you actually want?

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by stillseth: 3:45am On Sep 29, 2019
Okay you want to go.to Europe to look for another white man....shey? Okay go naa...nobody hold you.... You don't even know what you want sef....dem.no dey tell blind man say rain dey fall...

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Shoejob: 4:13am On Sep 29, 2019

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by mrphysics(m): 5:06am On Sep 29, 2019
End time generation.

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Privatepart00: 5:17am On Sep 29, 2019
Rach111:
I dated my ex for 6yrs. Who was never proud of me, can't even post my pics on any social media, even the day I did he got angry and removed it. Have never cheated on him because I hate double dating. Am a virgin and he was a virgin then. we promise to wait till marriage which made me to love him more. I always cook, clean do everything as if I was his wife. But this guy never showed any signs that he will want to marry me. If I bring it up he keeps quiet over it. After graduation we came back to Nigeria my grandmother who was like my mother because she was the one who took care of me, was sick I was in the hospital with her for 1 month he never showed up despite the fact that his house was close by. I saw so many signs that I was only wasting my time because he hardly calls even before then we had issues about a girl in his room which he denied everything yet I let it go because of love. So through my savings from university I went to Dubai got a good job decided to forget about him for good and started dating a Canadian guy who was really nice to me and was willing to wait but my problem with him was that he always calls me sexy and shapy, big botty girl which made me feel like he was after my body because he was always telling me he can't wait to have me on his bed because he feels am too sexy. Yes, I have great body no doubt, I became confused of the situation and decided to break up that was when my ex started begging for forgiveness that now his working in the bank and his planning to settle down by 2020. My grandmother died I went to Nigeria and we met I realized he has slept with different girls and was even hiding his phone from me. Acting strange so I came back to Dubai continued my work and the white guy was trying to come back that he won't say things like that because he knows am different but the truth of the matter is that I don't even have any single love for the white guy. I still love my ex but my ex keeps talking to me like am a trash, I got angry and blocked him but he sent me massage on Facebook saying am childish and called me names this is someone who can never say things like that to me before but now he talks to me anyhow without respect because he feels am desperate for marriage because I always want to get married early, am in my early 20's. Due to the situation all the guys both white and blacks asking me out for serious relationship have said no to all because I feel I can't love anyone again in my life because of my ex I don't know if am in my right senses have tried possible ways to forget him, I deleted all his pictures on my Facebook, always watching movies yet nothing seems to
work. now am thinking of traveling to any European country look for a good white man so I can forget about him because I know I deserve better than him. I need advice if dating another guy mostly white can make me forget him or it might make things worst since am doing it because am trying to forget him
You need to grow up first before looking for what to do about your relationship. Nobody owes you anything . You don’t expect people not to advance in their words or character just because they were naive in the past. Compliment of how great your body looks shouldn’t be getting in your head. Even the ugly ones receive compliment too .You are just taking things too serious which is bad . I have someone like you as a friend , but soon her eyes will open , hope yours does so

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by AJIBOLA840: 5:24am On Sep 29, 2019
stupid girl .

are you under a SPELL
if not , come to Nigeria.
Guys dey for hook up

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by ednut1(m): 5:31am On Sep 29, 2019
Looks like you are the issue here

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by VirginSearcher(m): 5:46am On Sep 29, 2019
Babe u are not serious.. if u are u won't be placing a priority on race.. are u racist? shocked u don't think u can love anyone again, go and marry him nah! and don't disturb us

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by ebicon(f): 5:57am On Sep 29, 2019
You must be emotionally drained ,Your ex is a confused guy , one minute they are lovey dovey and another they are no where to be found , while you are trying to figure out where the relationship is heading, Time is gone, just good at wasting time
I think you need a break , you need to know that you cannot use another man to heal in relationship, heal from your old relationship do things you love doing , focus on yourself , avoid his call and message, this is not getting back at him or fight him , it just for you to heal , it really will hasten your healing process.
As you heal you will see men differently , you can carefully choose who you really want to be with .
You deserve to be loved in return and not treated as trash,respect is key.
And let me add this , a lot of men are moved by what they see ,a man complimenting you body does not mean, he likes only your body.

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Katier00(f): 6:22am On Sep 29, 2019
I know that feeling but what makes you think you will find love in Europe. Relax and enjoy your youthful age. Don't search for love, love comes to those who believe they are lovable. Work on your esteem. The only difference between you and a white is just your colour so don't think they will love you more than a black

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by okirewaju(f): 7:01am On Sep 29, 2019
Live your life. Have fun, hang out with friends.

Love will come when you least expect it as for your ex, don't ever attempt to go back to him. Love is never enough.


For white boy, you seem not to love him.

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Nobody: 7:16am On Sep 29, 2019
When you want to forget a person, don't replace him or her with another person but with an object physical or otherwise.

In your case, I suggest you replace your ex with career development. Forget the hype about early marriage and develop yourself. A good man will come the moment you take this desperation off your mind besides you're still young.

If you try replacing your ex with another man, you will end up putting different men on a weighing scale every now and then using your ex as yardstick.

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by itunity007(m): 7:39am On Sep 29, 2019
Rach111:
I dated my ex for 6yrs. Who was never proud of me, can't even post my pics on any social media, even the day I did he got angry and removed it. Have never cheated on him because I hate double dating. Am a virgin and he was a virgin then. we promise to wait till marriage which made me to love him more. I always cook, clean do everything as if I was his wife. But this guy never showed any signs that he will want to marry me. If I bring it up he keeps quiet over it. After graduation we came back to Nigeria my grandmother who was like my mother because she was the one who took care of me, was sick I was in the hospital with her for 1 month he never showed up despite the fact that his house was close by. I saw so many signs that I was only wasting my time because he hardly calls even before then we had issues about a girl in his room which he denied everything yet I let it go because of love. So through my savings from university I went to Dubai got a good job decided to forget about him for good and started dating a Canadian guy who was really nice to me and was willing to wait but my problem with him was that he always calls me sexy and shapy, big botty girl which made me feel like he was after my body because he was always telling me he can't wait to have me on his bed because he feels am too sexy. Yes, I have great body no doubt, I became confused of the situation and decided to break up that was when my ex started begging for forgiveness that now his working in the bank and his planning to settle down by 2020. My grandmother died I went to Nigeria and we met I realized he has slept with different girls and was even hiding his phone from me. Acting strange so I came back to Dubai continued my work and the white guy was trying to come back that he won't say things like that because he knows am different but the truth of the matter is that I don't even have any single love for the white guy. I still love my ex but my ex keeps talking to me like am a trash, I got angry and blocked him but he sent me massage on Facebook saying am childish and called me names this is someone who can never say things like that to me before but now he talks to me anyhow without respect because he feels am desperate for marriage because I always want to get married early, am in my early 20's. Due to the situation all the guys both white and blacks asking me out for serious relationship have said no to all because I feel I can't love anyone again in my life because of my ex I don't know if am in my right senses have tried possible ways to forget him, I deleted all his pictures on my Facebook, always watching movies yet nothing seems to
work. now am thinking of traveling to any European country look for a good white man so I can forget about him because I know I deserve better than him. I need advice if dating another guy mostly white can make me forget him or it might make things worst since am doing it because am trying to forget him
let talk on WhatsApp am a nice person

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by blingxx(m): 7:50am On Sep 29, 2019
Kneephy:


She wants a boyfriend who does not want her.

This is very common among women

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by MiVida(m): 8:27am On Sep 29, 2019
Rach111:
I dated my ex for 6yrs. Who was never proud of me, can't even post my pics on any social media, even the day I did he got angry and removed it. Have never cheated on him because I hate double dating. Am a virgin and he was a virgin then. we promise to wait till marriage which made me to love him more. I always cook, clean do everything as if I was his wife. But this guy never showed any signs that he will want to marry me. If I bring it up he keeps quiet over it. After graduation we came back to Nigeria my grandmother who was like my mother because she was the one who took care of me, was sick I was in the hospital with her for 1 month he never showed up despite the fact that his house was close by. I saw so many signs that I was only wasting my time because he hardly calls even before then we had issues about a girl in his room which he denied everything yet I let it go because of love. So through my savings from university I went to Dubai got a good job decided to forget about him for good and started dating a Canadian guy who was really nice to me and was willing to wait but my problem with him was that he always calls me sexy and shapy, big botty girl which made me feel like he was after my body because he was always telling me he can't wait to have me on his bed because he feels am too sexy. Yes, I have great body no doubt, I became confused of the situation and decided to break up that was when my ex started begging for forgiveness that now his working in the bank and his planning to settle down by 2020. My grandmother died I went to Nigeria and we met I realized he has slept with different girls and was even hiding his phone from me. Acting strange so I came back to Dubai continued my work and the white guy was trying to come back that he won't say things like that because he knows am different but the truth of the matter is that I don't even have any single love for the white guy. I still love my ex but my ex keeps talking to me like am a trash, I got angry and blocked him but he sent me massage on Facebook saying am childish and called me names this is someone who can never say things like that to me before but now he talks to me anyhow without respect because he feels am desperate for marriage because I always want to get married early, am in my early 20's. Due to the situation all the guys both white and blacks asking me out for serious relationship have said no to all because I feel I can't love anyone again in my life because of my ex I don't know if am in my right senses have tried possible ways to forget him, I deleted all his pictures on my Facebook, always watching movies yet nothing seems to
work. now am thinking of traveling to any European country look for a good white man so I can forget about him because I know I deserve better than him. I need advice if dating another guy mostly white can make me forget him or it might make things worst since am doing it because am trying to forget him
truth is, no matter how you try, you can never forget him.

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by boss1310(m): 8:54am On Sep 29, 2019
firstly stop calling him an ex cos though you ve seperated physically you still belonged to him emotionally.
secondly dont take this the wrong way but you are a very selfish person because what I understand from your write up is that you love your ex because he is the ONLY guy who doesn't disturb you for sex even as you know he has many girls in his life you don't mind once you live up to your promise of having sex only when you are married
thirdly I will advise you not to get married now as you are not yet mature for marriage with the way you reason, how on earth can you even consider a"boy"who talks down on you for a boyfriend let alone a husband
lastly focus on building your life and forget anything marriage for now,climb the career ladder higher and with the experience you gather along the way you might be able to know the real men when they come to you

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by luminouz(m): 9:26am On Sep 29, 2019
Rach111:
I dated my ex for 6yrs. Who was never proud of me, can't even post my pics on any social media, even the day I did he got angry and removed it. Have never cheated on him because I hate double dating. Am a virgin and he was a virgin then. we promise to wait till marriage which made me to love him more. I always cook, clean do everything as if I was his wife. But this guy never showed any signs that he will want to marry me. If I bring it up he keeps quiet over it. After graduation we came back to Nigeria my grandmother who was like my mother because she was the one who took care of me, was sick I was in the hospital with her for 1 month he never showed up despite the fact that his house was close by. I saw so many signs that I was only wasting my time because he hardly calls even before then we had issues about a girl in his room which he denied everything yet I let it go because of love. So through my savings from university I went to Dubai got a good job decided to forget about him for good and started dating a Canadian guy who was really nice to me and was willing to wait but my problem with him was that he always calls me sexy and shapy, big botty girl which made me feel like he was after my body because he was always telling me he can't wait to have me on his bed because he feels am too sexy. Yes, I have great body no doubt, I became confused of the situation and decided to break up that was when my ex started begging for forgiveness that now his working in the bank and his planning to settle down by 2020. My grandmother died I went to Nigeria and we met I realized he has slept with different girls and was even hiding his phone from me. Acting strange so I came back to Dubai continued my work and the white guy was trying to come back that he won't say things like that because he knows am different but the truth of the matter is that I don't even have any single love for the white guy. I still love my ex but my ex keeps talking to me like am a trash, I got angry and blocked him but he sent me massage on Facebook saying am childish and called me names this is someone who can never say things like that to me before but now he talks to me anyhow without respect because he feels am desperate for marriage because I always want to get married early, am in my early 20's. Due to the situation all the guys both white and blacks asking me out for serious relationship have said no to all because I feel I can't love anyone again in my life because of my ex I don't know if am in my right senses have tried possible ways to forget him, I deleted all his pictures on my Facebook, always watching movies yet nothing seems to
work. now am thinking of traveling to any European country look for a good white man so I can forget about him because I know I deserve better than him. I need advice if dating another guy mostly white can make me forget him or it might make things worst since am doing it because am trying to forget him
*sighs*

Stockholm's Syndrome
Just PM me and I will solve it for you.

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by yetunsbay(m): 10:02am On Sep 29, 2019
ebicon:
You must be emotionally drained ,Your ex is a confused guy , one minute they are lovey dovey and another they are no where to be found , while you are trying to figure out where the relationship is heading, Time is gone, just good at wasting time
I think you need a break , you need to know that you cannot use another man to heal in relationship, heal from your old relationship do things you love doing , focus on yourself , avoid his call and message, this is not getting back at him or fight him , it just for you to heal , it really will hasten your healing process.
As you heal you will see men differently , you can carefully choose who you really want to be with .
You deserve to be loved in return and not treated as trash,respect is key.
And let me add this , a lot of men are moved by what they see ,a man complimenting you body does not mean, he likes only your body.
I love ur last sentence

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Hanks0000(m): 10:18am On Sep 29, 2019
I am not an expert in those relationship thingy but I'd advise you to take your time, find something that will distract you from thinkin about him, like goin to the gym, hangin out more with friends and involvin in other fun things you normally won't do but never drink cause the more you drink the sadder you become and the sadder you become the more you drink so drinking isn't the way..

The most crucial rule of relationship is not to date anyone because you wanna get back at someone or datin someone new cause you wanna forget your ex.. It's like a "TIME PASS" whatchamacallit to me..

A friend of mine from Singapore ended her relationship of 9 years last year cause of a similar reasons to yours and she's happy now... She still hasn't moved on tho' but she always try to make me believe she's moved on.... That's it, you might Wanna take a break for some time.. it's not like you won't survive if you are not in one..

But if you feel you are ready to move on, then go ahead.. Only you will know when you are no one else...

Don't close yourself in cause of the past relationships didn't work out well and don't rush into another cause you wanna recover from the pain... TRUST ME the more pain you get the more stronger you become..

As I have said earlier, I'm not a proff in relationship infact I am not even in one, never been in one and I won't untill am sure enough that it's safe to carry on and extend my horizons!!!

Hope that was helpful..
-Leo

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Ken4agent(m): 10:20am On Sep 29, 2019
boss1310:
firstly stop calling him an ex cos though you ve seperated physically you still belonged to him emotionally.
secondly dont take this the wrong way but you are a very selfish person because what I understand from your write up is that you love your ex because he is the ONLY guy who doesn't disturb you for sex even as you know he has many girls in his life you don't mind once you live up to your promise of having sex only when you are married
thirdly I will advise you not to get married now as you are not yet mature for marriage with the way you reason, how on earth can you even consider a"boy"who talks down on you for a boyfriend let alone a husband
lastly focus on building your life and forget anything marriage for now,climb the career ladder higher and with the experience you gather along the way you might be able to know the real men when they come to you

Well said

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Hanks0000(m): 10:21am On Sep 29, 2019
stillseth:
Okay you want to go.to Europe to look for another white man....shey? Okay go naa...nobody hold you.... You don't even know what you want sef....dem.no dey tell blind man say rain dey fall...

Why do y'all black guys think like this.. y'all shallow minded... If you ain't know what to say then you keep quiet... Street ain't made for everyone that's why you got sidewalks..
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by luvyaself95(m): 10:25am On Sep 29, 2019
Go Anywhere Girl Don't Be Sad Or Worry Love Will Surely Find You.

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by hAlexandro(m): 10:46am On Sep 29, 2019
I think the vacation is well deserved but don't go on search for love let love find you. Don't let your hsstiness blind you to make wrong decisions

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by moorevic(m): 12:56pm On Sep 29, 2019
Which nollywood script is this? cool cool

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by infogenius(m): 1:08pm On Sep 29, 2019
Read.
I will reply shortly

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