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Reason why he should not be voted back.

Guest007:
what if she came over to you and just had a decent chat with you... and before she leaves, she asks you out for a drink or lunch, on her of course if you found her presentable and maybe your type, wouldn't you accept If you click on that date then you guys get to know each other and if not then no harm done...

Asking me for a lunch or drink could be interpreted by me as a signal or sign that she likes me. Asking for relationship should be left for me to do. After our drinking or eating, if I like her I would ask her out. I am just saying that I won't be comfortable if she ask me out.

khiaa:
What the heck, nobody is talking about proposing or marriage this is a conversation about a woman approaching a man in order to get to know him but I can see that you are too immature to understand my perspective.

Whatever, I am just pointing to you that women don't hold the card as you allege in your statement. I was merely pointing out the restriction that the society places on women and equally countering you statement of women making their choices. On the issue of approaching, I think you have addressed that and I agree with you that ladies who approaches guys are seen as desperate.

Martinez39:
I like you. Even though you disagree, you still argue maturely. Obviously man is an animal but he is not like other animals. I never said that there are not biological differences between both sexes. The women's role of pregnancy, breast feeding and childbirth are biological differences and it doesn't in any way stop them for asking a man out, does it? These biological differences also doesn't mean that women can't define their roles and determine their destinies. While there are biological differences between both sexes, there are a lot of aspects where both sexes can embrace equality and wooing a spouse is one of those aspects.

When I said women shouldn't care about what boys think, I meant women should be themselves and define themselves. They shouldn't put themselves under pressure to please everyone. A life lived trying to please everyone is a miserable one. Would you try to please all ladies? Are you trying to indirectly imply that if women be themselves and defined themselves rather than trying to please boys they would find at least one person interested in them? If no then what are you telling me?

@bold
Lol. Thanks for this admission. This is what I said in my previous post. No one is obliged to follow traditional rules just as no one is obliged to follow any religion.

@red
Of course, there is no shame in that. Women too are human beings with needs and desires. If a girl proposes to me and I like her, I will definitely marry her as long as she if wife material. A woman proposing to me doesn't make less of a man or makes me miserable. That male ego of being the one to ask a woman out is something society gave you. You were not born with it.

@blue
I know that in this part of the world, many are strongly bound to their traditions and that's why I made the this thread. The fact that you admit that things may change in many years to come shows that which gender woos a spouse is not naturally given. Anyway, in your defence, you did point out the role of tradition in determining who woos a spouse.

To put this argument to rest, I know I won't be comfortable with a girl approaching me to tell me how she feels about me and I know I am speaking the mind of at least 99percent of the guys leaving the remainin 1percent to guys like you which is infinitesimal. You may call it ego or pride, it is what makes us men. We tell this stories when we gather. Finally, every mallam with his kettle. Obrigado for the time.

khiaa:
Randy, the woman is the one who does the choosing, men do the chasing. A guy can approach 10 girls in 15 minutes and only get the names of 3 girls and a girl can approach 10 guys in 15 minutes and get the names, numbers, and dates with all of them, at the end of the day the woman holds the cards.

There is nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man but telling him you have feelings and is ready to mingle is not only corny but too forward, it opens the door for him to think that you are desperate and horney. To the ladies, approach the man that your heart desires provided that he is single but be smooth in your approach and conversation, smile a lot, give him a nice compliment, make him feel comfortable with you, flirt with him, also make him feel that you are doing him a huge favor by giving him some of your time. Just be nice and mind your manners.

If he appreciates you admiring him he will respect your confidence in the approach, of course I'm speaking about interactions between a man and a woman but if you are approaching immature boys, well you know what to expect.

you are very funny, I have approached approximately 2thousand ladies, I bet you haven't even approached any guy before. So who holds the card? Be deceiving yourself. Untill you start proposing to men and asking their hand in marriage, I will take your statement very serious but now you are just a comedian. On the issue of a girl approaching a guy, their is nothing like making a guy comfortable, by telling me your feeling you are putting me in an uncomfortable situation and I am happy that you know that most guys will see it as a desperate move. A guy who likes you will understand your signal and makes the necessary move by being the one to do the wooing.

Yea I had to agree that it is the biggest fraud in a relationship matter.

Martinez39:
No need to insult, we are cool. There are many logical fallacies, non sequiturs, assumptions and false equivalences in your write up. First of all, human beings are not chickens and goats. We have a highly intelligent brain that makes us masters of our own destinies and endows us with the immense ability to adapt and define our roles. While other animals may be governed by instincts, man is mainly governed by his rationality and ability to learn. Men and women can both define their roles. The idea that it is shameful for a woman to approach a man is a subjective nonsense that no one is obliged to follow.

No woman should be concern about what men choose to think about them. It's not their business what boys choose to think about them and women can't please everyone. Who told you that wooing is meant for men alone? Your culture? Your tradition? Who told you that it's a man's thing? That's a load of assumptions. Testosterone helps in the secondary sexual characteristics of males not enable them to woo women. Wooing a spouse comes from the desire to form a relationship and guess what? both men and women have that desire and why shouldn't they go for what they want? Who the hell is any man to tell a woman that she can't go for what she wants? Women should be themselves and not give a damn about what boys think they should be. It's not a boys duty to determine what makes a real woman instead it's the woman's job.

Finally, in this age of equality, the role both spouses shall have in a relationship shall be discussed and agreed upon by them. A woman asking a man out doesn't mean that she automatically takes up certain roles in the relationship and asking someone out does not, by any means, give you the position of authority. Relationship is by love and mutual agreement. As for the following up stuffs you talked about, who pays for the food, taxi or whatever depends on the voluntary decision of any of them. The woman may ask a man out but the man may insist on paying and vice versa.

Eloquently written but it won't sway me to your side. First of all you brush off my own argument and according to you they are logical fallacies. Let it be know to you that Man is an animal, and we are referred as higher animals. The only difference between us and those lower animals is because of our technological advancement. I strongly disagree with you when you said that men and women could define their roles. Nature gives us our role in the society, women were given the role of pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding of the baby and nature provided the basic body part for this function, you can't tell a man to fill this role because nature didn't favour a man to do such. Secondly, you claimed that no woman should think about what men think about them, my brother you are wrong again. We all live to impress the opposite sex so we should be worried about what they think about you. Women rub mary-k, design their hairs, wear fine cloths. Why do they do that? To impress the guys and vice versa for the guys too. Thirdly, it is define by our culture that it is the man who goes to look for a woman and when he finds, he calls his kinsmen and they all go to the girls place and seek for her hand in marriage. I hope you will allow a girl to come and ask your hand in marriage after all to you we define our role in the society. Finally, we are Africans not Europeans. It won't work here at least for now maybe in the year 3000.

Once you are against Buhari you are corrupt. I am happy the old man is having some sense now with his recent statement that people are looting under his watch.

Recently Buhari admitted that looting is going under his watch, what would you have to say about that.

We all regret supporting Buhari.

Martinez39:
Sometimes the hold of arbitrary traditional rules and perspectives can be strong on the mind. You had better drop that misogynistic ego and learn to embrace the equality of both sexes. It's this same misogynistic pride that makes men feel ashamed when they are outclassed by a woman in a combat or in the game of chess. It's that same pride that makes men mildly bitter and intimidated by intelligent strong career women that are doing better than them. This nonsense must stop.

There is nothing wrong if a woman approaches you. I dare you to explain, without insulting my intelligence, why it's abnormal for a girl to approach a boy.

Ok, I won't insult you cos you are not Buhari that is destabilizing my country. I have a questions for you. Is the girl ready to continue with the thing involve in wooing like taking the guy on a date(which means she is paying for the food, pay for the taxi and all those stuff we do for women) and she got to be consistent with it as the relationship goes on. Now my reason are 1. The lady who does that is tagged desperate by guys like you. 2. Leave men to be men. It takes enough testosterone in men to woo. Any lady who does that could be termed aggressive. 3. Pushy women tends to have the characteristic of wooing men. 4. Is the guy into the lady, which will result in the guy using and dumping such lady. And finally it is against nature. A coc.k will chase the hen, the he goat will go after the she goat. Thank you.

It is wrong for a girl to approach a guy. It is like telling antelop to approach a lion for it to be eaten, trust me the lion won't enjoy such meal. As a guy I see myself as a hunter who must hunt the girl of my choice, subdue her and take her home. There is abnormality in a girl approaching a guy.

I can understand a young lady marrying an older man but a young man marrying an older woman is shameful.

Nobody should blackmail you emotionally. You shouldn't buy it.

The man was so callous and deserves to be skinned alive but in the spirit of forgiveness, he should be forgiven, he must have learnt his lesson.

Caseless:
the same program we all watched? You didn't have light in your area to even put on a television. Stop lying.

Whatever that makes you sleep at night. Keep masturbating.

I watched the program yesterday, Galadima schooled keyamo. He said keyamo is not a good student of history. Keyamo is all about noise and no substance. Twitter San and Apc ranting machine.

Jesusloveyou:
cjn should be loyal to the highest bidder, to opposition party and to thief wike.

There are due process to the removal of CJN if the president felt he is impartial and corrupt.

Ok

We are Atikulating.

Ango Abdulahi. I am shocked to see his name.

He is raping our judiciary and people are clapping. A time will come that the president will just remove a Cjn that he doesn't like. A cjn is not meant to be loyal to the president. A bad precedent from the lifeless one.

I know he is our presidential candidate erm senatorial candidate, no the governotorial candidate

The presidency as a matter of urgency should arrest the leaders of this socio cultural organisation and try them of corruption

That is why Buhari is bullying the CJN. APC has lost both state anything short of that is tyranny and it won't stand.

Mrbolt565:
fvuck you mahn!

fuckkk you too bro.

J4JUVENTUS:
Most of these girls here are cheats,with the way they reacted. If u know,u know ..

I beleive so.

People who support Buhari are firstly, those who benefit directly or indirectly from the government of Buhari. Secondly, those who don't know their left or their right otherwise mentally unsound. Thirdly, those who are hoping that their region will be the next to produce the president.

For dishonesty in getting fake waec result.

This is wrong in all ramification. Every body has the right to choose. Some will choose life or some will choose lifeless. It is every mallam with his kettle. I wouldn't want to blame the so called elders, they saw hell within the past four years of the lifeless one.