michaelpop50:


Na to use strong juju hit her be that na. You nor get problem bro

...lol. I'm not really spiritual.

Magnoliaa:


So much projections, dear Lord. You know how things go on Nairaland but Magy's response, of all the comments and insults on this thread, is the greatest example of subtle mockery you can think of? And saying my kind of person is 'gleeful and wants to rub slime off another' isn't personal? Lol.

I didn't take anything personal. Or what's your point exactly?

ILovebigyansh:


Lord give me the strength to change the things I can & accept the things I cannot change.

man up and see it as a phase, a phase you had to go thru to make you a better man.

Make sure you heal completely and be re-born as the son of the RED PILL.

The bolded sums up everything that I need. Thanks

bluefilm:


I have no kind words at all for SIMPs.

Nonsense.

Most people were simps at some point. One swallow doesn't make a summer.

Magnoliaa:

Seems you think you know me for you to say my 'subtle mockery' was expected. Your writing style/tone is so similar to and indicative as well of... but I'm not bothering my little head figuring anything out. Na your ish as you dey hide behind monickers as I'm right about your kind of person.

I just simply am indifferent... who cares about being happy over whatever happens to you? If you like be blackpilled. Mtcheew.

I don't think I know because I'm sure I don't. I said it's expected because I know how things go on nairaland. You are not right about anything. I'm one of the most silent observers here. So, don't assume in your claimed little head that you know anything about me.

....and who cares if you care or not? What will I do with it? I think you should look elsewhere if you are looking for someone to rub off your slime on.
Just look at your kind of person

vheckthor1:


Lies from the pit of hell

The old me wouldn't have believed such story if I read it about someone else. But to think someone of my kind would find interest in telling fake story of myself is rather absorb.

THIS IS MY TRUE LIFE LOVE STORY. You can decide not to believe it, but don't call me a lier.

Maybe when something similar happens to you, then you'll have a change in your perception.

Nicenancy:


The viruses in her are very few

Did you count it yourself?
I think there is a match making thread here for +people.
Better still, she should go scouting at her center more often and she'll surely find a good pick.

DaddyRochie1642:
Bobrisky seems to have an accommodating heart

Are you forgetting he's a man. It is usually in our gene to accommodate.

ruffkenny:
Don't be so hard on yourself,enough of the critics you given to yourself, Time they say heals the wounds,pray more now,listen to music more especially gospel music ie if u are a Christian, I have some simple steps I would have shared with u that is very easy to overcome disappointment and regret, is a pity I can't share it here in a public forum cos it might sound weird and odd..But While purging yourself of every bad energy she instilled in you,delete every memory of her from ur head and heart,remove every guilt too that u feel about ur past escapes and the female chats,,..Your ex only used that as a tool to pry on your conscience and inflict u drastically so it will be as if the break up was your fault,she had it planned out cos she knew of the sex before and it wasn't a problem,she only waited for the right time to strike on your intelligence.. U were very predictable to her that's why,this heart ache was given to u for a lesson so u don't repeat same in your current relationship,giving heed to regrets will only attract more situations to regret,so let all regrets go,let the hurts go,let the money and time u wasted go,let it all go,forgive yourself for your mistakes, accept yourself even in this worse state,no one can do this better for u but u,.. Fall in love at your own peril,let her be the one to love u..

Maybe you can still share the odd stuff here and delete it after a few hours, when I must have copied it. Or I can send you a PM so you share through email.

It's true. She took a long time planning. She discussed it for a long time with her bad friends, who suggested it to her in the first place. The same set of celebrity wannabees that will always come home with her to eat my food and ask me for transport while going back. I wouldn't have suspected they're planning against me behind my back.

See. If I tell the unfiltered version of this tale, even you might be vexed to punch me.

Like I said before. I'm learning to accept my new state and enjoy what is left of me, while still trying to be better.

ruffkenny:
A lot of People go through this phase where nothing makes sense anymore,where they go through so much hurt and depression as a result of a heartbreak but then this should not be u,I was just in your shoes years back when I walked in on my gf and best friend,I couldn't believe it,one minute did not feel real the next it was true,2 people I loved so much! I contemplated suicide as an option but my love for my mum stopped me,I couldnt afford to fail my mum,she did everything for me to stand on my feet so that love made me never to go on that lane and besides I happen to red stuffs written here by Red pillers,that helped me go through the pain victoriously,look for stuffs written by ubunju a guy on this nairaland,it will help u,u need to face reality and see the female folks as what they truly are my brother..And find sth to live for cos a man who has nothing to live for is not fit to live,women will always be women with their manipulative and deceptive nature,but don't let that ruin or define your life..Cos u are better than this,the cheap slut is not even worth it,I know u don't want to hear that, u have no right loosing your interest that's the only thing that will keep u sane..

Yeah. I've been on many red pill thread here on nairaland. I still find it hard to ignore my regrets for doing this to myself. I know I'm a million times better than this, that's why I feel so dissatisfied.
I'll keep trying harder to purge my heart of the bad energy she injected in me, so I could at least keep my head straight and enjoy life as before.
My current girlfriend always complain she doesn't understand my kind of person, that I seem odd. I just laugh and shake my head.
Family love and the encouragements I got from people here is what kept me away from suicide at some point. Since I could survive that phase, I can survive this phase too.

SKYHIGHfx:
Good evening ladies and gentlemen, Honestly i have lost interest in this life, i really don't know why am here.. Things are not working well, i want to end it all but am afraid of going to hell, now the question is IF I KILL MY SELF WILL I GO TO HELL?

See. We're plenty in that boat. Don't jump into the water because you're afraid the boat will sink. Take your chances. Stay the course and see what live holds for you.

I know how it feels. I've survived the thought for more than 2years, and still battling with it. I know you can too

ruffkenny:
Yes bro,that is the best u can do for yourself,don't be deceived by people's fake life on social media,we all are struggling with one thing or the other,such is life,everyone on earth has s few days and these days are full of struggle,people might pretend and hide theirs but that doesn't change the fact that inwardly they still have what they struggle with cos no life is perfect..The reason I deviated a bit is for u to know u must face your reality now,accept things the way they are,however cold or low and strife for a better u,love yourself more now and validate yourself so u won't need any girl to be the one to make u feel better, bring back that old passion that made u live in confidence before,don't let that fire quench,is it music that did it for u before?
get back to it,is it hanging out with friends? Just do it, do those things u were doing before that made u feel good with yourself and never get tired of self discovery cos we continue to do that till we die,that's the reason we live..

Now the bolded is where I have problem. My fire has gone so cold that nothing really interests me anymore. All the things I'm passionate about in the past now almost disgust me. I lost interest in every and practically forcing myself through everyday living.
I feel very dissatisfied with everything, even when they're not really bad. I'm just so messed up right now and in continuous struggle to keep my life under control.

ruffkenny:
Op u have made the mistake already,try and receive sense,u wasted a good Money on her,any money spent on a woman is a waste,u wasted your job,wasted your time on someone who is not worth it,she used u to get polished knowing fully well she will dump u at any time,u have made ur self so little before her,that's why she is showing u no mercy by watching u suffer,grow up and get healed by developing Yourself,channel your energy to your life,interests,dreams,job,start saving and keeping money,invest in yourself,read,dress well,do everything wonderful for yourself to get ur life back on track..life goes on and women will always bring these shit to those who love them so let her go,let her be,she is not worth your tears,sadness,pains and sorrows..don't think of the money u have lost on her in the past but plan on the money coming in to be creative with it,and don't rush into any relationship,allow love to find u by been patient,stop saying time is not on ur side,what is most important is for u to find happiness..pick yourself up bro!!

Getting my life back has been a work in progress ever since. I wouldn't say I'm satisfied with my progress so far. Not just about the money, but finding that old me that I used to know.
It seemed like the old me died and another person spawned in replacement. It's like starting self-discovery afresh and It's more like a struggle this time.

However, I have decided to live by the moment and accept that some damages can not be fixed.

To all that reached out to me through voice calls and chats. I immensely appreciate all your efforts and words of encouragements.
When I dig myself out of shame you all will hear from me, probably a face-to-face

Magnoliaa:
Hah. I've gotten my confirmation, so I guess I can make this judgment without being guilty of falsity: the writer seem to me like the typical hard guy. Because ollof you writing epistles--wah makes you think the OP was ignorant of such details and rules? (You thought you were ddon, the catch that can *bed* any woman you like. You weren't tied down as long as you got the goOd wOmAn who gives you other things.)

You sound knowledgeable and f**lish at the same time (no oofeinse). Why? You're not disputing, or reacting to or even curious about the red pills they are spilling upandan. I figured you knew. You just nefa expererred loff to do you strong tin. Chai. I hail my Wonder Women Menstruators, catching the wisest men unaware.

Who knows if you're a resident alfa pillar here, sef.

Ah dun have any advice for you oh. I just commented for the sake of it, ni.

I'm sure your geng will come around to crowdfunding an elevation pitch to getting you out of where you've dug yourself into.

And this is not to say I'm mocking or invalidating you oh... I juss kent strhess myself. I believe you will be alright.

I can't think of any greater subtle mockery than what you just wrote (it's well expected). But all the same, I've learnt my lessons the hard way and I take full responsibility of my grand foolishness and self sabotage.
I'm naturally redpilled (just not to the level I found here after my fall). But I never applied all that with her, because I took her as my relative somewhat.

You can show your glee as much as you want. It's a normal experience for every fallen man.

I want to go into agriculture. I'm a newbie and totally confused on how to go about it.
My main problem is how to a good farm land, and the best crop to plant. I'll prefer the farm land to be closer to asaba so it will be closer for me to visit frequently.

if you live in Delta State and you are into plant agriculture, and knows how and where to get good farmland. Please send me a message so we can talk

Help a fellow minimize startup mistakes.

Most people will disagree with this, someone will even argue how you came up with such statistics.

I also disagree with that claim too. Yes. How can you say 70% of married women don't love their husbands? I would have agreed more if it said 100% don't love their husbands. Knowing that women are incapable of love. No woman loves anyone, not even their very self.

luminouz:



Lol...women sound confusing and confused right? I get the illogical aspect of that statement.
You have to understand the ying and yang of a woman's emotions. Asking you to leave other women alone for her is to satisfy her vanity. She wants to be the one who changed you,thus making her seem special or unique out of all the other girls you keep.


But here is the shocker; That very quality that attracted her in the first place, that made her strove so hard to get your attention becomes lost when you give in to her. Then, suddenly, she is now in control. She says love me,feed me,fuq me,stay home, do this, do that and you obey and she feels like waoooooo....I'm so unique... And right then, her outlook of you plummets. There is nothing to look for again in you because you are now predictable... And PREDICTABLE BORES WOMEN. WHY? Because she now has control, not YOU.

The more you LOVE her, the cringier she feels because the weaker you seem to her. The more you give up your time and money and everything for her,the more control she has and the less value your MANLINESS is. That is the emotional Dichotomy of a woman bro. You think the more you give in, the more she should be happy but the reverse is the case. She gets more bored and you look weaker. Till a time comes when she sees nothing of the guts, will, braggadocio, Never-say-die, Devil-may-care, personae that attracted her in the first place.

Then, its Goodnight Irene or bye Felicia!!!

This is true. So bad most of us learn it the painful way.
I've learnt a lot since she left. I'm totally a different person now. Me first and me again is my new code.

baiaon:
Forget about women and concentrate on yourself in terms of your health,finances,qualifications and even your hobbies. If you lack the personal discipline for all these,you are on the wrong thread

Though I have the discipline, but I will disagree with the bolded.
This thread is geared towards those who lack such discipline. To to help instill it in them and strengthen it in those you are already disciplined. Either way, I'm in the right thread

baiaon:

@Emboldened
Women actually LOVE such men because they bring drama into her life and women absolutely LOVE drama.When the man kow-tows to her will and drops the other women (breaking his frame),an aspect to the drama which she found attractive in him,disappears and her interest wanes

I see. There was really a lot of drama then. I thought it was draining her, like she claimed.
What do I know

luminouz:


The lesson is actually very simple


HAVE AN ABUNDANCE MINDSET!!!

Women find it attractive that their men have other female admirers. That, and a few other things make him very desirable and wanted,even powerful.

But when he gives it all up to be with them alone, that aura is lost and he is just an average Joe who BENT to her will. Women want leaders in men,not followers!!! She wants to be led,not leading YOU.

When you clip off yourself for them, it shows you are not willful enough and can be treated anyhow and women being women, will gladly panelbeat you with mega-attitudes and suffering, TILL YOU BECOME THE MAN YOU ONCE WAS, if you are lucky. If not, you lose the girl.

If you lost your Alpha male status with women, dont worry, They will PANELBEAT YOU TILL YOU BECOME REDPILL AGAIN.

But why do they beg and cry for you to stop keeping other women when they don't like such men.
Why show you heaven on earth and promise you more if you make them your one and only?

irumole1975:


Do you know me? This is my tale.
I've been dating her (though I still have babes that I Bleep steady and she knew about it when we started). This babe gave me attention subtly letting me realized if I stop my waywardness, she's going to shower me the more. When I realized she's faithful and commited, I started being too soft and all over her giving her attention too much. Started buying her things her father cannot buy for her. Then I stop seeing my Bleep buddies. After few months, my life has been tied to this lady that I knew if she Bleep up, my life will take a turn. Eventually, like all of them used to do, she started manipulating me, started disrespecting me, no longer regard me like she used to. She used to call me like many times in a day, now I am the one doing all the Jobs and shouldering all her baggages while she brings nothing- even she started using sex as weapons making me do her biddings just for sex. She used to give me sex free those days when she knew I've lot of girls I'm fucking.

I'm complying with her nonsense, but now I've understand she's playing games. I'm waiting for the right time to dump her ass after I've gotten over her. I know This might be difficult unless I found another one that won't trouble me and ready to do what I want.

An eye opener; that is what all of u are on this thread

Very similar to my story. I don't understand why they do that.

They'll promise you everything and even show you the heaven they have prepared for you if you will leave all your sex mates and cling to them.
They'll show you overwhelming love and care, offer you their whole body and beg you to cling to them alone.
Once you give in and make them your only source of feminine touch. They'll turn around and garrotte you

Girls are just naturally wicked when you take them with high regard.

PETUK:
that's great because you are not doing badly financially 1/5 is fair compare to what you went through (it could have been worse) emotionally you'll be fine on one condition.

Which one condition is that?

philosophy25:



Keep pushing all will b fine with yu. U need to forget abt d past n focus on beta days to come

I'm trying with everything I've got. It's not fun racing with a totalled car.

luminouz:



You are wrong with first sentence/paragraph. Proud and stubborn doesn't mean she is uncontrollable. She will always bend to a man stronger than her.

Your last sentence is EVERYTHING. Give a woman power and see her inner shakabula unleash

She always bent to me until I became overtaken by love and grew soft and foolish.

wwwtortoise:


AWALT !

They're like kids; to keep them interested you dangle toys before them. But the very moment you give them the same toy they've veen craving for, it becomes boring for them.

Do you know what they do next?

They throw the toy aside and seek another beyond their reach.

Time heals. Read and learn here with an open mind and you will be fine from now going forward with daughters of Eve.

This is true in my case.

PETUK:

I hope you are ok now, emotionally and financially?

Financially I'll say I'm just about 1/5 of what it used to be.

Emotionally? I'm far from being okay. I still feel a sudden cold on my skin when I remember what went down.

bebeto94:



Guy. Ur story is bad o. So u didn't have any friends or family to tell u d truth n to lift u up

No. The few friends I had laughed at it because they couldn't believe such could happen to me, because of how I use to shuffle women. They asked me to jump on another train, but I already relinquished other girls at her request. Until now I don't understand what happened. This same girl begged me to drop other girls and value her more, she complained I don't give her enough of me because I have other people.
After I put all myself in her and no other, her behavior towards me began to change speedily.

luminouz:


Exactly what I've been saying to men here.

Women can be so ruthless yet you see men giving excuses and trying to accommodate some nonsense. Just look at the mental,financial and psychological torture that small geh put the guy through. She never remembered or gave a fuq that he sponsored her through school.

Be selfish with your time and money men. If you dont, no one gives a fuq about you

The torture was unspeakable. I actually ran mad with depression. I'll just wear slippers and leave the house, and be trekking without direction. Sometimes I trek all day just to escape suicide and other evil thoughts.

Once you are broken, the pain lasts a lifetime.
For those who are yet to be victims, guard yourself against it. The life after is not as good as the one before.

Notoftheworld79:


Before the relationship started, you saw that she was proud and stubborn, you thought you could change her. Big red lights which you ignore.

Also, you gave her all the power in the relationship.

I was blinded because I thought she'd always remember where I picked her from and respected me for it. Though she respected me in the beginning but as I invest more in her she grows in value and the respect reduces.

I have always given her free hands. She asked for a brother and a boyfriend in me, then I added a father and a husband to it. I thought I was being nice as it all seemed nice while it lasted. I realized my foolishness when I saw how I turned almost a destitute into a young, educated and pretty slay queen, while I remained just a struggling boy.
It hurts to think that the beauty I built is somewhere with another man who wouldn't even talk to her if he met her in the state I met her. Not to mention how far I'd have gone if I wasn't being a messiah.

HeliotJ:
Pls I see d tread and good..yes.

And I was not good on English,pls don't be angry if the language is not good.

I have something in my mind that worry me a lot.

I am dating a single mom. She told me the father is not good, but she is till meeting him in his house and always telling me it is about d child. D child that the man is not taking care of and I'm the one doing that. The boy is 4y years and I' am being the one that is paying his school fees since This year that we are dating. I am not the buoyant type in terms of money. I manage a shop where I print and photocopy materials for students close to university. I don't have any savings because I the one taking care of this lady and child. She expensive and beautiful type and I love her so much. But now she is not giving me sex again, Maybe she think that the boy is enough for us. She told me we can Only have sex until I show my love to her and prove it. And I don't know what she mean with it

I loved her and I want to marry her..how i can make her to love me?.
Pls ubunja, Martinez39s, glycolysiss, pansophist and every people that saying something in the forum

Mister, you are just a few weeks away from being turned into a vegetable. I wish you can see the future that awaits you, if you continue this thing you call love.
A woman that loves you will serve you with everything she commands.

Don't be like me.

Here is my story:
https://www.nairaland.com/6066737/how-escape-ravaging-after-blast-effect

Read it and borrow sense before you find yourself choosing between suicide and madness.