stanliwise:

From your Monica and your story and for the fact you are on redpill thread always. Let me predict your relationship future.

You will begin to like manipulative ladies a lot. You will keep finding them everywhere you go. Just to play games

Don’t take me serious.

Still doesn't explain much. But like you said. I'm not talking it serious because I don't even understand what you're saying

stanliwise:

I think you have a knack for liking bad people
Maybe you don’t know it.

The bitter truth

I don't understand.
How do you mean?

Martinez39s:
I sympathise with you bro. I hope you haven't given up on life and you are still doing your best to rise? I understand that setbacks are sad, but they are very painful when they are a result of very avoidable causes. Stay strong and be cheerful.

To have survived the phase without commiting suicide or running mad, I consider myself the strongest of our time

I don't like what is left of me, but I'm still pushing strong to stand again.

Martinez39s:
I remember your case now. Mehn! It's such a sad story. Huge future earnings unnecessarily lost. Who knows where you could have been today with the job and money and the opportunities they could have presented to you? If only you knew the redpill before hand. Thunder strike anyone who says redpill is not a life saver.

That's just it. I lost everything. Love, friends, money, opportunities, my intelligence, EVERYTHING good. All I've got left is grief and regrets.

Again. People should learn from my mistakes. It's an experience I wouldn't wish anyone.

Martinez39s:
How did you lose the job over love? Care to share?

I thought you saw my story. Well, let me try to make it as short.

I fell into extreme depression and lost focus after she broke up with me and other treatments that followed.

My faulted state of mind caused me to be making a series of mistakes in the deliverables and too much inconsistency in my throughput.
I was warned once after my accuracy dropped from above 95% to fellow 80% within 5days. Then I got fired when they saw I'm still going down daily (you know the whites don't take shits like that, especially when dealing with a black)

aminu114:
by reading that story of yours i think a trailer full of redpills chai bro u suffered a lots i felt ur pain

It's a scar I'll always remember. The pain and regret are unspeakable. The kind of pain that could make one consider death a luxury.

I just wish others will keep sentiment aside and learn from it. I was lucky enough to escape suicide, someone else may not.

MaxEli:


Oh ok .... I done a bit but not on that international level...

I've tried Captcha solving . . earning 1$ per a thousand captcha solved... Not too profitable..

I've also tried some telegram Mining of Bitcoin .. it pays but a little...

So basically anything paying like 3 or 4 dollars and hour would sound nice.. any ideas Bro

I don't think you will make good money from those.
I'm talking about doing a real job for a known company, not all these that pay in cents.

I was paid around $10 per hour if I add the bonuses, and I was allowed to work up to 50hrs a week.
These types of positions are very hard to get and I'm still pained I lost it over love.

You can scout at Kelly, LinkedIn, and Indeed.

MaxEli:


SORRY ABOUT YOUR EXPERIENCE.... It was invaluable
Though unrelated .....But online jobs how do they work

They're one of the best jobs you can get. It pays well and it allows you work at your own time.
I'm not talking about Fiverr and the likes. I'm talking about working remotely with a foreign company. It's usually hard to get hired though.

Mide3367:
Abeg share ur simping experience Bro or give me link if u have a thread already. Thanks in addy

Learn from mine. Don't be like me. The pain is worse than being sawn in half from the groins.

In case you haven't seen it yet: https://www.nairaland.com/6066737/how-escape-ravaging-after-blast-effect

Bonnyegg:
I know this can be painful and emotionally draining
But a young fine boy
A graduate and a smart dude.
You decided to take care of this girl, gave her your life, allowed her control your existence, forgot your family.

Brother which generation are you from?
What did you learn from your pop? Friends and articles you read online?

Is it that you don't know about women or you just allowed yourself drain so much in love and forgot to read the situations?

I understand what love can do and I'm glad you experienced this, I believe it's gonna help you stay smart and keep your heads up.
You don't love with your heart and your head
One has to be sane, one has to pick you up when you fall.

Now where's your head and your heart?
You lost your job, your love, your mind.

You need to heal first, and you have to forgive yourself first.
Stop blaming yourself,
You tried, you are a genius, you trusted in love, but it didn't return the favor as expected.. Count it as her loss.
Until you are ready to move on, you can't.
1year is enough
GET your wet ass up and move the Bleep ahead.

It's over 18months now but total healing still seems far from me. More often I still feel like a totalled car. Rage, and regret has gone down. I'm now trying to find the vibrant me that I used to know.

CAPSLOCKED:
ONE YEAR IS A VERY LONG TIME TO KEEP THINKING ABOUT SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T CARE IF YOU'RE ALIVE.
WE'VE ALL BEEN THERE, BUT THE GOOD NEWS IS WE FOUGHT VERY HARD AND PICKED OURSELVES UP AND ONCE WE'VE DONE THAT, WE NEVER WENT BACK TO THE PAST OR TRIED TO WALK THE SAME PATHS THAT PUT US INTO UNPLEASANT SITUATIONS.
ONE YEAR IS A VERY LONG TIME, AND YOU'LL NEVER ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING IF YOU DON'T FREE YOURSELF FROM THIS BURDEN. HOW MUCH DID YOU LOSE ON HER? SEE IT LIKE SOMETHING YOU LOST ON GAMBLING BET9JA AND FIND A WAY TO GROW YOURSELF AND BE BETTER.
SHE'S THE ONE TO BE IN MISERY NOT YOU, DO YOU UNDERSTAND? HOW CAN YOU BE SAD ABOUT THIS ONE PERSON FOR A FULL YEAR WHEN THERE ARE OVER 200 MILLION OTHER PEOPLE IN THIS COUNTRY?
RavagedHeart YOU CAN REACH OUT VIA THE MESSAGE BUTTON IF YOU WANT, LET'S CURSE HER TOGETHER SO YOU CAN MOVE ON

ABEG

Thanks a lot for the bolded. It helped me look at it from another angle.
It's not really very easy to move on, but I'm trying. I have to tell a cleaner version of the story. If I had said everything that happened, some of you would not believe I have sense at all. So I filtered out some very shameful part.

I sent you a message already

nenyewrites:


Lol! Really?

You know the truth. But side taking won't let you say it.

nenyewrites:


The most stupidest question I've heard this year! Like seriously? Yet the same men will ask a girl that got pregnant by a guy of her age, "What were you thinking rolling with your age mate? How did you think he would take care of you?" The same man will tell a girl who is single, "This guy will just waste your youth, and when you are old, he will get a younger girl." The same guys will discuss within themselves, don't go for a girl above 26. They are evening newspaper. Catch them young so you can control then.

Men and double standards! So nauseating!

..lol. Your all your comments including this one shows you're wonderful at being one-sided.
See how you hinged everything on "what men would say", even when you and I know that all you listed here has almost nothing to do with the wrong choices girls make at younger age.
Talking of double standards. No one does it better than your folk.

nenyewrites:


One question, a man who is 30 and a lady who is 21, who should have more sense, and direct the other person?

Why would a girl of 21 be looking for a much older guy of 30?
Are there no good guys within her age bracket that are interested in her?
Why didn't she choose to roll with her mate?

We all know the answer. Greed and stupidity.

Joker09:

Exactly. Same women that wouldn't look their way before they got pregnant. Same women that go for d highest bidders until highest bidders use and dump them.

That's just it. They always had their chance to choose the responsible guy, but no. They'll always make the wrong choice and expect another person to pay for it in the name of help.
I don't know how the men folk degraded to this level of women pleasing

Reading through the comments here I can only conclude that we have just a few real men in existence.

What Reno said may sound harsh, but it's the truth.
The type of men we have here will always bend the truth whenever the truth is making the womenfolk uncomfortable.

CaveAdullam:
I don't know who needs to hear this: she is using that high pedestal you planted her to search for higher males in the hierarchy with her hypergamous antennas.

If you don't want your efforts to end in premium tears, quickly deracinate her, and posses that position; because you alone it is made and best suited for.

Authority: Occupy that pedestal.

This is so true. It happened to me, and it's most painful experience you can ever have in a relationship

olumzzz:

Oga just as someone pointed out, beg for job instead and work to earn money to buy whatever you need.
There's dignity in labor.

You no go understand

iamoyindamola:

We are looking for people come work and get paid instead of begging

Is it in Delta

HardWork29:

Must u come & beg
Dey swear for u
Shuuuuuu

Bros I don try tire. Hustle is not paying me enough.
If you have any home appliance please help. I don't mind if it's old so long as it works.

ubunja:
falling in love is the greatest crime of the 21st century. When will guys learn. Love her but don't be in love with her. If it makes sense.

It makes sense

sophirebenitez:
You have to forget the past to move forward.

It's not possible to not have a memory, but you can break the psychological and emotional ties you have with the past.

How do you do this?

1. Drown your past with new memories you would love to remember.

2. Exercise regularly, treat yourself with healthy food and fruits, buy stuff you like. It reduces stress.

3. Consciously begin to put yourself first in any situation. It's not selfish, it's self-love.

4. Wipe every physical thing that will remind you of your ex from your life from pictures to gifts.

5. Choose a worthy goal, like getting a good job or starting your own business and pursue it like your life depends on it.

6. Forgive your ex and accept responsibility for being a simp, but make up your mind to NEVER accept your ex back into your life no matter the story she tells you when she eventually returns.

7. Release all your pent up emotions by writing about the past and burning it afterwards.

Good luck.

Thanks

CaveAdullam:
A simp got burnt. Hope you weren't among those criticizing Ubunja and his miseducations? Because these days, you all are liberal in creating new accounts. Never mind.

No advice from me!

But if you really want to help your life, quickly do the following, it's kinda burdensome but you need it if you are damn serious, wanting a positive change.

1. Read Ubunja's miseducations.

2. Follow these latest thread by Glycolyssis.
https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know

3. Illimitablemen.com


What you need is nothing but TRP in addition to Christ Jesus except you are not a Christ believer.

I promise, if you do the above religiously, you will have a testimony now and the next six(6) to twelve(12) months.

Take care.

I was a fan of ubunja. I just don't apply the red pill because I loved her to a fault

caleb4life:
Bros I have been there,it's not easy,I sincerely tell you.My mum would always tell me,monkey no fine but his mama like am,this literally means,be yourself and believe in your potentials.No woman should make you feel less better.When I was in your shoes,I swallowed the bitter pill.I became heartless in order to heal.I deleted all the deletable.I closed every path that would make those memories come back.I reintegrated myself back to the society.I became free with others but gave no one any special spot.I had to put more effort in loving my self than anyone else.I developed and learned more all geared towards improving myself.I cared less of anyone other than myself.With time,I became the new me.Bros,be a man,let it go.Dust yourself and face the reality.Move on,behave as if she never existed.With time, you would definitely be okay.

Thanks. That's the path I'm taking now. Except for the deleting

pansophist:
I've read the advises given by the ladies on this thread, and even though I understand that it's coming from a good place, it's just a case of treating malaria with typhoid medicine. Of course, the patience will be in a state of a placebo, that is, thinking because he drank some medicine and will be fine, but it takes a doctor to know that the dosage is wrong, and won't do shit.

You see, men and women have a different psychological approach to relationship. Men approach and hunt, while women respond and are the hunted. None of these women is telling you that you should not have ignored your own growth, that you should have been growing your finances, or tell you anything about the principles of the masculine frame, about your weakness and the attitudes you displayed, and that women do not respond positively to it. Also that you should not have made her your goal and so many more. Read all the post on this thread again, it is the men telling you these, not women.

What does that tells you? It simply means that in the matters of women, do not accept advice from women. There are few female relationship coaches on YouTube that really understood the male perspective in relationship dynamics, search for Rebecca Lynn pope for example, and you'll get the real truth and not this placebo effects the women on this thread are dishing out. Women only need to show up and a man will save them from their tragedy, so most never care to understand the male perspective. Remember, a woman is not a man, is not masculine, do not hunt men, so be smart, or you'll be repeating the same mistake over again.

And I'll tell you a secret. Women deep down want their ex or someone they dumped/didn't accepts his proposal not to do better. His tragedy and misfortune is the evidence needed to assure them that they made the right choice in not picking or dumping him. The better he becomes, the irreparable torture that descends on them that they made the wrong choice, especially when their current relationship status is not better compared to him. When you get an uglier girl compared to her, she will be glad secretly, which seal your fate as a looser forever in her mind.

So do yourself a big favour and move on. Be better at your game. The pain and emotional trauma you felt now, should be channelled into becoming a monster of creativity, get better at anything, work on your appearance and just do fcking better. Believe me, the higher you soar, the better you'll be, and will attract more quality women that you will be baffled that you wasted time on her. Women reduce in attractiveness, and the men she is rolling with, are only there to feast on the good time of her youthfulness but descend back into the dark as soon as she is getting old and needs commitment. Time is a man's best friend, not so for women.

I mean, you have skills that generate money right? While she has only her body to generate money? How can you not see that you have an upper hand here? In the matters of love and relationship with women, a man should under no circumstances looses his logic to emotions. Under those lovey-dovey act, there are power structures at play, and your eyes should be sharp on the ball. I've been through your situation years ago, heartbroken to pieces, but then, my dad lectured me hard, and I'm giving you some of the things I've learnt from him. Being a man is not just a word, but a lifestyle.

This sank deep.

Dsticks47:

No sir

If you are setting a 3 months goal it falls under the second category which will be 6%.

Any goal above 6 months gives you 7.5%.

0 – 60 days (1 – 2 months) – 4%
61 – 180 days (2 – 6 months) – 6%.
181 – 365 days (6 – 12 months) – 7.5%
Above 365 days (1 year and above) – 9%

Okay. Are they per annum or per tenure?

bobowaja:

Your own simpness is raised to power infinity in that post. The only woman who deserved your money is ur mother and she should not even feel too entitled about it. You trained another man's daughter in school. I won't curse you cos u re already going through something worst off a curse.

Meanwhile
She left because
1. U lost ur masculinity.
2. You started behaving like a pussy.
3. You don't desire other girls
4. She has options.

Not because you cheated....

As for the message she saw on ur phone.
She is looking for way out after she has weighed her options. She needs to find one. That is why she went digging for a dirt that will likely nail you. She finds one and decided to hold on to it no matter your explanations cos she has already decided to leave before she went digging. She left not cos u cheated, she left because she has found a new sexual market value for herself and u dont fit in to that frame (sexual market u foolishly built from scratch for her). After all, she has nothing to lose cos u re still rewarding her bad attitudes by keeping the funding from you open. There is a reason for reward and punishment in psychology. What you did was reinforcing the bad attitudes u re trying to kill. Things dont work that way in real life. You failed!

You failed all tests bro.


There was this girl I was seeing till late last year. She was still with her parents. But she decided to bill me to setup a business for her. I told her straight up that she is not my responsibility. There is a reason they call it self development not boyfriend development.

Bros, I will just advise you to get more friends both male and females.... Fuvk, read and have fun then start working to get ur life back on track. Or a better way is...... If you are really feeling the betrayer and anger, channel that energy to build something better that will develop ur life. If she meets you a better man again, her hypergamous nature will make her regrets her choices and I can guaranteed you that by then, you will no longer see her attractive.

Meanwhile, Mr Greatresearcher1 kindly come and add this man to ur nairaland diary of SIMPs Hall of Shame.

There is nothing you wrote here that wasn't true. Then I was thinking it's called being nice. Now I know nice is the new dumb. I was just being stupid to build up someone from the dust, and not building myself.

Dsticks47:


Good afternoon sir.

Before you invest you need to save.
Why not install Our Ziing mobile app setup a Zplan Goal and build that 100K to maybe 300K or more depending on you.

The Zplan also Reward you for saving.

Unlocked goals.
0 – 60 days (1 – 2 months) – 4%
61 – 180 days (2 – 6 months) – 6%.
181 – 365 days (6 – 12 months) – 7.5%
Above 365 days (1 year and above) – 9%

Locked Goals.
0 – 60 days (1 – 2 months) – 4.5%
61 – 180 days (2 – 6 months) – 6.5%.
181 – 365 days (6 – 12 months) – 8%
Above 365 days (1 year and above) – 10%

Start small now and grow your wealth over time.

I hope it’s not coming late.

And lastly Avoid Anything “ with high ROI.”

I'll check that out too.
But I don't understand the tenures.

Does it mean 1month and 3months gets the same 4%

JIMMY1393:


Anytime anyone concludes their write up like this just makes me think every shit I just read was a lie to get on fp

Yeah. That's what someone said here too. Now the question is what am I doing with front page? The answer is to get people to comment and talk me off my depression.

If you know my real account, you would know front page is not gold to me.

OgogoroFreak:
learn to make little profit at a go, with time you would be known and sales would be much easier if you are consistent.


If that business above seems daunting, you can start a bicycle rental business in your street. With aggressive saving, you can add video gaming center too.

Okay. Thanks