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[quote author=wwwtortoise post=95876144]AWALT !

They're like kids; to keep them interested you dangle toys before them. But the very moment you give them the same toy they've veen craving for, it becomes boring for them.

Do you know what they do next?

They throw the toy aside and seek another beyond their reach.

Time heals. Read and learn here with an open mind and you will be fine from now going forward with daughters of Eve.[/quote]This is true in my case.

PETUK:
I hope you are ok now, emotionally and financially?

Financially I'll say I'm just about 1/5 of what it used to be.

Emotionally? I'm far from being okay. I still feel a sudden cold on my skin when I remember what went down.

bebeto94:
Guy. Ur story is bad o. So u didn't have any friends or family to tell u d truth n to lift u up

No. The few friends I had laughed at it because they couldn't believe such could happen to me, because of how I use to shuffle women. They asked me to jump on another train, but I already relinquished other girls at her request. Until now I don't understand what happened. This same girl begged me to drop other girls and value her more, she complained I don't give her enough of me because I have other people.
After I put all myself in her and no other, her behavior towards me began to change speedily.

luminouz:
Exactly what I've been saying to men here.

Women can be so ruthless yet you see men giving excuses and trying to accommodate some nonsense. Just look at the mental,financial and psychological torture that small geh put the guy through. She never remembered or gave a fuq that he sponsored her through school.

Be selfish with your time and money men. If you dont, no one gives a fuq about you

The torture was unspeakable. I actually ran mad with depression. I'll just wear slippers and leave the house, and be trekking without direction. Sometimes I trek all day just to escape suicide and other evil thoughts.

Once you are broken, the pain lasts a lifetime.
For those who are yet to be victims, guard yourself against it. The life after is not as good as the one before.

Notoftheworld79:
Before the relationship started, you saw that she was proud and stubborn, you thought you could change her. Big red lights which you ignore.

Also, you gave her all the power in the relationship.

I was blinded because I thought she'd always remember where I picked her from and respected me for it. Though she respected me in the beginning but as I invest more in her she grows in value and the respect reduces.

I have always given her free hands. She asked for a brother and a boyfriend in me, then I added a father and a husband to it. I thought I was being nice as it all seemed nice while it lasted. I realized my foolishness when I saw how I turned almost a destitute into a young, educated and pretty slay queen, while I remained just a struggling boy.
It hurts to think that the beauty I built is somewhere with another man who wouldn't even talk to her if he met her in the state I met her. Not to mention how far I'd have gone if I wasn't being a messiah.

HeliotJ:
Pls I see d tread and good..yes.

And I was not good on English,pls don't be angry if the language is not good.

I have something in my mind that worry me a lot.

I am dating a single mom. She told me the father is not good, but she is till meeting him in his house and always telling me it is about d child. D child that the man is not taking care of and I'm the one doing that. The boy is 4y years and I' am being the one that is paying his school fees since This year that we are dating. I am not the buoyant type in terms of money. I manage a shop where I print and photocopy materials for students close to university. I don't have any savings because I the one taking care of this lady and child. She expensive and beautiful type and I love her so much. But now she is not giving me sex again, Maybe she think that the boy is enough for us. She told me we can Only have sex until I show my love to her and prove it. And I don't know what she mean with it

I loved her and I want to marry her..how i can make her to love me?.
Pls ubunja, Martinez39s, glycolysiss, pansophist and every people that saying something in the forum

Mister, you are just a few weeks away from being turned into a vegetable. I wish you can see the future that awaits you, if you continue this thing you call love.
A woman that loves you will serve you with everything she commands.

Don't be like me.

Here is my story:
https://www.nairaland.com/6066737/how-escape-ravaging-after-blast-effect

Read it and borrow sense before you find yourself choosing between suicide and madness.

stanliwise:
From your Monica and your story and for the fact you are on redpill thread always. Let me predict your relationship future.

You will begin to like manipulative ladies a lot. You will keep finding them everywhere you go. Just to play games

Don’t take me serious.

Still doesn't explain much. But like you said. I'm not talking it serious because I don't even understand what you're saying

stanliwise:
I think you have a knack for liking bad people
Maybe you don’t know it.

The bitter truth

I don't understand.
How do you mean?

Martinez39s:
I sympathise with you bro. I hope you haven't given up on life and you are still doing your best to rise? I understand that setbacks are sad, but they are very painful when they are a result of very avoidable causes. Stay strong and be cheerful.

To have survived the phase without commiting suicide or running mad, I consider myself the strongest of our time

I don't like what is left of me, but I'm still pushing strong to stand again.

Martinez39s:
I remember your case now. Mehn! It's such a sad story. Huge future earnings unnecessarily lost. Who knows where you could have been today with the job and money and the opportunities they could have presented to you? If only you knew the redpill before hand. Thunder strike anyone who says redpill is not a life saver.

That's just it. I lost everything. Love, friends, money, opportunities, my intelligence, EVERYTHING good. All I've got left is grief and regrets.

Again. People should learn from my mistakes. It's an experience I wouldn't wish anyone.

Martinez39s:
How did you lose the job over love? Care to share?

I thought you saw my story. Well, let me try to make it as short.

I fell into extreme depression and lost focus after she broke up with me and other treatments that followed.

My faulted state of mind caused me to be making a series of mistakes in the deliverables and too much inconsistency in my throughput.
I was warned once after my accuracy dropped from above 95% to fellow 80% within 5days. Then I got fired when they saw I'm still going down daily (you know the whites don't take shits like that, especially when dealing with a black)

aminu114:
by reading that story of yours i think a trailer full of redpills chai bro u suffered a lots i felt ur pain

It's a scar I'll always remember. The pain and regret are unspeakable. The kind of pain that could make one consider death a luxury.

I just wish others will keep sentiment aside and learn from it. I was lucky enough to escape suicide, someone else may not.

MaxEli:
Oh ok .... I done a bit but not on that international level...

I've tried Captcha solving . . earning 1$ per a thousand captcha solved... Not too profitable..

I've also tried some telegram Mining of Bitcoin .. it pays but a little...

So basically anything paying like 3 or 4 dollars and hour would sound nice.. any ideas Bro

I don't think you will make good money from those.
I'm talking about doing a real job for a known company, not all these that pay in cents.

I was paid around $10 per hour if I add the bonuses, and I was allowed to work up to 50hrs a week.
These types of positions are very hard to get and I'm still pained I lost it over love.

You can scout at Kelly, LinkedIn, and Indeed.

MaxEli:
SORRY ABOUT YOUR EXPERIENCE.... It was invaluable
Though unrelated .....But online jobs how do they work

They're one of the best jobs you can get. It pays well and it allows you work at your own time.
I'm not talking about Fiverr and the likes. I'm talking about working remotely with a foreign company. It's usually hard to get hired though.

Mide3367:
Abeg share ur simping experience Bro or give me link if u have a thread already. Thanks in addy

Learn from mine. Don't be like me. The pain is worse than being sawn in half from the groins.

In case you haven't seen it yet: https://www.nairaland.com/6066737/how-escape-ravaging-after-blast-effect

Bonnyegg:
I know this can be painful and emotionally draining
But a young fine boy
A graduate and a smart dude.
You decided to take care of this girl, gave her your life, allowed her control your existence, forgot your family.

Brother which generation are you from?
What did you learn from your pop? Friends and articles you read online?

Is it that you don't know about women or you just allowed yourself drain so much in love and forgot to read the situations?

I understand what love can do and I'm glad you experienced this, I believe it's gonna help you stay smart and keep your heads up.
You don't love with your heart and your head
One has to be sane, one has to pick you up when you fall.

Now where's your head and your heart?
You lost your job, your love, your mind.

You need to heal first, and you have to forgive yourself first.
Stop blaming yourself,
You tried, you are a genius, you trusted in love, but it didn't return the favor as expected.. Count it as her loss.
Until you are ready to move on, you can't.
1year is enough
GET your wet ass up and move the Bleep ahead.

It's over 18months now but total healing still seems far from me. More often I still feel like a totalled car. Rage, and regret has gone down. I'm now trying to find the vibrant me that I used to know.

CAPSLOCKED:
ONE YEAR IS A VERY LONG TIME TO KEEP THINKING ABOUT SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T CARE IF YOU'RE ALIVE.
WE'VE ALL BEEN THERE, BUT THE GOOD NEWS IS WE FOUGHT VERY HARD AND PICKED OURSELVES UP AND ONCE WE'VE DONE THAT, WE NEVER WENT BACK TO THE PAST OR TRIED TO WALK THE SAME PATHS THAT PUT US INTO UNPLEASANT SITUATIONS.
ONE YEAR IS A VERY LONG TIME, AND YOU'LL NEVER ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING IF YOU DON'T FREE YOURSELF FROM THIS BURDEN. HOW MUCH DID YOU LOSE ON HER? SEE IT LIKE SOMETHING YOU LOST ON GAMBLING BET9JA AND FIND A WAY TO GROW YOURSELF AND BE BETTER.
SHE'S THE ONE TO BE IN MISERY NOT YOU, DO YOU UNDERSTAND? HOW CAN YOU BE SAD ABOUT THIS ONE PERSON FOR A FULL YEAR WHEN THERE ARE OVER 200 MILLION OTHER PEOPLE IN THIS COUNTRY?
RavagedHeart YOU CAN REACH OUT VIA THE MESSAGE BUTTON IF YOU WANT, LET'S CURSE HER TOGETHER SO YOU CAN MOVE ON

ABEG

Thanks a lot for the bolded. It helped me look at it from another angle.
It's not really very easy to move on, but I'm trying. I have to tell a cleaner version of the story. If I had said everything that happened, some of you would not believe I have sense at all. So I filtered out some very shameful part.

I sent you a message already

nenyewrites:
Lol! Really?

You know the truth. But side taking won't let you say it.

nenyewrites:
The most stupidest question I've heard this year! Like seriously? Yet the same men will ask a girl that got pregnant by a guy of her age, "What were you thinking rolling with your age mate? How did you think he would take care of you?" The same man will tell a girl who is single, "This guy will just waste your youth, and when you are old, he will get a younger girl." The same guys will discuss within themselves, don't go for a girl above 26. They are evening newspaper. Catch them young so you can control then.

Men and double standards! So nauseating!

..lol. Your all your comments including this one shows you're wonderful at being one-sided.
See how you hinged everything on "what men would say", even when you and I know that all you listed here has almost nothing to do with the wrong choices girls make at younger age.
Talking of double standards. No one does it better than your folk.

nenyewrites:
One question, a man who is 30 and a lady who is 21, who should have more sense, and direct the other person?

Why would a girl of 21 be looking for a much older guy of 30?
Are there no good guys within her age bracket that are interested in her?
Why didn't she choose to roll with her mate?

We all know the answer. Greed and stupidity.

Joker09:
Exactly. Same women that wouldn't look their way before they got pregnant. Same women that go for d highest bidders until highest bidders use and dump them.

That's just it. They always had their chance to choose the responsible guy, but no. They'll always make the wrong choice and expect another person to pay for it in the name of help.
I don't know how the men folk degraded to this level of women pleasing

Reading through the comments here I can only conclude that we have just a few real men in existence.

What Reno said may sound harsh, but it's the truth.
The type of men we have here will always bend the truth whenever the truth is making the womenfolk uncomfortable.

CaveAdullam:
I don't know who needs to hear this: she is using that high pedestal you planted her to search for higher males in the hierarchy with her hypergamous antennas.

If you don't want your efforts to end in premium tears, quickly deracinate her, and posses that position; because you alone it is made and best suited for.

Authority: Occupy that pedestal.

This is so true. It happened to me, and it's most painful experience you can ever have in a relationship

olumzzz:
Oga just as someone pointed out, beg for job instead and work to earn money to buy whatever you need.
There's dignity in labor.

You no go understand

iamoyindamola:
We are looking for people come work and get paid instead of begging

Is it in Delta

HardWork29:
Must u come & beg
Dey swear for u
Shuuuuuu

Bros I don try tire. Hustle is not paying me enough.
If you have any home appliance please help. I don't mind if it's old so long as it works.

ubunja:
falling in love is the greatest crime of the 21st century. When will guys learn. Love her but don't be in love with her. If it makes sense.

It makes sense

sophirebenitez:
You have to forget the past to move forward.

It's not possible to not have a memory, but you can break the psychological and emotional ties you have with the past.

How do you do this?

1. Drown your past with new memories you would love to remember.

2. Exercise regularly, treat yourself with healthy food and fruits, buy stuff you like. It reduces stress.

3. Consciously begin to put yourself first in any situation. It's not selfish, it's self-love.

4. Wipe every physical thing that will remind you of your ex from your life from pictures to gifts.

5. Choose a worthy goal, like getting a good job or starting your own business and pursue it like your life depends on it.

6. Forgive your ex and accept responsibility for being a simp, but make up your mind to NEVER accept your ex back into your life no matter the story she tells you when she eventually returns.

7. Release all your pent up emotions by writing about the past and burning it afterwards.

Good luck.

Thanks

CaveAdullam:
A simp got burnt. Hope you weren't among those criticizing Ubunja and his miseducations? Because these days, you all are liberal in creating new accounts. Never mind.

No advice from me!

But if you really want to help your life, quickly do the following, it's kinda burdensome but you need it if you are damn serious, wanting a positive change.

1. Read Ubunja's miseducations.

2. Follow these latest thread by Glycolyssis.
https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know

3. Illimitablemen.com


What you need is nothing but TRP in addition to Christ Jesus except you are not a Christ believer.

I promise, if you do the above religiously, you will have a testimony now and the next six(6) to twelve(12) months.

Take care.

I was a fan of ubunja. I just don't apply the red pill because I loved her to a fault

caleb4life:
Bros I have been there,it's not easy,I sincerely tell you.My mum would always tell me,monkey no fine but his mama like am,this literally means,be yourself and believe in your potentials.No woman should make you feel less better.When I was in your shoes,I swallowed the bitter pill.I became heartless in order to heal.I deleted all the deletable.I closed every path that would make those memories come back.I reintegrated myself back to the society.I became free with others but gave no one any special spot.I had to put more effort in loving my self than anyone else.I developed and learned more all geared towards improving myself.I cared less of anyone other than myself.With time,I became the new me.Bros,be a man,let it go.Dust yourself and face the reality.Move on,behave as if she never existed.With time, you would definitely be okay.

Thanks. That's the path I'm taking now. Except for the deleting