globalmart:


I understand your case clearly..I have been depressed before but that's not on relationship bases.... just always bear it in mind that what will be will be...And life challenges are just a normal process every man must go through to enhance..

Yeah. I'm very grateful to God that it didn't kill me. I know I'd be alright.

OgogoroFreak:
Here on technology section of nairaland, you can start by buying phone or laptop from offerup or from legit deal hunters (https://www.nairaland.com/5032880/all-offerup-letgo-craigslist-5miles) and sell here on nairaland and jiji. You can easily make 20k profit within a week. And that profit will grow as your funds grow.

If you want to deal on laptops, I suggest you buy from legit sellers here like innobarca and hotdealz. They have really cheap laptops you can easily resell for profit.

If you do this with dedication and focus, your money can easily grow to 300k by December.

My only problem with such business is in the selling. I think I'll give it another shot.

GLYCOLYSISS:

Damnit !
These is just one of millions of experiences men witnesses when dealing with women on a daily basis.
I just had to go throw that post of yours ,read it over and over and over again.
Heart broken you had to go through those.

First,your idea of love in that relationship was typical of that of an average man out there; idealistic love.
Kinda, expecting a woman to reciprocate that emotions, sacrifices and idealistic loyalty you're willing to offer her.
These article below blew open the raw ,bitter truth about love in intergender relationships.

https://illimitablemen.com/2015/06/01/the-hierarchy-of-love/

Yea,it sounds scary,but then,the truth don't give a f*ck about our emotions.

The moment you decided to cohabit with her, did away with other girls that probably fancy you,was the moment she started questioning your masculinity and FRAME.

To test your masculinity further,she started establishing rules and withholding sex from you,since your finally gave her that power to weaponise sex.
That's was not even the issue here,the issue here was that you're cool with that and continued to invest in her.
Did you know the message you sent to her ?
You can do anything to fulfill her reality,even if it means sacrificing your own needs.
You officially entered HER FRAME with those decisions you made earlier on,primary reason she got bolder and more dominant in the relationship,and treated you like the doormat your personality portrayed.
Even the most feminine woman will become masculine when your start acting like a p*ssy.
And you know what ?
Her disgust for you grew the more those moments you decided to apology and "do the right thing" so that peace will be established once more.

Women are smart,she wants you to feel guilty for while she left .
She wants to absolved herself from the backlash she may get from you and friends when they get to hear she left the relationship.
You must be cunning yourself to beat women to their game.
Please,stop feeling guilty for why she left.
Like,the purpose she left you for other guys.
It's everything but certainly not because you were getting intimate with other girls.

And lastly, understand these now,women are not build to appreciate the sacrifices you make to facilitate her reality.
They assume and are conditioned to expect those from you, therefore no point appreciating you for your responsibility,so they thought.
Going forward,please stop making such sacrifices for women and most importantly,learn how women are build at the core, it's going to solve your problems when dealing with them.
Your focus right now should be on building your value,not wallowing in regrets.
You made the mistake of building her,while neglecting the most important person; YOU,and she finally left you for men that where busy building there value,and won't make a half of the sacrifices you made for her.
That's the game.

Like I said somewhere before. I thought I was being nice and I thought it was okay to be that nice. But I've learnt in the most bitter of ways.
I only realized the foolishness in my actions when it was all over.
It breaks my heart the more when I think of where I would have been if I abandoned her when things got rosy for me.

globalmart:


Well....time heals all wound..and your healing is in your hands..If you decide to move on you will..just find something that will keep u away from thinking .and whenever the thoughts come read ur Bible,watch movie, sleep...is better than having sex cos sex with women will keep reminding you of her..
Just know you can't turn back the hands of the clock..

I know she's gone. It still hurts but I'm better now. The thing is that when deep depression hits, nothing makes you happy. Nothing at all, except the restoration or a perfect reversal of the cause.
It's a miracle I survived those 15 horrible months.

SawD007:



You're not in tune with reality. Embrace the pain brother. That's the reality. Acknowledge she is gone and feel the pain as my h as you can. Then if you love close to where there is a beach or lake. Just go there and scream your pains out. That girl comes to your life to teach you a lesson which is WATCH OUT FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR HAPPINESS NOT IN DETRIMENT TO OTHERS BUT CHOOSE YOU

Yeah. I did a lot of stuffs like that to lose steam and escape suicide. I also took long walks that helped me a lot, as I almost went mad.

pansophist:
You broke so many relationship rules, that it was inevitable for her to go.

1. Want, not need a woman. A man should be on his goal, mission, pursuing his purpose, career, or whatever seriously. A woman should complement and not be the sole purpose of your existence.

2. You think she was the "prize, while clearly, you were. I mean, you furnished her to a high standard, the pillar of her subsistence, the cornerstone of her metamorphosis, so how on earth can you be the one being dumped, instead of doing the dumping? You're basically persuading a burden and felt depressed because the burden wanna leave? Tufiakwa.

3. You sacrificed your own growth to pursue her, that was disastrous. This is related to number one. Seems your goal is her, to have the brightest, refined chick while ignoring your own self. The rule is that you have to keep becoming the best version of yourself.

Ever heard of hypergamy? Women do not date below dominance hierarchy, but above. The day your woman becomes better than you in anyways, the countdown to her departure as just begun. It may not be instant, but surely in the distant future.

4. Women by nature loose attractions for men that exhibit weakness. Begging her, being walked upon, and still sponsoring her while she ride with other ich men pronounced you as an epitome of a looser. How can she respect you when you do that? Any relationship you beg to keep, you will beg to sustain, which messes up the power dynamic and puts you at a disadvantage. And if she agrees to stay, you'll forever be disrespect.

I'll tell you a secret that has worked for me. NEVER APPEAL TO THE MORAL SENSE OF A WOMAN, OR YOUR SUPPOSED OPPRESSOR. Never has the oppressed gain his freedom by appealing to the moral sense of their oppressor. It never works. Negotiate from a position of strength, not weakness.

5. She has left since the first time she started behaving, you only got the announcement later. She had sex with you once in four months? Well, that's all you need to know that she was keeping you for your money. Woman are as Hot as men, some even argue that are hornier. A girl that loves you will fck you every day as much as you want it.

I blame you not, we live in a sad time as men. A time where fathers are not lecturing their sons and having a strong bond with them, to coexist well with women, understand them, and not be at a losing point. You've paid your price to knowledge, let it go, and become better.

I thought I was being nice, as I met her when she was nothing and she looked up to me for everything as a boyfriend and a brother.
It's just a pity we can't just love purely. I just realized that

OgogoroFreak:
With mere 100k, I'm afraid you have to roll up your sleeves and actually hustle with that money to grow it faster.

Do you have a business to suggest? I don't really know a good business to start with that

emmasoft:


@RavagedHeart thank God you are waking up according to you.
The first thing is to determine your investment objective ie what you intend to achieve because investment is a means to an end. The reason for investment should not just be because others are investing. You will also do well to gather some investment knowledge that in itself is a form of investment.
With the capital you have, mutual funds will be good and stocks better if you can take risk; gradually you will build wealth if consistent
N.B: The bolded is a relative term when considering forms of investment in relation to risk.

I will read what I can find concerning your suggestion.

Grupo:


What do you mean by the bolded? You used to give all your money to women?

Not just my money, but also my whole self and every other thing that is of value.

I shared my story some time ago, after I came over of my suicide thoughts:
https://www.nairaland.com/6066737/how-escape-ravaging-after-blast-effect

Tvegas:



I am glad Leezah confirmed that the storm will be over. Many investors lose sight of the fact that it's during storms that wealth are transferred and wise investors make tons of money.
@OP do any of the following
1. Buy Wapco shares below N12
2. Buy Zenith share below N17
3. Follow the guys on the US stock page they are making a kill with the surplus stimulus fund.
4. Look for a fixed income fund that can give you at least 10% per annum.

On wapco and Zenith, let's compare notes by April 2021.

...hmm. nice contribution. Though I would have appreciated if you compared these options so I can make athe right pick and avoid mistakes

Leezah:
BDC or keep it under your pillow till the storm is over.

Can you say more on this BDC, or a pointer where I can see reviews of how they roll.

emmanuelewumi:



Who have you been simping with? You need to be a rational male.

I've learnt in pains. I thought I was being nice, didn't know I was heading into a suicidal situation.

Any investment advise that I can start up with just 100k ?

In the attempt to wake from my simping slumber, I want to join the league of investors.

Gurus in the house, which investment can I start with 100k with high ROI.

I knew about this red pill thing, but I never practiced it.
I lowered my standards trying to please my fiancee and it ended in a near suicide experience.

In my case. Everything that is said on this thread played out but I was still clinging to maintaining my Mr nice guy tag.

My story:
https://www.nairaland.com/6066737/how-escape-ravaging-after-blast-effect

8lngish:

what job exactly
was it that you were doing again

I already said I won't mention the job to avoid connecting the dots pointing to myself, as the job is not common. I've already given too much pointer, if I mention the job it would give me away to anyone that knows me that is reading this thread.

IMO01:


You were taking care of her forgetting to take care of yourself, that's where d problem began.

Exactly. That's one of my major regrets. When I think of where I would have been if I prioritized my plans, it makes me shade tears.
I made an almost failproof plan on how to invest the money I earned, but I foolishly gave in to her unending needs. Trying to push her to a higher class without raising myself.

Athemisia:

True love my foot.... you better wake up from your fantasy....

There is no true love never!
Stop watching too many love movies!
Stop reading too many love novels!
All of that do not portray reality....

Take a good look at musicians who sing a lot of love songs and check their love life in reality— It's a direct opposite.

I now know this. But disbelieve couldn't heal me of the one I believed.

Ishilove:

Your love has crossed into the threshold of obsession and is dangerous to your mental health. The only way out of this is to start socialising again. Go out and view the world with fresh eyes and you will see that there is so much to live for instead of pining over someone who was just looking for an excuse to leave you. Take yourself to a cinema (I don't know if you can afford it though. Your broke ass is still stuck in limbo). What are your hobbies? Writing? Painting? Coding? Get busy! Na idleness dey worry you, which is why you can't concentrate on anything. Don't be a liability at this your age. It is a disgrace.

Most important of all, take it to Jesus. He is the Balm of Gilead, the healer of wounds. You'll be amazed at what He can do.

I'm not really idle. Just that the whole thing weighs me down and I now either underperform or lose interest in most things I try doing.
More reason I'm now determined to heal or die.
The me I used to know cuts through everything like hot knife, but this present me can hardly do anything anymore. I'm just fed up with the struggle within.

Ishilove:

Jeez, you're still in love with her... and you still miss her.

True love doesn't die quick

She's been with me all the time that I cheated. 2months after I stopped cheating then she broke up with me.
Sometimes I think she left because I stopped cheating on her

proclinician:
Here is the solution.

About a year ago I thought in this direction, but not anymore.

Fidelismaria:


<sup>bloody SIMP

your own mumu is raise to power 100

You no see your brother,sister, cousins, parents spend money on na hoelosho you go spend 85% of your income

Chai

you deserve the heartbreak</sup>

I've made my mistakes. But no one deserves a heartbreak.

The reason for this thread is to gather encouragement to help me heal.

Most times when I sleep. All I hope for is to wake up and realize I've been dreaming for all this time, or never wake at all. I can't just lay hold on the me I used to know, just a shadow of it.

emmysmartt:
if her father can't pay and take care of her need and the sugar daddy around u did her favour and she betray you bro curse for 600years she will not have peace for making you miserable and peaceless I stopped giving girls free money

All I want is to heal and move on. Though I hate the things she did last last, but I don't want to curse anyone. If I wanted to hurt her in anyway, I'd have poisoned her when she comes home to eat my food.

As for giving money to a girl. I've learnt the hard way.

argent412:
and they keep upgrading their simp version.

I have seen many calling me a simp. I may have been a voluntary simp for this particular girl, but I have not been a simp all my life.
Love caught me, everything was perfect and I gave in totally. It could happen to anyone, not only the simp.

harsysky:
Love can make us do stupid things, but that is what it is. I have this belief, and that is if you can't make yourself happy, no one will do that for you. Having to be cut off from someone you love dearly is heartbreaking, but would you rather you lose yourself while your once beloved partner remains happy forever?

you can't eat your cake and have it. Take whatever you had with her before as bygones. If you continue the way you are doing, even that girl and the current ones you meet will see you as a play ground for weaklings.


You are a man and above all things, a man has got to take responsibility for self before others. Inotherwise, if you don't look after yourself, you can't even look after another. depression can only be managed when we pour out those burdens through speech or writing, which you have done. Now is time to heal. Remember, the beautiful ones are not yet born likewise the good ones

Thanks you for your comment, especially for the bolded.
Most people here thought I just made up the story, a even went further to call it fun. I guess they have never been in a difficult situation before.

Davidoff2000:



Alaye calm down....i have tried to understand this his situation..and this is my conclusion, based on, he dodged replyng my last post.

They were in an open relationship. He coukd fvck anybody he wanted where he was, she also could fvck anybody shw wanted where she was. In other words, she was a runz girl, of which he knew.

Then he moved to her town ans they.started cohabitting because he was spending on her. She started looking fly and was cool, with the cash, but she now wnated exclusivity.

Baba agreed because he was now in love and for her it was convdnient, because he would only be spending on her now. After awhile,she felt bored and wanted her freedom perhaps cos ahe is atill young, the 22ish range, by which time, baba had already fallen in love.

She started looking for excuses or faults to leave him then she stumbled on a message, and she ended it, then later acceeted to come back, but no sex(perhaps she was now seeing another man she was having sex with and wont want to sleep with another man)

She left him and he is still heart broken, which has happened to me too, happens to many of us

Yes, she may be young. But nothing close to a runs girl and I don't think she was doing with anyone during those times.
Me that was doing with other girls wasn't on her license. She gets mad whenever she finds out, but never makes big quarrels. Maybe because she knows she's not there to do it.
So, it's not like we're in an open relationship. We were in a serious relationship and I trust she wasn't dating another. Although some very rich men use to come around her.

LadySarah:
akuko Mike Ejeagha

I wish it is. I'd even pay to make it so of it were possible.

UyaiIncomparabl:


I still don't believe you. Have fun, anyway.

I also hope you get the one comment that will elevate your hurt to happiness just as you want.

I wonder how you think all this can translate to fun. This is more reason most people can't tell their true story. People will always turn it around.

Davidoff2000:

Bros..you are not telling us the whole truth. How can a woman leave you when yku are are earning 600k a momth. A student for that matter and one you have been with for four years?

Just on suspicion? Not that she even caught you. And walk away from you while still ewrning money and taking care of her in a small town that is not abuja, lagos or PH.

That your dream job..what is it yahoo abi? Even at that, she wont still leave you. Tell us the truth. weo go beat you

I'm not going to mention the job to avoid pointing fingers to my real self.
And she didn't school in a small town. But I won't mention that too.
I think her pride made her stand by her decision, and she's got other richer men coming her way. I just don't know.
You haven't met girls with excessive strong head

UyaiIncomparabl:
I'm sorry, but I don't believe your story. Too many hooks, line, and sinker tales have been everywhere on this site lately. And you need the maximum exposure, why exactly? Someone who's hurting would not even bother about the front page. All they would need at that time is to vent out their hurt/frustrations. What's the least advice you think you'd get that you already haven't known? Maybe, some bunch of self-acclaimed awakened NL dudes will call you a SIMP, poosy-ho nigga, weak man and whatever mumble-jumble they conjure out these days and what else? Force you into their red-pills cult at all cost and give you some red-pills nuggets to read.

You are only looking for sensational comments to thrive on. You know that kind of M v F gender thingy. It's not an anomaly, though, so I understand. I think it's time for me to start writing sensational stories too.

Just watch how the word "SIMP" will start flying around this thread.

Yes. I may be looking for sentimental comments to thrive on. The story up there has no part that was made up. I only made it short.

Calling for front page is to get as many comments as possible. Who knows I might find that one word that might help. Which is the purpose I made this thread.

Ishilove:
This feels like a Hints story.

I know why you feel that way. But all I told her was my life experience. As unbelievable as it seems, it is nothing but my true story.