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[quote author=Villa12 post=130533042]You're ignorance bro

Indirectly you mean it's not possible to be married in Nigeria without having to fight physically with your spouse? make me understand biko.

Where did you get that from in my comment? Again. Be real.

Yes, my community has used army to beat up a man messlessly for beating his wife. They're still together till today living in peace.

Good. And this is well tolerated in your 21st century. Even when we both know it never happened like that.

Brothers had beat up their sister's/fiends husband who trespassed.

This is another lie. You won't even enter his compound not talk of starting a fight with him. Fear will not let you, except the man is the lowest of nobodies.

If you never see doesn't mean it doesn't exist bro. E dey happen wella. Imagine i get a younger sister that got married. And she has like 3-4 brothers.
Automatically the husband no go misbehave because he know say he go too over collect

You speak like a child. That shows you haven't been in or experienced real situations like this. Or should I say you completely have a narrow understanding of exertion physical force? Maybe you think it means a civil war starting in the home.
Either way. You don't seem to know how things happen in real life.

Domestic violence is no longer tolerated in our society o.

Where are you even getting this domestic violence you're quoting. I can't seem to trace anywhere it's related to what I said.


Where are you getting domestic violence from the above statement?
I believe you know the meaning of violence?

Villa12:
you go just meet yourself for jail. This is 21st century not 1850 o. Na your neighbour go even first lock you up before her family and friends bounce on you

Try and be realistic with your takes.
Where do people lock up their neighbours because they stood up for themselves by use of force? Just mention one place you witnessed it happen.

How many times have you descended on your in-laws because they had a physical disagreement with your sister? Or you will claim it never happened to any of your female family member?

If you're neighbours can get as much involved in your domestic affairs as locking you up, then you must be the softest, most harmless, and least respectable person on earth.

This is about real life happenings and practical solutions, not about quoting prehistoric dates to sound modern.

[quote author=missjekyll post=130522508]

Dude you advocated for violence.

I didn't. Standing up for one's self instead of shameless complaisancy is not violence. It mustn't involve beating her like an animal. Even when she's treating him as one.
A little show of force is always good when diplomacy fails and backing out is not a solution.

You are evolving back into a chimpanzee. Shouldn't you be going the other way?

Really. Being a doormat and doing nothing about it but appeasing the abuser is what evolving feels like? No. I'll pass.

What even makes you think she ll stay there and take it.

That's the whole point. She should either be good or be gone. Her leaving is even better than the emotional and psychological damage she's doing.

I can guarantee that any intending assailant of mine or my loved ones will be hammered to within an inch of their lives.

Talk is cheap my friend. Making case is not as straightforward as you think it is.

You are not just being true to yourself and you know it.

missjekyll:
Stupid advice . Lay a finger on her and end up in a cell. What an atavistic way of thinking

If atavistic is all your summary from all I said. Then we all need to be more atavistic.

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

Whether the story is true or not. Nobody will believe you because it's sounds too good to be true.
Exactly the same thing happened to me and nobody believed I was punished for being too good. People will always think you did something wrong.

Women don't like it when you make them your everything. Always have friends and family you enjoy life with.
Have other things going on in your life that she's not part of. They find you more attractive that way.

Concerning this your situation. There's nothing you can do about it. She can never want you genuinely again no matter what you do, or how you choose to protest.
Your main mistake is making her your everything and being so domestic. Two attributes that makes a man unattractive the most.

1. Go out and make friends with both men and women. Connect with more people and spend less time at home. Except you're working.
2. Get a hubby and try to enjoy it more than marauding around the house.
3. Stop trying to make your wife equal. Women want a man that leads with firmness. Not the equality you think they crave
4. Be less domestic and feminine. Grow some balls and show some dominance and assertiveness.
5. Be more inclined in doing the right thing than trying to please her. In fact please and beg less.
6. There's nothing wrong in exerting some physical force when necessary.


Give it six months and see if she gets back in line. But never expect the old love cause it's no longer for you.
Also use to six months to plan your happy exit. In case she's sworn to remain irredeemable.

Whether the story is true or not. Nobody will believe you because it's sounds too good to be true.
Exactly the same thing happened to me and nobody believed I was punished for being too good. People will always think you did something wrong.

Women don't like it when you make them your everything. Always have friends and family you enjoy life with.
Have other things going on in your life that she's not part of. They find you more attractive that way.

Concerning this your situation. There's nothing you can do about it. She can never want you genuinely again no matter what you do, or how you choose to protest.
Your main mistake is making her your everything and being so domestic. Two attributes that makes a man unattractive the most.

phintohlar:
But then, how about the people with ordinary A Blood Group type and Rh Type Positive, Genotype AA? No + nor -

Genotype and blood group is not the same thing.
Rh factor is associated with blood groups, and not blood genotype.

Maryam1234:
Please DON'T do that.
Intercrop Peanut with maize instead biko.

Second quarter September,you can intercrop Maize with Beans by then you've gotten good quality maize at home from the first harvest because the second one may not thrive as the first one.
Personal Experience Though.

Okay. Thanks

Maryam1234:
You're cultivating beans in September aren't you?
You don't plant Bean during HEAVY rainfall sir.

I didn't plan September. I want to intercop it with maize this April. I've already bought it sef

Maryam1234:
My pleasure Sir
Have a fulfilling farming year 2024
Bounty Harvest I pray thee.

Someone was telling me not to plant beans this early that rain will not allow it to dry for harvesting. I also saw where you mentioned something like that.

I was thinking the pods will always turn brown and dry on the plant, regardless of the rain.

Maryam1234:
Since labor is an issue use Paraforce for your stubborn weeds.

Yes I have seen a farmer cultivate honey beans close to my farm last year,it was great.
Big big seeds.
I will be cultivating a fraction on my land this year Insha Allah.

Thanks a lot.

Succezcard:
Pls guys keep this thread alive. Many other like me have alot to learn. Drop contacts, emails, etc, let's get connected, share ideas. Let's beat the economic reality without complains but smart and hardwork. Thanks.

How do you now sell the large quantity of pepper?

Maryam1234:
I don't use Herbicide on my Bush Sir
We do manual weding.

Labour is very expensive in my city. I'll ask other farmers maybe they'll know what I can use.

This is the picture of the beans I intend to intercop with. The northern honey beans.
Do you have any experience with this particular type of beans?

Maryam1234:
What reply again?

This one here. I asked about herbicide.

RavagedHeart:
Okay. Thank you.
Which herbicide do you recommend that will not harm the corn or the beans.

Maryam1234:
I cultivate the normal bean we buy from the open market.
Actually, we regularly have bean it's a matter of replanting already available seeds.
You can inter crop Maize and Beans that's what every farmer does.
Thank You

I'm still waiting for your reply.

Happy valentine's day

Maryam1234:
I cultivate the normal bean we buy from the open market.
Actually, we regularly have bean it's a matter of replanting already available seeds.
You can inter crop Maize and Beans that's what every farmer does.
Thank You

Okay. Thank you.
Which herbicide do you recommend that will not harm the corn or the beans.

Maryam1234:
Maybe 20-25 Painter depending on the species of beans cultivated

How do you get the beans you plant? Is it the normal beans that we cook that is bought from the open market and eat, or you patronise seed companies.

I plan to intercrop maize and beans on one acre this April. Is this a good move?

Artiiclebeast:
What most people do not know about this job is that some of the individuals can be very nasty and difficult to work with particularly the seniors with the onset of dementia and all that stuff.

Most people in the field, even the whites, would never categorize this as an outright abuse though.

Human rights, human rights, is how they've emboldened and made the individuals difficult to manage, and when you allow them to keep their human rights in their filthiness and unkemptness, the authorities will still be the ones to complain about abandonment.

If we had a country or leadership, they would have been left to be cleaning up their own mess however it pleases them.

For the miscreant up there saying "People won't do this kind of job in Nigeria but will do it abroad". Your ignorance is "Harvard-trained". What government or private entities will pay people who do these jobs abroad what they make in 3-4 hours daily?

Nonsense.

Don't mind those people quoting you and twisting the point you're trying to make.
I don't see any single abuse in the whole video. Just people struggling to do their job, and the pillow thing was intended as playful.

Zalax3011:
This Mixed Cropping is EVERGREEN

The Beauty Of Mixed Cropping
Maize and Watermelon Farm.

Never seen any farm as beautiful.
What's the size and cost of the farm?

Not a python. The tail is longer than that of a python and the body is slimmer too.
It seems like a rare venomous specie.

StylesX:
she said being a good guy was what she hated about me back then, that she thought I was weak, and now that she's matured she sees that quality differently now,

Not that she said you're weak. You are really weak as f*ck, judging from your narrative. Look at what you're saying. She knows you're still weak, that's why she's back to reap you like fruit garden.
For the records. She never liked you and she never will. Not now not ever. You're just a fall back for her and nothing more.

You're dating a lowlife girl, or someone so much lower than you. And you shouldn't be doing that

Another awful sight for gender affirmation.
This is a complete man that wants to be converted to a woman. Got his dick cut off and replaced with this is attempt of a vagina.

More reports of agony from unwarranted mutilation. This has got to stop

Flattire:
Very disturbing images. Please
Tueh

As disturbing as it is. The govt are actually upholding and promoting such horror in the name of gender fluidity
And they make sure you never find these ugly sides on any search engine.

A peek into a book approved for little children that are not even up to 9yrs. What exactly is the need for little kids to learn about anal sex and scissorsing.
Catch them young I guess

This is how it started over there. Before you know it we will land here👇 https://www.nairaland.com/7717769/part-woke-culture-dont-talk

And give birth to butt babies to experience child birth. Like someone will have a babysized doll put in his rectum, then he tries to pass it out from the anus.

Trans-women now wants to know what abortion feels like, and there's even a kit to achieve that.

Mister123:
Hello guys. Greetings to you. Please don't mind muy grammar, I'm not here for English classes lol.
My first child's almost 3years, trust me that girl can be playing and roaming about 24/7. As long as she's not asleep, her mum and I are always talking, don't do this, don't do that. Sometimes I lose my cool you know. I'm planing to enroll her into a conventional school by September because she seems really smart. My question here is, how do I handle her, she can't just stay in one place and our apartment is not really safe for her to be playing outside.
Parents and expert in the house please assist a brother with an idea of what to do.
Thank you

Never try to draw her back. Your duty is to make a safe playing and living space for her. It's very appropriate for her age and it's a sign she'll make a lot of exploits as she grows. Now that's where you come in. She'll need someone that can direct her towards a befitting life purpose so she won't waste her energy doing destructive things.

Maryam1234:
You can't begin farming with hired labor on some small acres and had profit maximization motives.At the end of the day the expenditure might become more than the Income (Output)

We do some manual works by ourselves but when we had other business to attend to we as well give it out for some token.

The Joy is we don't stress for Labourers more like he's readily available daily at our beck and call.

Our first adventure into farming was entirely done by ourselves on a subsistence basis, we're expanding and hence,the need for more hand's.

We haven't gone into mechanization though but we're optimistic and hoping for more expansion.

Of course Farming can sustain you depending on your choice of crops and the variables are that you farm the whole season (Irrigation) plus exploiting other farming opportunity like Animal farm and Fruit Vegetable farming.


Even if you want to settle for farming this year, not this period because you can't effectively maximize the land anymore except you're an Intentional being.You may not really understand the last sentences as an amateur but a seasoned farmer will know the effect of farming late on a lease land.

I'm not happy again
Let me put it like this. From your experience as a famer. Planting maize, groundnut and some veggies like pepper and the likes on two acre of land with 85% hired labour. Will the net profit per session be anywhere around 500k, or at least enough to pay rent and utilities will I learn and expand?
Pls answer from your real life experience.

Maryam1234:
You can make a good living if you will go into large scale commercial farming.

You're packing your bags nibo
No make me laugh piss for body

Honestly living in this my Hamlet is economical no worries at all but relying solely on manual farming is not advisable.

If you're going into mechanize farming you're welcome 🤗 after the season you can switch to Irrigation like it's common in Zamfara and Up North before you know it you go dey invite Dangote To Dinner

I plan on starting with baby steps like two acre with hired labour. Was thinking it can at least sustain someone while I expand to bigger and mechanized farms as profits accumulate. But from your tone it seems not achievable

Are you the one doing the manual work by yourself?