Gamesmart:


Still not a good excuse.

In this day and age, even in well-off and developed nations, 2 kids is what people go for. Talk less of a shithole like Nigeria.

If people in USA, UK, Germany etc. are having only 2 kids because they think, despite all their high income and stable employment, that that number of children is the amount they can provide the best for with their large incomes plus generous government support, why will someone in a shithole where jobs are unstable, incomes are low and government is determine to frustrate your life be having 4 kids "because my wife needed a girl"?

Needed?

For what?

A 3rd child might be a reasonably acceptable mistake, but a 4th is just irresponsibility and foundation for indirect child abuse except one is making over N3m per month in Nigeria and living modestly on the Mainland.

If one is living on the Island, I would raise it to N5m. It would be N1.5m per month for someone not staying in Lagos, Abuja or PH.

I suspect you were not even making up to N600K per month when you were working, why have 4 and put such burden on yourself?

Now you are sharing peanuts across the mouth of 4 kids that would have been slightly more to share if it was just 2 kids. Education would be low quality and poor for your kids because you cannot afford it. God forbid they are sick and you need quality healthcare. Your children will be hustling when they grow up to fund their needs.

Giving them a poor start in life! You are lucky they are all boys, if your wife had her wish fulfilled, that is how young girls turn to Olosho when parents can not cater for them.

The excuses you gave do not carry weight! Having more than 3 kids, at worst, in Nigeria is an irresponsible and backward mentality. Something that is prevalent in the North of Nigeria. We can see the eventual result with their Almajiris, Okada/Keke Napep drivers, Boko Harams and Bandits.

after all the insult and then, that is the way all Nigerian are, what did u achieve in all this, is ok , I'm given them the best ok, and they are in a better school, God forbid ur wish for them will not come to pass, just look at what is coming out of ur mouth, chacha at all the insult, no advice, I don't want to insult u or lay a course on u, is of no use to be, I wish u well, the worst thing any one can do to me , what u just did, by insulting my kids, I don't take it, insult all u want I don't care, but my family, is well, I don't think ur married,talkless of having kids , because if u do , u won't be talking like this

dfrost:


You cracked me up with the first bolded comment Cybersecurity is a mine field. Even if you cannot get the bucks to hit the big certs, you can start from the bottom and rise. I hope you have a personal computer?

yes boss I do, I even have 2, baba I really want to lean that cyber security, and online marketing, even coding ,

Gamesmart:


What the hell are you doing having 4 kids?

I was working then, and secondly, I never wanted to have 4, at the third one we decide to stop because it was all boys, my wife needed a girl, so we tried the last one which still a boy too, but if u look at their ages, like my first son gave my second son 5 year, my second gave my 3 son 5 years, then my 3 son gave my last son 6 good years, but is well

dfrost:


What's your area of expertise? What are your interests?

boss I as I left the bank, I don't have any area of anything, but I read purchasing and supply, and I'm good with computer,

dfrost:


Damn! That's not good. So how have you been surviving?

Any skills? Certifications? Side hustle before then?

boss no side hustle, OND, NA GOD BABA, WITH 4 BOYS

SirMichael1:


Baba, wetin you do now?

boss I did not do anything, the bank is laying off, that is all,

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

bro ur right ,but the truth is that, ur sounding selfish some how, because one u should be ur father friend, two by now should have been sending money to ur father, not been greedy of what ur mum left, had it been ur doing very well, u won't have time to start looking for what he trying to do with ur mum's property, is because there is no money,that is why he trying to sale somethings to eat, I will advise u to talk to him, let him know that ur also going to have ur own family and u need this things too, but if he needed money badly, u can spare some for him, and let him know that it won't happen again, so he should manage the one u gave him , but it should be in father and son discussion

zeenaman:
Away from the traditional recurring post of "how much was your first salary", let's go a bit unusual this time around. Most people are comfortable stating the low salary they received at the early stage of their career, I hope they will replicate same now.
The big question : "How much is your current salary?" and in case you are self employed, how much was most recent salary? Let's go.
Mine is 150k. Still managing and hoping for something better

. I don't have salary , but God is seeing me through, I was sacked last year from bank

OloshoMan:
It is all manipulations, that thing has no relevance. I've seen people in blood covenant sleeping with other people. Go on and find love elsewhere

but why u no say I been do am, is not working, ur saying u don see people wey do am, which people? Una sabi mislead people, u go try am nah

[quote author=MaestroJosh post=90764446]Nairalanders, I need your help on chronic pile I've been suffering for the past 7 years which has caused me great pain and lot of blood lost(till present).

I've been to different hospitals, used different drugs prescribed but i still didn't see any changes. I've taken it upon myself to seek out for help here on ways to cure it medically, and traditionally.

Baba I have pile too, I tried what u tried still nothing, all I did was that I don't use tissue to clean my bombom, I don't use anything except water ,and since that time till now,I don't bleed again, it dose not disturb me unlike before, I can just sit for few minutes it will come , but now, I can sit for the
whole day, nothing will come out, the only thing I esperance this days is after pupu, I must use my hand to push it inside when watching my bombom.
One thing is that it must come out when pupu, all those pain and bleeding has gone, all those don't eat this and that has stopped, I eat and drink anything, just use water anytime u went to restroom that is all

lecoeur:
So I met this guy on telegram and we got going, he introduced me to one group like that where he sells Fake logs and said I should work with him.
I do chat him up frequently and just yesterday he came requesting for my account details that he wants to bless me. I'm a student, really broke in fact I haven't eaten properly for like 2 days straight honestly (Crypto did me sh*t) so I didn't hesitate in sending my details, shortly I got credit alert of #14k.
I informed him of the alert and he told me to give him any amount I wish to give him out of the money, at this point I became confused and was like how
I just blocked him immediately and deleted our chat, right now I feel bad cos obviously he's a scammer and truly I pity the person that may have been scammed as I've been overthinking considering the trauma this person may be going through.
Is there anything I can do?
I haven't taken anything out of the money yet.

Modified....
I went to the bank and they keep telling me to come back, I will be going with my uncle hopefully on Monday.
Thanks everyone for your contributions, I'll update once everything is sorted out.

. Go to the bank, ask them to give u paper , write an application of reversal, in the application, explain to the bank that u don't know were the money is coming from and that u have made some inquiries and non send u money, so u want the money to be sent back to were it comes from, simple
That is ur evidence when ever anything comes out from it, the bank will be ur witness, that thing alone has covered anything that anybody will do even police can not do anything when they find out u reported to the bank that is a fake transaction

samgrath:
I don't have a normal workplace, I am betting and playing online casinos all day long. I am not losing money, can say that I win pretty good money, I have a bunch of sites that bring me a really good income. So the question is, do you think I should find a normal workplace because my family asks me so or I should keep playing?

u wey even dey win, thank God for ur luck, some don't have job, even the bet, they always lose, I beg u brother, help me with ur games please

helinues:
Interesting

The bombing of AP and Aljazeera building in Gaza was deliberate

Here's a look at the history of the Israel-Palestinian conflict, why Jerusalem always seems to be on edge — and what set off the latest round of violence.

WHAT IS PALESTINE?
Until 1948, Palestine typically referred to the geographic region located between the Mediterranean Sea and the Jordan River. Arab people who call this territory home are known as Palestinians since the early 20th century. After the Ottoman Empire was defeated in World War I, the British took control of the area. The land was inhabited by a Jewish minority and Arab majority.

Much of this land is now considered present-day Israel. That's because in 1947, after more than two decades of British rule, the United Nations proposed a plan to partition Palestine into two sections: an independent Jewish state and an independent Arab state.

The city of Jerusalem, which was claimed as a capital by both Jews and Palestinians, was to be an international territory with a special status.

WHAT STARTED THE ISRAEL-PALESTINIAN CONFLICT?
Jewish leaders accepted two-state the plan, but many Palestinians — some of whom had been fighting British interests in the region for decades — opposed it and it was never implemented.

The British withdrew from Palestine in 1949 and Israel declared itself an independent state. Palestinians objected and neighboring Arab countries mobilized to prevent the formation of the Israeli state, sparking the 1948 Arab-Israeli War. By the time the fighting ended a year later, Israel controlled most of the territory under former British Mandate, including a large part of Jerusalem, while Jordan took control of the West Bank and Egypt occupied Gaza. Over half of the Palestinian Arab population fled or were expelled, according to the UN.

Without an agreement, wars and conflicts continued. In 1967, during what became known as the Six-Day War, Israel seized the Gaza Strip and the Sinai Peninsula from Egypt, the Golan Heights from Syria, and the West Bank and east Jerusalem from Jordan, citing Arab aggression at its borders. Israel offered to return the territories in exchange for Arab recognition of the right of Israel to exist and guarantees against future attacks. Arab leaders at the time declined a peace agreement, however, Egypt would eventually negotiate the return of the Sinai Peninsula in exchange for full diplomatic recognition of Israel.

Israel’s continued occupation of the seized territories and its ruling over millions of Palestinians have sparked decades of conflict and violence. And while the mainstream Palestinian leadership still says it wants a peace deal that includes a two-state solution, Jews continue to build settlements in the occupied lands in a way that makes a future partition difficult, perhaps impossible. And neither side is willing to compromise on terms.

WHY IS JERUSALEM IMPORTANT TO ISRAEL AND PALESTINIANS?
Israel views Jerusalem as its “unified, eternal” capital. It had captured east Jerusalem, which includes the Old City, in the 1967 Mideast war, along with the West Bank and Gaza. Palestinians want those territories for their future state, with east Jerusalem serving as their eventual capital. But Israel annexed the eastern part of the city in a move not recognized internationally.

The fate of east Jerusalem has been one of the thorniest issues in the peace process, which ground to a halt more than a decade ago.

Israelis on Monday were set to mark Jerusalem Day, a national holiday celebrating the annexation. In past years, thousands of Israelis — mainly religious nationalists — have marched through the Old City, including the densely populated Muslim Quarter, in a display considered provocative by many Palestinians.

In recent days, hard-line Israelis have staged other events in east Jerusalem, leading to scattered, violent altercations with Palestinians.

edochie12:
Where were this group when the security personnel were killing unarmed protesters, nonsense.

don't mind paid fools, as if they care for their Igbo people, just because of some left over change given to them,

izito:
*

In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

well for me, u did well, but don't let that separate u and ur family, please keep the marriage, just know that she can't tried that again, she has lean her lesson, please forgive her, that will hunt her all the rest of her life, baba please give her second chance ok

post=100087933:

Hmmmmm, but thought you predicted 3:3 for the correct
score and straight draw when the score was 3:1 nah!
Ticket for 5K for confirmation nko?

don't sit well and wait for my ticket for ur confirmation ok, because I'm owning u prove of playing or prove of winning, as if u are going give me anything if I show u or not

zigzagluv:
abeg give me from the info, where u de get d info

don't worry, this weekend, let's try the guy together ok

Firstnebo:
I have seen some videos of either "yahoo boys" or their girlfriends appearing to have ran mad making rounds lately this 2021.

What do you make of these videos? Are they real? Or just scenes from video skits?

Or maybe they may have smoked something that their brains didn't process well and it took them over the edge? What do you think?

Sometimes I doubt these stories because many people seeming to be certain of these events are just telling them without waiting to confirm first merely because they already believed in evil forces in the spirit realms. Other people are just repeating stories that they themselves have not witnessed first hand. Yet they tell it with all assurance. Yet other people tell it because they may have misunderstood even what they thought they have witnessed.

Do you have a first-hand, or even a second-hand story that you are sure of? Please can you share with us?

from ur body language, it seems ur afraid of what u did, as if ur going to run mad too, why must u be interested in videos of mad Yahoo boys, baba tell us the truth let know how to help u

post=100087933:

Hmmmmm, but thought you predicted 3:3 for the correct
score and straight draw when the score was 3:1 nah!
Ticket for 5K for confirmation nko?

Bros I don pass to lie ok, one I predict when the game was 3-1, and ur still asking me for prove, did I tell u to pay me, I have been in this game for 10 years , buying fake game , spending money without winning, but I know I will get the right sorce one day , which I did. So if I show u prove or not, dose not matter ok

decrownprince:
I tell u. Next time, i will do whatever Raymeg7 said. You be boss.

boss the guy has given 5 draw games and all entered, he told me yesterday that this game is draw, and it will be goals , like 3-3 draw, so I was sure that his telling the truth, so I say let my brothers also share with me

zigzagluv:
u de predict oh,, confirmed and the game ended 3 3

na so baba, no be me , na infor I got yesterday

youngking22:

Bros oil dey your head

God bless u baba, na information, I got yesterday

post=100080930:

U better no let senior man pursue u commot for house

what happened, I told u that is draw, instead of u to tap from there , ur just saying trash, baba betting is information, I got the infor yesterday, I never believe till I played it 5k and what happened

YourMajesty:
Na your arsenal be dis?

this is draw game, I played it draw , and I also played it 3-3 draw.
This is a draw game, watch and see.
U can play it now, is about 9 odds, thank me later

bwambasolomon:
I have a fiancée whom I started dating about two years ago. We work together and we are on the same level, and earn the same salary. Each time we hanged out to just have fun, if we got to a place where prices were too expensive, I would say to her but this things are much cheaper elsewhere.

For example, we went to a place though inside the same premises, one part of the lounge sells bottled water for 250 while the other one sells bottled water for 500, she then suggested that we go to the part where water was sold for 500. Note that it was in the same premises and there was absolutely no difference between the two, it's not like one was VIP area and the other was not. We ended up going to the 500 naira side. All that we ate which of course was double the price, I paid.

Each time we went to the mall, we buy things normally. But there's something about malls which some of you may have noticed, certain things such as pots, plastic rubbers, electronics, and so on are usually unreasonably exorbitant. So I said it would be better for us not to buy things that were too expensive that we could get outside for cheaper prices, but we could buy other things whose prices were reasonable. The next thing she started saying was that I don't have class, it's classy people that buy such things.

So one day we went to a pharmacy in that same mall, because she wanted to get some drugs, the price they called for her was about three times what it was outside, so she said it was better to go outside to buy it. So I just told her that since she has class she should buy it now, the next thing she started insulting me, she gave me the insult of my life. That wasn't the only scenario, there were many other cases like that.

She had started to stay with me after a while. Every thing in the house belongs to me, and I made sure everywhere was conducive for us. Air conditioners every and so on, good house, good compound, surveillance cameras and so on. Initially I was shouldering all responsibilities like food, the car washer who washes the both of our cars, the security man, fuel in the generator, NEPA light, repairs in the house and so on.

Please note that we work in the same place and earn same amount. Sometimes when I was short of cash, since I knew that her own money would still be there, I would borrow from her to buy food stuffs and other miscellaneous, and pay back by next salary.

She contributed just about 10% of expenditures in the house which was majorly just food stuffs. Note that I buy much more foodstuffs 5 times more than what she buys.

That was not just it, the relationship was usually filled with arguments, I can hardly have a conversation with her, she would begin to argue.

I want to ask few questions here:
(1)please is there anyone who doesn't know that Egusi causes pimples for those who are prone to having pimples?
(2) Is there any one who doesn't know that if something is very hot, it is not advisable to put in the fridge?
(3) here anyone who doesn't know that garlic is medicinal?
(4) Is there any one who does not know that it is not advisable to put on a generator when it has been drenched by rain?

But this girl will argue with me, insisting that I must put on the gen when rain has beaten it, because apparently, it is not her property. And the fridge is also not hers which is why she won't care if it gets spoilt. In short there's usually too much argument over what is clear for everyone to see, thereby it is always difficult to have a conversation with her.

I was later transferred out of the state we were, so I decided that because of her, I won't take anything away from the house, I would buy everything I need in the new place I had been posted to. So I bought a bigger TV for the house we both shared and took the smaller one to my new place of posting. I bought my mattress, kitchen utensils, got an apartment, and bought every thing I needed in the new place. So now, I have most things in two pairs, just so she would be comfortable.

Please note that we aren't yet married, and I agreed to not having sex with her because that was she wanted, I respected that. The only thing I know we do was romance.

So I started insisting that it was high time for her to be responsible, that we can't both be working and she won't be buying reasonable amount of food stuff because I noticed that sometimes, she would go out and buy 3 packs of spaghetti, which doesn't make sense to me. She said her dad is the one that buys food stuffs in her house and her mum contributes for petty projects. But I am not her Dad, I have my own mind. Also note that she didn't volunteer to bring any amount for my project oo, because I won't want a woman to contribute 1 naira to the houses I am building. All I said was that she should be contributing reasonable amounts for food stuffs in the house. We hardly stay two weeks without fights, she must look for one insult or the other.

We went for counselling and the pastors said she has to be contributing for expenditures in the house, we agreed on 60% to 40% sharing formula for all expenditures. So me as the man would contribute 60 while she will contribute 40. Please note that rent was not inclusive, as I volunteered to pay for the rent in the house we were and for my apartment in my new place of posting.
Later on, when she began to see the brunt of the responsibilities that I used to bear she started saying we (Me and the Pastors) are forcing her to contribute. But I didn't know these Pastors before, that was my first time of meeting them, she was the one who knew them before me. But simply because they told her the truth, she started saying we are forcing her.

Please I need your honest opinions on this issue.
Thank you.

guy this is the truth, not insult, somebody like u can't help his friends, talkless of ur family, why are u complaining, when u can take her shit because u have it, that girl u worship, maybe fucking another dude some where, ur here saying bullshit

TainyLite:
Last week Tuesday, my wife gave birth to a son which is my second born... She has been staying at her mom's place due to misunderstanding we had around September....

After I paid hospital bills and gave her money for baby items on that Tuesday morning, she told my parents she has buried the placenta... I could not go to see her immediately I was called and I had to send my parents there due to my work...

This is a lady I want to separate from due to her mum trying to take over the marriage and my wife is always carrying her along... Now the woman is demanding I come see the son and apologize to her and sincerely I am standing on my ground that since she buried the placenta I will never go there to go see the child except they come to my parent's place on the naming ceremony....

The truth is I can't afford to live a second with my wife and I really want ur advice before tomorrow....

the truth is that , there is no way we can advise, because, 1, we don't know what is wrong between u and ur wife, 2, placenta can't cause problem if ur family or her family buried it, I don't think it matters if any buried it, I can only comes in when u tell us the real problem between both of u, her mother trying to control ur family is not enough for ur wife to stay with her mom for about 5 months now. My opinion please

badmusatari:
I was convinced by a topic on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6433385/how-saved-brother-marrying-into/1

I went to Nigeria to bring my wife some years agom ever since we arrived it has always been money, money, materials, materials especially money. At some point my wife accused me of trying to separate her from her siblings. I told her that a time is coming she will be begging me to help her stop them. It has happened and is now happening. As a matter of fact I even brought her dad for a visit from Nigeria. Her dad was a God fearing person but the moment he started living with his oldest shameless and jobless son he has been brainwashed that her daughter and her husband owe them especially me. It's always about money, money, money. The oldest son is a jobless and shameless irresponsible man that impregnated a woman and they now have four kids. I have even got a job for him from here but he refused to go and work there in Nigeria.

Not minding the fact that he even have other siblings in abroad. One of those in abroad is always in support of this stupid irresponsible oldest guy but the other one is a very intelligent person and knows the whole truth.

If you send money to the dad now trust me he will request another in less than a week which obviously the irresponsible was the one telling the dad what to say. There was no time my wife or me or we call the dad that the irresponsible will not pretend he's not there but will put the phone on speaker so he can listen to our concert with the dad. All he's doing is yahoo and Yahoo. The second born there with him is a little bit fair but they all the same.

They always have this strong believe that their sister who is my wife owe them because they always says they took care of her. This is one of the reasons their sister who is my wife and the other siblings in abroad are yet to build a house for their dad. The oldest irresponsible always cause trouble, tell lies and create issues that the dad will be telling his children abroad that he's gonna curse them if they don't build house for him or send certain mount on so so so date. I am really tired and confused. Enough is enough because I also have my own family to look after. Even a bike I never buy sef.

I am beginning to regret getting married in the first place. I love my wife and we have been together for over a decade and half even before we get married. But my wife is now their enemy because she always turn them down now. Infarct of I mention the irresponsible man's name or talk about se don't a penny to them she will go mad for days. Everythinf about them is money, money, money, build house for our dad, etc. The guy is now a yahoo + man over 40 yrs with no future and still unambitious.

My wife and I have wasted a lot of money on his travelling but he doesn't even care. Imagine all the siblings in abroad have been sending money for their dad's house rent only for the landlord to tell us that this guy's has never paid a kobo for almost two years. All he's about is to drink fvck and club.. very dirty hungry looking guy. They never appreciate anything indo for them, instead it's always more more and more. There was a time this guy tried to fight me but I just ignored him.and since then I never talk to him again till now. But they are bullying my wife emotionally that she cries almost everyday now uptill this morning when I asked her what happened and she told me that her brother the irresponsible man sent a nasty message to her.

But the other ones in another will always tell her that she and them need to take care of their dad and must send him money regardless of who highjack it as long as God knows they did the right thing, please how does this make sense? I need opinion on this in particular. How could you be sending money to the dad when you know that the idiot is the one that will collect and spend the money because he's with the dad's ATM card? Does that make sense?

I only pity one of the two siblings in another country that always support him and that one's wife have started complaining to my wife too because they gist a lot.

Sad

from what u said lastly, what I understand is u have stopped sending them money, is ur wife that is still sending, all u need to do is, ignore them, use ur own money to build ur family, as for women, they can never leave there family, bet me, she can't stop, that is how they are created, just use ur own salary to build ur house ok

Hanks0000:



Blah blah... I know they dated each other for 5 years and of course I would have said the same thing if reverse was the cause.. ItsI not like Girls don't break up with guys, too even at the tiniest point to marriage... All I'm trying to saying is why date eachother when you know you won't marry him/her.. You know what you want right at the dawn of the relationship for crying out loud..

IdI rather Bleep with by broads rather than waste another lady time cause I want s*x from her..

ur still making the same point , how will I know that he or she will like to marry the person, without dating? From dating, both of them will know each other behaviors,