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1stNumeroUno:
Sis, I'll suggest you engage a lawyer too. Believe me, he's having the backing of his family on that nonsense he's doing so I won't blame you for arresting his brother.

But stay calm and ensure you conclude your degree program.

internationalman:
You just miss his financial assistance not him per se

You don't miss his dïck because there are many willing dïck if you are pen for it. But only few are ready to give you money

1. You will miss him less or won't miss him at all if there's a man giving you enough money even without sex

2. You will miss him more if there's a man giving you enough sex but without money like your ex

Unclekayfarms:
You're insincere

teemy:
Firstly, don't take any thought to resorting to self help as you will be found guilty if you do. Take a look at Davido's daughter Imade who was about to be taken abroad without the mother's consent. The plan was aborted when when the mum alerted the authorities. If it had not been resolved amicably, davido would have been facing a case of kidnapping despite the girl being his own daughter.

This is because in a lot of countries including our very own nigeria, a mother's consent is paramount and especially in a case of under aged kids, winning custody is very tricky and hardly given to the man unless the woman is seen as a threat to the child's welfare or as irresponsible. While the love may have waned between the two of you, the wellbeing of the child of not raised in a poisonous environment should not happen. You might want to take claim of your wife's actions as irresponsible but it is not above your limit to forego the money. Afterall, it is your child the money would be used to take care of. I implore you to overlook the manner the money was taken.

Personally, I think you should be appreciative of your wife leaving rather than letting discontent make her live with you only to otapiapia you one night. It is funny that some people are so mindful of the shame of divorce to the extent that they prefer killing their spouse over facing public ridicle. Your wife probably has another man and with the way her mum is acting, probably a rich one for that matter. Just don't drag woman issue here.

The only part about things is your boy. You can instigate a divorce proceeding and one of your pleas would be to have visitation rights to your son considering that judges would give the woman preference on child matters. It would be even okay if your wife gives a response of mutual divorce and you guys agree to visitation rights that would be spelt out. If she disagree to this would be when you can as well ask the court for full custody with a backup of visitation right should the court deny your your first request. Your lawyer will know how to draft this. You can also ask the court to compel her to consent to a DNA test and monitor the result if she insists about you not owning the child. She might be right. Keep that in perspective.

Concerning mama, give her a call that you want to file a missing persons report in your state and you would like her to come over to write her statement. The manner of how you met the house is suspicious of you being robbed and you want to set the police on the track of the robber. They will be tracking pictures of ATM withdrawals which will lead to catching who robbed you. Her response will tell you what you need to know. I expect you will be getting a call from your wife pretty soon.

Don't let the boy grow up disoriented. If you know your wife will keep him safe, no need going in guns blazing. Remember, she was once your beloved when you were both younger and more innocent. Take things easy.

Still, watch your back.

Wishing you well - Teemy

padi94:
We cannot help you until you confess what you did to warrant your husband wanting a divorce.

I picked some holes in it story, you said your have not know any man since you where 17yrs, it has only been it husband. But you mentioned getting back to an ex boyfriend. Please reconcile this. Thanks

BigDawsNet:
where are you based?

And if you scared to meet a stranger, can you make use of a toy, vibrator? Just to calm your konji down a bit till you sort out your divorce...

Get a toy at any grocery or just order on amazon
The delivery guy will drop it off for you..

padi94:
We cannot help you until you confess what you did to warrant your husband wanting a divorce.

I picked some holes in it story, you said your have not know any man since you where 17yrs, it has only been it husband. But you mentioned getting back to an ex boyfriend. Please reconcile this. Thanks

Fussion1000:
You don't want to commit fornication or use cucumber......... U separated from hubby and hate seeing his face..........impossible to reconcile again because it involved family already.......... You don't want to go back to ur ex boyfriend........... You don't want to Bleep stranger............. You can't stop thinking about sex


Maybe you consider suicide. At least to have peace and let ur body rest perfectly.

NB. You and hubby divorced for whatever reasons, he had moving on with his life and fucking freely, you stay in one conner subjecting yourself for unnecessary tension.

If you Bleep he doest stop him not to come back if God willing and if you don't Bleep he may not come back.

You ask yourself how long will you wait to suppress the urge.

Some people quoting and giving advice that is not practicable, in which they themselves won't be able to follow, God created sex as integra system of human design, when one reaches that stage it must manifest and one needs opposite gender to quench it, provided one his norma human being.


Holy holy woman, for now you are at "peak" of stage when you need regular sex, no amount of prayer, fasting, reading of bible, bath when urge is coming, can quench the urge, provided ur body system is functioning effectively. Even masturbation cannot replace man when it comes to sex to satisfactions.

Temmylee01:
shoooooooooooooots hmmmm, most of y'all bashing the lady ain't ah reallll shoooooooooooter... mama see i know ur plight, you haven't divorced yet which still makes you a house wife until both of y'all sign the paper you are still a married woman. now listen don't go back to ur ex ( bad thought) and let the divorce issue play out and why you're waiting and conji is holding you do this
1 * anytime it comes drink cold water (thirsty or not)
* and locate the rest room and urinate it out...any urge u might have automatically die down
2 if you you really want to have and feel the orgasm and u don't want to be with any man for now..... you will have to get a toy in an adult shop, if u have problem getting that I can link you though am in abj... it all narrow down to what u want. I hope I tried.

fabiano09:
well if you need a volunteer with no strings attached to shine your congo,shoot me a dm

BestAccessories:
You still love and deeply care about your ex-husband.

Getting in touch with an ex-boyfriend for sex is even worse than having it with a stranger.

To be sincere with you, you need to let go before you can move forward.

You're still hurting, sad and yet to get over what happened.

If he has filed for divorce already, you need to start healing and start moving forward.

There is nothing wrong in moving forward, it hard but you will survive.

Find a support system, family members or a trusted friend to pour out your heart and empty whatever you're still holding back.

Yes, you have a new label but that shouldn't stop you from loving yourself or rediscover yourself.

The transition isn't going to be easy, you're going to face many rejection but never ever loss focus.

If you don't want any man to have sex with you yet, please do get a vibrator and any other means healthy to satisfy your sexual needs.

However, on the long run, you will need to rediscover yourself, forgive yourself, take note of mistakes made in the past and the lessons you gained during the process before moving forward.

The earlier you start your healing process the better.

Jasbi:
No qualms dear. I'm actually single that's why, But I mean it tho

WrittyWritter:
6pm..no late na.plus it depends on d kind if films u have been watching..or books u have been reading..conversations u have been having..if dey are related to anything sexual konji go come..
.But I advice u to hold it till ur divorce is legalized..imagine u have sex with someone den u and ur husband cancel d divorce.. ..it no go make oo..don't let sexual desires cloud ur mind..be in control of ur body don't let ur body control u..dat is all I can say



Thank you, I Appreciates


Thank you so much. I appreciate.

PS..U can also get a intimacy gadget.

CaptMarvel:
It's not easy.. Find a means dear but not one that will harm you. If ur husby divorce you, you gonna marry again, so look for a responsible man that's ready to go that lane with you.

Jasbi:
I'm single and maybe we can hook up, mail me if u're interested,

WrittyWritter:
So in short u still love ur husband nd don't want to separate dat u y ur still waiting..and can't imagine sleeping with another man..just try another way to cool ur Konji instead of having sex dat u don't want to have because of konji...if u later go ahead with d sex with d other guys u may later feel bad or guilty.

Try to engage urself in activities maybe na boredom dey do u

uruba23:
Go and meet your pending ex husband and tell him to come and perform is conjugal right pending final dissolution of the wedding or better still get a Love Machine.

thorpido:
Why can't you reconcile with your hubby?Have you explored all options?

Well if you don't want any other man to touch you,sign up for a life of celibacy.