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Please, is there any one in ph who can help me with accommodation for the main time? I really need where to rest my head

Danhumprey:
Red code! Red code!! Red code!!! Hello? How far? How's the situation now?

He is still not back...every where is calm

Thank you all for your advices
I seriously don't know what to say again, some advices gives me strength and some weakens me.
But all the same, I will do what I feel is the better from the advices given and hope for the best.
Thanks

I'm a female and not a male

Will leave the house once I get a place to stay...can't stay in my friends place with her husband.. Called her and she promised to get a place for me.

Thanks so much
Babyosisi
Andromida
Davep
Caracta
Bukatyne
MarvellousGod
VintageCocktail
Pickabeau1
Cococandy
And those I wasn't able to mention

Will keep you all posted and will require advices of more issues arises.
He is currently not around, he went out
I tried apologising but he didn't let me talk, he said he just wanted a little rest then he will get back at us, that we should be grateful that he let us sleep in the house and we've exhausted our stay. He began shouting but mum and I kept quite like we were advised to, he talked from 10 till to 12 then He got a call from his friend and he left the house.

bukatyne:
While I agree one must know the root cause, asking If the wife was verbally abusive is not a cause.

Nothing justifies attempting to strangle a Person contiunously. If the man cannot cope with the woman, he has the option of separation or divorce.

That is what he wants 'A divorce' but mum doesn't want that

MarvellousGod:
Am I fighting with you? ? Can't you be a bit polite??
Seems everything na fight in this family section, unfortunately I have no such strength. ... Even the op I asked answered politely and you're here disturbing yourself..



And that meant I was justifying a man trying to strangle his wife? ? I only asked cos I wanted to know what led to the fight, maybe they were exchanging words or something but from what I read later, it's been like that since their childhood, so the man definitely has issues. .

Can a man wake up and start acting weird? ? Except he's mentally ill, I feel there are causes.. is he financially unstable? Is he a drunk or a smoker?.Something must be frustrating him.... That I asked whether the woman is verbally abuse didn't mean I was blaming the woman or justifying the man's action..
To solve a problem, you must know the causes.. Except the op and her mum will run away forever as some people advised. ..

He smokes weed but he hardly consume alcohol. He always says he regrets marrying my mum that she's a fool and calls her all sort of names. He has lovers and mum once approached one and talked to her, I still remember what happened after the girl told dad. when ever mum goes out, he says she has gone to meet her male friends when he knows that she went to church or her sisters(church women that's what she calls them) place.

I wish they dissolve the marriage and go their separate ways but the bible is against it according to what my mum believes

A very good friend of mine told me yesterday that my fear alone is a hindrance to my moving forward that, I should not let my fears stop me from focusing on my future.
That's what I'm going to do and I pray God protects her like he has been doing these years. Amen

I know begging and Kneeling is not the solution but my mum does not believe in leaving her matrimonial home... She prefers to stay and face whatever comes her way like how she's being doing since they married. Sometimes I even blame my mum for her silence all these years, she gets hurt and keeps on protecting him.. We went to his room this morning and he acted like he was asleep, so we left. Dad is currently calling people from the village telling them that I called police for them to arrest him, changing the truth and spoiling mum's name.

About taking the job if I leave her alone in the house, I fear for what will happen to her... She's not young any more, my mum's siblings stays in bayelsa, she has no one around my younger sis is still in the uni and she's scared of talking to dad cos he had threatened her for not funding her fees. My younger bro is still a boy and he can't say anything. The only people she has ar her pastor and church members who dad swore that if he sees any of them in his house, he will pour them hot water.

I eventually called the police since no one could calm him down but, I didn't call them to arrest him, I called them to help talk to him which they did. Thank God, finally we are inside but I pray it doesn't continue tomorrow even though I know it will. But to let peace reign even though we did nothing wrong, I and my mum will go on our knees to beg him...

Thank you all for your advice and support...
I love you all

bukatyne:
What do you want to enter the house for?
Is There anywhere you both can chill temporarily?

Yes, my uncle's (dad's elder brother) place.

VintageCocktail:
quote author=redgem post=32804292]Fellow nairalanders I need your advice, I'm currently having issues with my dad now... I'm 21 and just graduated last year after my graduation, I wanted to work and acquire a skill but my dad refused me to work, he said that there's still time, I should wait till after my Nysc and masters that, so many jobs will find me...and guess what? He wants me to spend my entire day at home doing nothing. I've been at home for months now and I'm tired. Most times I feel like running away. He still sees me as a kid and I need to let him know that, I'm no longer a child, I'm a grown woman who needs to be exposed to the outside world. I need advice on how to settle the issue, I know nysc is closeby but, I need him to know that I'm not a child and atleast, I should be able to make some decisions myself. If its even possible, I would love to stay alone or with a roommate after service.

I'm at home because I don't attend same fellowship with mum, she attends deeper life and I attend redeem

MarvellousGod:
I see you don't want to involve the police. .. is there anyone your dad respects who you could approach to talk to him? Maybe your pastor, his mum, dad, or whoever?

Besides, hope your mum isn't verbally abusive? ? Also, why is your dad resenting you? Hope you haven't taken sides with your mum and insulted him??
Just want to know what may hv caused your dad to behave this way...

I don't know of any...I've called my uncle but dad didn't listen to him.
My mum is very quite, she doesn't talk and I've never insulted my dad. When i try to stop him from hitting her he attacks me. He even threatened my siblings that if any of them should stop him, he will stop training them

There was a reason behind that post but didn't want to share it....it was because of this issue of my dad physically abusing my mum that made me say so. I hate talking bad about him and wouldn't want to tarnish his image cos he is still my dad. Said that because, I got a job in lag through a friend and was thinking of relocating to stay with her so that I can make my own money and be able to take care of her. I love my mum so much and wouldn't want to loss her. The issue between my mum and dad started when I was a child, then I and my siblings would be at a corner and cry while he beats her, my mum didn't want to leave the house cos we were still little to be without a mum. My mum is very quite, gentle and a strong Christian, I remember when I do sleep with her and she doesn't sleep cos she's always praying. She always told me to be prayerful that its not something normal then...

VintageCocktail

I don't want to pour the entire story here, it wasn't today it started. If anyone can help me, I'll be very grateful and will tell you everything through pm.

daveP:
Oh, not again. Pls try make plans between now and saturday to fine someone trustworthy to stay with. That should be step 1

Then ensure you dont ever stay alone in his presence. You can arrange with friend for accompany. This is jst for safety. Then explain more, so those ready to help can help salvage with their advice.

I'm not properly dressed to even go out....I'm still wearing my night wear and wrapper..currently at my neighbours place but he doesn't know where I am...mum went to church

enoqueen:
Act fast before its too late.

What should I do? I don't want to call police for him...I just want protection for my mum

We've left the house now...called my mums siblings they said they are coming but I don't expect them soon cos they stay far. Called my dads elder bro but nothing he can do cos him and my dad are not in good terms... We are out of the house and he said none of us are entering his house even if God comes down... I'm really scared

Fellow Nairalander's please I need urgent help...who know of any human right activist in port harcourt? My dad is being abusive and threatens to kill my mum and I. He is being really violent and I fear he will fulfil his threat soon.... He has severally try to strangle my mum... Please, help its a matter of life and death.

Funny

Big time scammers

That's why I hate canned foods....especially sardines and geishas...can't imagine myself eating crawling animals...*yuck*

You can marry your 2nd cousin....people do it.

Esyb:
My dear.. I feel d same way about d Idole papaya i bought.. Need to see a picture of someone's own soap.

Even supermarkets you expect to see original, now sells fake

sleeknick:
Monkey, so, people dont read after school? Dats y i said go n read...

Ignored

sleeknick:
Ira nu....go and read

For your info, I'm through with school.

I'm aspiring to contest for the upcoming MBGN 2015 and I'm looking for a good, reliable and trusted agent that will direct me in the right part as I take the journey into the world of Queens.

Yemi please change your hairstyle....its weird

Maybe its a video shoot....

Those are final year students,,,not 100level joor

Hahahaha...the second picture

kaorama:
What do you now say of JUMIA?

I've not shopped with them... Just Konga...and this is not the first time I didn't get my order

...Will come back later to comment