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When a man or woman gets sick, there are symptoms that
show. These symptoms show there is a problem and if the
person involved is not treated in time, the person may go
down depending on the health issue.
The same way, there are things that happen in our
relationships or marriage that are symptomatic of issues
that need to be addressed before it gets really bad.
What are these issues? They are issues you must not ignore
or close your eyes to. They must be addressed and you must
find a solution to them.
Let’s take a look at one of these issues.
The Communication factor
Communication is the lifeblood of relationships and
marriage. Without communication, there is no relationship.
The first thing a baby does after birth is to communicate. If
there is no response from the baby, there may be some
baby spanking just for the baby to let out his voice. When
the baby grows old and aged and dies, communication
ceases. Communication announces life, and its complete
absence shows something is dead.
Before you fall in love, there has to be communication.
Nobody proposes in silence. There must be a proposal and
response! Communication between the two people is what
births a commitment in their hearts.
I remember the Yoruba folklore drama we used to watch as
kids. Two warriors are fighting, but their battle is not so
much of weapons, because they have been so fortified that
the weapons don’t work. It was always a battle of words.
Incantations! They would chant incantations back and forth.
The moment one of them can no longer reply or respond,
he is as good as dead!
Communication births productivity and absence of
communication birth chaos and confusion.
You remember the Tower of Babel? They were going to build
a monument that would reach in to the very heavens! And
you know what, they were going to succeed! How do I know
that? God confirmed that!
"And the Lord said, Behold, they are one people and they
have all one language; and this is only the beginning of what
they will do, and now nothing they have imagined they can
do will be impossible for them." (Gen 11:6, AMP)
Why would they succeed? They were of one language!
Before God could succeed in putting a stop to their
ambition, He had to tamper with their communication. He
gave them so many languages that they could not
understand each other.
Dear people, if you and your spouse or spouse-to-be can
speak the same language, nothing will be impossible to you.
By this, I don’t mean tribal language, but rather in terms of
vision, direction and agreement.
As singles, the moment communication is disappearing from
your courtship, something is definitely wrong somewhere.
He used to call frequently before. She used to call seven
times a day, but now it is once in seven days, something is
wrong somewhere. You should get ready for any
eventualities. He says he is so busy. It doesn't add up.
You see, when you are in love with someone, you want to
stay in touch with that person. When I fell in love with my
wife while on Campus is the nineties, I wanted to stay in
touch all the time. I wanted to talk with her all the time.
Today, after sixteen years of marriage, I want to be with her
and I want to talk to her every time.
You have not spoken in six months and you say you are in a
relationship? Something is seriously wrong and you can as
well realise that there is no relationship, really. He or she is
just hanging there because he doesn't know how to tell you
it is over.
The other twist is that all you do when you talk is fight and
quarrel for hours on phone. This also is not healthy. When
your memory of courtship is devoid of flowers, gifts, love
and attention but filled with quarrels, bitterness and hurt, it
is not always a good foundation. Getting a mentor over your
relationship will easily help you on this.
As married couples, do everything possible to keep
communication going. Even when you disagree or have a
quarrel, make up your mind to keep talking. It is a
commitment both of you should make. The moment you
stop talking, you just held a grand welcome for strife in your
home!
One of the things you can do to keep communication going
is to forgive quickly! Let love rule in your house!
Wives, do you also know that if you can communicate wisely,
there will be less friction in the home? Learn the appropriate
times to say the right things!
As couples, the scripture advises that you should learn to
speak softly to each other when the other party is angry.
"A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir
up anger." (Pro 15:1, KJV)
Let me end with this humorous story. A woman, seriously
worried that her husband is always fighting with her went to
see an old man and asked for something she can use to
bring peace to her home. The old man gave her a matchstick
and told her to go back. He told her that whenever her
husband wants to fight, she should hold the matchstick with
her teeth and refuse to say a word.
As usual, that night, argument flared up, the husband got
angry and the woman quickly turned around and put the
matchstick in her mouth. With that the husband, visibly
angry kept on talking, but when she couldn't say a word in
reply, the husband simply left her and walked away.
The woman ran to the old man next day, and told him that
the matchstick worked wonders. The old man smiled and
told the woman, you mouth has been the problem all along!
When you didn't say anything, your husband left you!
In other words, the balance to a constant communication is
that you sound learn to keep quiet when anger or
unnecessary argument has been stirred. After a while,
tactically change the conversation to something else to keep
communication flowing!
May God grant you more understanding!

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Toluobaeko11:
ABEG! WHO GET IYAN AND OBE ISHAPA THERE?

They just fed me Iyan now bro
We enjoyed our stay
We will be leaving Iju tomorrow
Hoping to come back soonest

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Nairaboi:
I don't want to know about Iju, all I want is to relate with the fair skim lady whose photos I see everywhere on the thread. Then we can talk about the ancestors later. . .

If you do your research well,go through the ancestors history links, u may be lucky to find her

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Lol

montezz:
Reminds me of a book "happy times in Iju".

How can I get the book
Or can u share d story ?

YonkijiSappo:
Ekitiland.

Iju Town
Oba is called okiti

We have got 7 quarters in Iju

Watch out for Odun ina

Toluobaeko11:
Can someone please tell us the history of Iju? I've never seen it anywhere.

The oldest and the head of the Ruling family (The Olotas)
He is Baba Ajipe

Ugele Rock

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If you are visiting iju, you have to climb UGELE ROCK!!!!

The rock has been there, standing proud and tall from the days of our fathers.

Ontop the rock,you would see our great land of iju, in all its beauty.
The smile of the happy and satisfied farmer returning from his farm.
The laughter of our children as they run around and play.
The giggles of our mothers as they watch their children play.
The strength of our youth as they drive through.....and perhaps,another #ijuwife# as she takes pictures.

On the UGELE ROCK, you see our iju....
You see peace.
You feel peace.
You know peace.

(1)H.R.H AMOS ADELAKUN FARUNKANMI(JP) AJIBGADE 1.The first Christian Oba in the history of iju.(2)Pa ADESINA facilitated establishment of Catholic church to Iju in 1925(3)The first veterinary doctor in Iju is Doctor ADELUYAN OGUNBUYIDE(4)The pioneer chairman of ondo state service commission is N.K ADAMOLEKUN,he hails from Iju(5)Many answers has be given on this particular question;according to the history,Iju is blessed with many vibrants hunters that ever killed wild animals E.G Elephant, lions,chimpanzees,Hippopotamus and many more ,we have the like of Chief Akogbona,Chief Aposeru,pa Ojo Ajana,also Ajana Akin, pa mojo and also during the reign of Oba Okiti Ajimekun,At list three(3)lions er killed during the reign of Oba Okiti Ajimekun period' in olding day's despite the fact that the King wasn't an hunter "olode" but we respect H.R.H Ajimekun for brave name.,they were all strong,vibrant and brave but Chief Sasere is the most powerful among them,because there was a time according to history one of the late DEJI OF Akure needed a live elephant to prepare a ritual for the development of Akure,they went to hired some hunters to help Akure get a live elephant but all effort in futility.its chief Sasere who hails from Elu Iju that went to elephant herd,and brought the elephant alive to the palace of Deji of Akure before the sacrifice could be made,Chief Sasere is the only hunter from Iju to have done so.

Source : ELU IJU

Garri processing
Iju is rich

Hon Kola omoloju
Explaining how Cocoa is being processed
Oil....

HRH. Oba Agboola Omolewo.
Okiti Omo-ope of Iju.

Most pronounced & celebrated Oba

Toluobaeko11:
Yeah! I'm a typical Iju guy cos my dad and mum is from there, and I do go once in a while. I've always been curious about the history, although I know my family history from the odo Imu clan.

Wow!
I will interview the elders and get history from them.
I will be in Iju this coming week. Hoping to tour the area, my family house is close to the former palace

Hoping we meet someday in Iju

Toluobaeko11:
Can someone please tell us the history of Iju? I've never seen it anywhere.

Stay tune.

Are u from Iju?

Things you should know about Iju Town
As we Tour Iju.There is no doubt that Iju land is rich and blessed with culture and tradition, therefore, it's imperative to keep ourselves at breast with the history of the land.

ELU IJU wrote-----. .(1):Odun ina(ina festival)belong to Iseri,imun and ijigbo quarters right in dos day's (2)the exact date was not recorded,history revealed that the festival was from the origin/source"lati igba ki uju ti tedo"(3)according to history the quarters that are celebrating Odun eegun during our "4 Fathers " in old days before some quarters and some chief's er now celebrating their masquerade.(eegun festival)are originated for Igboogun and Oke Iju.History further made us understand that Igboogun quarter owns their eegun which they usually celebrate right from the source,while Oke Iju quarter too have their eegun, source revealed,in the beginning all chiefs in Iju always join Oke Iju to celebrate their Odun Eegun but today in Iju,almost every quarters are celebrating Odun eegun due to some reasons we can't tell a lot about many secret behind those histories