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I actually hate it when men act feminine or try to show sex appeal. Yuck.

hucknall:
sharrap! Ajayi

That's ur headache little man.

hucknall:
Thrash upon Thrash

Bro, e sure pass ur name, try it n see calamity upon calamity.

Jessepaid:
Hehehe...
you be real gee bro

She think say I be maga.

Mystiquefia:
Guy u no get joy oh.... Lmao

Over joy dey worry me sef.

Morning real men, a lady chatted me up out of the blues yesterday like she's just checking up on me. Later she said 'pls do u do transfer?' I read it n ignored. After about 3hrs I replied with 'sure', then she started explaining how she doesn't make transfers bla bla bla, that she'd send an account for me to transfer 2k to. I read am again, I blank am. Now she chatted me saying 'sorry I disturbed you yesterday bla bla bla'. Guess what?! I read am come blank am again.

TainyLite:
I wished my guys in the outside world can get all these pills and digest Dem... I will forever be grateful for free basics dat took me closer to nairaland nd this thread. My story is beyond explanation but I will forever be grateful to u guys... One tenet I love most is moving on and forget the past... I was psychologically and emotionally totured by my wife nd sincerely I was making up to avoid my marriage crashing early just because what people will say... These facts are not for the feint hearted and the weak... I got married to someone dat pregnancy hook me up with and my family had to forced me to get married... she does not love me which was very glaring to even my family and this a short dark lazy and no brain lady dat didn't add any meaningful thing to my life nd sincerely didn't worth me in every aspect... I will hustle from money till night to make my family comfortable and she will constantly nag... She does not wash my clothes sef nd I mostly have to give drycleaner... For the few months I was going along in this thread I was observing thinking she will change... Las Las I throw her comot for my house and she didn't bliv I could do dat nd also convinced my dad dat my joy should be his priority... She and her mother constantly says I will still come and beg them nd I still laugh till today.... Since the day she comot av been doing fine with my business and even just secured part time admission where I don even lose hope of ever returning back to school... When I still dey simp I go dey like her post on FB and view her status on WhatsApp but since late last year I don block her on all my social media handle nd only unblock when I want to send money to my daughter... At least I have peace of mind and have raised my value which is something I only derive comfort from nd I really don't care about what people always say.... My Life first so my seeds won't suffer... I did court marriage buh me I don't give a Bleep not to send her away

Imagine that.

SOZINN:
I swear na their own worst pass o Dem no get anything yet them dey carry themselves like writing I no no An ugly Gyal forming Men, complete turn off

Na girl wey I know personally wey dey always hustle for hook-ups, dumb babe too.

Fine u no fine. Money u no get. Book u no sabi. Tall u no tall. Presentable u no reach ��� So guy wat all dis attitude for na �‍♀️�‍♀️ be calming down o ���

This is what a contact just posted on her status. E be like say the redpiller don show her pepper. hahahahaha.

Bornboy4:
Avoid her completely.
Don't let her ruin your life.
The husband may have planted 'magun' on her oh.

Even if he didn't plant magun, he will still die mysteriously. It's the most dangerous taboo ever. Immediately a woman is married, I see her as a fellow man, so my mind doesn't ever think wrongly about her.

SpecialAdviser:
Men Listen and listen good!

Even Bible warned us seriously about going after married women. Bible described men lusting after married women after being lured by the woman as a sheep heading for slaughter.

Any woman who is not comfortable in her marriage should divorce and make herself available for such acts. Do not allow yourself to be sacrificed on the alter of stupidity.

At my age I have seen a lot and will always advice you good. There is a reason some people are always lucky to escape accident scenes.

There is a reason many have died young. There is a reason some young men can hardly be killed with juju. There is still a reason some die with any small juju. Thing don't happen for nothing.

A lot of spirits are present in any marriage contraction. Don't be a pawn to be played by any spirit. A word is enough for the wise.

What deep truths. Please can I have a chat with you? Sent a dm, pls respond.

IamBroke:
Okay there's this lady I met at a friend's place. She's free spirited and kind of nasty.

She's married with 3 kids but she's not living with her husband, reasons I don't know.

I believe she'd be 5 years if not more older than me but yet she calls me like I'm with her kidney...
I can't even believe the kind of stuff we do though we've not had sex but she's pushing me that way but that's one thing I don't want to do cause she's married and I'm feeling guilty.

I don't want to hurt her and I don't want to continue this stuff with her and I don't want to avoid her either.

So what do I do now?

Advise me on what to do please

Dude, unless the woman didn't marry traditionally and in church. If you don't stop this, you may lose your life for it. Even the "kind of stuff” you said you've done with her, you need to ask for serious mercy and cleansing. It's a matter of life and death my dear brother, very spiritual and deep. Someone's wife o!!!!

AlphaAlex:
Well it’s quite simple Crush her Ego but do it subtly and sometimes intentionally if your wife doesn’t want to submit because she feels too pretty tell her straight up that she’s not the most beautiful woman in the world and she shouldn’t let her beauty get in the way of being submissive to you unless she wants to be replaced by someone more beautiful younger and more loyal. If you say these to her and don’t say another word on her submissiveness she’ll sit up .

Hmm, I'm digesting this.

Zabiboy:

Yo bro...
I know others have given their opinion on this....but one of my main concerns is the above...
Abeg no matter what you do, create time your kids everyday man....Girls of these days need a Father figure..if you allow only your wife to do it, Get ready to be ashamed of them in the future...
Spend time with your kids, avoid any form of arguments with your wife(silence is golden), be firm in your decisions and finally, try to keep your cool..
I'm not married, but i hope this, together with other opinions suggested here helps..
GL

Yes bro, I spend quality time with them. Left the office to go pick them from school, feeding them as I type right now(wifey's on duty). I love and spend time with my girls well.

Drenimarcus:
You remember the FCMB saga? the guy is dead and the girl involved and the md are living and going on about their lives. Let that be your motivation.

MY LATE MUM TOLD ME, ‘IF U DIE because OF A WOMAN, PLENTY WOMEN WOULD WALK PAST UR GRAVE'. E NO WORTH AM AT ALL!!!!

nwaezeemmanuel:
I won't tell you to divorce her, because that isn't a move for everyone.

From your posts, I think you're slowly becoming needy. You've made it known to her the lengths you'd go just to make the marriage work while she watches and validates you.

This is the best time to prove how ALPHA you can be. Show you can sustain yourself without her input. Divert your attention to your kids. She chooses not to cook for you, eat out or make your own meals. That sounds emasculating, but technically, you're in control and that beats begging her to no avail.

Try to nullify anything that gives her an opportunity to bring you to your knees, vagina included. The idea is to remind her your value isn't hinged on her. Flip the script wisely and watch how things go.

U'RE CORRECT ON THE NEEDY PART. I WAS BEGINNING TO ASK FOR CALLS WHEN SHE GETS TO WORK, WANTING TO KNOW WHY SHE DIDN'T CALL ME, ALWAYS STRESS MYSELF TO DO STUFF FOR HER(EVEN WHEN I'M STRESSED OUT). I'VE ADVISED HER ABOUT OUR MARRIAGE UMPTEEN TIMES. AT A POINT SEF SHE SAID I SHOULD JUST STOP TALKING BEFORE I'LL GOOF AGAIN. HEHEHEHE, I DON SEE SOMETHING. MEEHN, I GO REDPILL AM TIRE. MY EYE DON CLEAR.

Drenimarcus:
If you feel your wife is being disrespectful to you in your marriage. Few tips.

Ignore her while you work on your self, go on that self discovery mode (read more about becoming a high value man, hit the gym etc).

Start looking into investing and creating wealth for yourself and your self coming generations.

The earlier men know that AWALT. The better for us.

Noted man. tnx.

nwaezeemmanuel:
I won't tell you to divorce her, because that isn't a move for everyone.

From your posts, I think you're slowly becoming needy. You've made it known to her the lengths you'd go just to make the marriage work while she watches and validates you.

This is the best time to prove how ALPHA you can be. Show you can sustain yourself without her input. Divert your attention to your kids. She chooses not to cook for you, eat out or make your own meals. That sounds emasculating, but technically, you're in control and that beats begging her to no avail.

Try to nullify anything that gives her an opportunity to bring you to your knees, vagina included. The idea is to remind her your value isn't hinged on her. Flip the script wisely and watch how things go.

Noted twice. Thanks.

THANKS BROTHERS. I STOMPED ON THIS THREAD ON MONDAY LAST WEEK N STARTED PUTTING THE LITTLE I READ TO PLAY. BY FRIDAY I STARTED NOTICING NICE CHANGES IN HER(LIKE STYLISHLY WANTING TO TALK, SERVING MY FOOD IMMEDIATELY I COME IN, ETC). THEN I WAS LIKE, ‘THIS REDPILL STUFF SHOULD BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY O!'
TRUTH BE TOLD GUYS, I SUBCONSCIOUSLY LET DOWN MY GUARD AGAIN. THEN SHE WENT BACK TO HER NEGATIVE ENERGY AGAIN, IMMEDIATELY I LOOKED FOR THE SLIGHTEST PROVOCATION TO CHANGE IT FOR HER, N I'M STILL ON IT.
NOW, IS IT THAT I SHOULD NEVER LET MY GUARD DOWN AGAIN, OR TILL SHE'S FULLY, CONVINCINGLY CHANGED?
U GUYS ARE THE BEST. GRACIAS.

Martinez39s:
This will be a good way to start.

@Rinoxy
Do you have children?

OKAY, A QUICK RECAP: SHE WAS THIS SWEET, CALM, RESPECTFUL N NICE LADY ALL THROUGH THE DATING PHASE. I WAS THE NO-NONSENSE GUY. BUY SHE CHANGED FEW WEEKS INTO THE MARRIAGE; NAGGING OVER TRIVIAL ISSUES. THREATENED TO EVEN LEAVE THE MARRIAGE TWO MONTHS INTO THE MARRIAGE. I REDUCED MY HARDNESS A BIT (BECOMING MORE CONSIDERATE, NOT WANTING MY MARRIAGE TO SCATTER). IT LATER DEVELOPED INTO INSULTS, DISREGARD N DISRESPECT. FEW MONTHS BACK SHE STARTED GIVING ME THE SILENT TREATMENT. DOESN'T SHOW ME LOVE, ALL SHE'S CONCERNED ABOUT ARE HERSELF N THE KIDS (YEAH, WE HAVE TWO ADORABLE GIRLS).
GUYS, I DID THE UNTHINKABLE, WENT ON MY KNEES TO BEG HER TO PLS COOPERATE WITH ME TO MAKE THE MARRIAGE WORK, BUT SHE DOESN'T CARE. I BEGAN FEELING UNLOVED N LONELY IN MY HOME, AND I'M THE ONE WOMAN KINDA MAN (MARRIED AS A VIRGIN).
AS IN NOW EEEEEEHN!!!!!! I DON TIRE! I NEED TO GET MY RESPECT BACK.

HELLO FELLOW RED PILLERS, I HAVE A QUESTION:
HOW DOES A MAN SHOW RED PILL TRAITS TO A WIFE WHO FEELS TOO BEAUTIFUL TO SUBMIT TO HER HUSBAND? THANKS BROTHERS.