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Owliver:
hahaha rose rose... No be so ooooh. One love

Karleb:


Sister, no be so o.

Oh ok

Finally before I go prepare diner, no woman should cohabit with a man she's not married to even if they're seriously engaged. It makes the woman have a natural complex. It's worse when she's not bringing anything financially to the table. Everything the man does easily makes her act like an Agbero in maza maza motor park.
What I'm saying in essence is women should get very busy with productive things so they can have less time for friends/gossips. Same with men. Everyone needs to get busy. All these beat me I beat u are evidence of being idle minded

icedbeatz:
good day lady, what I mean is that one shouldn't turn their backs on their family no matter what(and by family I mean blood) , u might treat their f ups but u still gonna kick back with them because once ur family by blood ur bound to be family till whenever unlike some one u met someday and became family by agreement or friends .for example no matter the kind bad things that my mum does to me no matter how crazy or whatever I will always love and respect her, NO MATTER WHAT!! but I can't say that about any other person.

there situation (the guy and his girl) is not rocket science, call a spade a spade... u all know that.

I greet u back sir
Dont u sense any bias in this your theory?

dinachi:
So in essence you are saying that women are meant to push a man to the wall through verbal, emotional and physical abuse? And men are supposed to show self control and DIE of high Blood Pressure?
You must be a CLOWN!
Why can't women show self control? Or are you suggesting that women are inferior and therefore incapable of self control?

No woman should raise her hand on her man or any man at all. Same goes for the men
It's very dangerous. Both should try to avoid scenarios that lead to such.Remember some men have also being killed when they tried beating their wives. No one has the monopoly of violence
If op continues with this 'she deserves it' attitude, I'm worried for him cos this won't be the last time(quote me) a woman will *in his words* deserve such

Owliver:
Looolz* all the way from FTA... I greet you boss

Karleb:
Chai!! Bros, I just dey gbadun you!

Lol. U gbadun him cos he's yelling at me abi

Issorai

Owliver:
again* hmmm you dey test me purposely hehehehehe... Na to fail with pride and dignity

Walahi that's women for u. Even ur daughter(s) will be trying your patience

This is an example though a subtle one
It's the rove u have for us that will make u not to kill us even when we deserve it like the op said

icedbeatz:
@op I must compliment you for having such limit of endurance ahswear... curse me, my mum ,call me other unprintable names, all up in my face, challenging me like a man would forgetting that you are a lady( if a woman acts like a bitcch TREAT HER LIKE A BITCCCH!!), then I'm losing my self control and wants to run away and she blocks me and locks the fckin door, pleaded then dished out more insults, started picking weapons ( attitude of touts, treat a tout like a tout) then collect my phone that I bought with my own money and smash it to the ground?!?!?!! BRO ARE YOU JESUS CHRIST'S JUNIOR BROTHER??!

DON'T mind some of these fooools that are criticising u saying u shouldnt have whooped ha azz, bro u tried by just giving her few punches... if it was me that she walked up all over like that she won't use that her hand that she used to smash my phone to do anything reasonable for two weeks.

before some degenerated twerps start spilling trash I love and cherish my baby like a queen ( and she behaves like one) and i hate violence so much but if my partner thinks she could do it while I play nice then she's in for a big surprise. TREAT PEOPLE THE WAY THE TREAT U EXCEPT FAMILY (by blood).
thank God that we still have some reasonable ladies that have functioning brains while can testify the wrong the girl did.

FOR THOSE THAT THINKS THAT THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE WHOOPED HA AZZ AFTER ALL SHE DID....MAY U MARRY OR DATE SOMEONE WHO WILL DO THE SAME THING TO U THRICE (both the boys and girls)

Could u please throw more light on what u mean by 'treat people the way they treat u except family(by blood)
Thanks

Owliver:
omg* smh

I don die today o
*hands him a glass of juice to cool off again *

Kimoni:
The saddest part of it all is that the thread is full of cheerleaders urging him on and telling him exactly what he wants to hear.

Hopefully, he will be able to sift through the advices given to him and do some soul searching himself. He is going to kill somebody very soon if he continues to beat women like this whenever he thinks they "deserve" it.

Exactly my sentiment. He regrets something and she deserves it at the same time. Me thinks once a wife beater is gonna always be be a wife beater cos she'll upset u again n again

*runs out of thread before oga Owliver sees this*

Dheartless:
you are not such a violent person after all, maybe I misunderstood your sentiments .
good day ma'am.

Very right observation at last. Na only small mouth I get sometimes but from a safe distance o that slap cannot reach


Good day sir

Owliver:
loooolz* God no go forgive you oh for making me fall inlove with a married woman byyyeeeeeeee

Sorry na

Bye dearie

Owliver:
lmao* choi see as you dey press my mumu botton from wherever you are Pls don't lock the door. I forgive you

Thanks sweetheart
I promise not to support the lady again

#neveragain#

Owliver:
from the bolded your a bloody Liar... Your first few comments were in defense of the lady that was why I said you either coment base on the OP's story or don't comment.... Am out of this thread before I vex hit someone

I just feel the op has not given us thetrue true picture of what really happened.

Oya sweetheart calm down na
I kneel down beg u o or u want to me to lock the door?

Dheartless:
No I don't believe the text was the only offence, the op admitted he said some bad words to her as well, however that was in respond to hers, moreover the op never raised a finger on her before she began with the insult and even after she has insulted him and kept insulting him but only got physical when His girl decide to get physical and also stopped him from leaving.
now why won't I believe this story when we have most ladies here saying on no account is the op right including you.
OK the op is not right ....agreed
from the "op" what we call a lady like that?
the truth is this if don't advocate violence in any case for one gender then don't advocate violence in any case for the other.
next time the woman should be able to control herself , end of discussion.

Don't get me wrong o, I've not for once said I support the lady's actions. No not at all
Just that I'm not taking the op at face value maybe cos of his wrong choice of words(blame it on English language )

Anyway sir, your points are well noted.

Owliver:
me and you don settle yet you dey find my trouble. Why would you compare both now? He beat her for many reasons like physical abuse, verbal abuse, smashing of phone, locking of door etc.... Now tell me why you would sleep with ur husband's friend Omg* the way women think is sooooo wonderful. No wonder the devil deceived eve. So gullible

I'm sorry dearie I didn't mean it that way na
I was only trying to bring out the fact that if you're sorry, you should be sorry about what you shouldn't have done no matter what

dinachi:
Since you don't believe the OP, why comment at all? I am sure you didn't see where he posted that she had been physical before now.
Look I hate hypocrisy and rubbish in my life. Any woman who wants to be taken serious around me must have a clear sense of fairness.You are not objective at all.
You are here making excuses for a woman who verbally and emotionally and sometimes physically abuses her husband just because one day he couldn't take it anymore and hit back to regain her sanity. PLS BE SMART!

On the contrary, I commented because I don't believe the op. As a matter of fact, most times I comment when I don't agree with the op so people are not mislead into believing sugar coated stories.

I can't wrap my head around how the op never said or did anything but watch the lady verbally abuse him to warrant beating her twice in one day
Ok let's say she caused the first one, the second time, did she also lock him inside? (infront of people)
Maybe it's because my mind has been programmed never ever ever to conclude on one side of any story.
Believe me, I would've bn the same way if the lady created her own thread first.
U have to admit it takes 2 to tango. And to any story(no matter how sweet) there's a different side

mcdokwe:
I wasn't looking for comfort, it doesn't add a kobo to me. I am surprised some people are even taking sides and saying she should be blamed, I have the capacity to take blames too and have never dorned a robe of innocence.

For those who don't get it, the ultimate aim of this post was first to make women understand their interest alone shouldn't be the driver of a relationship.

That friends don't necessarily give the best advice neither does discussing your relationship with third parties equate communicating with your partner.

I am not happy I broke my resolve especially after seeing the pain of labour she passed through in giving me such a treasure.

I take blames and I learn. This story could have been told in a more demeaning way but I chose to save the devil in the detail.

Points taken. My only worry was you said you regret beating her but she deserved it. How can those two words go together.

How would this sound to you 'I regret sleeping with my husband's best friend but my husband deserves it'

Regret n deserve don't flow in this context. U may have said the whole truth in your post but u may have made some wrong choice of words. For me when I was reading it, all I saw was a man who beat his wife n in trying to justify his anger in front of others, he beat her again so they can see he's really mad.
Forgive me if I'm wrong

Owliver:
haha I be nice guy for sure na... Hmm ok I should leave sharply like someone wey them dey pursue. Kkk point noted... Thanks for the advice... Never hit a woman

I no fit laff o
Yes leave na de crase de pursue u

babyosisi:
This is why I say the man is full of it
You beat the crap out a woman who has your baby and tell us you regret it but she deserved it?
Those two things don't go together
This man is a volcano that has already erupted
Reading through his whole post no matter how colorful he tried to make it to suit his purposes,any intelligent person can see though that sadist
The woman picked up and left with a baby for that matter
That speaks volumes
She doesn't even believe a word he said and he expects me to

Seconded.

When I was reading the story, I could see the holes all over. Op needs to tell us the truth and nothing but the truth

dinachi:
I don't think you are being fair to the OP!
The woman has also been physically abusive too before this incident. Stop supporting evil because she is a woman!

I don't support evil but u cannot conclude if u don't hear the lady's side too.
When I was reading the story, some things weren't adding up. Until I hear the other side of the story, I take this account with a pinch of salt

The title says it all. The op wants to justify beating her and for me it's a red flag

Owliver:
But I need to leave that room na. How else do I leave without beating. Coach me pls

U're actually a sweeter person like u earlier claimed

Ok dearie bring your ears close*
U see that time u're upset about her friend ish and she's not understanding u rather she's upset too, that's the time to leave her in the house. She'll call looking for you
Don't go exchanging words with a woman, they'll definitely drive u to that limit even you daughter sister mom etc believe me
It's hard not to but if u do, u'll most likely end up beating her. Tomorrow she'll still do the same. So are u going beat her everyday na? I don't think so. Besides she may return the violence one day n u may not live to tell the story.
Interestingly when u walk away, na she go begin cry de call u to come back. Violence will only make her mean and u don't want to live with a bitter woman.

Dheartless:
guy please justify yourself o
look at what she did and some idiots are not saying anything instead they to crucify you.

just for being mean to her friend for interfering in your relationship she went physical and verbal on you and your loved ones and your property, if you where the one that did that, these ladies would be praying for your girl to learn kung fu for reason so she can beat you to death.

So u believe op never said or did anything abi?
The lady just verbally abused him, locked d doors, smashed the phones and op was innocent the whole time

If u take this story at face value, u'll believe anything. I wish I could hear from the woman in question so I know how to advise

The op's role doesn't add up

Owliver:
I won't drive anybody mad. I want peace and long life. Am a simple person but I don't like when someone f^cks with my head I hate it. I won't drive anybody crazy. If you drive me crazy I give you compulsary vacation to your father's house and that period I'll be free to play Pes and winning eleven and crash bandicot... I don't buy the idea of "marriage is forever"

Aha, now you're talking
Send her packing. Find a way not to beat her especially these days people die like fowls
She fit die from ordinary slap and nobody will believe u
#teamsaynotodomesticviolence#

Dheartless:
so sending a text to their friend to tell her off interfering in his marriage is pushing beyond limits of diplomatic reasoning and yet you say under no circumstance should a man beat woman!
HYPOCRISY!!!
I don't support violence but I regret giving you a taste of your pill
we are all humans.

My dear, you were not there hence u cant know exactly what happened.
Let me ask u this, So u think d op sent a text to her friend is all that is to the story?
If u do, you'll believe anything

D funny thing with these kind of story is that if the op is as innocent as he claims, he won't be looking for comforters here

Owliver:
it doesn't work that way. When am angry I like to go out and cool off come in and pretend nothing happened. Why would a lady lock me in? That's hurrible meehn. Pls don't carry that mentality enter husband house o am warning you

Thanks dearie. I'm already 5 years in the institution and still counting
Yes I agree the man should be allowed to go cool off if he needs to. I'm not supporting the lady either just that to every story, there are 2sides

And u sweetheart,pls don't drive your woman so mad cos nobody has d monopoly of violence u know, she might kill you, I'm warning u now o

Owliver:
the person you quoted didn't say his mom locked his dad up did he? He also didn't say his mom smashed his dad's fone on the ground did he? Recently my parents had a quarel that lasted for over a week. I adviced her to greet him first. Well, they settled it with shouts and insults and no phisical abuse. Why didn't you talk about the smashing of fone or locking the man inside. You all are same and I pray you don't jam someone worse than the OP.

All I'm saying is that you guys haven't listened to the lady's side of the story
Believe me I've learned never to conclude until u hear both sides of ANY story no matter how sweet it sounds.
Op wants to justify beating her and that's all this thread is all about

Owliver:
oh you just concluded on your own. Smh read his story again and again and assume and conclude with that. Don't make up something in ur head. There's no reason to abuse a man or a woman but if it happens. Do not lock me in I will run mad inside. Lemme go out and take 3 bottles of star and come back for hot f^ck but do no f^cking block my way. If you do I will dismantle you. If you say you women are created to talk we men are also created physically stronger. Respect is reciprocal

Men are verbally abusive too. Don't get it twisted

Owliver:
see the bolded... You make me mad and you want me to just forgive and forget immediately you say "sorry honey""" is that not it? The man tried to go out to cool off she stopped him you people are just impossible. That was how a woman opened a thread complaining her husband is still angry and didn't buy her gift even though she apologised before her birthday. Can you imagine how you people think. You want to rub my chest and say "honey pls forgive me" and expect everything to die down immediately? That can be done only magical.... If you aint married yet I ray you don't jam someone like me. Mtcheeew*

But when u say sorry to your woman, she accepts and you're happy ba?. Anyway Men and women are not programmed the same way.
Yes we do expect u to let go when we're sorry

Dheartless:
are you saying that women can't control themselves?
if that's what you mean,you are indirectly saying women are lesser being, after all it is the brain that controls your body so if a woman's brain can't keep up with her emotions it means she needs brain upgrade.
my mom never went physical on my dad,
my dad never went physical on my mom
my mom only rarely went verbal but that was early in their marriage and same did my dad.
because of some sane ladies here I will only tag "a lesser being" any girl that feels her brain can not restrict her misbehavior but a mans brain must restrict his anger in all situation and against all odds
YES that kind of lady is a lesser being.

I'm happy you admitted your mom went verbal sometimes. That's women for you. Why didn't your dad beat her in revenge?
You see your dad(bless his heart) was able to deal with it without everything degenerating into a fight
Physical abuse is a no no for me. A woman should never ever raise her hand on a man. But also a man should not push a woman to such limits and come here to justify beating like op is doing now.

I maintain that the op's role before going physical doesn't add up

Owliver:
Pls I beg you in God's name don't give me that trash. I believe my mom won't do such and If my sister behaves anyhow and gets beaten I won't do nada if she deserves it... There are justified reasons to beat a woman. If you lock me in a room and refuse to let me go out and cool my head off am sorry you leave me with no choice. And if you want to end the f^cking marriage be my guest You don't do nonsense and expect to be pampered that's stupidity. I hate violence and also get angry when my brothers beat our sister but sometimes she deserves it even when I fight for her. Everyone has limit and mayb she has no met mine. Abeg dey go no quote me again I hate that "don't beat a woman talk"""" Don't ABusE A maN

Congratulations!!!!!
Did you ever think about what could push the woman to such limits? Or is it because you're stronger?
Ask the op what he said that made the woman flare up that much(even while she was being apologetic)
My conclusion is that the op verbally abuses her because she had a baby for him outside wedlock and op throws it all in her face cos he lacks respect for her.
Ever thought of what could make her get to that point? No!!! Just beat her
It takes two to tango and op needs to quit playing saint.
Pls Don't quote me again either

mcdokwe:
You failed to grab my point, I avoided a fight while we were locked in because she stood no chance, I hoped the other ladies could stop me from hitting her in their presence, I didn't write all these to absorb myself of blames, but to make people understand others bring upon unfavourable reactions on themselves. Believe me, I love this lady so much and do not intend painting her all bad and for that reason leave out some details.
I believe she can read all this, it is up to her to learn from posts here as much as I am learning, hopefully other would learn too

Honey quit all these justifications, it's irritating
Again I ask, what did you do when she became apologetic? Of course you were unrepentant. U pushed her to her limits too. Has she gotten physical with you before? Has she behaved like to that point before?

U sound like u're the only one doing doing Sth U've never done.

Owliver:
rare breed ko cassava bread ni una dey like dummy... When I was in school I had a flat mate who had a GF. They were so inlove ehn the guy used to say he has never and will never hit a woman. For where, moths into their relationship this girl wan kill this guy, everytime fight quarel, she even used pot to hit him on the head, abused his family members both his firstborn(about 40yrs old), countless insult and one day the girl frustrated the guy and locked him inside and hid the key. The guy called us to beg her but she wouldn't open up or even allow him rest in the locked room..... Guy got frustrated and beat her up. I happy no be small... Its people like you that will still say "whatever happens to hit a. Woman" #Trash

Like I acknowledged earlier,A woman shouldn't go physical with a man

So you don't want God's grace to multiply in the life of the guy because he could control his temper abi?

Do u want to know the truth? I'll tell you
Even your sisters n your mom will behave in a way that will make you want to beat them and justify it. Except you beat them also, you can't justify beating your woman.

ALL women have times they drive a man(being a bro, father, uncle, boyfriend, pastor etc)
So if you chose to be a woman beater, u go beat tire