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Wedon:
That is how my husband's Aunt married a failure of a Man . . .

He would beat her senseless over a flimsy excuse. My MIL (the woman's elder sister) tried to intervene and they used her to settle. See the woman accusing my MIL of trying to break-up her marriage. All because she advised her to leave an abusive man . . .

Ngwa nu fast forward to 36 years later . . . The woman had to pack her property and run after finding concrete evidence that her husband wanted to kill her. . . she suffered and toiled and took all the abuse for 36 YEARS!!!

The useless man nko? Carrying Uni girls up and down and sleeping with new girls every night in their marriage bed . . glad that he is finally free of a a 36YO marriage!

A useless man is a useless man . . there is nothing you can do to change that!

The mistake ladies make is staying with an abusive man because u don't want him to bring another woman, nansense, or hoping he'll change. Nah, he'll just kill u n remarry anyway so it's better u leave him and let him remarry when u're still young n alive

Once A wife beater, always a wife beater cos just like in every marriage,there'll always be times u get him upset

Wedon:
This guy would have beat her up eventually . . . whether she held his shirt or not. The guy was an abuser waiting to happen!

If you had the brain to read btw the lines, you would see that he is a controlling man . . who wants everything to be the way her decrees, down to the last T!

Who art thou woman to dare question him

Imagine the joy he got from beating her up, he had to open a thread just to brag.

Great observation
I couldn't have said it better
I thought I was the only one who could read in between the lines of his 'wife beating & bragging about it' post


Nansense

remsonik:
May you guys cheering mcdokwe not end up like kolade arowolo o

There's nothing I wouldnt see on nairaland. You guys are quick to judge her online charater, Do you know how many times he has abused her? Even the condescending words he used to describe her? shey he agreed he insulted her family abi, all of you are blind to see that part? the part where he gleefully recounted how he beat her up and showed no remorse for it you people applauded it?

mcdokwe, may all this boys on here(yes i said boys because there are no men on this thread,just some overbloated chauvinistic lots claiming to be alpha male) not push you to the hangman's noose

You're even advising the McDokwe guy
Let him continue battering women until they cut off his JT one day

Owliver:
hahahahaha so you know you are weaker vessles loooolz I no fit laugh. But, Have you not been seeing threads on FP where women kill their husbands? Comooooon

How are we sure their men haven't been abusing them before and they eventually retaliate. No gender has the monopoly of violence
D lady may be taking it until the devil advise her one day n she listens

Pls don't beat ur woman sweetheart. Just drop her ass if she's giving u high bp. Same advise for women

Wedon:
'beating' him?

Abeg what harm will her weak/boneless hands do to a big muscular man like him.

Don't mind them
Did u by any chance see the blow the guy was shamelessly describing that he gave the mother of his child
What happens to breaking up with her if she was so bad?There is god indeed

fem29:
No ooo she did not say she hits him oo, she disputed that. To be honest she has a lot of growing up to do. I hope she has started the process.

Hmm I have noticed a lot of your woman hating posts and I've avoided you. I hope it's just an act

I equally hope he's not as violent as his online personality depicts

And to think he's judging this lady by her post not knowing how he projects himself on nl consistently

dinachi:
Tell me would you beat or verbally abuse a man under ANY circumstance?

Why not call it quits instead of murder, that's the part I can never wrap my head around(pardon my slow understanding of domestic violence)

And I mean both male n female

Owliver:
well, you have spoken well. From his part of the story she started th "frustating"... From her side of the story he started the "frustrating" so we can't rili know who started what... But from both stories its clear both of them have problem with their medular oblacatar. They are not compatible mayb cos money don finish looooolz* nice write up jare

Fair enough

Owliver:
Dear miraijj go and apologize to him now... He deserves it and learn not to talk anyhow you are not in America.

Honey I would've preferred us (me n u) to live in America

Wedon:
I'm only trying to set you guys right nah . . . you guys were the one hailing him on in his thread and claiming the girl was insane.

Tell me, would you beat a woman? Under ANY circumstance

It's like those people who pour hot water on their house-helps claiming the 'deserved' it. Shebi na person pikin? If you don't want her to live with you anymore you send her home nah, haba! We need to stop encouraging violence abeg.

Don't mind them. They think a particular gender has the monopoly of violence.
I hope they'll support the women that cut off their husband's JT if the guy (according yo to them)deserves it

Wedon:
There is NOTHING I will not see on Nairaland!

A guy beats up a woman, the mother of his child, and gets acclaimed as a 'total gentleman' . . . Chineke me zie okwu!

Being a MAN is not about how strong you are it's about how you can manage women and their 'tricky' nature.

Women are like children, they respond to you the way you treat them. I bet this woman wasn't this 'crazy' untill she met him! I have been in that kind of relationship so I can totally relate with her. Thank God I had the foresight to walk . . .

If she is a 'misfortune' he would have left her since nah . . . Instead of beating somebody's daughter and sister to a pulp.

I don't know what it feels like to get beaten up by a spouse, someone you open your legs to and says sweet words to. But my blood boils at the thought of that . . . I dey vex biko . . .

Me sef I tire
And to think that someone is here defending him

If he was the angel he claims, why not drop d lady already instead of killing her for her parents and coming here to justify the nansense

*sips my fanta again*

dre11:
There is one thing I want you to know
When a guy is fuming with anger and wants you to excuse himself
Better leave him and let him do it because if you keep resisting him. You will get what you never bargain for.

The guy wanted to go out and the lady refused him to cool of his anger and she got beaten....
° Why not blame the lady for being the aggressor here.
° Why not blame her for not allowing the guy to cool of his anger after he has know his limit and any spark can result to what he never planned for
° Why not blame the for taking the guy for granted, that he won't do that
She was the one that called for the beaten. But, I don't support his going the second time to beat the lady ...... But, her online personality show she is abusive, uncultured and not a lady of viture because she could have made her points without the curses and abuse

The guy too is abusive o

mcdokwe:
well I said something too of family too because I was hurt.she reached for my phone and smashed it on the floor repeatedly, I regrettably gave her some blows

Fast forward later I expected her to behave more in their presence but that was to wishful of me and unfortunately the ladies couldn't stop me as I gave her even deadlier blows but mehn, she never really got enough.

He should tell us what he said of her family

*sips my fanta*

dinachi:
See excuses! Naah was for una. You can defend even the devil before God.

Don't forget the guy himself is verbally abusive too at least he agreed small in his own write up even while claiming angel

Here:

mcdokwe:
well I said something too of her family because I was hurt.she reached for my phone and smashed it on the floor repeatedly, I regrettably gave her some blows

Fast forward later I expected her to behave more in their presence but that was to wishful of me and unfortunately the ladies couldn't stop me as I gave her even deadlier blows but mehn, she never really got enough.

I wish he could tell us what he said of her family. Chai


The guy is an abuser who was fed with his own medicine and he got out of control

Threading words with a woman n beating her again on top of it.
See the type of blows sef. Smh

Owliver:
I think you need more education to understand that abusive words have more negetive effect that physical. But as usual you don't care, its normal, "you know we women talk a lot" that's ur mentality. We shall meet

Chai guy won't kill person today
Where u want meet am biko?

Owliver:
up till now you see nothing wrong in her locking him up cos she wants to beg choi* Nna lekwe ne lu ooo

I'm not saying there's nothing wrong in it. Am only saying she may have done it thinking she's helping matters. We're not in your head na

Experience has taught me otherwise if not I may not have known that years ago

iykedare:
she has no right to stop him from moving out of the house. When some men get annoyed,they prefer to go elsewhere to cool off. she stopped him from doing that. That girl get agbero tendencies. Abegi...

I beg to differ, remember we're ladies o and not knows that about men. And it doesn't make her Agbero in any way. More so the guy mcdokwe rants like a woman. He's verbally abusive too so we can't tell what he said n did in all these.
Men n women are not the same, and if she thought pleading with him not to leave was the best she could do, how does that make her an agbero mbok?

bestestgirl:
shebi u talk say you don calm down as you read her own part of the story? ehn kwa?
OK look at it this way, he can't live without her, there is no one like her etc. while she wants nothing more to do with him.
this simply tells you that she is an angel while he is a

Don't mind oga Owliver. His body don come down since the day of that thread sef

Mimicole:
Before anytin Madam Op, what will make you lock a man up and refuse him the right to go out and vent, when you know he has reached a boiling point? no matter what. That is very inexcusable!

My dear read in between the lines, Locking the door was for him not to leave. She was apologizing to the guy and didn't want him to leave but mcdokwe made it look like she violently locked the door

Even the McDokwe guy admitted she was apologetic plenty times but clearly the devil had blocked his heart by then

Owliver:
I no surprise as I see you here hahahaha rose rose. Come are rili married abi you dey whyne me? Make I follow you make you follow me make we start relationship that could lead to marriage. I don dey like you ooooh. Let's forget those people wahala jo watin consign us

Awww this is soo sweet of u

*taken since 2009*

dinachi:
All of the above! She is totally incoherent. She really needs to grow up. Her story is so disjointed and illogical. While the guys story is so clear and understandable, he even accepted some of the blame, this confused OP comes here with a totally scattered story that is neither here no there. She needs serious counselling and prayers. From the way she abuses the guy here you can clearly see that she is an untrained and very abusive person. Honestly, they need to separate. He deserves better.

Interestingly your sentiment against this babe is my exact sentiment towards the guy in question here a.k.a mcdokwe
The only difference is that I'm not too angry like that

Owliver:
Looolz* I think they are both on "receiving ends" why are you trying to justify your kind(weaker vessles) na... So all the things the guy said now you've written them off and call them lies just because of what the OP presented? Just like that? Smh*

The guy was sounding like he was just watching her close the door, beat him up, tied his hand and smashed his phone n he did absolutely nothing in all that. And her father came, gave him a bad look and all the rest of the cock n bull stories

That's what nairalanders call: story for the gods

Owliver:
she didn't disappoint me at all. Just see the way she behaves online, that's a tip of the cake of what she is in reality. A bloody talkative, frustration tool. I'll pass

Of course she's on the receiving end of all these.
And u didn't see anything wrong in the way the guy presented himself on the other thread abi?
Mcdokwe didn't dissapoint me either with his rantings trying to justify his gross irresponsibility

dinachi:
Very clearly, this OP is mentally unstable! From then way she writes, you will know that she is very close to going stark raving mad. Madam go and find the source of your mental problem from your village. YOU ARE VERY SICK! Did you also physically abuse him or not? Stop beating about the bush. See the way you are even abusing him here. That shows already that you are verbally and emotionally abusive! Please visit a psychiatrist and Pastor. The guy is way way way above your pay grade. You are not worthy to untie the sandals on his legs. Go and get delivered before you carry your problem to another mans house to ruin him or better still become a lesbian partner to your numerous evil female supporters here..any way you want it your end would be very traggic , if you don't change, asswipe!

Is it that you don't believe her or you don't like the way she packaged her story?

Owliver:
and how were you able to detect who's lying and who's not? Loooolz* everyone is always right. Duuuuh*

Me n u have settled since so we can't quarel again so let me agree with u this time.

Yes It takes two to tango that's why I never believed the guy (mcdokwe) was arc angel Gabriel he was here claiming to be.
Also remember that having had a baby for him puts op in a very vulnerable position

MarvellousGod:
On that other thread, from the guy's description, she was really beat so hard

And some people were even supporting/sympathising with him
I always knew that for the girl to have taken the bold step of leaving the guy after having a baby for him, then the guy's attitude must be so bad because most times baby mamas esp in Nigeria tend to manage/clinge to the guy for the fear of what people will say...

It's well OP

Gbam
Imagine beating her mercilessly twice o in one day
Talk about a beast

Btw oga Seun and mods, mbok kindly move this counter thread to front page so others can hear the other side of this story.

*sips my fanta*

Wedon:
Lol . . . And I was gonna add that she should not have had a baby for him in the first place.

You must be my e-shadow.

Are you serious? Chai there is god o

Wedon:
Madam . . . Not everybody is an orator or an excellent writer.

And yea, she may be a bit dis-organized, but wouldn't you After passing through what she passed thorough in the hands of an abuser!

It will take a bit of time for her to heal, let go of her anger and completely/finally move on.

For now, she is allowed to VENT!!!

Oghene!! how did u take these words out of my mouth
See my comment below yours

Better get out of my head

fem29:
miraijj, to be honest, your post sounds very disjointed and makes you sound unstable.

What exactly happened. Were you married to this guy or what. It sounds like you need to work on yourself, stabilise yourself. Life is not about what friends say.

From his post he beat you up badly, I'm sorry to hear that as violence is never excusable. You are best out of the situation. But please try and learn from this whole saga, the real tragedy will be if we do not learn from things that happen to us. What do you think YOU could have done differently. We cannot control what others do but we can control how we behave.

U may not need to judge her person by her write up
Not everyone is a good writer. Though her points are not too sophisticatedly(if there's such a word ) presented, I for one, can very well understand her pain.

What she could've done differently: she shouldn't have gotten preggy for such a guy especially outside marriage

bestestgirl:
hehehe, unfortunately for him, OP has called on Amadioha to reshuffle the fingers he is using to type all those things .

Let me also call on all those people who contributed seriously to that thread, make they come read the part two!
CC
dheartless
sweetcocoa
Genbuhari
owliver
greatgod2012
Kimoni
Rose2014


...and the wife batterer corrector himself
mcdokwe

you are all welcome, free popcorn for all

Nnem abeg shift make I siddon near you jare*

And Pls help me with some popcorn and fanta.
Thanks

Miraijj:
Can you remember one heediot's thread where he was like, "I hit her, I regret it, She deserved it? Na me be the 'she'.

You see that beautiful woman, babyosisi, I don't know her from Adam neither did I run into her back in my days at Eden, God really imbued her with rare insight to see beyond the surface.

And those who think I need deliverance,I really do. Why don't I,when I allowed that sickled demented fellow into my beautiful life.

Ask him, he'ld tell you that a hundred cloned persons that are his exact lookalike no fit reach my feet!

That guy has got talent. He writes well, but Mba! No! He no go gree use am well. Na to dey flood NL with rubbish, dey look for who im go invite im pity party.

Ehen! Back to the matter on ground, I used to physically abuse you ehn? Anu! Do I have anything to tell you? Never! What do you even expect me to do with an expired entity? Bullshit am big time!
So you didn't tell the world that you took a two months plus baby to a neighbour's house about nine poles away and hurried to the market to buy milk and baby carrier because you didn't want her to suckle my 'stupid' breast. Okwa ya?

Why didn't you tell the world you were sexually harassing my friend in my presence when you thought I was deep asleep and it happened that she slept over?
Why didn't you? Why?

So you told a girl I was an ex while we were together because you were trying to chat her up on whatsapp?
My friends hate you to the end of the world! Yes! They couldn't imagine their friend (me of course) doomed for life all in the name of marriage nzuzu. I was too blind in foolish love to see what they were seeing.

And you thought you had totally gotten me especially with my having a child for you? Oh boy you lied big time!

Everyone calls me wicked! That I left this fellow because he is moneyless! That's their damning business! Do I owe them an explanation? Never! All those times I was hungry while heavily pregnant because of misplaced and ill-timed love, I was just being a fool,I was!

You know one thing about this type of fellows? They have a sweet deceptive tongue! So what do I do to protect myself from them? I use my brain, make more than enough money and learn to act like a mermaid.

Chai! I felt like poo poo... This guy would tell me to my face, "thanks, you taught me to explore sex". He would even call me an irresponsible girl whose parents abandoned because of her irresponsibility!

So you could call a girl you once dated to come sleep over and you had the effrontery to tell me?

He would tell me how I was vulnerable, and how he was the only person who could love me. You don love me finish na? I believed him. I believed I was responsible for all the problems we had.

Why would you talk to me anyhow in the presence of others in the name of being 'frank'?

I became a nervous wreck. Jesus! I was totally losing my self worth. A terrible part of me I never knew was there surfaced.

And to even think that this dude told me to write down everything about him I would love to have changed... In my mind I was like, "why would I when I would just waste my time, merely baring my mind for him to see, just as he had been using everything I call secret against me."

So as you can see, I no longer have any secret. I am as open as a newspaper, so you just seat tight, read and yes, enjoy, if there is anything enjoyable!

Then he insulted my father to his face! Chai! That was the last straw!

FINAL WARNING: If you send any other bastard sms to me again, Amadioha go reshuffle your fingers!

Life's more fulfilling and more promising without you! Oshi!

I had actually wished to hear your side of the story and it's not different from what I expected.
My dear I never believed that so called guy one bit.
Oh and pls don't call him a good writer cos he's not. Because while he was writing so hard claiming to be angel, I could very clearly read in between the lines. I hate lies mehn, it irritates life out of me. My friends know this

By the way Where are my sweethearts?
Dinachi and Owliver

AgapeCharis:
Hahaha
Lol@holy cow!
I was surfing through fb when I saw a friend request from my dad o I can't ignore his request you know. The other day he was even asking me to teach him how to use Twitter and register him on it I just told him no way!!!!!!!