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CJStarz:
Her parents failed her. They weren't even there to give her strong emotional support

This is the worst problem people face now, no one is there for you, i dont blame them though, teach people how to be alone cos especially in africa, things have changed.

amili66:
I really wish I had never married this man. I dont know what is keeping me in the union but oh no, I dont have any happy time with him.

He is not committed at allllllllllllll, am in pain, deeply sad and sorrowful. He is promiscuous, have speech issues and maybe memory issues. Very had to please and make this difficult always.

He'd rather please outsider than me making me and the kids happy. When I got pregnant, I only received 100k from him to buy infants items as I had twins, I funded every other things and not that he doesnt have money. We build our house together but his family sees him as their Lord and this man train his cousins, nieces, and now had the mind to tell me again that he has adopted another child of his cousin to sponsor. He never pays our kids school fees 100%, I'll always have to balance the rest cos I do not want embarrassment from their school.

We moved abroad some years ago and no he says he'll drive my kids out of the house once they clock 14, but he is training his family children who are over 25 years old. Well, I don't have many, I can train them but I truly regret this marriage,

I am never going to advise anyone ot marry.

Coming abroad, this man would sit and call those in Nigeria for hours daily, he is never serious with his work and will chose to work form home until he got sacked and since then he's being struggling to get a job and I am getting blammed daily. He said his friends called him to warn him never to give me a smiling face, they dont know I have never had a smiling face from him and this man has gone from bad to worst.

You all who it to read social media comments over men who cry woes abroad, if I leave this one now and he comes on social media, you all will start to condemn the woman without listening to her. Am in pain, it has gone from worse while in Nigeria to worst here abroad. Everyday he says marriages dont work abroad, regret coming but go back he is refusing saying we must all go back with him. I cant, I rather remain here and cut off from all my friends and family.

Maybe I remained in the marriage because of shame from people around. And I am not from that loving family so they'll laugh me.

Am so sad; at times, I just feel I never said yes to him, I had many other suitors. but I considered him because he was nice then, things changed the very first day we got married, he started telling me all the evil advise his family had advised him.

I regret building with him; I should have invested on my own.

He has never bought even a shirt for his kids, shoes, toys, christmas cloths, nothing, i Mean notihng, never. when their school asked they buy laptops, he said they are not of the age, nothing. But this man dishes out money to others. I have been supportive enough, but still not appreciated. All i get is name calling, I have never since our marriage of 16 years received a gift, I dont know what it looks like. They have never owrn christmas dress bought by their father.

Your story nor match, but its yours and we need to hear from the man, except this is fiction, engage me and i will tell you where there seem to be some shaddy lines.. but abeg men treat your wives well oh. Lets be innocent in all our doing cos we are already guilty cos we are men. The good dids in silience is all that will save us in the end

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iLegendd:
Are These The 8 Most Hurtful Words Toward a Woman and a Man?

I came up with the list below and I feel they're the 8 most hurtful words for men and for women.

Which do you think should be removed and which should be added?

For a man. I am sleeping with a b c man, yet her parents still tell you that you are wrong for talking about what she said

K

YourGFsnatcher:
My ex married a very nice man.
But she's still loyal to me. She doesn't take any major decision without consulting me.
She completely believes in my judgement.
Thought I always give her sound judgement, but I think it's time for her to look unto her husband.

I wouldn't want my wife to rely on her ex before taking any major decision.

How can I pull out?

Kai, watin man do man. This is real o. When you see your wife acting like yyou know nothing. This is most times the case. Even if its not ann. Ex, there is someone she listens to. I wish these women know that na dem self them dey do. You will talk beg for where. Sometimes i think its a mental sickness for them. When you refuse ur own, someone will teach u a hard lesson.. men do right stay right no matter what, time will tell.

motymop:
I promise you when he lands in Nigeria

Nigerians will worship him and he will become a celeb

My friend worked with a racist white South african in lagos, that believes nothing good can come out of black people

people still worship him with all his racism

most nigerians are just noise makers online, in real life docile

for him to say he will come to nigeria, there is a nigerian that will sponsor the whole show

Stop assuming o. The soldiers cannot even protect him. U dont know Nigerians be that. Please, we dont need more violence, he will not make it pass the airport, we can win the world cup if you laugh and ridicule us, money incentives cannot even motivate us like that.. there is ssomething about nigerian pride. You all think its loud. My dear its not till the good or evil is achieved. This guy shouldd use wisdom o. Peace to the world. We are all one.

sharpwriter:
What should a man do when he hears his wife say she made a mistake marrying him?

The blunt truth is its over. Women dont make mistakes when it comes to these words. Now theee question is what do you do. If there no kids, without delay start planning your exit. I repeat, plan your exit. If there are kids try to seee if you can win her heart but that is only 25 percent chance. God may change her heart but believe me, she can never change by her decision or talking to her. But then i personally advice you start planing your exit, let no one decieve you because, she will leave with timee. A woman who do not fear God or the ancestors will eventually leaave if she says that, it dont matter how long it may take, except she is correecting that mistake by stepping out. Love is real and its not lousy or decepttive. Anger dont even mke them use these words dont be decieved. In all have a plan once you hear those words and know when to put those words in motion. I have learnt that a good man should not be caught of guard or be a fool

Chijeep:
To cut the long story short, I did my traditional marriage 3momths ago, though I met the girl online but before we even started talking about marriage, our chat always flow with fun and togetherness.

But the moment we return back to our base after the marriage this girl started behaving like introvert and a bit celibacy. Won't want to talk to me like in the aspect of gisting and barely share issues and decisions with me. Even the aspect of food she hardly find interest in eating what I'm able to provide.
I've confronted her more than 3 times and reminded her that I told you already before we go into this union that I'm not rich yet and I'm managing, and she assured me that she's also not from a rich home either and she'll be supportive. but now the girl will be acting as if I'm forcing her to eat the rubbish I provided.

I told her that she's free to quit the marriage if she's not that impressed and happy but she doesn't want to or maybe she's thinking of how people will see her.

PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO AS THIS IS AFFECTING MY EMOTIONS?, BECAUSE I'M A GUY THAT DECIDED TO LIVE AND DO MY THINGS ALONE, SO THAT I'LL BE ABLE TO HAVE MORE TIME WITH MY WIFE AND CHILDREN WHEN THE TIME COMES.

Mark it today. I have seen this before. I pray she is different but from all you have said, you are married to yourself and dont understand why people here are twisting what you said or trying to downplay it like you dont know what you talking about. My advice is be prepared, like someone said which is a practical truth, for the ladies of this days, marraige na 50 50 o. I pray she realise that it takes 2 to tangle. I dont know why people here are saying do this do that.. people have done this do that and yet when she was ready to leave, she left like nothing ever existed. Just watch to ensure that she is not a manipulative person or a lier, if you notice this run forget that introvert talk. Everyone knows what they are doing. Quiet or introvert knows what good communication is in marraige. My 1 cent. I have seen it start like this before. Exactly like this. If what i know is right. This woman dont love you, she may latter do, i pray. But if stylishly or investigatively try to find out if she loves you at all that can help going forward. You may soon hear her say, she thinks she made a mistake. God bless good women and those that eork with an open heart. Bye

lovediehatelive:
Here's why I didn't have sex till 42 years

What made me stay without sex till 42



I was a church boy, redeemed, and my dad was a a pastor.


I was shy too and didn't start saying hi or hello to girls till I reached 23.

I was always busy with my dads building materials shop, and didn't have much 1 on 1 conversations with girls.


No girlfriend.

At 25 my friends were mocking me and wanted me to follow them to olosho house, but I was a pastor som.


Then after graduation life became tough and I still didn't have time for relationship, but I had my own apartment single room I pay rent.


Friends were trying to convince me to carry hook up come house since I now have my place.


But I wanted my first experience to be with someone I had a rapport with, even though not my girlfriend, even though I just met her and we started talking.


I didn't want it to be with someone openly selling her body to men.



So i held on and tried.

Now I'm 42, and have found a girl that we became friends at my place of work.


I'm still wondering how to go about it because I don't want to come off inexperienced or shy.

Should I forget everything and practice with a hookcusp girl or continue trying to see if I get a girl.

I'm almost 45.

I respect you. At this point, do what ever makes you happy. You know whats right, let no one tell you different, what ever you do is right, i wish i was like you.. in short,, i wish we could be friends, i like peple that are not push overs, ur type is rare. Continue to choose friends wisely and ensure you ennjoy life the way u deep fit. I trust your judgement

yinchar:
Stop lying NOT after

Everyone can see the disproportionate attack of Isreal and even recently echoed by Trump himself at the G7 summit.

Sadly most people are just hypocrite and being sentimental on situations, must you blow and destroy a whole house to kill one person, must you kill innocent 100 civilians to achieve one aim.

If things should be like that, then God should have wiped everyone off this Earth by using generational sins as justification

Sentiments, they are people who value every single member of thier family, you hurt 1 they hurt 100, think twice before you hurt 1 of thier own. I wonder what it takes for these terrorists to stay off hurting people, please note that my angle of view dooes not have to align with yours before i am right. God help protect the innocent. Always remember that isreal was not the first to strike. I sympathise with the innocent lives been lost. Evil must not previal at all cost if not iy spreads even faster than speed of light or sound

RichDad1:
Hypocrisy. You're wearing such jacket and opening teeth because you're happy about it.
Anyways, we all know it's all political than genuine empathy for the abducted citizens.

So truly, some peopple are paid to be here, abeg make una recruit me naa. As long as i am paid, we would negotiate the salary o.

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Muyiwaipere:
See ungrateful people o.

You better thank God and manage your expenses....I see married men collect #120k as salary

How do you explain to people like this, even with numbers, you are still finding it difficult to comprehend the explanation.. well na so sha.

Patrick viera rejected them 3 to 4 times

Kukutente23:
Madrid never really wanted De Gea

They had Navas all the while and the team was highly successful
It was just an attempt at addition not a serious purchase
If they really wanted him they'll get him
Imagine a Spaniard rejecting Madrid for lowly man utd
How does that make sense

Solowande:
Madrid gets who they want in their team. If Olise doesn't come to Real Madrid next or the next two seasons, that means Madrid didn't really want him. Because they always get who they want and need.

Patrick viera rejected the 3 or 4 times, check it up

Sonofgod1990:
Our next president after tinubu.
The best vice president Nigeria has ever produced


West Ham 1 vs arsenal 0

Just as your prediction is opposite, so is your comment

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epainos:
Interesting.

You be man...right? And no man will be happy beating her adult daughter in that manner. Something is wrong with you. Anyway, the man go soon cool off very well inside a cell very soon. And you sef go cool off inside a cell since you have such mentality.

Intent is something i always look out for. Have ever have to take a decision and even while the process of that decision, you still cry cos you know you dont want it the way its going down. I know the father has no intent to see her hurt like that. As a child you can get injured in the perocess of being deciplined. The father would appologise later but for now she has to learn especially when i believe she must have show stubborn head especially when the brothets are there.i feel for her though but this things happen. Children should learn how to accept when they are wrong. Iin the process of trying to correct her this may have happened. Stop labelling men unreasonble, his is wwhy the world is like this, you all cut the head off and expect the body to function. Papa watin again aappologise to u daugther for the injury ensure she has learnt her lessons, everybody stay clear from family mattes including those who sleep with peoples wife with theptetense of settling huband and wife dispute. Ah i love my sister so much sha to see her hurt like this. But it cn happen if her head nor staight. But would do my best to keep under control.violence tthough of any kind, verbal physical is nnever an option. Women conteol ur mouth that girl done insult im papa cos of im mama and wanting to have her way. Na the brothers do that thing.

wellmax:
This man don jam scammer.

All civil servants including soldiers are paid regularly and promptly.

Today is 3rd check, many civil servant have received nothhing.... una go just dey assume. Some may have in the juicy parastatal

Melezenawii:
"Do not interrupt me"

- Rufai tells the Ambassador of Israel to Nigeria, Michael Freeman

'Do not interrupt me'

- Rufai tells the Ambassador of Israel to Nigeria, Michael Freeman pic.twitter.com/Z3kUKdLmEk

— Nigerian Affairs Journal (@NigAffairs) March 6, 2026

This guy or what ever his name is needs to be checked. Wow this is soo unprofessional. No no no something needs to be done. He has a fundamental problem.

There is no way thst guy may survive the war. Lets pray trump will spare him, though i doubt this, because for trump to say that the people should take over, it means that guy is more or less dead. God, please heal the world and death to all evil people including terrorist

Flangelo12:
Who has God NOT blessed?

You?

Nor vex ask God. But life is a blessing that people like you who support evil terrorist will not understand. Remain. Blessed

This was inevitable and we knew it. Moral lesson.. dont fight who God has blessed. You will not understand. But if you do......

KingRabota:
I went through something similar though not as severe. The worst are the louusy officers both male and especially female who will be trying to outdo themselves to prove that all men must be treated like aanimals
And everyone believes a crying woman even when they knows lying
Take heart bro
Karma saved me smashed the head of my girl and my manipulative cousin who sponsoring her attacks against me since then I've had a semblance of peace
I pray you experience peace

God bless you for these words of hope they mean alot. I pray GOD shows up for me like he did for you. Theae issues are seriois. Even though its hard now i strongly believe it will be fine because i have searched my heart and its clear. I have suffered oh. Thank you again. I advice all men to ensure they always do the right thing, thats the only thing that can save with these devilish women when they unleash. Omo you need to see them lie in tears without any remorse. Please God show up fast.

nlfpmod:
Adeife Issues Another Apology After Falsely Accusing David of Being a Rapist.

Adeife Issues Another Apology After Falsely Accusing David of Being a R@pistpic.twitter.com/opZjvNE59d

— Instablog9ja (@instablog9ja) February 24, 2026

https://tribuneonlineng.com/video-again-oau-student-apologises-after-accusing-schoolmate-of-being-rapist-amid-n15m-lawsuit/





Source


Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/8623902/oau-student-demands-15-million

This is all i want, the truth be told in my case and i move on evenbwith the pain, absolute truth. David forgive and go there is nothing more to be said, the good Lord has exposed the works of the wicked

wazobeer:
Alaye dem say make you pay 15 milla... Una go wise by force! 😂

Any little thing, una go shout rape, as if men no get sisters for house. They make it sound like it's not the same men that defend them and even protect them when they need help.

That toxic Jezebel spirit wey una get go land all of una for trouble.

That is why i have always said behind every woman braging with false aligation of what she xan do to a man, there is a man behind her. Women don't support women except thier nothers in evil. I saw hell. Till today no one believes me, its so painful, i cried and asked at women affairs where is men affairs. As i write am in pains waiting for God to show up but i guess he always shows men a lesson through had times. All i want is the truth, never did anything to no one. As a matter. Of fact, i only have 1 aister amongst many boys. Today am paying so much for court proceedings on a matter that is obvious yet her lies are always before me. I did nothing wrong all i want now is a fast court jourgement so i can i find a way to move on. False accusation is real. I lost people. I loved tthough i know now they never loved me. Because of lies and false accusations. Till today she still sees nothing wrong in her lies and stands by those lies. Its crazy believe me. How do u beat a woman when she is 8 months pregnant? Women are born evil, shout out to the good women out there because they exist. Beating without proof, no family member talked or mediated about beating all these years even when there was always family talk, what in the world is this.

Why? I thought they were fixing it. This is not proper lets check something o

Zonefree:
People should learn to see beyond the tears of a woman.

To shed tears is the first tool of manipulative women. Whenever a woman is crying, she's guilty.

As a matter of fact, ones you hear the story and the tears dont match just know she is lieing.. omo when i learnt that a womans tears means nothing, it broke my heart cos i used to be touched by those tears, zGod may you eipe the real tears of a woman cos for there is no real tears from a woman

MarketDispatch:
Imagine the custodian of the rules breaking the rules in broad daylight.

What rules. Abeg this is our everyday life. He is a true nigerian and can bet he is a good guy. Please, its there a sign that says do. Not urinate there. One tin is sure, the guy done enjoy tire. Nigeria sweet sha.

letskeeptalking:
I think every human being is selfish to a certain degree!

Dangerously selfish. Time will teach us all.

letskeeptalking:
I guess my real question is: knowing what you know now, would you make the same choice again?

I’m currently on the verge of divorce after 15 years of marriage and three kids.. Even though this is my decision, I feel like I have no real choice. My husband (if I can even call him that) says he doesn’t want to lose his family, but he does absolutely nothing to show it.

A lot has happened over the years, and it’s reached a point where I genuinely believe there is no future for us as a couple.

So I feel like I have two options: divorce him and move forward as a single mother… or stay, knowing I could never love him again.

I worry about my kids and how growing up with parents in a loveless marriage might shape their future relationships and choices. But then I also wonder, would they be better off growing up with a single mother?

I’m not concerned about stigma or even about finding another partner someday. Honestly, the way I feel right now, I’m ready to remain celibate for life.

If you’ve gone through this, can you please share your experience?
Do you regret your choice?
Looking back, would you make the same decision again?

Too much lie about your write up, how do i know? Everything was about you. I dont even believe you was married 15 years. The love you talk about is about you. Love tskes two. For me you are a selfish person. You genuinely dont care about your kids or ur husband.

Ramanto:
It's that deep?

If am right there was a guy called smith in leeds then with a died white hair. Din tay o

hollowpot15684:
Sowore, a geography graduate and propagandist wants to go head-to-head with Masters in Law holder like Reno Omokri...

He is not really wise tendering that video as evidence in court as a reference or source without first confirming wether the source still hold such to be true.

This is the calibre of youth we are hoping will lead Nigeria someday. Youth wey no wise, youth wey dey make impulsive decision.

Remember the guy who won who wants to be a billionaire years ago, he was a geograher, so many more examples about the intelectual abilities of geographerrs, do your research, there is something about these geographers do your research. Even in ivory schools they are highly regarded as pure intellectuals. Other field dons dont mess with them. My candid observations

Look out for her, what of ur guy? Na wa o fo these kind men. Okay time will tell. Efe e hard but rest dey watch. All of them. Make dem carry go. But if u been dey cheat on her, forget universe go judege you wrong. There are things in this life. If you nor cheat on he a all this dey happen forget u bam.i dont know why meen fisregard being ffauthful too.

classicfrank4u:
He could genuinely be looking out for her