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immortalcrown:
Nice, if true.

Let's see how Madam 40 seconds or her fans will react to this.

komzy589:
Why are you being so idiotic!
The wife gave her reasons why this is ending and there was nothing about infidelity.
Yes this is a faceless forum but try to be sensible before you unknowingly start doing this in real life.

VinnyBaba:
Exactly what I wanted to comment.

AY knows to LIE and Exaggerate.

As at 2004, AY was still in Delsu, Abraka, hustling to graduate and move to lagos!

It was around 2006 he finally blew.

I don't know where he got this 20yrs from.

saphiere:
Hmmm.
My love for Davido increased the day he married my sister.
My hatred for this very dirty man increased the day he dragged a young widow to go and do DNA.

fergie001:

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ebexofficial:
Very unprofessional

Letuspray4niger:
Good day all, please I need ur advice

I’m the only bachelor in my neighborhood, three rented apartments. I’m in between two families, they both have three three kids each, they are all very nice people, they rendered assistance to me in any slightest opportunity that presents itself, they pack my washed clothes under the sun fold it and well arranged before I returned home. They always sweep my surroundings, when they are doing theirs.

One of them, her husband is not always around. He goes and comes once in a while, she will always like to engage me in conversation any little chance she finds me outside, knowing fully well that she is a married woman, I don’t give room for such familiarity, she always offer me food by giving it to her children to give to me. (Make I no lie I need the food cus I no fit cook) I’ll also get things for her children too.

I noticed her getting me food was getting too frequent, I started given her attitude and being very official with her, and she took caution.

The other lady is here with her husband, she will join me in my car if I’m going out maybe coincidentally. It happened she was going to my direction, also, there was a faithful day I left my apartment keys at a barbershop in front of my estate, I came back that evening looking for this barber guy his number was not connecting, I went to my neighbor's house to ask her if he knew where I can find this guy, the man was not in the house, the wife came out that she will lead me to the guys house, and me I don’t know where the guys lives.

On our way going the husband was coming back home, he saw us walking in the street of the estate, he confronted us and we told him, just yesterday I came back at about 11:30pm when this woman with her husband here came knocking at my door that her husband is accusing her of having an affair with me, that he threatened to send her parking if she dares disclose the information to me and it happened that I’m close to the husband, we both discuss about politics a lot, the other neighbor who’s husband is not always around also came out, I had to confront the husband why dragging me into ur family issues did u seen me on top ur wife, why this allegation? He said is his family issue that he will take care of it.

A this point, I’m considering taking a legal action against him for character assassination, did I do wrong for given my Neiboure’s mwife a lift Or asking for where I can locate the barber guy? I’m guilty of this)? The husband has the right to suspect, but since nothing going on between me and his wife what I’m supposed to do, should I proceed with the legal action?

Matured advice please.

DyshApp:
A Nigerian lady has cried out online regarding her mother’s attitude of constantly rejecting her suitors, claiming that her husband is to come from a faraway country.

Sharing the plight she facing anonymously she revealed that she is always having dreams about her mother preventing her from getting married.

Her post read;

“Mommy’s in the house help my life o. I’ll be 24 years old in a few months. I noticed that anytime a suitor comes for my hand in marriage my mom would turn them down, saying a prophet told her my husband is not in Nigeria and that he’ll come from a faraway country. I didn’t take it seriously then cos I wasn’t ready, but now I’m ready, through with service I’m working and also a tailor. A man came for my hand in marriage my m said no o, that he’s not my husband that have I forgotten that my husband will come from a faraway place? Most times I see my mom in my dream telling me I will not marry. Pls help me o, what should I do? I really love this man o he loves me too, and for the past 2 years we’ve dated he’s been the best. Please, I need your advice o. My friends are telling me to do court even people that know my mom advised me to do court o. My dad no kúkú get say. What should I do? I’ll be I’m the comment section. Thank you [sic].”

Shadomaan7:
E be like say some people dey fear for their seat, but Baba Tinubu go continue to lead us to greatness, nothing fit stop us.

chisomkachy:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/XQxXtM8UFgBpHrku/?mibextid=Nif5oz

EreluRoz:
You didn't grab, she was talking out of pain and why Mohbad's father has refused to bury her son deceiving people with DNA issue, she said maybe he's not Mohbads dad too kos if he was his dad he won't be allowing his corpse to undergo such torture. I understand her

SALLYBERRY01:
This or that

RepoMan007:
The voiceless are going through a lot in the hands of these uniform men. Mother and son like that and terrorist are having a smooth adventure killing civilians elsewhere.

NwaAmaikpe:



Blasphemy is a total no no and is unacceptable under any guise.
It's one thing to say false things or ridicule man but another to blaspheme against our god.

If we do not stand up for him, who will?

We understand some people expect their gods to protect them, but we protect ours; so once in a while we must learn to say the truth and appreciate people who will always defend their god because they know he can't do it for himself.

Fira09:
Before it was E.Guinea, Ivory Coast, Cameroon and now Angola?

Jennyclay:
Why is the man now making video, he should have raise his hand on her and see if the embassy won’t send him back to Nigeria, he’s not a saint either .

Probably the husband wasn’t taking good care of her!
Her reaction said it all.

Personally if I’m not getting enough Money, sex and true love from my man, I will definitely look elsewhere .

chidiokay:
Imagination indeed ! so for your mind OP is passing through what nobody as pass through, seen or heard before some of you guyz online whu raised una sef, Na Op go 1st go thru divorce or marry bad wife

Do you know how many parent call there children "omo ale ni e" i.e bastard ... growing up i lost count the number of time my mom called me omo ale, does it mean she affirming she is not my mother

Dis the man say he is doubting the paternity of his children, why cry more than the bereaved what do you stand to gain pushing a man to abandon is children all for meaningless rant

Nothing concern me with the husband & wife madness , But the children must not be dragged into it, A responsible man will never abandon his children no matter what, there is No justification except DNA shows they are not his.

think whatever you like, i don't blame you i blame the yeye kind of Men we have now

chidiokay:
Imagination indeed ! so for your mind OP is passing through what nobody as pass through, seen or heard before some of you guyz online whu raised una sef, Na Op go 1st go thru divorce or marry bad wife

Do you know how many parent call there children "omo ale ni e" i.e bastard ... growing up i lost count the number of time my mom called me omo ale, does it mean she affirming she is not my mother

Dis the man say he is doubting the paternity of his children, why cry more than the bereaved what do you stand to gain pushing a man to abandon is children all for meaningless rant

Nothing concern me with the husband & wife madness , But the children must not be dragged into it, A responsible man will never abandon his children no matter what, there is No justification except DNA shows they are not his.

think whatever you like, i don't blame you i blame the yeye kind of Men we have now

chidiokay:
Any mature Man that have lived with a woman be it 1yrs won"t see a big deal here;

Firstly, women are talkers and emotional being at that, when they are angry there is nothing they can not say, in the heat of arguememt a woman can say "I hate you" whereas she loves you like kilode

Now if a woman says the children are not mine repeatedly, under what situation did she make that ourburst, was there a fight ? is she pained n trying to hurt me back ? Did she just come back from church and made that confession? a Man must think deeply before he acts that is why we are the logical being

If she says the children aint mine, i will start by taking a deep look into those children appearance & traits for any resemblance,
are they my carbon copy ? if i don't feel convinced enough then DNA cannot be ruled out, know your fate once and for all,

However it will be very foolish of a man to just take a woman's word at face value without proper verification, No responsible Man we think the way you are reasoning sef

So becos she says they are not your children, Ope o ! you cease that opportunity to evade your responsibility as a father, go out to chop the life of your head then 20yrs after you come back to claim the children when they succeed abi
I can't teach a grown man how to treat a woman But for children i fit break nd open the man coconut head to implant sense, haba !

chidiokay:
Any mature Man that have lived with a woman be it 1yrs won"t see a big deal here;

Firstly, women are talkers and emotional being at that, when they are angry there is nothing they can not say, in the heat of arguememt a woman can say "I hate you" whereas she loves you like kilode

Now if a woman says the children are not mine repeatedly, under what situation did she make that ourburst, was there a fight ? is she pained n trying to hurt me back ? Did she just come back from church and made that confession? a Man must think deeply before he acts that is why we are the logical being

If she says the children aint mine, i will start by taking a deep look into those children appearance & traits for any resemblance,
are they my carbon copy ? if i don't feel convinced enough then DNA cannot be ruled out, know your fate once and for all,

However it will be very foolish of a man to just take a woman's word at face value without proper verification, No responsible Man we think the way you are reasoning sef

So becos she says they are not your children, Ope o ! you cease that opportunity to evade your responsibility as a father, go out to chop the life of your head then 20yrs after you come back to claim the children when they succeed abi
I can't teach a grown man how to treat a woman But for children i fit break nd open the man coconut head to implant sense, haba !

chidiokay:
Bro don't need to be there or a divorcee to know how i will feel about my flesh & blood in any situation, "ko se le rii afin dan eru ba oloro nii " no scenerio is new under the sun.

What as the innocent kids got to do with the nonsense divorce, as far as these case is concern i am even disappointed the man thought of abandoning his children .. the mere thought naa fvckup
Whatever issues he has with the wife is
his fvcking problem leave the kids out of it, he chose a wife and he chose their mother .. Real Men take responsibilities.

When dey say shine your eye before marriage you na go dey form Man on mY Own & oversabi, if you feel your ex wife is not raising your kids properly, step in or make solid provisions

pocohantas:
Nobody is forcing you guys to marry. I wonder why you are crying enough to type this senseless epistle. When you divorce your wife and leave those kids for her to take care of alone, come let's have this conversation. I bet she wouldn't even miss you. What kind of husband and father fools around online for years? Women dey marry sha, but normally you be her level.

chidiokay:
Oga i find your concerns & questions very funny, Besides i don't need to be a divorcee to know how i will feel about by children or cope post divorce, as far as they are my blood nothing changes

These is not even a case of "Easy to Say" as you would like to save face, here is what i know

That your children don't live under your roof does not make them less your blood and that still does not stop you from being present in Life, if you really care about them, you can schedule parental shift or visitation

Regardless of whatever your wife did to hurt you that does not negate the fact that your kids are innocent and should be treated as an "Entity" ..
Your Kids bear your name and as such whatever better life provision you make available to them gives credence to your name/Status, whatever Big those kids become to tomorrow they will be address by your last name thats a Father's pride and consolation

Divorce or No divorce so many Men/Fathers make mistake not letting the children see the sacrifices we make, we do everything through there mothers, .... If you are so worried your Ex wife might take your Glory, why not come all out pay the bills yourself, visit the children school to pay there school fees, take the children shopping for clothes and buy them groceries Let these kids see, Since it bugs you

While you are playing Father of the year don't forget yourself, find companionship to balance your mental health. my 2cent

peanutbutterr:
at afodot0022
let me give you one piece of advice, be actively, i mean very actively involve in your children lives.

once Dated a girl from a broken home, according to how her mum brainwashed her, shsaid “ her dad was so wicked to have left her and her mum less than a year after her birth.

This same man she speaks bad of financed her through university, nothing good comes out of her mouth when she speaks of her dad. luckily her mum remarried. stepdad has been trying to have a piece of her since teenage years but failed, yet she sees him as her fatherly figure.

op these would probably be your case if you don’t win the custody of you kids. have them spend christmas at your place, take them on expensive vacations, they should know their root, lastly don’t leave your children for another man to train.

pussyphilia:
You're right... infact, modern men need to start accepting infidelity by their wives instead of divorcing them on account of that. If not, we'll be having many broken homes which is not good for the society. What's them in having other men Bleep your wives It's even a great turn on for some men.

EreluRoz:
If she confirms the kids are not yours then automatically you are not under any obligation to care for those kids, let her look for the father to assume duties.

Afodot0022:
Good day nairalanders, top of the day to you all.

This topic is basically for the divorce men out there that are out of their marriage and living separately from their Ex wife and kids.

Attimes divorce can be a very devastating experience that the pains felt don't go easily especially if you are a responsible man that put in your best effort in the marriage to make things work but eventually went south.

It's even more heartbreaking if you caught your ex wife cheating and having extra marital affairs when you know as a man you don't deserve such betrayal, it could easily break you as a man.

Now my bone of contention is, divorce men out there, how do you deal with the fact that you are obligated to pay child support and care and also foot school fees and medical of the kids that came out of the union despite the family being broken.

How do you cope with this when the custody of the kids are with your ex wife and knowing she was the one that betrayed you in the marriage by cheating on you, will you be comfortable still sending her money for your kids upkeep and also paying their school despite the fact they don't live under your roof.

How do you men deal with this cos attimes, it can be so discouraging knowing fully well what led to the union breakup. Presently am separated from my ex wife on the count of infidelity, my two kids have been with her ever since and attimes anytime I think about the hurt and betrayal, I will want to end any sort of provision for the kids but because am a very responsible man that wants the best for my kids, it's difficult to just look away.

Attimes my thoughts could be like in as much the kids are staying with her, I am on the loosing side and my effort providing for the kids outside my jurisdiction might look like a wasted efforts being that the kids are with her 247 and she can easily still the glory by making the kids believe she is the one doing the provision.

Pls divorce and separated men, how do you go through this turmoil and ways to navigate through to be sure you are on the right track.

pocohantas:
1) No marriage is perfect. She cannot be like that forever. She would definitely get tired and retire with you. Even this your new babe, shebi she is talking to other men on phone and borderline stingy. Have you left her? The next woman might be worse, so where are you men running to?

2) The logical and unemotional thing to do is to take care of the kids. Last time I checked, men are logical and unemotional, so it shouldn't be hard separating your emotions from this whole situation.

3) You are not being stopped from cooparenting. If she leaves the kids with you, you would still be pained that she is living her life while you are nurturing the kids. None would be easy for you. Pick one side and run with it for the sake of the kids.

4) There are only two things involved, you give money or you don't give. Either way, the kids would be fine. In fact, she might even be waiting for you to default, so that she can have something to use against you.

If I were you, I would keep giving with evidence. I don't mind to create a folder for it on Google Drive. Call them when you can and have them come over. They would grow to know how they want to handle the triangle.

pocohantas:
When we tell you to fight for your marriages, you won't listen. A man that is not ready to endure has no business getting married. Go learn from your fathers how to endure. That is why marriages of old lasted.

EreluRoz:
Caring for your kids has nothing to do with your ex wife, it is your responsibility afterall those kids didn't ask you to bring them to the world by force. Couples should learn to leave the kids out of their mess and failure.