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ThatIgboBoy:
So from ur experience u know men dont wash their cocks,u know they dont last two mins and u know they wear one jean for a month.

U have been dating and meeting pigs. U need to change ur circle of friends or leave ur environment entirely.

This is general knowledge that you can gain from male interactions, mutual friends, general conversations with people. Heck, you can even do your research on google to find more about the opposite sex. You dont gain all your experiences or knowledge about the opposite sex through dating. Please apply sense.

ThatIgboBoy:
U have been dating pigs

That says a lot about u too

Who is taking about dating? This is general knowledge that i've learnt from an experience called life. Get over yourself.

Man....you guys are always complaining about eveything. Nothing satisfies you. I could start complaining about so many things about guys. Like for instance

Why do you most of you only last for 2 mins in bed?

Why do you refuse to wash your smelly balls, and expect head

Why do most of you sleep around like dogs

Why do you always lie about your financial status

Why do you wear the same jeans for one month?

Why is that most of you don't know how to cook?

I could go on and on. We females learn how to deal with your nonsense. So please, stop complaining about every small thing. Get a fuckkingg grip.

Pack your ghana must go bag, and get the fuccck out this forum. Take your smelly kwame's and akwasi's away from this website.

I love makeup. This is not my cup of tea.

FitnessDoctor:
Do you really have to type the nonsense at the end.. Also I went through Bernice fitness / workout videos before posting this.. You can find them on her instagram page..

Jenifer lopez is almost 50 and just take a look at her.. She is white by the way...

She did Plastic surgery, yes, but her workout videos shows that it take more than plastic surgery to keep a healthy body and a fit one at that... It shows you that no amount of artificial can counter the natural.. and that is what I wanted you to learn..

But you are so insultive and disrespectful.. just look at what you placed that the end of your quote... How do you expect to learn...

Cosmetics you say... There is a post trending on nairaland of a lady claiming to be 20 while all the cosmetics and artificial things made her look like 40... It is more than that, and Bernice knew that, she enhanced her body to please the crowd, but to keep it, she knew she couldn't just lie around.. and for the record... only her butt and breasts are enhanced by plastic

Remember you deserve to look good, let no one tell you otherwise..

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

This is why i said you need to do more research. If you know the nature of bernices job, shes an instagram model. She gets sponsored and paid to advertise her fake 'healthy' lifestyle. She's also uses this as a cover to convince people that she 'worked out' to achieve her body. This is what the majority of instagram models do. If you want to use an individual as an example to promote a healthy lifestyle you do your research. They're plenty of people who eat, sleep and breath fitness, and the hardwork pays off. Their whole lives are dedicated to their health, those are the people you use to motivate people. Not instagram models or celebrities.

As for j-lo, do you know how many facial surgical procedures she has gone through. A lot of these celebrities alter their bodies secretly, so its unfair to use them as an example to compare to regular people.

I really dont like the way you go around trying to talk down on people, creating unrealistic expectations. You use pictures of people with perfect bodies, people that have gone through surgical procedures as an image that people should look up to. You want to help people and motivate them, try to use images that are more relatable. Your tone always comes off as arrogant.

Im sorry but how can you use Bernice as an exanple of fitness and a 'healthy' lifestyle. It is scientifically proven that black people age slower than any other race due to the melanin of our skin, so thats the reasom she may look young facially. Her body is 100% surgically enhanced. Do you need before and after photos? Money can buy you a body, cosemtics and all these artificial things that can make you appear younger. Internally, her body represents her age. Stop glorifying unrealistic fake standards for people, and do more research on individuals who actually represent the lifestyle you're trying to promote. Nonsense.

Completly agree. I don't see how anybody would want to be with a race of people who emulate everything that beautiful black women do. The original is always better.

haibe:
Sorry girl, u are the one who have a lot to learn. Saying love isn't the fundamental thing explains that you dont understand what it means to be in a relationship. Perhaps you are still a school girl who is still dependent on mum and dad, so u wont really understand the struggle out there and why money can never be enough but love, which conquers all!!

okay. Your point has been noted. Correction. I'm dependent on myself financially and in every way possible. Thanks very much.

jakandeola:
u are still a small girl u dont jnow abt life

okay

MrsPhysics:
Don't mind her. She is still 22

23*
I'm not claiming to know it all. But with the knowledge and exposure i have at my age, i thank God. I still learn things everyday. The fact that an old man like yourself is constantly defensive towards a "22"year old lady says a lot doesn't it

haibe:
What is the point of getting married then if love is not the fundamental thing. If its all about money, you can simply be a prostitute or a thief dear.

I never stated that it's all about money. You clearly don't seem to understand the dynamics of a relationship. Until you experience it yourself, you just wont understand.

MrsPhysics:
You really do not understand the essence of life. You need to read Mark Zukerbergs convocation commencement speech. It would change your purpose of life. As a lady have suggested here, get a book and read. Its good to read because it will expose you to a lot of things. I have followed your arguments and others, you are not making sense.

In as much as money is important, love in a relationship is more important.
He that finds a wife should find a good thing not a money monger. What should keep you in a relationship should be a purpose.

Just yesterday, I read a story from a married woman who is currently going through a lot of things. She might have made a mistake by marrying a guy because he lives in Dubai. I even assume they didn't even date. Now, the man is beating her even in pregnancy.

That is what the quest for material things will lead to. You just need to understand the purpose of life.

I respect your opinion. But like i said love is not the most important thing. They're too many challenges in a relationship that love itself cannot conquer. Love is important of course but it doesn't enable longevity. I've learnt this from a lot of experienced, wise, open minded people and you will learn this later on in life. I have nothing left to say, as your argument cannot convince me.

haibe:
Am not saying you shouldn't make the decision. Am saying its a silly decision because where the relationship is not based on love but material thing it would hardly every last. Such marriages tend to be abusive infact. What happens when your beauty fades? A man that doesn't love u will disrespect u badly or when you dont look attractive to him anymore.

I agree life is a gamble but marrying the person who loves you truly gives you a better assurance of a long lasting relationship than someone who doesn't but just likes your beauty. Several ladies cry everyday because of an abusive marriage which they have been lured into because of money. You cant compare the pain a lady faces in such a marriage than a lady who is merely not married to a rich man.

You really need to wake up!!

Love is important in a relationship. But trust me, it is NOT the most inportant thing. Im telling you this now, so you better wake up. Even if im drowned in love, the problems that derive from money can cause me to sign those divorce papers. Should i start naming a few? Insecurities, theft, jealousy, infidelity..this list goes on.

A wise woman would think about the other aspects of a relationship more than love, because that's what determines longevity.

Toks2008:
Funmi let me hint you about something...

I'm not bragging but I have developed a strange phobia for Nigerian ladies expecially the educated ones and I will tell you why.

These ladies are availed the same opportunity as their male counterparts...we went through the same educational system and strangely enough the Labour market favors the females the more yet after stressing themselves to aquire a degree, they still come out looking for a financially comfortable guy to dump their life on....WHY?

I have vowed never to go near a jobless lady no matter how sweet looking you are...you must do something even if you make 1k a day or in the process of doing something worthwhile

Only a hopeless lady will say NO to a guy because he is broke because a reasonable goal getter will understand that a broke guy today can be rich tomorrow as long as he is smart and hardworking

One thing I expected the OP to write is about a broke leech of a guy who is not just broke but will be asking the lady for money. ..this is A BIG NO FIT ME.

Please ladies think.

The minute you wake up to realise that men and women are not equal, the better for you. Physically, emotionally, mentally, we are wired different. Even in the labour/ corporate world, men are given more opportunities in leadership roles than women. Men averagely make more than women. When we look at the the world's richest people, it's dominated by men. Now I'm not saying that women cannot be successful, but stop trying to equate your finances with a woman. Understand that a woman can make her own finances, but she will ALWAYS want a man who will compliment that. Take it or leave it, this is the world that we live in.

haibe:
The most foolish thing any lady can do is to marry a man because of his "current" financial status. People go from being extremely broke to being ridiculously rich while people also go from having stupendous wealth to being very poor. If your so called rich husband goes very poor tomorrow, what would you do? A divorce right? And then he gets rich again, u then start begging him back for reconciliation? Thats the dumbest thing ever.

How about marrying someone you truly love and who has a potential to be great in life (even if he is not currently great).

Same thing with the guys that marry for beauty. Beauty fades away and even if it doesn't (because of wealth), you may just get tired of her beauty one day. If however you marry someone u truly love and loves u back; even if she is not the most pretty one, you will always love and appreciate her presence. This is likely to lead to a long lasting relationship than simply marrying for beauty.

Love this love that. Love cannot make a relationship last in the long run. Other factors come into play. Mind you, you can detect a lot of things from a persons mindset and work ethic. The same way you can be broke today and rich tommorow is the same way you can be broke today and broke tomorrow. And if she wants to avoid disappointment by all costs, she can damn right make that decision. Life itself is a gamble, and some women dont want to take that risk. What is so hard in understanding that?

ebby9z:
People don't get successful overnight. It takes period of struggling, planning and consistency. A period you shallow people refer to a guy as being broke. I can't see anywhere you mentioned what you are bringing to the table. That's why those made guys tire of you'll and start beating the shii out of ya butt.

Moreover, how come this stupid topic hot FP. One of the mods hitting this gyal . newbie for that matter.

we understand that. But realistically not every story has an happy ending. We have people who are just destined to be poor. Thats fine, but some women don't want that. And if she states that she doesn't want that, it's a problem. The same way men have criterias for picking their partners, is the same way women are entitled to have their say too. A woman can only bring so much to the table financially. Once she becomes the breadwinner, problems occur. I don't care about what any body has to say.

Apina:
If ur village people have seized ur brain, DAT u can no longer comprehend, better go and locate them and when u do, tell them u didn't see me.

K

AHCB:
Must I pick a side? I don't conform to societal rules, regulations and norms. Neither do I conform to the flimsy thought that they are 2 sides to a coin.

Kindly elucidate on the bolded. I'm sure you know people say "men are scared of women who are financially independent". So I wonder what you meant by "you want to be equal with finance".

Fine. Don't pick a side. Now, when some women do not believe in financial equality with men, why can't you think rationally without calling her a gold digger since you don't conform to 'soceital rules' ? Why do you fit into the 'norms' of calling her a gold digger without actually understanding her point of view? If a women wants a man who will compliment her finances kini big deal? I just want to know.

Sierusvirus:
Stop building excuses, try to depend on yourself and don't be a parasite.
The guy graduated from Uni to get a job, work and raise money, the girls was also sent to Uni, so get a work.
Who fine and physical appearance help in nigeria condition 2day with all the make - up, Be natural and be shocked that most guys are even better good looking physically than most girls.

Learn how to give and not to receive, it will rescue your mentality from all the trash.

yawns. Weak argument. Weak logic. I would respect you more if you defend yourself with substance. This was a weak attempt. Try again.

AHCB:
I believe you know men marry broke girls more than women who marry broke guys.

The problem with you men is that you want to pick and choose when you want to be equal with women. It's either one or the other, you cant be on the fence. I personally don't believe men and women are equal. Therefore, the financial power should lay more on the man. Its as simple as abc. You want to be equal with finances, but when it comes to sexuality you don't want to compete. You're being hypocritical. Pick one side.

AHCB:
Wrong! Wrong! And wrong! You should look up the meaning of leech and gold digger. I believe you have not the slightest clue what those words mean.

You're not saying anything. What is your argument?

Toks2008:
You ladies just use Grammer you don't even know the meaning ...what has low self esteem got to do with the subject matter.

A lady who believes in self reliance will never be put off by a broke guy cos she knows that being broke is relative and she has her money anyways and it's not as if the guy will leech on her.

Take the matter anyway you want and use whatever Grammer that catches your fancy...all I know. ..only a lady with a leech mentality will avoid dating broke guys....quote me anywhere on planet earth.

Why are you bringing self dependence into this now? Independent women still do not want men who will not compliment their finances. Women like to be taken care of, regardless of if she has her own or not. Thats facts! Maybe in the beginning she'll compromise, but in the long run, Absolutely not!

Like I said most men derive their self esteem from their money. When they're broke, they look for a woman who their self esteem can get. Once the money comes in, they fish out to all their available options. Its very common. so some women don't want to be in that situation of building and helping a man, and being slapped in the face at the end. Women have the option to say no to broke men. It's not your place to call them leeches. You're so closed minded its shocking, especially at your age.

Most girls cant let go of their exes. Even when married, i wonder why. Its probably the D

But on a serious note, it seems youre enjoying this attention you're getting. All you need to do is cut off all connections you have with her and your problem will be solved. You're typing paragraphs here for what? You continue to talk to her, you will eventually fuckkk her and it will become more serious. Feelings and emotions will rekindle. It's even worse if her husband finds out. My cousins neighbour lost his life because he was having an affair with somebody's wife. Better be careful.

Stupid stupid. Everything must be posted on social media. Communication with people physically will be extinct in 20 years. If your mama wants to send you on an errand, she will post it on twitter for you to check and respond. You will respond via twitter once you have arrived back home from your errand.

Toks2008:
On the contrary I think you should work on your own mentality...

Being broke is relative and the moment a lady starts sing something wrong in dating broke guys then she must be a leech...

No. A leech is the wrong term. I find it so ironic that men will have so much standards and criterias for the women of their choice. From physical criterias that are so shallow to culinary criterias etc. The minute a woman decides she has 'standards' she's a gold digger. I agree that if a woman doesn't have shiiit and she wants a millionaire, she's reaching beyond her level. But for a woman to state that she doesn't date broke men or men below her financial status is completely her preference, especially if she's got money of her own. She's allowed to have her beliefs without being labelled a gold digger or a leech. Men get too emotional and soft when it comes to these topics, you forget to think rationally. Its due to low self esteem.

Apina:
I just can't believe there are brain dead peeps like Urself still roaming this forum. Money can never buy u life or love, I know u and those frustrated and confused ignoramuses will in ur defense say its better to cry in a range rover bla bla bla. Ewu! U will die frustrated, unhappy,lonely and unloved cos just like a piece of tissue, ur only purpose will be to clean someone else's sh.it.

what is your argument? You're typing trash please.

Amarabae:
why must a guy financial stavs which can change be an issue.
Maybe its an issue for girls from poor family, if you are from a rich family, money will not be an issue in choosing a guy, havent you see a rich background girl marrying a poor guy and making him somebody?
Some of our mentality need to change pls.

lmao. Maybe in nollywood films, but in real life? NOOO. You don't see girls from rich families or ladies with a lot of money dating poor men. It's a lie. Stop trying to sound like superwoman and face reality. Yes it can change, but how realistic will that change be.

Amarabae:
Sister, a guy being broke should not be a key issue if you as the lady have something doing to earn some money.
Must you be a financial liability in a relationship?
Even if the guy is broke, you can offer to him intelligent suggestion on how to come out of it, businesses he can venture in, how he can raise capital etc

everything na talk. Talki talki. Who's talking about being a liability here? At the end of the day its not easy dating a guy who has less funds than you. Problems like insecurities, depression and all sorts will arise from this. Im talking from experience. Everybody wants to be a counselling therapist for their boyfriend on nl for likes, but in reality its a very frustrating experience. Ah beg be with somebody who is on your level or above. And if he's broke, he must have a serious plan to get out. I dont have time to be setting out a business plan for anyone.

McBrooklyn:
STFU... Motherfûcking gold digger

Why can't you accept the truth, and stop insulting. Your self esteem derives from your finances 80% of the time. When you don't have money, you feel less than a man. Our self esteem normally comez from our physically appearance and appreciation. It's the truth, just accept that. We're not equal in that aspect, but i still believe a woman should have her own finances.