₦airaland Forum

DrFunmisticGlow:
it is well. A lot of men deep down hate women, but marry them anyway because of what women can provide and how they can make their life easier.

so you know?

I thought una no go wake up e be like say una don dey learn the hard way

spiceadole:
Calm down.
I have been reading your comments and I agreed with you until this.

I have 3 children.
1st pregnancy was a single birth.. Vaginal delivery
2nd pregnancy..a set of twins.C/S
My husband and I are medical doctors.
I worked all through both pregnancies and saved up money for MY delivery.
I only started maternity leave 3 weeks before my EDD.
Men are naturally very selfish people.

A reasonable woman should not put her hope on a man.
If women know how much their husbands hate them for real,they will love themselves more.
Husband is just waiting for you to die so he can marry a new wife.

whewww so you know how much men hate you.no be me talk am o,no be anybody induce you to type what you typed, so as educated and as experienced as you are you know men are naturally selfish people and hate women yet you entrust your life with them (through marriage) and give them access to your womb .meanwhile na you go experience the morning sickness, the vomiting ,the back pain,the depression, the high blood pressure, the weight gain yeast infection weakness etc that comes with pregnancy yet you choose to do that for someone who thinks onl about himself and convenience and whatever you feel is irrelevant to him.it only takes a woman who hates herself so much to have this low down disgusting mindset. I cannot even have a 7mins conversation with a selfish or hateful person because I know when I need him to be there for me he won't, his needs and whatever he wants will always come before my welfare so I will never ever entertain Amy man or woman that moves like that. You have to be considerate and have basic human moral compass ,empathy ,consideration and humanity before I can even call you a friend then you risk your life in the theatre having children with someone that you know is selfish? Lol.a selfish person is not a kind person, a person that hates you will not give a shii about you even if you are vomiting blood. It is a selfish person that will be watching his favourite programme on TV and you're vomiting and he won't move an inch because of the programme he's watching. That's the kind of human being you women risk your life for? Lol no wonder married women are always angry and stressed.lets leave that aside

You said I should calm down. It is when we tell you people to make the Man YOU CHOOSE TO HAVE CHILDREN WITH responsible you say calm down.no wonder men treat you like thrash when they know they can have children easily without taking any responsibility. I think many of you women like men that treat you as sub human and when we say no you deserve better you say we should calm down. Pickmesha pro max.lol .una no fit wise again .I dont know whether it's the sperm that enters una brain wey no dey let una reason again.

Has the false accuser been arrested? That's what I want to hear

Social Media and its audience should stop giving these clowns attention.

Kobojunkie:
. Again, the adult woman who is now dead chose to marry that very man as give him as father to her children — yes, those children are equally hers. She chose him for a husband and father to her kids. She is not a victim in this.

2. On the contrary, I am rather highlighting the fact that women are not victims in marriage/relationships but partners.

ok I get you

kpankpangolo:
Na Africa you dey come marry when you poor. Na you do yourself.

She will be replaced. We’ll see him in six years with a new wife and kid. He’ll brag about how they are his world. Life continues. Nigerian hospitals are death traps. Slowly, I’m beginning to agree with Boomers who have a fear of untimely death from visiting them.

The most ignorant advice poor people spread is that blessings fall from heaven when you marry. It is not true. Idiots fall for it. I will never. I will rather birth children at seventy years old with all the funds to take care of them than at nineteen with no hope for my next meal.

exactly my point

Cmanforall:
It is a sad story. But like you wrote, there is a 9-month period to prepare. The man should take some blames, and not the hospital, especially for this reason. Who knows if the hospital do have maternity services? If he had deposited, say 10% of the requested deposit, who knows the hospital might have commenced treatment. The situation he narrated shows the hospital referred them to a government hospital, where they might get better treatment and a cheaper or even free rate. That wasn't bad from this private hospital. Moreover, if he didn't have enough money for deposit, he should have gone to a government hospital first. I think private hospitals can be expensive because of the bills and salaries they need to pay.

Sad situation, but hope Nigerians would learn.

exactly

Kobojunkie:
Calling out both the man and woman means I am seeking male accolades? Are you that cheap in your reasoning of things?

lol it seems like you are looking for male accolades because if not how can you see something that's bad and still try to justify and sugar coat it?

Kobojunkie:
How in the world did you come about this conclusion of yours? Which kain backward disgusting delusional claim is this, abeg?

You mean to tell me that those pregnant nurses, for instance, who chose to work until days before labor, are not to be trusted because, according to you, they were not effective workers during that period?

every woman's body is different some pregnant women work effectively in pregnancy while some don't do too well when pregnant so its not all women

Kobojunkie:
1. Loving what man? I am telling you the woman is equally culpable in this case, and you are going off about always loving a man... what the heck for?

2. The wife was equally good for nothing since she could not provide her kids with a better life either. I mean, she chose this man to be their father, and ended up dying with the third, even with 9 months of preparation time, which she could have used to avert this disaster.

so of what use is her husband then? Is a dead man not better than him? At least with a dead man we all know he's dead so what's the usefulness of the husband if he cannot provide for his wife and children? Ok his only usefulness is to be fucking and Impregnating his wife every 3 eke market days abi? You're part of the people encouraging men to be useless and only to be useful in the other room

Kobojunkie:
So, women no fit work during pregnancy is the line you are going for here, abi?

not as effectively as she would when not pregnant thus making her unable to make the type of money that'll take care of her bills

bea1234567:
This is Nigeria. False ra pe accusations won't fly.. so no shaking

do so at the risk of your life and name.when you move around and people start giving you weird looks, women start avoiding you and people start calling you r@p!st join your name you will know what's up

Kobojunkie:
She didn't marry and impregnate herself, of course. She chose the poor man as her mate. She opened her legs wide to the poor man and got impregnated for a third time as a result. So, what part of that makes her a victim?

2. There are women across the world who work to save up until even the very day of their delivery. What makes this woman's case any different or special? From the looks of their abode, there is no sign they were living comfortably before now for to warrant her needing to have a third child.

how can she work to save up money when she's pregnant?

Kobojunkie:
Did the man rape the woman abi wetin? No be both of dem agree to bring the child in? And why can't a pregnant woman work to save up money for the child she herself has equally decided to bring into this world?

I am sorry, I do not agree with this generalized approach to viewing the role of the man in a marriage, given that in that same country it has been reported that a great deal of homes have the woman as the breadwinner.

finally you have exposed yourself as a full fledged pickmesha. You're looking for male accolades on nairaland, right?

Kobojunkie:
Wetin be the business of the someone's daughter with pregnancy is she is herself too poor to pay for a health plan for herself or her children?

You're beginning to sound like another typical pickmesha.always loving a man at the expense of their safety. Anyway I will agree with you if she's a widow or a single mom but as long as the man is alive he's as goo as useless because he literally killed his wife and child.

Kobojunkie:
. Their mother was an adult, and she could have and should have done better. Adults are responsible for their own lives and she had every reason to have made the right decision as far as getting pregnant and preparing for the birth and all associated emergencies. She is not a victim as it is, unless it is proven that the man intentionally hoodwinked her into going to a hospital that he knew they both could not afford.

I don't understand. So she married and impregnated herself abi the child she was about to birth will carry her name? Or what are you saying? So for 9 months a woman pregnant with her husbands child should hustle for 9 months? When she's not a widow or single mom. Smh

Kobojunkie:
Is the woman a victim in all of this? The real victims here are the children— the unborn child who had to die because of the stewpid decisions made by its mother.

lol the real victims are the mother and child

Mother: for marrying a broke man and giving him acess to her womb,for being stupid enough to accept I love you over financial security for being senseless to listen to society pressure of just marry meaning marry anything

Child; a casualty of his mothers inability to choose logic and stability over emotions

Herkim:
Hello , do you know whether the man have a good job paying substantial amount as salary at the moment. Or the man is living from hand to mouth with a meagre salary.

500k is not a small money. How many Nigerians have 500k in our various accounts

This is share wickedness from the hospital management.

May God Almighty continues to provide, guide, protect and bless us more on the surface of the earth and the hereafter.

Aamin

wonderful. So he knows he can't afford N500k yet he's bringing another child to the world to come and suffer for his selfish wickedness


Women you see the men una wan marry . Tuehhhh

pocohantas:
They don't know the moment you birth a kid in extreme lack, you have created an easy target for predators. When men think of konji disposal, they think of your daughters. When gangs think of new recruit, they think your sons first. The system is already rigged against them. No need to do it thrice. 2 is fine. 1 is perfect.

You don't have 500k anywhere and you were on the 3rd child. Look at what they are eating/cooking.

Women who are the major victims and should take most caution are somehow the ones having baby fever and getting pregnant. Carry pregnancy in lack, birth in lack. If the marriage falls apart, you would be saddled with the kids and the stigma. What other reason do you need to birth only as much as you can take care of, emotionally, physically and financially?

RIP to her.

pickmeshas never learn till they learn the hard way. Even the people that they're risking their lives to please will turn around and insult them if things don't go their way

Tufiakwa to all pickmeshas and broke men that cannot think

And honestly if you can control your emotions and hormones you can win in this life.imagine person wey still dey writh in pain and you are telling her be strong because of me.so even in pain and lack it's still about him

Once again may I never jam broke selfish and unreasonable men .spits

Una dey thief testicles too?

Una no even want make person who don die rest in peace abi which kain psychopathic behaviour be this?

pocohantas:
They have 2kids already and you need to see their living condition.

What did they need a third for? 😩

pickmeshas never learn.them no get money for condoms or family planning yet their genitals are more hardworking than their brains

That man and his wife are part of the problems of nigeria. Let's even leave tilubu out of this. You don't have a stable source of income, you bring children into poverty and illiteracy and then when
they grow up and hunger wan finish the kids, they'll go and look for who to Rob at oshodi Bridge or who to snatch him phone.no wonder psychopaths,grapists and dysfunctional people from poor homes no dey ever finish.if you listen to alhaji oriyomi on kokoro alate and hear women talking about their stories and you still give a broke man acess to you womb, you're a fool

Anytime I'm driving in traffic and I see little boys as young as 9 or 10 years washing windscreens of cars trapped in traffic,I feel anger and disgust for the parents. Producing children you have no resources or plans to take care of and leaving/exposing them to roam and search for food on the streets in this era of kidnappers, ritualists and wicked peopleeverywhere. Those parents are more evil than bokoharam and all the African leaders put together.how do you have the wicked heart to watch you kids cry of hunger and beg strangers on the streets for money but you're still having constant unprotected sex and Bringing more children into the world to suffer and be a danger to the society

RealityKings1:
What do you mean by prepared?
If you have sexx, it ought to automatically become pregnancy except the man is impotent

this is the consequences of allowing a dusty to impregnate you.get pregnant by a dusty at your own risk.he doesn't even have money to pay for the birth of his own child which eventually cost him the life of his wife and his child. He doesn't have money to birth his child so how did he intend to raise the child? In poverty.

Any woman that opens her eyes and decided to marry and get pregnant by a broke man did not only sign into poverty she has signed her death warrant because whether she's dead or alive she's still dead.na empty love promises them go use kill you

This afternoon I saw daddy freeze live where he was talking about a man that abandoned his wife and ran away because his wife gave birth to triplets he wasn't able to afford it and guess the interesting part,his fellow dusties were justifying
his behaviour. you pickmeshas will learn the hard way if you don't listen to women like shera 7,judge judy andjudge lynn.money over emotions Or you keep risking your life. If you like sef be Barbra the builder, follow them build, when they make money they'll go for who they really want and if you dare remind them of your sacrifices,they'll also remind you that nobody forced you and rightly so

Imagine someone is writhing in pain sweating you still dey tell am you love am when money can fix that.i will end it with barrister olumide omosebis adage he says pain is inevitable but suffering is a choice

May broke man never encounter me in Jesus name.

cassidy1996:
Hmmmm ... this can never happen in Nigeria

says who?

Please read news o

Everyone with their own cross.while Nigerians dey collect from tilubu hand,trump dey give them woto woto for America .as for the guy under my comment section abeg ignore that comedian. Some people nor fit get sense again till they die

Wetin Bob do again wey them arrest am.this boy no just fit do without passing him boundaries

ahmedio2017:
Is your people na who have the same beliefs like you, you know them but because you are not open minded that's why you are not seeing them. Where does Allah says they should kill for him? Even according to the Quran Allah says anybody that kill a single soul it is as if the person has killed all the mankind...

So therefore those people that killing another people irrespective of their faiths are not Muslims.... Our religion frowned at killing one another so do not associate those killers with Islam again and never you say what's u have no knowledge about. Jesus Christ pbuh said my people perish because of lack of knowledge so if you don't want to perish is better to seek for knowledge....

comedian he's even quoting jesus. Who you dey gaslight

ahmedio2017:
Bring evidence na where Allah says they should kill for him, as old as you are you don't have bra.in so pathetic.

so those that say they're doing the work Allah sent them,say allahu akbar and waste lives, who send them?

ahmedio2017:
Where did Allah says they should kill for him?
You will peri.sh because of lack of knowledge

them don dey cry and play victim

ZombieTAMER:
Sharia law must be practiced in the south west


Nothing can stop it

sharia laws will be practiced In your dream. That's where it will start and end

Just give them an inch they'll take a mile and if we say we do not want them around because of the violence they're associated with,na them go first shout religious intolerance.

Na since when I dey primary school una don dey use style to bring sharia but God dey always disgrace and expose una before you even execute am

Sharia ko,shadiya ni

ahmedio2017:
Listen to yourself, there is no compulsion of religion.... Your religion shall be yours and mine shall be mine that's the meaning and stop being naive....

The last time I checked hijab is compulsory for all muslimah... Mind your business oga.

violence don master una sotey una don become comfortable with violence. Anyway as long as una keep una violence and abnormalities to una self then that's beautiful

LabourPartyNG:
A religion so peaceful

we can see the peace where Islam is practiced especially in the north